u/trinityarcher

For context on my situation: I am undiagnosed but I'm certain it is vaginismus. I've been doing kegal exercises on-and-off for around a year, but properly locked in around two months ago, and I've been using dilators for 2.5 weeks.

I've been seeing a new guy for around a month now. He's really sweet and obviously knows about my condition and is 100% down for doing whatever I am comfortable with sexually. In the bedroom, he's been so careful and constantly asks me if I'm okay and tells me to tell him when to stop if I'm uncomfortable, even during outercourse (bare minimum I know but it's still real sweet).

Before last night, we had only ever gotten one finger in painlessly, and two fingers in with some discomfort.

I will get TMI here maybe. Last night, we were kissing and doing some frottage in missionary. He asked if we could try penetration since I was 'really wet', I said we could. He managed to insert it, but it hurt. We tried to wait a little with no movement, but it remained uncomfortable so he pulled out. But I felt very happy and motivated knowing it could work in the first place.

We continued as we were doing, and I got on top. I suggested we try again with me on top - and it went in with only slight discomfort! Yay! We waited a minute for the discomfort to lessen, and then he did some shallow thrusts. The discomfort was barely there anymore and it was starting to feel okay, so he started properly thrusting. He was pretty worked up anyway so he only ended up lasting maybe a minute or two. Then we high-fived lol.

He was tired because he had been at work all day so I finished myself while he had a sleep. Then a couple hours later, he woke up and we ended up trying for round 2, with me on top again. This time, it was barely uncomfortable at all when first inserting it and by the end it felt more than okay, it felt really good. So not only did I do PIV for the first time, I did it for the second too!! (and I can't wait for the third!).

So onto my thoughts/opinions. I think the most important thing was being with a partner I felt comfortable with. I've not been seeing this guy for that long, only a month, but he's been so kind and respectful the whole time that I genuinely did feel like this was someone I could be comfortable around in the bedroom. I have a habit of wanting to be seen a certain way which makes me a little awkward and nervous, but I never felt like that with him so I think that's why it went successfully.

I was a person who genuinely worried all the time that I was never going to be able to have PIV and often let it get me down. Oftentimes, I would feel so demotivated and I felt like I was 'broken' or less of a woman. And it's just genuinely I've realised I can not let myself feel that way. I am exactly who I am and it's not my fault that I have a medical condition.

The only thing I do wish went differently is that I wish I made some effort lol. He basically did all of the work, and I think he was happy to, but I do wish I had done more than just sit there while he fucked me lol. Maybe next time I see him I'll have to thank him for being so kind with me ;)

I'm a student starting university in 2026 and I'm trying to create a student bank account with Nationwide. I was born (late) Jan 2008 and my family have lived at the same address since March 2007. While making my account, it asks 'When did you move into this address?' (month and year), so I obviously put Jan 2008 and it says "Error: check that move in date is not before you were born".

I don't understand what I'm supposed to do because I have lived at this address since Jan 2008, since I was born.

I had a dream last night that I opened my computer and UCAS said I got A*EE but not whether I got into either my firm or insurance, and I had to get the train to my firm university to find out whether I got in or not in person.

Hopefully that doesn't actually happen on results day.

I've hated my name since I was about 10 (I'm 18F now). My name is Livvy, not short for Olivia, just Livvy. My parents chose not to do the full longer name because it seemed stupid when they wanted everyone to call me by the shortened 'nickname' version (funny because literally everyone calls me Liv lol).

It genuinely just grates me. I hate the name so much. I feel embarrassed telling people that's my name, it just feels too cutesy to be a full name and I DESPISE the double-v. Half the people I know don't even spell it right. And I don't like the fact I'm going to be a grown adult named Livvy.

I'm considering changing my name to Liberty, and going by Libby. It's close enough to my lifelong name that it'll feel like a comfortable transition, and I'd have an actual full name to use for more 'formal' situations (I want to be a doctor in the future and I'd be more comfortable being Dr. Liberty than Dr. Livvy).

But also I don't know if it seems stupid to change my name just to have a nickname that basically sounds the same as my old name. Like, am I pathetic to be like "I hate Livvy! Call me Libby instead!", I don't know.

I've been thinking and I've just realised basically every single person I know knows what university I've firmed. Like my whole family knows, all my friends know, and I'm working part-time at my mum's workplace and she told literally all of our coworkers... If I don't get into Newcastle I literally have to repeatedly tell every single person I know that I failed aaaa

Title might seem unclear so I'll elaborate. I have a crush on this guy who I have a lot of the same interests as. We're both interested in music, films, and literature - maybe these are basic but whatever. But I feel like he cares so much more about these interests than me that I probably couldn't have an interesting conversation with him about them.

For one example, I like watching movies and rate them on Letterboxd and give high ratings to lots of movies just because I liked watching them, whereas he sees himself as a 'cinephile' and rates movies on Letterboxd based on personal enjoyment, plot, and the technical stuff too - cinematography, sound, etc. And he has 1000+ more films logged than me.

I just feel like I wouldn't be able to properly talk to him about any of our shared interests because he would see me as a very casual/shallow enjoyer of these things, not caring as deeply as he does. I just feel like I can never talk to him because I'll just bore him with my basic opinions about everything ):