u/trakumserga

Going to a big get together with many of my friends and their friends in a few months. Very excited for that but i found out that one guy who i know very distantly is attending too and now i honestly don’t want to go.

I already didn’t want to go to this event because i know ill be dysphoric from the amount of cis men that i look nothing alike. But the trans dude who is attending passes so well and it honestly makes me feel gross about myself. He is stealth only a few people know about him being trans and im just so jealous he will definitely clock me and i will feel inferior. Im one year on t and i pass to cis people but im still definitely clocky and i hate myself for it

Every week i see a new post saying that to be transmed you only have to believe that you need dysphoria to be trans,
then another post saying that actually the definition of transmedicalism is letting doctors decide everything for you and being anti diy and anti informed consent,
And another post saying that the real meaning of transmedicalism is actually believing that you can’t change your sex?

I thought that transmedicalism was believing that transness is a medical not a social thing. (And ofc that you have to have sex dysphoria to be trans)

How did transmedicalism start and what was the movement about? I can’t find any resources that aren’t written by a heavily opinionated person

I’ve seen quite a few clips of this happening. One instance was of a newborn wildebeest being chased by a lion- the lion and the wildebeest calf just stood next to each other and the lion didn’t kill it even though it would be very easy prey. Is there an explanation for this?

For context im ftm. And i know i would never want to detransition as my transition has made me a happier and more functioning person, but sometimes the doubt still kicks in.

This is going to be an uninteresting rant but im posting this here because the people on this sub usually understand

I had the most stereotypical detransitioner upbringing: i was ugly and fat and had an abusive mother who was a total “boy mom” to my brother.

As you can imagine, i got bullied a lot for being the “ugly girl” that no one likes. I was sent to therapy at 13 and even though by that time i knew i was trans, my therapist tried to push the idea of “internalised misogyny” on me.

I dont blame her as it would make sense that someone who is bullied for not being a typical girl and abused by their family for not being a boy would end up hating women, womanhood and everything connected to it. I do agree that i have a problem with how i view women i know im sexist in a way because i do not trust any women around me.

It just hurts to see terfs use my exact experience as a talking point. I agree that most “ftm transmasc” detransitioners are just women who have bad experiences with womanhood.

But for me it is a bit different. I’ve always had dysphoria and as soon as i got on t and got top surgery my life got better but yeah. Just needed to rant, ill probably delete this later

Some people here are very pro informed consent and some against it so im wondering, what would be the perfect situation for you?

I got evaluated by a psychiatrist and then went to an endocrinologist with my diagnosis and it took only 2 weeks i considerer this a very normal process and i am overall very satisfied with this type of healthcare

I am not very educated in any type of queer history so if i sound like a complete idiot feel free to tell me that. Currently my view on pride is mixed because as much as i think it’s important to raise awareness about the discrimination LGBT people face, i am not a fan of pride parades being full of furries and cosplayers wearing fetish gear and making us look bad to the general public.

I absolutely hate building for bears as they take up so much space and i can get only 2 of them, but i love making mixed hoofstock habitats, scimitar horned oryx is my favourite:-D

I find the word tucute cringe but this common thing in “tucute” spaces has been irking me.

They get to have many different opinions on trans issues because everyone is different! But transmedicalists are grouped under the “transmed” label because we’re apparently all the same…

Im aware that not all “tucutes” have the same opinions. Some of them think that neopronouns are valid, some don’t. Some think that ftm lesbians are a real thing, and some doubt it. Some think that transsexual is a bad icky word, some of them claim the word transsexual for themselves. Some think that gender abolition would be amazing, some disagree. They’re all different people with different opinions!

But somehow they group us in under the same label and act like we all have the same beliefs, it’s so odd. I have some views that other transmedicalists don’t hold, but that’s normal because we’re not a cult and we will always have differences.

Just annoying that they get to have different opinions but as soon as they hear im a transmedicalist they assume that i am against self expression and i hate everyone who identifies with something i don’t think is a real identity.

Just a rant…

Im really dysphoric about mine not being too visible, maybe i’m not the leanest but i dont exactly hold that much fat on my neck.

I constantly feel like ill get clocked because of my lack of visible adams apple.

Im 11 months on t so should i just wait longer?

I like to make habitats with thick foliage so it is annoying that some items just make the habitat unwalkable… i hope that pz2 fixes this

I get that for low quality pictures but even the better quality ones i upload get zero identifications and it’s making me a bit sad yes i treat inaturalist like its social media…

Were you under full anaesthesia or local anaesthesia? Was it just excess skin removal or liposuction too? How long was the surgery and if you were under local anaesthesia, were you feeling scared?

I am asking this because i want dog ear revision in the future but im very scared of going under full anaesthesia. My top surgery went well with zero complications but i have an insane fear of anaesthesia so 6 months later i still feel very shaken up and i keep having horrible nightmares about my top surgery failing. Im also scared of liposuction because a family member of mine died from liposuction surgery so im wondering if i should just lose weight before even considering a revision. Hoping to get any feedback.