u/whole_mantra

Hi all! First time poster here looking for answers. I am a husband of a teacher for Special Needs (Kinder to grade 2). My wife has been working at this school for 3 years and this year is particularly worse than the others. She has two extreme cases where both elope, bite, punch, slap, and throw items at both teachers and students. Theres a total of 9 kids in that class but those two completely flip the entire class when they are present. I can’t tell you how many times I pick up my wife who has bruises and bite marks on her arms and legs, and even had to visit urgent care for two incidents. All that within just this first quarter of school. Today she called me crying because one of those two kids punched her and bit her, while the other kicked and ran out the classroom. She has an aid helping but its just two and they cannot handle them. I fear I now have to bring my wife to urgent care for a third time this quarter. As a husband with no real connection to the school district, I am extremely concerned and want to know what can be done to sort this out? Quitting is not an option for her cuz she is under a working visa for that school, and quitting would mean we pack up our things and move back to our country. Honestly the two kids are way too much for the class and causes and extreme incidents in the classroom where they can no longer teach. One of the kids has been suspended multiple times this semester cuz he is too much to handle. M

My wife and I recently moved to the United States. She’s been here working for about two years and already has a Capital One credit card.
For our day-to-day spending, I usually use her card to pay for groceries, gas, and other household purchases. We pay the balance in full every month. The card is in her name, and I don’t currently have a credit card in my own name.

I’m wondering if this is a mistake from a credit-building perspective. Would it be better for me to apply for my own credit card and start building my own credit history, even if we continue using her card for most shared expenses? Or is there any downside to just continuing to use one shared card?

For context:
I’m legally able to apply for a credit card in the U.S.
We manage our finances together as a married couple.
Our goal is to build good credit but we aren’t long term here (only till 2028) so we aren’t thinking to make financial decisions for the future (mortgage, car loans, etc.).

I’d appreciate any advice from people who’ve been in a similar situation, especially couples who share finances. Thanks!

I (29m) am the husband in this situation. I never really had good fashion when I lived in my home country (philippines) just cuz I couldn’t afford the clothes. Now that my wife (31f) and I moved to the United States, I got into thrifting and grew into a new fashion that made me feel a bit more confident. I went from techy/nerdy clothes into more old money style, investing in nice button ups, loafers, accessories, fragrances, etc.

My wife has noticed this change and regularly brings it up when I dress myself or iron my clothes. She would say things like “you’ve really changed a lot” or “who are you trying to impress??.” I’ve told her that I’ve been wanting to upgrade my wardrobe and the style makes me feel more confident.

I want to grab other women’s opinions on this and see what others think. Would a change in your partner’s fashion make you think like my wife does?

So as the caption says, this will be both my wife and I’s first Disneyland trip and we’re pretty excited. Our visit will be end of this month for a 3 day visit with Park Hopper tickets. Since neither of us know how to plan, I just generated an itinerary with ChatGPT:

We’ll be staying near Best Western Stovall’s Inn and have Park Hopper tickets for all 3 days.

June 28:
*Arrive in Anaheim around noon
*Check in and head to DCA around 2 PM
*Priorities: Guardians, Soarin’, WEB Slingers, Incredicoaster, Toy Story Midway Mania
*Explore Cars Land at sunset/night
*Hop to Disneyland for a few hours before close to see Main Street, the castle, Galaxy’s Edge, and maybe Pirates

June 29:
*Rope drop Disneyland
*Planned order:

1. Space Mountain
2. Matterhorn
3. Big Thunder
4. Indiana Jones
5. Pirates
   *Then Galaxy’s Edge (Rise of the Resistance and Smugglers Run)
   *Hop to DCA in the afternoon for Guardians, Incredicoaster, Soarin’, etc.
   *Return to Disneyland at night for Fantasyland and fireworks

June 30:
*Rope drop DCA
*Planned order:

1. Radiator Springs Racers
2. Guardians
3. Incredicoaster
4. WEB Slingers
   *Finish anything missed in DCA
   *Hop back to Disneyland in the afternoon/evening for rerides of favorites (Rise, Indiana Jones, Space Mountain, Big Thunder, Pirates)

Again, this is all generated by ChatGPT so im sure theres a ton of other attractions worth seeing that im missing. Any must-do attractions, food spots, shows, or nighttime entertainment we’re overlooking? Plz let me know. TIA!