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Hey everyone! I’m trying to pull off a very specific structured streetwear/fitness look and I really need your styling expertise.

I’m looking for recommendations for thongs that have really thick, bulky, or heavy material/waistbands. The goal is to find something substantial enough that it deliberately creates a visible, defined outline through the fabric of the pants (like thick yoga pants or compressive leggings).

Just to be super clear on the look: I’m not trying to do the "whale tail" trend where the straps stick out above the waistband, and I’m not looking for thin, see-through pants. I want the actual physical bulk of the thong's straps to contour and show through the pants themselves to create that heavy-molded silhouette at the waist.

Does anyone know of any specific brands or models that have that thicker, heavier fabric or elastic?

Also, I'd love to brainstorm how to style the rest of the outfit to make the silhouette pop! What kind of pants material works best for showing that kind of structured outline without being sheer? Would pairing it with a higher-cut cropped shirt be the best move to make sure the upper waistband area of the pants is fully visible?

Any tips, brand recs, or outfit ideas would be so incredibly helpful. Thank you!! 💕

EDIT for AutoMod:

- Bra size: N/A (only looking for thong recommendations)

- Underwear size: Size Large / ~34" waist

- Budget: Around $10–$20 max per thong (but cheaper is always... better?)

Intro / Disclaimer:

I’m reposting this because I’m genuinely looking for perspective, but I want to address something first. A previous commenter called me "manipulative" and said I was "fetishizing" my wife. I deleted the post immediately because that hit home—the last thing I ever want to do is push the woman I love into a space she doesn't want to be.

However, after reflecting, I’m back because I need to understand the line between "pushing" and "setting the stage." In my mind, exploration doesn't happen in a vacuum. If I don’t PROVE I’m 100% on board through active encouragement and giving her the tools to feel confident, why would she ever risk testing the waters? If she doesn't know I’m her anchor, she’s out there alone, or worse, she’s worried about offending me.

I get that "fetish" has a negative connotation, but doesn't every exploration start with a spark of interest? I'm trying to figure out if I’m being the supportive partner who builds the stage so she can decide to sing, or if I’m accidentally overstepping. I’m new to this, we have a high-stakes life with two young kids, and I’m just trying to navigate this transition ethically. I’m looking for "tough love" and real-world advice, not a shutdown.

I mean honestly how does a couple enter into a community like this without someone building a path first and seeing if their spouse wants to join. I feel like its important that at least I'm showing her I'm there.

The actual post:

The Situation I’m looking for some perspective on a very slow, intentional transition toward a Stag/Vixen dynamic. We have a solid marriage and two kids under six. I want to be clear that I have zero interest in "cuckolding" or humiliation; for me, this is entirely about my wife finding her sexual power and me getting a thrill out of her being highly desired while I act as her anchor.

Where She Is (The Conservative Take) To keep things realistic, her current comfort zone might end at fantasy and getting noticed in public. She’s 33. She is not a prude; she reads erotica, has a great lingerie collection, and she’s shared stories about her past to turn me on.

Lately, I’ve noticed a "2% shift" in her receptivity. In the bedroom, she’s open to talk about having another guy in the mix. During intimacy, I’ve used cues to simulate a third party being there, and her reaction was a clear green light that the fantasy is landing. However, outside the house, she hasn't made a move toward real-world intent yet. She recently suggested finding "couple friends" to hang out with, which might just be her seeking social normalcy, but it’s a door that wasn’t open before.

The Wardrobe Theory I am currently working on rebuilding her wardrobe to build her confidence and shift her headspace.

My theory is that if she feels like the most attractive woman in the room and starts noticing men checking her out, she’ll stop feeling like just a "mom" and start enjoying that "Vixen" energy. As far as I've seen she really likes this idea but its not been spoken out loud. She smirks when I show her the outfits, which tells me she’s enjoying the attention.

The Social Theory & The Wingwoman Strategy Beyond the clothes, she has a burning desire for a "go-to" friend she can call at a moment's notice for drinks. I suggested that she could try being a "wingwoman" for a friend to see what it's like to watch a guy hit on her friend. She didn't say no—which is huge, because she usually shuts down anything she isn't interested in. Her main hesitation is that as a married professional, she feels she wouldn't have anything in common with a single girl.

The Difficulty It feels like we’re standing at the edge of the waterfall. We’ve talked about the thrill of the jump in private, but the reality of actually looking over the edge is daunting. I want to be the one holding her hand if she decides to dive, but I’m also standing there with my own set of nerves because I never want to be the reason she feels pressured to take a step she isn't ready for. She is a complete worry wart, and I suspect she’s concerned that if she ever acted on these fantasies, the one-sided nature of the actions could be misinterpreted or used as leverage later, which is completely the furthest from the truth. I want her to feel emotionally secure that this is a consensual, shared project.

My Questions for the Community:

1. How do you plant the seed? For those who started at the fantasy level, what were the low-pressure ways you moved toward real-world flirting without it feeling like a demand?
2. Clothing Recommendations: Where do you find clothes that look like high-end fashion but are specifically designed to build her confidence by revealing of her body? I'm looking for brands that work for a tall, athletic woman.
3. Is the "Wingwoman" route a good move? If she feels she can't relate to single women, what are the steps to help her find a friend who fits that "party" vibe but still understands her life as a married woman with kids?

The Final "Front Porch" Version

Title: The 2% Shift: Moving from 'Mom-Mode' to a Vixen Dynamic through a Strategic Wardrobe

The Situation I’m looking for some perspective on a very slow, intentional transition toward a Stag/Vixen dynamic. We have a solid marriage and two kids under six. I want to be clear that I have zero interest in "cuckolding" or humiliation; for me, this is entirely about my wife finding her sexual power and me getting a thrill out of her being highly desired while I act as her anchor.

Where She Is (The Conservative Take) To keep things realistic, her current comfort zone might end at fantasy and getting noticed in public. She’s 33, 5'9", and about 185 lbs with an athletic size 14 frame and a large bust. She is not a prude; she reads erotica, has a great lingerie collection, and she’s shared stories about her past to turn me on.

Lately, I’ve noticed a "2% shift" in her receptivity. In the bedroom, she’s open to talk about having another guy in the mix. During intimacy, I’ve used cues to simulate a third party being there, and her reaction was a clear green light that the fantasy is landing. However, outside the house, she hasn't made a move toward real-world intent yet. She recently suggested finding "couple friends" to hang out with, which might just be her seeking social normalcy, but it’s a door that wasn’t open before.

The Wardrobe Theory I am currently working on rebuilding her wardrobe to build her confidence and shift her headspace. I’m getting her into very tight, white "hyperstretch" pants (3-5% elastane) that show off her glutes and sheer organza tops with a hot bodysuit underneath where she sometimes shows me what shes wearing and asks if she needs a bra and I tell her "no you're good!, flaunt it, show them off, you look hot!" and encourage her to skip the bra.

My theory is that if she feels like the most attractive woman in the room and starts noticing men checking her out, she’ll stop feeling like just a "mom" and start enjoying that "Vixen" energy. I suspect she knows exactly what I’m doing and is playing along. She smirks when I show her the outfits, which tells me she’s enjoying the attention.

The Social Theory & The Wingwoman Strategy Beyond the clothes, she has a burning desire for a "go-to" friend she can call at a moment's notice for drinks because her go-to-friend just got really weird and ghosted her and everyone. I suggested that she could try being a "wingwoman" for a friend to see what it's like to watch a guy hit on her friend. She didn't say no—which is huge, because she usually shuts down anything she isn't interested in. Her main hesitation is that as a married professional, she feels she wouldn't have anything in common with a single girl.

The Difficulty The struggle is moving the needle from "talking in bed" to the real world. She is a complete worry wart, and I suspect she’s concerned that if she ever acted on these fantasies, the one-sided nature of the actions could be misinterpreted or used as leverage later. I want her to feel emotionally secure that this is a consensual, shared project.

My Questions for the Community:

1. How do you plant the seed? For those who started at the fantasy level, what were the low-pressure ways you moved toward real-world flirting without it feeling like a demand?
2. Clothing Recommendations: Where do you find clothes that look like high-end fashion but are specifically designed to be extremely tight and revealing of her body? I'm looking for brands that work for a tall, athletic woman who is a size 14.
3. Is the "Wingwoman" route a good move? If she feels she can't relate to single women, what are the steps to help her find a friend who fits that "party" vibe but still understands her life as a married woman with kids?

I'm a software engineer in Virginia being asked to sign an IP agreement that includes this clause:

OWNERSHIP OF IDEAS AND INVENTIONS. All rights, including without limitation any drawing, blueprint, writing, discovery, innovation, idea, invention, art, discovery, improvement, technical development, know-how, designs, trademarks, formulae, processes, manufacturing techniques, trade secrets, software, computer programs or other copyrightable or patentable works and related documentation and all intellectual property rights therein, including without limitation copyright and patent rights (collectively “Intellectual Property”) discovered or developed by the Employee during his/her employment with the Employer which (i) relate to the Employer’s business, (ii) were developed on any amount of the Employer’s time or with the use of any of the Employer’s equipment, supplies, facilities or trade secret information, or (iii) resulted from any work Employee performed for the Employer, will be and will remain the exclusive property of the Employer. Employee agrees to deliver and assign to the Employer all such Intellectual Property and all rights which Employee may have therein and agrees to execute all documents, including without limitation patent applications, and make all arrangements necessary to further document such ownership and/or assignment and to take whatever other steps may be needed to give the Employer the full benefit thereof. Without limitation to the foregoing, Employee specifically agrees that all copyrightable materials generated during the term of Employee’s employment with the Employer, including but not limited to, computer programs and related documentation, shall be considered works made for hire under the copyright laws of the United States and shall upon creation be owned exclusively by the Employer. To the extent that any such materials, under applicable law, may not be considered works made for hire, Employee hereby assigns to the Employer the ownership of all copyrights in such materials, without the necessity of any further consideration, and the Employer shall be entitled to register and hold in its own name all copyrights in respect of such materials. The provisions of this section shall apply regardless of whether any activities related to the creation of any Intellectual Property took place inside or outside of the Employer’s working hours.

...

The last sentence is what concerns me: "The provisions of this section shall apply regardless of whether any activities related to the creation of any Intellectual Property took place inside or outside of the Employer's working hours."

I have pre-existing AI projects and an active LLC that predate my employment. I also build things on my own time using my own equipment that relate broadly to AI — which is also what my employer does.

My questions:

• Is this "outside working hours" language standard or aggressive compared to industry norms?
• Does Virginia have any employee protections similar to California Labor Code 2870 that would limit an employer's ability to claim outside-hours IP?
• Can they enforce this against projects built entirely on personal time with personal equipment?
• Should I negotiate a prior inventions carve-out before signing?

Not trying to burn bridges — just want to understand what I'm agreeing to before I sign.