u/twin_gulls

Sometimes I'm looking for a very specific genre of video or creator but don't have any luck.

My hands are so screwed up from touching everything that comes through my line and constantly sanitizing. Thankfully our sanitizer has been replaced by a foam that isn't as aggressive but my skin is still messed up. It's like a thin neverending peel in random spots that never heals.

I've tried bandages, moisturizer and hydrocortisone. The only thing that seems to heal them is not being at work lol.

I can't wear gloves because the sweat would make my eczema reoccur.

You'll see this word in this subreddit a lot. Everyone has limits and vulnerabilities. I find it hard to believe that many people who claim to be desensitized are actually able to look at morbid content to its highest extent and say "I'm desensitized so it doesn't bother me." I don't think that many people are *actually* desensitized. We are all obsessed with death. Most humans are. I think the term implies indifference which is something not even morticians or EMT workers have because their jobs imo require some kind of empathy. I don't think being numbed by the sight of bodily trauma is the same as feeling nothing because regardless of your conscious reaction, your body is going to choose how it copes.

I think it's also a lot easier to say when it comes to the Internet because you cannot feel all of the senses and thoughts you would feel in the presence of the atrocities you see through your screen. Most of us will never be able to say "I'm desensitized." In real life.

And even apart from that, a lot of people cannot look away from animals and children. Most of us have nothing but sensitivity when it comes to the most innocent forms of life.

I think the use of this term should come with a big asterisk next to it.

Edit: Ignore my butchered spelling in the title I can't fix it

Unless this is just me? I've heard lots of different versions of straight people not liking it the opposite gender is looking at their partner in public or the beach or wherever it is- and I've never once worried that someone could be looking at my boyfriend? Or that he's looking at them? I feel like at least for me from a bisexual point of view I just look at everybody and it's not usually with any kind of intent or need.

I also might just be bad at reading others intent because if someone was looking at my partner or me a certain way I most likely wouldn't know.

I didn't know exactly what I was getting myself into when I watched it for the first time some years ago.

Some of these actors were definitely teenagers right? I'm assuming by the 70s there would be laws against this but I don't know what the laws were in Italy then.

"Most of the actors of the cast, although they were natural performers, were non-professionals with minimal or no prior on-camera acting experience. Many of them were models, cast for their willingness to appear naked on-screen."

This is from Wikipedia. I just can't imagine how this was ethical just from the sound of it.

There is legitimate meaning in this movie. It's not just a shocking movie but I can't not wonder about the production. Every time I'm reminded that it existed I just have questions.

Wouldn't this be considered CSAM by today's standards? But there is no difficulty or restriction when seeking it out.

I've heard that many child actors do not know what the material is that they're acting in. I have to wonder if any of these actors eventually did see this movie. What about their parents?

This movie just exists and cinephiles seem to know of it but other than it doesn't look like any further information or context was found other than what actors had to say around the time which is not including all of the minors on set. I don't think we're ever going to get all of the answers.

I'm assuming a lot of you have eventually gotten glasses as many of us do.

I needed glasses when I was 10 or 11 years old and now approaching 30 I cannot see more than a foot in front of my face without them. There's got to be a limit for this right? Lol.

Um...what?

I'm a little confused right now. At my old job location that was smaller when the bottle return machine broke down we would do bottle returns manually after the customer gave us the number of bottles they had to return. But if it was a large amount they usually didn't want to do this because they didn't feel like counting them. So they'd just come back or go somewhere else.

Now at my new location more than once I have had people come up to me and ask me to count their bottles for them. This has never happened to me before. Each time it is a person that seems to be struggling or in bad health that for whatever reason cannot count their bottles. Fine, no biggie but it's a problem because I have to leave my position (register) to do this and it takes time. I counted almost 300 bottles by hand today. This doesn't seem fair to my coworkers who need to keep their lines moving.

People have been drawn in by the sight of gore before the Internet even existed. But I don't really ever see the same energy for wild animals. And I'm talking about only undomesticated animals living in the wild without human intervention. Not pets.

When I think of it I assume it's because it's a regular occurrence for the rest of the world that we consider ourselves omitted from.

This woman looked at me like she was going to skin me alive today while I frantically tried to cancel the card processing to let her put a number in. I had already asked her earlier in the transaction and got no answer. I waited until she wasn't preoccupied to ask and still got no response so I went ahead with the transaction. Some people straight up won't answer me because they don't want to engage with anything related to rewards or loyalty systems I imagine.

She gave me the whole "So it's too late? I don't get my money?" And I told her she won't get the points (it's a percentage back point system) but all customers get the same discounts and she just stared at me like I had said something she'd never heard before. Some people only use our rewards system because they think our discounts are exclusive even though they're not. Sometimes when people forget they aren't worried after I tell them they still got the sales. It could've been worse. She could've have made me return the whole transaction and ring it back through so she could enter a number.

But seriously what am I supposed to say? I can't say "You had the option to enter it yourself for the entire transaction. I asked you if you wanted to put a rewards number in and you said nothing and instead inserted the card." She just wasn't paying attention until the very end.

I know it's a small thing but it makes me feel like an asshole. I just think it's important and part of my job to close every interaction with this and for some reason people think it's me giving them an attitude? I'm not chatty or anything I just take care of people and do a little extra if they need help but then I just send them on their way.

I'm a dry person anyway but I was really tired today. One person told me they like my attitude when I told them to have a good day. Another just laughed but she sounded like she thought I was a piece of work or something? I do try to smile or at least look them in the eyes too.

Not the first instances of this either.

I could say some of the ones I feel like everybody brings up like whatever the one is called where everyone wants their genitals taken clean off- but I have a new one.

r/retconned is similar to people talking about the Mandela effect except it has a twist because you can claim that in your reality this did happen and that the only reason it's different now is because there was a split in your reality. You're also not allowed to tell someone that they're just remembering the subject wrong. It's against their rules.

They sometimes get attached to particular media and then different people make different posts claiming their own retcons about it.

People also claim things that are completely out there like time moving differently. They say it's faster or slower than it was before and claim that they've measured it.

It's not completely against the rules to disprove people but you can't just say they're wrong. Someone might say "This was discontinued in year X, but you can still find xys" and this is considered okay but like I said the other person could still just say they're from a different reality from you.

I've heard so many horror stories when people do someone else's laundry or do housekeeping for a living.

I can't imagine not at least making sure the whole thing gets hit with water even if you're not going to use soap for whatever reason. Probably not an issue if you own a bidet in the first place.

I mean alright I know people buy the "flushable" (I've heard there's no such thing as a flushable wipe) wipes but that's not really washing your ass.

I haven't been in retail (grocery) that long and the air I get from this supervisor is that nobody knows what they're doing except her which I sort of understand because she's better with the computers than my older supervisors but everything I ask her for she just seems angry and talks to me like I'm stupid? There are a lot of things I cannot do without approval by a supervisor so I do need her often.

I'm a transfer from a different location by the way and the location I was in before is widely different from this one. It offers services I didn't even have. I could see how that could be annoying.

I can't tell if maybe this person is just stressed or overworked or what. I would say she's very smart and probably over qualified. I haven't made an enemy at any job so far and I don't want to start.

I feel like I sound incompetent for being bothered by this but I worked jobs with no real corporate environment before and very few coworkers.

At least temporarily? I've been thinking about survival in extreme conditions. I'm talking about things that aren't even remotely close to food that your stomach would have difficulty breaking down.

I've seen the popular "What's the most disturbing thing you've ever seen?" question on multiple subreddits over time but I don't think people usually talk about just words. Articles, biographies, transcripts, blogs, fiction or non-fiction, etc.

A few from me:

- The transcript of the tape that the toybox killer played for his victims that detailed what was going to happen to them before the torture began.

- Endocannablism aka the ritualistic consumption of the deceased. I specifically learned about this in "Smoke Gets in Your Eyes" by Caitlin Doughty. I respect the historic and cultural significance here but the risks are impossible to ignore. They are sometimes consumed in advanced states of decay.

- The incel forums. This answer feels cheap because incels get memed to death but it's hard to look away when people in an online community have a term called "hopecel" which just means that an incel is daring to hope or even turning away from the self destructive ideology of the community. This is considered a bad thing to the rest of them. When you have this next to the most horrible equivalent of modern physiognomy the entire website makes for a despicable read.

- The classic "Jungle" by Upton Sinclair. I didn't read the entire thing but I read several excerpts in HS. If not just for how nauseating the production of meat is, the difficult lives of the immigrants involved is also enough to churn my stomach.

I know I'm missing something. Maybe it'll come to me later.

For context I'm 27, bi and a trans man. It started to dawn on me at 25ish that other people I know (all straight couples) are having kids and/or getting married. I have no interest in kids really and I realize that a lot more queer couples are having kids but it's not an experience I generally see myself in. As for marriage? Uhh now is not a good time but maybe later.

Without these milestones I don't feel like I'm aging like my peers. It's not time to be 30 yet but in the latter half of my 20s I don't feel like I'm going to be really changing chapters as I imagine someone with kids and a house would.

I'm not going to lie it makes me feel like I'm not where I'm supposed to be even though there's not actually anything bad about where I'm at. I vaguely know that older queer people have reconciled with this but it feels like a less discussed part of being queer.

First, don't feel compelled to answer this if it's going to dig up something very traumatic that you'd rather not share.

Warning because mine is vagina related. It's not pleasant.

I'll go first. I once tried to get an IUD and I let my gynecologist with my permission try to insert it 15 times before we gave up. My cervix would not take it. I was feeling pain in a part of my body that I'm not normally aware of. It felt intestinal.

Just in case we aren't all up to speed on sex ed, the cervix is the lower "neck" of the uterus. Usually unless it's baby time nothing messes with it. A penis usually doesn't reach it but it can occasionally bump into it which for some people could be a good thing or it could be very painful. But generally you aren't supposed to go poking it.

Interesting extra bit. They offered to let me try again another time and gave me a medication that is normally used for heartburn to try to relax the cervix. I did not go back for another round.

I thought I was clear. I told one of my bosses that this week was the latest I could possibly be scheduled before I had to make the move before the end of the month and said not to schedule me. That means my week is already over because I had a very short schedule this week. So I said okay and can you tell the other store that I can't start until this day next month (It's a complex thing because I'm taking over someone's spot in a roommate situation and that person has their own stuff going on. Long story) and he said okay.

So today on my way out I peak in his office to give him a quick thanks before I leave and he looks at me confused. He says "Oh I thought you only needed the 31st off. I scheduled you for next week." And I say "Um...no I will be in the process of moving then." And he challenges that. "Do you need all of those days to move?" He asks me. I clam up and immediately take the blame and say I must not have explained it clearly enough. But yes I do need those days to move. There's more context I could give here but it's really not as easy as me going to a new place and dropping my stuff down. There's multiple variables to my move.

He doesn't say that he scheduled me so it's really going to hurt my department if I don't show up. He wasn't happy though. But the other manager sitting next to him turns to him and says hey yeah, he's leaving. He won't be here. And the way she says it kind of makes it sound like she's the only one who remembered that detail even though I told everybody I would be moving.

It was just so awkward. I've never transferred before and even though I let them know in advance at the very beginning of the month it took forever to get anyone to sit down with me and do it. It was only made official by the boss at my new store location a few days ago even though it's been known that I need this transfer this entire time .

Maybe I didn't explain it well enough but I don't know how he figured I only needed the 31st off. It ended up feeling like an extremely awkward goodbye. I respect the guy and if I was around I would do it but I'm just not going to be in the area. I felt terrible.

I've only been a cashier for two years and I can't figure this out. I don't mind so much when old people just can't see or need me to walk them through it. This is a different thing I've had happen that isn't specific to any one type of person.

I've been snapped at a lot because people don't know their pins, can't tap their card or think they need to do a part of the process that isn't necessary all over again.

Today someone got mad at me because I told them they didn't need to do their rewards number again and she said the screen told her to do it. I know that but I'm on the side with the rest of the system so I can see it doesn't need to be re-entered. I thought I was helping by telling her that she didn't need to repeat a step. I could've just let her do it but I was trying to be nice because she already wasn't happy after I told her that her pin was incorrect.

I just don't understand what there is to be upset about. Do they think they look like they don't know what they're doing? Do they feel dumb?

The most embarrassing thing I ever did at the card reader was turn on my phone's flashlight instead of opening my wallet but thankfully it was pointed down and not at anyone. I moved where it is on my phone so that would never happen again lol.