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I know this sub was initially created after a majority of us were no longer allowed in the thoughts sub. However, I believe it’s time we give the Evan discussions a rest or at least rename the sub. He has 3 subs of his own and the posts are getting repetitive. Ot7 is not a thing anymore. Heeseung chose his own path and he’s no longer in Enhypen. Doing the old fanchant and screaming ot7 in their faces is very disrespectful and demeaning to their artistry. The fact they chose to stay as 6 says a lot.

My honest opinion on “BTS songs aren’t known outside of the fandom.” This will be a jumble of thoughts, pardon me for that.

Before I start, this isn’t hate toward any artist*. I’m only talking about the double standards that surround BTS and their artistry.

A lot of KPOP fans and fans of western artists love to use this narrative against BTS and ARMYs. I’ve been with BTS since 2019 and I’ve witnessed the jump from a Top 10 entry to them going #1 and keeping that position for weeks on end. I’ve also witnessed their title tracks leaving Global Spotify a week after release.. to them having their TT stay in the Top 5 for months. While I’ve witnessed the massive streaming force of ARMYs and even participated in it myself, I have to admit that it isn’t just us supporting BTS right now. It hasn’t been for years.

Arirang’s continued chart presence is a testament to BTS’ ever-growing popularity and the fact that more people outside of the fandom are engaging with their music. Come Over was released recently, but it sadly isn’t doing as well as Arirang, likely because it had less exposure outside the fandom. It being on Vinyl 3 months before the official release didn’t help its momentum. I blame the label, but that’s a separate issue. Arirang stayed on the AM charts and Global Spotify for weeks on end, bringing BTS a lot of attention from non-fans, with some checking their other songs and even joining the fandom. Sometimes, a strong album can have more long-term impact than one stand-out single.

Xenophobia has played its role in how some people perceive BTS, and it has revealed the double standards surrounding their artistry. Somehow, these same standards have not applied to western artists.
A lot of western artists have albums that perform well, either because of their established names, their fanbase, or radio. A lot of their album tracks go unnoticed by the GP, yet no one claims that nobody knows their songs. They utilize radio a lot to make their songs appear bigger than they are.
I think this has definitely contributed to the loss of organic radio hits. Anyone and everyone can send their b-sides to radio and have them engraved on peoples’ minds, even if they would never have discovered them otherwise. Yet, when BTS benefits from fans supporting their music, and growing interest from casual listeners, people are quick to dismiss it as them “not having any real hits”.

The biggest issue, in my personal opinion, is how much labels are willing to push their artists. Why is a million fans supporting a song dismissed as “fake” and “robotic”, but people discovering that song through autoplay and other forms of industry push isn’t? Where do we draw the line between streaming an album because you genuinely enjoy the artist’s work and labels strategically said album to create momentum? Ultimately, how well a song/album performs comes down to taste, however, labels play a huge role in shaping the public’s perception of that song/album. They decide what gets promoted, what gets visibility, and what audiences are repeatedly exposed to, especially now, when social media hype can heavily shape how people view an artist’s success.

I’ve had body acne since I was 12. I’ve never been to a dermatologist, but I suspect that this is because of the excess sebum production in my chest and back.

My main problem area is my chest, I have sebaceous filaments all over it. Now, back to the sebum production. It gets really bad and no matter how much I dig with my nails (I haven’t used a loofah since last year because people said it’s unhygienic) it feels like there’s “skin crumbs” from years ago I’ll never truly get rid of. I wish I had normal skin, the way my mom and the rest of my family do. I shower every other day in the winter, and daily in the summer, but it feels like there’s no difference in my “cleanliness”.

Family members have commented on this. They say I don’t take good care of my hygiene and do very little to look nice. I’m not as feminine as they’d want me to be, but that’s a separate issue. Thing is, if I don’t shower for a day I genuinely stink. My armpits get really bad, so I’ve started applying a bit of baking soda after showers. On the other hand, if my siblings don’t shower they don’t smell at all. Especially my sister, who I’m very envious of. She has a very clean, acne-free body. Same for my mother, who doesn’t even have hair on her armpits.

I hate that I have to do so much to STILL not be able to keep up with other people. This shit is a roll of the dice and I’m going to have to suffer for the rest of my life for it.

Is there a chance this is hormone based?

Before I (F) start, this will be long. I’m sorry for that.

I have three siblings, two brothers and one sister.
The oldest two are way older than me, got married and moved out of the house when I was a kid. The other is my brother who’s 6 years older than me and has been living with me and my parents forever.

*He didn’t start working until he was 26 and he’s always in between jobs.

I went to uni to pursue a humanities degree (my mistake, yes). I went a whole year without a thesis supervisor after finishing my 4 years of uni. Just as I was about to start writing my first draft, my brother told me he got me a job.

Long story short, I quit the job six months in because I felt I was never going to graduate at that point. This was December 2025. Since then, I was able to secure two jobs, but I ultimately had to quit because I was still working on my thesis, which again was my mistake. This was back in February. The other issue—besides me not getting any calls back—is that where I live buses don’t run past 7 pm and most jobs I’ve applied to have a second shift that ends at 11 pm. I don’t have someone to drive me home from work. We only have one car.

Anyway, my brother is livid that I’m home all day and not contributing to the household financially. He’s currently in debt after purchasing said car. He also maxed out one of his credit cards (the limit is under 1k) and hasn’t been able to pay it off at all. In his head, he thinks I should be the one to help him out.

Is he right about me being an unemployed bum? Yes. At the same time, he has no right to go and snitch to our other siblings who have issues of their own. He also said he would talk to our aunt about this. To me, this seems something a 12 year old would do, not someone just starting his 30s. To me, this is very immature.

He’s also being a dick about my hygiene. Yesterday, I had to do some laundry right after dinner. I didn’t wash my hands after having dinner because I had to quickly rinse the basket. I was obviously going to wash my hands after this. I got mad at him for this because he’s always making comments about me being socially awkward and stuff, which shouldn’t be any of his concern. He then went and texted our sister about me being unemployed and not taking care of my personal hygiene. Again, with the childlike behavior, he’s so annoying.

My mom and I aren’t speaking to him right now. It’s funny because he asks favors of me all the time, but when things don’t fit his narrative he goes all psycho. Despite being unemployed, I’ve still been giving him money the entire time because he’s terrible with his money. He’s upset I’m not giving him money just because. I gave him money last year, hoping it would go toward his debt, and he spent it all on snacks. Meanwhile, if I asked him for money, he always demanded it back when I got my salary.

I have plans to move out in a couple of months. Thing is, I need to have savings for that and cannot save money without having a job. I’m kind of stuck. On one hand, my thesis supervisor hasn’t been responding to me since May and I’ve been to campus more times than I can count and on the other hand I can’t get a job because I can’t work a 2nd shift. Please help!!! How do I deal with a brother who still snitches and bothers our siblings at his big age.

P. S Besides paying for the lights bill, my brother doesn’t really contribute anything to the household. Everything depends on our retired dad, which is a shame. He deals with taxes and everything else.

I’m new to this sub and weight loss in general. I’m (F) in my mid twenties, 76kg, and have been sedentary for the past 8 months. I’m not disabled or anything, I just haven’t been able to find a job.

Anyway, I went dress shopping this week and it was a wake up call.

This is the most overweight I’ve been in my entire life. I’ve always been in the 60s range. I lost a lot of weight back in 2022 due to anxiety and stress both because of what was happening at uni and in my personal life. I stayed that weight for a couple of months and gained it right back because seeing and feeling my bones made me feel uncomfortable.

I’ve cut down on my white bread portions and I’m trying to also cut down on my sweet treats.

I started walking 2 days ago, and as of right now I’ve done 20k steps total (past 3 days).

I’m trying to eat more vegetables and less “heavy foods”. I was wondering if anyone has any tips on foods I should cut completely and foods I should prioritize, like veggies and fruit.

My goal is to be in the 60s again, but, it feels unrealistic. I don’t want to starve myself, frankly.

If anyone has any tips, please let me know. Should I increase my walking goal (8-10k)? Are there any specific workouts I should try?

P. S Everyone is so nice here. Thank you to everyone who replied to this. I really appreciate it!

I’ve been friends with this person for almost 6 years. I might sound like a terrible person when I say this, but she has an ego problem. You have to agree with everything she says, no matter the conversation, which most of the time isn’t political. If it were political it wouldn’t be as big a deal since we share the same views. We almost never argue, but when we do it’s over something small. She tells me I deflect just to not agree with her. My self-awareness is mid to high-level, but for some reason I can’t ever catch myself saying things out of spite. Because I don’t. She doesn’t understand that I disagree with her at times because I’m an adult with my own views and opinions and I’m entitled to expressing them. I’m not out to get her. I don’t look for ways to disagree with her, because most of the time to me, a normal person, it’s just a conversation we’re having, not a debate being broadcasted on live television where I embarrass my friend on purpose. I can’t even think of any examples at the top of my head, except maybe for this recent argument we had. It was about one of our favorite artists. She kept insisting that because of his voice techniques, he only fits this certain genre which should be the main genre of his next album. On the other hand, me, not being a huge fan of the genre because (no offense) it’s too nonsensical to me at times to waste your vocals on it, said he shouldn’t be confined to said genre. I said another genre is his main, because it is. He’s been a fan of it for years, and is constantly recommending music on his Instagram stories from said genre. I lurked on Twitter and realized more than half of the fandom agrees with me. She exited the conversation midway when I started sending her similar POVs to mine from the fandom, because apparently I was getting “too subjective”. She thinks she’s always objective even though sometimes the reality disagrees with her. She has never once admitted to being wrong. Not with me, not with our other friends. It’s exhausting having one of your close friends thinking you have a revenge plan just because your views clash. She said we’ll talk about this soon, because she’s busy. I’m thinking of telling her I’m tired of having talks, because they don’t change how open-minded she is to new ideas. I shouldn’t have to hide what I think just because she’s obsessed with being “objective” (read:wrong and stubborn). Am I a terrible friend?

Hypertonic pelvic floor can be a real bitch. I’m sick of this. I live in a poor European country, where I’m sure doctors don’t even know how to go about “curing” it. Somehow the only thing that makes me go larger amounts is wheat berries. I’ve tried prune jam, but it didn’t help much.