u/wannaBuildASnowplow

My sister is a wanna be trad wife.

Her manly masculine Boyfriend is a head smaller than me wearing my going out heels. (Im a tall women).

Size isn’t everything. But he is so proud of his gym gains. Gains a lot of women in my gym can match, because training isn’t gendered.

Wherever they are he is playing the provider. My parents bought the home they live in.

He is a finance bro. I earn more as a specialised engineer.

Her boyfriend doesn’t cry (according to him) but he has the emotional maturity of a toddler when things don’t go his way.

My sister is running in circles around him to make him happy. And she demands I and my family do the same.

She tells me because I love her I need to respect her provider.

Her provider doesn’t even own a car because he enjoys running up the miles on my parents BMW.

I do not respect him. At least not the way she expects me as a women to respect him as a man.

Also she wants me to find a provider too. If that needs to be a man who makes more money, is taller and lifts more weights… well there are very few who’d match that.

My sister 20f always wanted a baby. At least 4 children. And be a stay at home mom.

She argues: why postpone and finish education if she is never going to work anyway. My parents asked her to start pregnancy after finishing education.

Why wait to life her dream life?

I need help arguing against this. I feel like the only sane one in my family.

I’ll probably get one shot at convincing her does is not a good idea and to continue getting an education first.

I need to be as convincing as can be please help me.

She 20F met her boyfriend 29M through Bumble in Dezember. They became an official couple in January.

Now they live together. They rent three apartments total in the same town because they wanted to move in together but only had studio apartments and the lease is not up on the other apartments for the next 3/5 months. They lived together for a month now.

My sisters situation.

She already quit University once and was sitting at home waiting to be accepted in her nursing program for 1.5 years. My father offered to pay for any internship/travel/course but she just did nothing.

She struggles in University where she is studying to become a nurse specialist. Not because she is dumb or it’s difficult. It’s a lot of Internships and she just doesn’t study. When at my family’s house she was crying how bad it was she needed to study 2 hours total on the weekend before her exam.

I’m not a great student myself. But she is out of my league.

If it goes according to schedule she’ll finish the program in 2 years.

She has no friends. Zero. She alienated everyone she knew at school.

Her boyfriend is all she has socially beside our family and his family. But we hardly ever talk anymore.

Her Boyfriend.

I honestly like him. I got along better with him than her while on holiday.

He works as a lawyer in a bank. Makes decent money but far from rich and his parents don’t have a lot. (I guess 100k/year based on comparison of education and employer)

He is insecure and struggles when things don’t go his way. But all in all he is a good man.

He desperately wants a family.

He also planned to get a PhD next year.

My sisters financial situation

My family has money but is not ultra rich. My father owns a small local factory.

Currently my parents support her with 2000$ a month for rent and necessities.

Her spending habits do exhaust that even if her boyfriend pays for everything when they are together.
They take trips every second weekend and eat in restaurants often.

She does not have debt. But that’s because my parents cover it when she goes into minus.

I bet she thinks my parents keep sending money while she is pregnant and a stay at home mom. (They will of course, they will never cut her off)

But she is also completely delusional and has no concept of prices and money. Like she knows what 1L of milk costs. But doesn’t think she won’t be able to spend 600$ o dinner on a single income.

She wants the high life and upper class style my parents build from scratch when she was young.

Her whole ass thing pisses me of. She is cosplaying financial dependence on her boyfriend and the trad wife movement. While many women are stuck in that situation unable to escape.

But when i argue I’m downplayed as bitter and jealous.

That’s why I need you help and arguments to make her see reason.

I’m not good at debates. But Reddit does help sort thing and gather good points.

How do I convince my sister to not get pregnant and quit University with her Boyfriend of 5 months?

My sister 20f always wanted a baby. At least 4 children. And be a stay at home mom.

She argues: why postpone and finish education if she is never going to work anyway. My parents asked her to start pregnancy after finishing education.

Why wait to life her dream life?

I need help arguing against this. I feel like the only sane one in my family.

I’ll probably get one shot at convincing her does is not a good idea and to continue getting an education first.

I need to be as convincing as can be please help me.

She 20F met her boyfriend 29M through Bumble in Dezember. They became an official couple in January.

Now they live together. They rent three apartments total in the same town because they wanted to move in together but only had studio apartments and the lease is not up on the other apartments for the next 3/5 months. They lived together for a month now.

My sisters situation.

She already quit University once and was sitting at home waiting to be accepted in her nursing program for 1.5 years. My father offered to pay for any internship/travel/course but she just did nothing.

She struggles in University where she is studying to become a nurse specialist. Not because she is dumb or it’s difficult. It’s a lot of Internships and she just doesn’t study. When at my family’s house she was crying how bad it was she needed to study 2 hours total on the weekend before her exam.

I’m not a great student myself. But she is out of my league.

If it goes according to schedule she’ll finish the program in 2 years.

She has no friends. Zero. She alienated everyone she knew at school.

Her boyfriend is all she has socially beside our family and his family. But we hardly ever talk anymore.

Her Boyfriend.

I honestly like him. I got along better with him than her while on holiday.

He works as a lawyer in a bank. Makes decent money but far from rich and his parents don’t have a lot. (I guess 100k/year based on comparison of education and employer)

He is insecure and struggles when things don’t go his way. But all in all he is a good man.

He desperately wants a family.

He also planned to get a PhD next year.

My sisters financial situation

My family has money but is not ultra rich. My father owns a small local factory.

Currently my parents support her with 2000$ a month for rent and necessities.

Her spending habits do exhaust that even if her boyfriend pays for everything when they are together.
They take trips every second weekend and eat in restaurants often.

She does not have debt. But that’s because my parents cover it when she goes into minus.

I bet she thinks my parents keep sending money while she is pregnant and a stay at home mom. (They will of course, they will never cut her off)

But she is also completely delusional and has no concept of prices and money. Like she knows what 1L of milk costs. But doesn’t think she won’t be able to spend 600$ o dinner on a single income.

She wants the high life and upper class style my parents build from scratch when she was young.

Her whole ass thing pisses me of. She is cosplaying financial dependence on her boyfriend and the trad wife movement. While many women are stuck in that situation unable to escape.

But when i argue I’m downplayed as bitter and jealous.

That’s why I need you help and arguments to make her see reason.

I’m not good at debates. But Reddit does help sort thing and gather good points.

My sister 20f always wanted a baby. At least 4 children. And be a stay at home mom.

She argues: why postpone and finish education if she is never going to work anyway. My parents asked her to start pregnancy after finishing education.

Why wait to life her dream life?

I need help arguing against this. I feel like the only sane one in my family.

I’ll probably get one shot at convincing her does is not a good idea and to continue getting an education first.

I need to be as convincing as can be please help me.

She 20F met her boyfriend 29M through Bumble in Dezember. They became an official couple in January.

Now they live together. They rent three apartments total in the same town because they wanted to move in together but only had studio apartments and the lease is not up on the other apartments for the next 3/5 months. They lived together for a month now.

My sisters situation.

She already quit University once and was sitting at home waiting to be accepted in her nursing program for 1.5 years. My father offered to pay for any internship/travel/course but she just did nothing.

She struggles in University where she is studying to become a nurse specialist. Not because she is dumb or it’s difficult. It’s a lot of Internships and she just doesn’t study. When at my family’s house she was crying how bad it was she needed to study 2 hours total on the weekend before her exam.

I’m not a great student myself. But she is out of my league.

If it goes according to schedule she’ll finish the program in 2 years.

She has no friends. Zero. She alienated everyone she knew at school.

Her boyfriend is all she has socially beside our family and his family. But we hardly ever talk anymore.

Her Boyfriend.

I honestly like him. I got along better with him than her while on holiday.

He works as a lawyer in a bank. Makes decent money but far from rich and his parents don’t have a lot. (I guess 100k/year based on comparison of education and employer)

He is insecure and struggles when things don’t go his way. But all in all he is a good man.

He desperately wants a family.

He also planned to get a PhD next year.

My sisters financial situation

My family has money but is not ultra rich. My father owns a small local factory.

Currently my parents support her with 2000$ a month for rent and necessities.

Her spending habits do exhaust that even if her boyfriend pays for everything when they are together.
They take trips every second weekend and eat in restaurants often.

She does not have debt. But that’s because my parents cover it when she goes into minus.

I bet she thinks my parents keep sending money while she is pregnant and a stay at home mom. (They will of course, they will never cut her off)

But she is also completely delusional and has no concept of prices and money. Like she knows what 1L of milk costs. But doesn’t think she won’t be able to spend 600$ o dinner on a single income.

She wants the high life and upper class style my parents build from scratch when she was young.

Her whole ass thing pisses me of. She is cosplaying financial dependence on her boyfriend and the trad wife movement. While many women are stuck in that situation unable to escape.

But when i argue I’m downplayed as bitter and jealous.

That’s why I need you help and arguments to make her see reason.

I’m not good at debates. But Reddit does help sort thing and gather good points.

My Grandfather is giving me and my sisters a gift of half a million paid over 5 years, so we will pay less inheritance tax.

What do i do with that?

I’m a student and i don’t have loans. My parents pay rent and give me money for living expenses.

I have a part time job and study something that earns \\\~80.000-100.000€ post graduate.

I don’t have savings and rely on my parents in case of Emergency.

My goal is to split the money. Some in normal savings and some in a oh-shit-war-I-need-to-go-fund.

I don’t need passive income. So I will just want to let it accumulate with the rest of the money.

I don’t want high risk and I don’t understand trading.

What do i do and what do i avoid?

I will of course listen to my families advice but I also want an independent game plan.

My Grandfather is giving me and my sisters a gift of half a million paid over 5 years, so we will pay less inheritance tax.

What do i do with that?

I’m a student and i don’t have loans. My parents pay rent and give me money for living expenses.

I have a part time job and study something that earns \~80.000-100.000$ post graduate.

I don’t have savings and rely on my parents in case of Emergency.

My goal is to split the money. Some in normal savings and some in a oh-shit-war-I-need-to-go-fund.

I don’t need passive income. So I will just want to let it accumulate with the rest of the money.

I don’t want high risk and I don’t understand trading.

What do i do and what do i avoid?

I will of course listen to my families advice but I also want an independent game plan.