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This is something that came up in my ethics class which really got me thinking…
Though I understand certain things may seem objective, the unfortunate truth is that there really isn’t one objective moral… which has me thinking, ok so are we technically all bad people?

Growing up, I was told several things such as “being gay is wrong” “saying the N word when you aren’t black is ok”, “making jokes about someone’s body is ok” “it’s ok to like and celebrate holidays with harmful history” “it’s good to spank kids if they misbehave” etc etc… and personally, those things didn’t sit right with me and I grew up to a lot of people explaining to me why this is actually wrong but then there’s several other people who have also told me these things are not wrong and are actually ok..?
For example, my best friend is black and has mentioned several times to me that it’s ok to say the N word and even the hard R. They mentioned that it doesn’t make someone racist if they mean it in a friendly way and therefore anyone can say the word… and eventually I came across several other black people saying the same which has me confused? I still believe it is wrong (I’m not black) therefore I refuse to say it but conversations like this really make me wonder if I’m actually wrong? Like what if it was the other way around? What if I loved black people (which I do) but said the N word to people in a friendly manner, I grew up my entire life being told it’s ok and that language evolves. What would my life look like if this was the case? There’s so many people in the black community who are telling me it’s ok..

(TW: DV)

Another example, R@p€. Most People might say it’s wrong… however there’s so many people who don’t view it that way. I’ve talked to several people of all genders who have expressed that sometimes this act is very well deserved due to the harm the other person caused. They’ve shared that people shouldn’t play victim when they “put their hands on the other person first” and however, though I strongly disagree, there’s people out there who do agree with this statement (both survivors and people who didn’t experience DV) which again makes me question myself at times.

I say this stuff because I really want to get into public policy however this idea of relative morality really scares me because I just want to do what is correct and also I don’t want to make it seem like I believe only my views are correct and ignore everyone else’s POV however, when my whole life I’m being told certain things are harmful and a bunch of people in my circle are telling me they’re actually not, it really makes me stuck on when accountability and punishment is necessary…

This is something that came up in my ethics class which really got me thinking…
Though I understand certain things may seem objective, the unfortunate truth is that there really isn’t one objective moral… which has me thinking, ok so are we technically all bad people?

Growing up, I was told several things such as “being gay is wrong” “saying the N word when you aren’t black is ok”, “making jokes about someone’s body is ok” “it’s ok to like and celebrate holidays with harmful history” “it’s good to spank kids if they misbehave” etc etc… and personally, those things didn’t sit right with me and I grew up to a lot of people explaining to me why this is actually wrong but then there’s several other people who have also told me these things are not wrong and are actually ok..?
For example, my best friend is black and has mentioned several times to me that it’s ok to say the N word and even the hard R. They mentioned that it doesn’t make someone racist if they mean it in a friendly way and therefore anyone can say the word… and eventually I came across several other black people saying the same which has me confused? I still believe it is wrong (I’m not black) therefore I refuse to say it but conversations like this really make me wonder if I’m actually wrong? Like what if it was the other way around? What if I loved black people (which I do) but said the N word to people in a friendly manner, I grew up my entire life being told it’s ok and that language evolves. What would my life look like if this was the case? There’s so many people in the black community who are telling me it’s ok..

(TW: DV)

Another example, R@p€. Most People might say it’s wrong… however there’s so many people who don’t view it that way. I’ve talked to several people of all genders who have expressed that sometimes this act is very well deserved due to the harm the other person caused. They’ve shared that people shouldn’t play victim when they “put their hands on the other person first” and however, though I strongly disagree, there’s people out there who do agree with this statement (both survivors and people who didn’t experience DV) which again makes me question myself at times.

I say this stuff because I really want to get into public policy however this idea of relative morality really scares me because I just want to do what is correct and also I don’t want to make it seem like I believe only my views are correct and ignore everyone else’s POV however, when my whole life I’m being told certain things are harmful and a bunch of people in my circle are telling me they’re actually not, it really makes me stuck on when accountability and punishment is necessary…

I’ve been feeling extremely horny lately but have absolutely no one I want to have sex with…

I’ve tried dating apps to see if I’ll just magically get turned on by someone’s body but it never works… I have tried convincing myself that certain body types (big butts, boobs, penises, etc) were in fact sexy and will get me going but nope… didn’t work. I even tried imagining what the genitalia of past friends and/or partners looked like to see if it would do anything (I’m demisexual) but nope still did not work.
The thought of being sexually attracted/impulsed by any of my close people and especially people idk just feels severely uncomfortable to me and it’s driving me insane because I’ve been horny for the past week and just mentally can’t stand the idea of someone’s body turning me on or get myself to feel comfortable with the idea of having sex with someone whether I’m close to them or not…

Do any asexuals relate?

I’ve been chubby my entire life and have also struggled with body dysphoria for years but in the recent years I’ve learned to love my size and not blame myself for my body being happy at a certain weight. I tried multiple diets my entire life and have always ended back at 165-170. all my medical exams have always came out as healthy and on track but doctors said I needed to lose weight regardless of my tests coming out good.

Anyways back to the main point. Recently I’ve noticed I’ve started to lose weight and it just keeps going down even though I’m eating more than before and not as ‘healthy’ as I used to when I was at my biggest size? Idk why I get so sad and sometimes start crying when I try on clothes and realize I’m not a size 16-18/L-XL anymore… I don’t want to be skinnier or skinny in general tbh. Not because I hate skinny bodies or anything like that but because I learned to love an appreciate being in a bigger body after years of internalizing the comments that were said about chubby and plus sized people.
Yes, fitting into more clothes that I’ve always wanted to wear feels great but the truth, it doesn’t even matter to me anymore. I don’t want to have to be smaller to fit into the clothes I want, I want brands to make their clothes more accessible to bigger bodies because in reality our body sizes aren’t the issue here at all. I love being in a bigger body and I don’t want it to go away. It’s what makes me feel like me. I know I can’t control it’s changes but it still makes me sad when I have to buy a smaller size or when I have to give away clothes because it’s now 3-4 sizes too big.
Is it just me or does anyone relate?

I’m preparing for my chem major and feeling really really uncertain and terrified of what math class I should take first. I need to take calc 1,2 & 3 + linear algebra and differential equations for my transfer requirements but I only took algebra 1 in high school like 6-7 years ago and I took geometry 2 times. Barely passed with a D the second time… never took algebra 2.

I’m not sure if I should be ok with just taking Precalc or if I should start with intermediate algebra, then college algebra, then trig (or Precalc) and then start my calculus sequence.

I’m just scared I’ll need to ask several questions related to algebra in a Precalc class and potentially embarrass myself and look like a fool….

I’m a chemistry major at LACC and am trying to apply for math classes but literally everything I need has a prereq… I took algebra, geometry and consumer math in high school and am trying to enroll In trigonometry per counselors advice but it asks me to take intermediate algebra which I took in high school…. The system allows me to enroll in calculus 1 but not trigonometry? I’m already so behind in math given the ableism I received from teachers in high school and middle school and last thing I want to do is skip courses and risk not knowing important concepts when ik math is a big part of chemistry….

I’m too scared to take chem 060 (prereq for chem 101) until I finish calculus 2 because I don’t want to fail given I never took chem in high school and don’t want my lack in mathematical and science skills to interfere (I only took biology & earth science in HS). I’m stressed and unsure what to do… ik math and sciences classes fill up quick and I’m in priority registeration so I want to take advantage before classes fill up. The soonest counseling appointment isn’t till May 10th unfortunately so idk what to do…