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My fiancée is 23 and has POTS, EDS, autism, CPTSD, and degenerative disc disease with a bulging disc and pinched nerve. Her back is so bad they said it was like seeing someone who was 80 years old. She hasn’t worked in two years because all of these things have gotten worse for her as time went on. Now my friend acts like she’s a bad partner for not working and it’s so annoying.

She will be bed ridden for days because of the pain and because my father didn’t have a job growing up my friend thinks I’m falling into the same pattern as my mother when my dad had no disability and just mooched off my mom because he’s a bad person.

Despite being in pain, she still cleans the house for me and cooks me dinner and lunch depending on if it’s my day off. She never complains about doing this stuff but now my friend is saying our relationship is 80/30 and it’s not fair to me. All I do is work, clean the litter boxes, unload the dishwasher and clean the bathroom. My partner does everything else, if she didn’t have these disabilities she would have a job and we would split cleaning evenly.

It’s so annoying and frustrating how she talks about my partner when she was actually in an abusive relationship before and I never bad talked him to her ever. I’m getting fed up and she keeps canceling when plans involve my fiancée because it bothers her that badly. My birthday is this weekend and if she cancels on me I think I’m going to end our friendship after 20 years. It’ll be hard but I can’t have people in my life who don’t support my choices and make me feel bad for choosing the person I love.

It’s also not like my partner isn’t trying to get disability either, she’s been doing it for two years now and they’re having to take her case to federal court because they keep denying her and her lawyer thinks it’s unlawful and the judges only see she can speak clearly and thinks she’s not disabled. Sorry for this being so long I’m just fed up.

In middle school I was bullied a lot by the popular boys. It almost drove me to suicide multiple times. I remember crying everyday after school or telling my parents I don’t feel good and don’t want to go to school. I remember wearing a black hoodie with the hood up everyday hoping and praying that the boys wouldn’t notice me. They always would. I also had an ED because he would constantly call me fat and I would eat an apple a day hoping if I got skinny enough he would leave me alone. He never did.

Fast forward 10 years now and I just started working at a new office job. When I had to process paperwork for my coworkers last name change I froze. I recognized that last name. I searched her on Facebook and sure enough she’s married to my middle school bully. Now I haven’t thought about my middle school bullies since middle school but just seeing that last name triggered something in me. I felt like I was standing in the middle school hallway looking at my younger self and how sad she was. How that bully took away so much of my social life because I was too depressed to leave my room.

Now I’m not saying he’s the same guy and would bully me like he used to but it feels weird. I don’t know what to think really. Is it right of me to still be upset at something that happened years ago?

So I work in healthcare and take care of disabled individuals in a home. I work with the same person every week and it’s exhausting. First off she only talks about herself and never has asked me a question about myself and she thinks her life is so interesting that that’s one of the only things she talks about. If she’s not talking about herself, she’s talking about trump or God when I have told her multiple times I am not religious and don’t believe in god. She also said that all people who take drugs deserve to OD and die because it was their choice to do it. I had a sister who ODed and died and that was her first time ever doing drugs that were unfortunately laced. So it’s like my sister deserved death because of one pill she thought was just a pain pill and was given it to by someone she trusts?

She also lowkey called me fat because she said one of the people we take care of doesn’t act out with me because I’m “bigger” than her. Meanwhile she’s only like 20 pounds lighter than I am. And like why point that out? Then she told me she took all the cans of formula at Walmart and her husband called her a bad Christian for taking them all. She replied to him and said “my daughter deserves it more”. I am leaving this job in two weeks so I don’t have much more time with her but I’ve been wanting to tell her off for weeks and I want to the last night of my shift. Idk what I should say though.

So I watched a WHOLE hour and a half long video about how to make sure error code 12 doesn’t happen. I made sure it recognized my graphics card. Edited a bunch of files for it. Only hit save as zoomed out. Cleaned out my cache files every time I turned the game on. I even made a new saves folder to put my backups in and still error code 12. Finally I decided to take my family I was playing and save them to my library. I did go back a save before the error code 12 had started happening

I then moved them to a new town, for now it’s Appaloosa plains. I got rid of some of my cc, 600 files. Then I used S3PE to merge my cc together. I don’t recommend merging script mods in with cc. My nraas I kept separate. Now I’m hoping it’s all smooth sailing but if I have to keep moving them to a new town then oh well. But hopefully if any of you are having trouble this might help.

I welcome everyone to the Bad Bitches Club! We host weekly events like makeup and sip, game nights and movie nights! We have many many games we play so there will be something you have in common with someone

Rules:

-be 18+
-be active or you’ll be removed
-no hate or slurs will be tolerated
-have fun

So my fiancée got diagnosed with EDS, POTS and MCAS with CPTSD, autism and schizophrenia. She has been denied multiple times now for disability. I told her she can stay home while I work for the both of us. She usually cooks for me still and cleans the house mostly until I’m home on the weekends. First incident I had was my friend saying to me “I just noticed you weren’t so stressed out when your partner was working so now I’m not sure if it’s working out for you since she doesn’t have one now, I just want the best for you.” I was taken aback as she had invited me out to dinner and I felt so sick I didn’t even eat my dinner. I felt like I needed to defend my partner so I told my friend she has a disability and can’t hold a job as she literally is sick almost everyday and jobs will fire you if you’re not reliable. She didn’t really push back and I know the reason she said this was because my dad didn’t have a job for all my life and she doesn’t want me to end up like my mom. My dad is a different story as he’s just manipulative and his excuse for not having a job is because child support would take it since he owed about 70k.

Now a few months later, me and my partner visited my aunt. It was almost as soon as we sat down my aunt started asking my partner what she’s doing for work and how it’s not fair to me that I don’t get help with my bills. I tried to tell her it’s not like she sits at home doing nothing. I wish she could do nothing at home honestly because she pushes herself too much to where she’s sick. My aunt kept going off and I didn’t even know what to say because I just felt disrespected and so did my partner. Then my aunt offered my partner to pet sit as a job. By the end of the night my aunt told me she does think my partner will get disability it just takes a while when you’re so young. I felt so bad and shitty like it was all my fault my friends and family have been saying this because I try to defend her but then it just sounds like I’m making excuses idk. I wish I had more of a back bone but I just constantly want to appease everyone which I know isn’t good because you can’t always do that. What would you guys say if you were in my shoes?

So yesterday me and my two friends were in Walmart. Friend 1 kept walking hella fast in front of us trying to get out of the exit so me and my other friend were laughing at her. Then she got stuck behind an old lady walking slow. We said “damn slow down speed demon” to my friend. The bitch that was with the old lady says to the old lady “their moms didn’t teach them respect they’re lucky I won’t right now”. Then she gave us the evilest eyes I’ve ever seen in my life. She said my shorts were trashy just because they had rips in them. She also proceeded to say she was going to beat our asses while we’re just walking away from her. We started laughing again because what the fuck was that?

Then we got into the car and was abt to leave Walmart and this crazy ass bitch starts coming to the car holding up her arms and still talking shit. She said Gen Z is the worst generation ever. As if she wasn’t threatening to beat our ass for laughing at our friend. Sorry old people but not everything is about you!

I’m on book 9 and this is like the 5th time the girls don’t believe A is back even though they’re all getting texts from A about Jamaica. Like when are they going to take it seriously? You would think they would learn by now 😭