u/thefreakingweirdo

I'm so sad and alone recently these days. I'm 22M and still in college, broke up recently with my 21M boyfriend of 1 year. I have no close friends to go to anymore and no close family members to talk with. Im always alone since childhood. My mom is the only one that knows about my boyfriend and is terrible at comforting me, and I am not out yet to others. My only source of happiness was my boyfriend

We broke up because he said that this relationship is stressful. His life has gotten overwhelming recently with his family problems and busy schoolworks schedule. We dont hang out anymore much like we used to, actually since February. He also said that he's been losing feelings for me since that month and I keep missing him, even if we're still together. He said he still have feelings for me but is unsure now of everything that is going on. He said that we have some issues with each other and we usually get in an argument and annoyances to each other

The thing is though, that's normal in every relationship. I think this is still solvable, like maybe there's still a chance. I want to support him in every way I can. He has always listened and supported me within our 1 year of being together. He's the only one that I can talk to about everything. Now, I talked to him about this and he said that he wants to be alone for a while. I said that maybe we can have a reevaluation period of about 2 months where we can assess our feelings about each other, and we contact every friday. Im not sure if he's assessing his feelings about me since he's so busy and seems to distract himself through his activities. He also agreed that there's some dates sometimes but it’s the end of the semester and he needs to go home far away. We live in different places

I dont know if that's a correct decision. I keep thinking about him and it hurts when I see him. I want to talk to him about everything again. I miss him so much. But Im now unsure if I still want this, if this is tiring and if he still wants to be with me. Everything about this situation is making me anxious and I cant stop thinking about it since there's no distractions or support with me

So first off, Im still 22M and it's exhausting being gay. Throughout my life, all I really wanted was to be listened to. I dont have many close friends and I dont really have a close relationship with my family.

So when I got a boyfriend (21M) a year ago, it felt amazing. He listened to me a lot. We had fun being together that I never really had with anyone. We were intimate to each other. Though, recently, I think it's failing. Some may call it that the honeymoon phase is ending. We point out stuffs to each other that annoys us or elicit some arguments towards each other. He has some issues with me and I also have some with him. He's always busy with schoolworks (we're both still in college) that we dont have much time together anymore, plus we dont live together since we have homes to return to. He says that the spark in the relationship is fading, and he said he still loves me but unsure of our future together. I still absolutely love him and want this to work so bad. We're both each other's firsts. Now we're reevaluating our feelings and thoughts to each other

I thought I liked being single but when he came to my life, it changed me. I cant think of my life being good again without him. I dont want to go on the apps like Grindr or other dating apps. It's so exhausting being gay since a lot of gay men just wants hook ups and most aren't really my type to just listen and have a chat. I also live in a quite homophobic country so that's the worst too. Im introverted and I thought that my boyfriend met me organically in college was so nice. I really dont want to lose him

Me and my boyfriend is on the verge of breaking up. We are together for 1 year. We're both still in college and have our homes to get back to. We're both very busy in our classes so we dont have much time to each other anymore. He said he lost feelings/passion to go on since things has gotten so busy and that he keeps being sad of my bad behavior. We broke up for like 2 days but contacted him and said that I dont think we thought about this deliberately enough. He just kept on insisting we should but I dont think we ever really tried to fix this. I feel like Im the only one that cares about this relationship now as I dont really want to lose him

He said he keeps tolerating my behavior since the start of our dating. I have this problem where replying feels like a chore to me. I mean I still love him but I just want some time to myself. I'm an introvert and since I was a child, I dont really have lots of friends and not a lot to talk to so developed this habit to adulthood. He thinks that's a problem since our first few months of dating but he's right. Though, I just cant change that all in a few months with I have grown accustomed to. He also thinks that I'm hardheaded, short-tempered and "I think that I'm correct all the time". Here's the thing, I know all that. Im trying to change honestly, it's not quite easy to change immediately with what you grown with since childhood. I know it's not good behavior but I can't control it at times. Those are the issues he has about me and we have arguments sometimes because of these behaviors

He also has some issues that I opened up to him. He hasnt fixed those yet too even after a year of our relationship. I dont know if he realizes that. I told that to him and I said that I never lost feelings for him due to these behaviors and he said that we should continue our relationship. Im not sure if that's a good sign

I told him that we should just "cool off" and contact/update each other about once a week/once every two weeks, and maybe there's some dates too here and there. Im desperately planning some dates to rekindle that spark back. Im so mentally exhausted as to what this relationship really needs. I think he wants to work with me, despite being so insistent of breaking up since last week. I just hope this works

I really dont want to find other people. I just want him so bad. I miss him so bad, we dont get to hang out that much anymore. Im scared that this wont work and I have to start over and I dont really want to do that. I'll miss our bonds, our routines and such. Im just scared to move on, it feels horrible

I really dont want to find other people. I just want him so bad. I miss him so bad, we dont get to hang out that much anymore. Im scared that this wont work and I have to start over and I dont really want to do that. I'll miss our bonds, our routines and such. Im just scared to move on, it feels horrible

TLDR: We're on the verge of breaking up since he said that he lost the spark for me. He said that he still loves me, just the passion to go on is gone. He said that he kept tolerating my behavior and that contributed to losing the spark. I still think this relationship is very much solvable so I suggested a "cool off" to reassess our thoughts. I just dont want to lose him

Me and my boyfriend is on the verge of separating. We are together for 1 year. We're both still in college and have our homes to get back to. We're both very busy in our classes so we dont have much time to each other anymore. He said he lost feelings/passion to go on since things has gotten so busy and that he keeps being sad of my bad behavior. We broke up for like 2 days but contacted him and said that I dont think we thought about this deliberately enough. He just kept on insisting we should but I dont think we ever really tried to fix this. I feel like Im the only one that cares about this relationship now as I dont really want to lose him. He has lots of friends but I dont. He's like my main emotional support

He said he keeps tolerating my behavior since the start of our dating. I have this problem where replying feels like a chore to me. I mean I still love him but I just want some time to myself. I'm an introvert and since I was a child, I dont really have lots of friends and not a lot to talk to so developed this habit to adulthood. He thinks that's a problem since our first few months of dating but he's right. Though, I just cant change that all in a few months with I have grown accustomed to. He also thinks that I'm hardheaded, short-tempered and "I think that I'm correct all the time". Here's the thing, I know all that. Im trying to change honestly, it's not quite easy to change immediately with what you grown with since childhood. I know it's not good behavior but I can't control it at times. Those are the issues he has about me and we have arguments sometimes because of these behaviors

He also has some issues that I opened up to him. He hasnt fixed those yet too even after a year of our relationship. I dont know if he realizes that. I told that to him and I said that I never lost feelings for him due to these behaviors and he said that we should continue our relationship. Im not sure if that's a good sign

I told him that we should just "cool off" and contact/update each other about once a week/once every two weeks, and maybe there's some dates too here and there. Im desperately planning some dates to rekindle that spark back. Im so mentally exhausted as to what this relationship really needs. I think he wants to work with me, despite being so insistent of breaking up since last week. I just hope this works

I really dont want to find other people. I just want him so bad. I miss him so bad, we dont get to hang out that much anymore. Im scared that this wont work and I have to start over and I dont really want to do that. I'll miss our bonds, our routines and such. Im just scared to move on, it feels horrible

TLDR: We're on the verge of separating since he said that he lost the spark for me. He said that he still loves me, just the passion to go on is gone. He said that he kept tolerating my behavior and that contributed to losing the spark. I still think this relationship is very much solvable so I suggested a "cool off" to reassess our thoughts. I just dont want to lose him

Me and my boyfriend is on the verge of breaking up. We are together for 1 year. We're both still in college and have our homes to get back to. We're both very busy in our classes so we dont have much time to each other anymore. He said he lost feelings/passion to go on since things has gotten so busy and that he keeps being sad of my bad behavior. We broke up for like 2 days but contacted him and said that I dont think we thought about this deliberately enough. He just kept on insisting we should but I dont think we ever really tried to fix this. I feel like Im the only one that cares about this relationship now as I dont really want to lose him

He said he keeps tolerating my behavior since the start of our dating. I have this problem where replying feels like a chore to me. I mean I still love him but I just want some time to myself. I'm an introvert and since I was a child, I dont really have lots of friends and not a lot to talk to so developed this habit to adulthood. He thinks that's a problem since our first few months of dating but he's right. Though, I just cant change that all in a few months with I have grown accustomed to. He also thinks that I'm hardheaded, short-tempered and "I think that I'm correct all the time". Here's the thing, I know all that. Im trying to change honestly, it's not quite easy to change immediately with what you grown with since childhood. I know it's not good behavior but I can't control it at times. Those are the issues he has about me and we have arguments sometimes because of these behaviors

He also has some issues that I opened up to him. He hasnt fixed those yet too even after a year of our relationship. I dont know if he realizes that. I told that to him and I said that I never lost feelings for him due to these behaviors and he said that we should continue our relationship. Im not sure if that's a good sign

I told him that we should just "cool off" and contact/update each other about once a week/once every two weeks, and maybe there's some dates too here and there. Im desperately planning some dates to rekindle that spark back. Im so mentally exhausted as to what this relationship really needs. I think he wants to work with me, despite being so insistent of breaking up since last week. I just hope this works

I really dont want to find other people. I just want him so bad. I miss him so bad, we dont get to hang out that much anymore. Im scared that this wont work and I have to start over and I dont really want to do that. I'll miss our bonds, our routines and such. Im just scared to move on, it feels horrible

So first off Im 22M and my bf is 21M currently. We're both still in college and we're on different years/levels. We also live at different homes since we have families to get back to. Our contacts to each other had lessen since he's so busy with his school works and research papers and has only small amounts of time dedicated to anything else. I understand that of course. He didn't do anything suspicious and he regularly updates me

Although, due to this, our time together had lessen as well. We don't have any bonding moments that much anymore like last year. Still, we continue to try to chat even life is hectic

I have this problem where replying feels like a chore to me. I mean I still love him but I just want some time to myself. I'm an introvert and since I was a child, I dont really have lots of friends and not a lot to talk to so I developed this habit to adulthood. He thinks that's a problem since our first few months of dating but he's right. Though, I just cant change that all in a few months with I have grown accustomed to. He also thinks that I'm hardheaded, short-tempered and "I think that I'm cirrect all the time". Here's the thing, I know all that. Im trying to change honestly, it's not quite easy to change immediately with what you grown with since childhood. I know it's not good behavior but I can't control it at times. Those are the issues he has about me and we have arguments sometimes because of these behaviors

He also can be quite dismissive sometimes since he is on his phone chatting with his friends while we're having a conversation. Or if there's something that hurts his feelings, he laughs and jokes since that is his way of softing the blow or "lighten up the situation". I guess I understand that but I need him to be serious at times but he cant immediately do that. He also can be hardheaded and thinks that he's right most of the time. I've said that to him, I dont know if he realizes that

I'm not sure whether we continue this relationship because I think it's very much solvable even if that's our issues with each other since the start of our dating. We usually have arguments now unlike before. We always solve it though but it’s very much not the same. I just want us to understand each other. I want us to connect. I still love him. He said he still loves me but he's not so sure now because he's been disappointed with me so many times. He wants us to break up and just let time decide if we get back together or not. I still dont want to because Im afraid of the unknown. I'll miss our daily routines. Im scared to start over again. Im scared to move on. I'll miss him so much

I dont have lots of close friends so I can't talk about this to them. Maybe not yet

So first off Im 22M and my bf is 21M currently. We're both still in college and we're on different years/levels. We also live at different homes since we have families to get back to. Our contacts to each other had lessen since he's so busy with his school works and research papers and has only small amounts of time dedicated to anything else. I understand that of course. He didn't do anything suspicious and he regularly updates me

Although, due to this, our time together had lessen as well. We don't have any bonding moments that much anymore like last year. Still, we continue to try to chat even life is hectic

I have this problem where replying feels like a chore to me. I mean I still love him but I just want some time to myself. I'm an introvert and since I was a child, I dont really have lots of friends and not a lot to talk to so I developed this habit to adulthood. He thinks that's a problem since our first few months of dating but he's right. Though, I just cant change that all in a few months with I have grown accustomed to. He also thinks that I'm hardheaded, short-tempered and "I think that I'm cirrect all the time". Here's the thing, I know all that. Im trying to change honestly, it's not quite easy to change immediately with what you grown with since childhood. I know it's not good behavior but I can't control it at times. Those are the issues he has about me and we have arguments sometimes because of these behaviors

He also can be quite dismissive sometimes since he is on his phone chatting with his friends while we're having a conversation. Or if there's something that hurts his feelings, he laughs and jokes since that is his way of softing the blow or "lighten up the situation". I guess I understand that but I need him to be serious at times but he cant immediately do that. He also can be hardheaded and thinks that he's right most of the time. I've said that to him, I dont know if he realizes that

I'm not sure whether we continue this relationship because I think it's very much solvable even if that's our issues with each other since the start of our dating. We usually have arguments now unlike before. We always solve it though but it’s very much not the same. I just want us to understand each other. I want us to connect. I still love him. He said he still loves me but he's not so sure now because he's been disappointed with me so many times. He wants us to break up and just let time decide if we get back together or not. I still dont want to because Im afraid of the unknown. I'll miss our daily routines. Im scared to start over again. Im scared to move on. I'll miss him so much

I dont have lots of close friends so I can't talk about this to them. Maybe not yet