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I am so confused girls but i need non biased opinions please....

Lil bg: we are 3 best friend, not the kind that has one duo and third feels left out but a good one in which when two people if even hang out the third doesnt feel insecure that its without them

Two of us live with our parents as college is in hometown and one lived in pg with roomate. Lets call me x other hometown girl y and pg girl z

Z's internship was going to go on 3 months after everyone else completed so due to no roomate and y's house had extra room so they decided she would shift in y's house

Now when z was shifting she asked y multiple times about rent but y or y's mom didnt know how much it should cost for extra person to live in her house so they said "kuch nahi hai abhi dekhte hai baadme" and that was that but z thought even if they didnt ask she would give an appropriate amout equivalent to when she lived in pg when she left their home

Now after living for 1 month y's mom directly asked z beta rent ek ek mahine ka degi ya teeno ka eksth so z said aap batao aunty kitna hai me kar deti hu sathme hi so mom said 10k. Now accouding to z when she was living in pg near to work she spent around 7-7.5 k monthy and here she has to spend 10k plus travel cost so she talked to y on chat k mera itna hota tha and paid the pg amount to y account 21k for 2.5 months.

Y texts her and asks mummy se baat hui teri? Tune kis hisab se 7k kiye hai and lists out how much everything costs (pic attached below) idk how accurate it is we live in a small town

Living situatiin: y's mom is single mother and teacher and y earns 15k pm and her brother also came home for 1 month vacation.

They all sleep in same room as only that has ac and they already had maid for jhadu pocha bartan and recently employed cook too 1 week back so she also included that in rent cost and everything

Now z thinks that y was angry and talking rudely asking her for hisab so she also paid additional 9k so total 30k. Z's stipend is 12k monthly but she comes from rich bg so she could have afforded it but she was feeling really uncomfortable in that home now so she called me and i was also shock by rent amount but i thought that idk how much it actually costs to keep one extra person in house so i thought ok. She asks me confused that it would cost her less outside and also she did not like the way y spoke to her and if she had known before shifting how much it would cost then she could take an informed decision so i told her that you have to live for 2 months so if you feel you can live with the descision of giving 30k and let it go then its fine but if not then you will not feel at home and will feel wronged for 2 months so she decided to shift the next day near work with 2 other girls where only rent is 2.5k

She told y's mom that she was shifting tom as she felt the rent is higher so y's mom told her that july ka pura nahi lenge aur 20 din rehne vali h to bakika vapis de denge and later said tu man dukhi karke mat ja , mat dena rent vapis de denge sare but z had made up her mind and said ha aunty par ab vo 2 ladkiyo ne b karli h taiyari and packing b ho gayi. When y later came home she asked z aise achanak kyu ja rahi hai and she said the same thing rent zyada hai

Next day i offered to take my car and help her shift and i could sense coldness between them and she only asked me to help with bags and not y or y's brother who sat there but they came on their own and helped so that was that

Now in the noon y's mom called z's mom to inform that your daughter has left and there was a lot of she said she said buth telling each other my daughter was really hurt, y's mom complained that z didnt work enough and slept all day (which z denied and said i did make roti at night manytimes and y said no she did it only 5 times) and z's mom said my daughter is perfect only dont talk about her like that if y came to my home for 6 months i would keep her like that only and what work do you jave at home maid comes for everthing etc so they fought and y and z came to know about this conversation. Y's take on the conversation: z's mom was not greatful for us she didnt want to give money and didnt want to accept that z didnt want to help around the house

Z's take: y and her mom thought less of her and didnt clear anything beforehand but z was going to pay ultimately even if they didnt ask and that she needed 2 3 hours of privacy so she sat seperately from the family upstairs

After talking to both of them individually each one told me that everything was ok till moms talked to eachother and they were both mad at eachother but they would eventually talk after calming down but now they both are very hit i told both of them you are fkn 25 years old and shouldnt have got your moms involved in this and if you coldnt talk to each other about what has been bothering you and you keep on resenting each other then what kind of fruendship do you have

They are both very sad and i know they love each other i love them both too much to see our group dissolve like this and they will never ask me to take sides i know but i want three of us together

I dont think that two friends should agree on every aspect of each others life and thats ok they can be friends and agree to disagree

Please tell me what should i do

Tldr;We are 3 best friends and never had the kind of friendship where one person feels left out. Me and Y live at home while Z stayed in a PG. Since Z’s internship got extended by 3 months and her roommate left, she shifted to Y’s house because they had an extra room. Before shifting, Z asked multiple times about rent but Y and her mom kept saying they’d see later, so Z assumed she’d pay a reasonable amount similar to her PG expenses. After a month, Y’s mom asked whether she’d pay monthly or together for all 3 months and then said the rent would be 10k/month. Z felt shocked because her PG near work cost around 7–7.5k and this place also added travel expenses. She paid 21k first based on that calculation, after which Y texted her asking how she calculated it and listed household expenses. Z felt the tone was rude and uncomfortable, though she still paid the remaining amount too, making it 30k total. Even though she could afford it, she started feeling awkward in the house and decided to shift near work with other girls for much cheaper rent. When she told Y’s mom, things were emotional but mostly okay until Y’s mom called Z’s mom and both mothers argued, defending their daughters and complaining about the other side. After that, both Y and Z got much more hurt. Y feels Z and her mom were ungrateful and didn’t value what her family did, while Z feels they judged her and should have discussed money properly beforehand. I know both of them love each other and were fine before the moms got involved, and I really don’t want our friendship to break because of this.

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