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Ich M29 denke ich bin ein Mensch mit Interessen die man relativ selten findet, zumindest auch eine Mischung daraus. Ich weiß es wäre zu unrealistisch zu erwarten dass eine zukünftige Partnerin die komplett selben Interessen hat wie ich. Aber ich habe bisher kaum Frauen getroffen die sich mit Philosophie oder Geschichte auseinander setzen, ich denke an einer Universität oder vielleicht im Richtigen Umfeld kann man auf solche treffen doch wohne ich in einer kleinen Stadt. Wenn sich Leute hier kennen lernen dann meist aus der Schule oder auf dem Schützenfest. Wir haben einen "Club" und Club ist wirklich schön gesagt. Dort gehen sie selben Menschen am Wochenende hin und die meisten kennen sich grob, hier und da eine Ausnahme.

Nun teil des Problems, ich finde Schützenfeste oder diese Dorffeste sind reine Alkoholfestlichkeiten und die Leute die davon angezogen werden sind meist so fern von ihrem Charakter zu meinen dass ich mich wirklich kaum ernsthaft mit ihnen anfreunden kann. Klar man kann sich vielleicht Nett unterhalten, aber die Eine würde ich dort bestimmt nicht finden. Ich selbst sehe Soziale Medien kritisch und würde mir hoffen das meine zukünftige nicht wie so viele andere Menschen auf Aufmerksamkeit und Anerkennung von außen und fremden aus ist. Online-Dating wäre wahrscheinlich die beste Möglichkeit jemanden kennen zu lernen der wie ich sich lieber zu Hause mit Hobbies und Interessen beschäftigt doch sehe ich das Online-Dating auch sehr kritisch und ebenfalls als schädlich. Daher wünsche ich diese Apps und Mittel eigentlich zu meiden.

Durch all diese Gedanken die ich mir zu diesen Dingen mache. Denke ich aber ebenfalls dass ich mir selbst im Weg stehe. Wenn ich mal in einer größeren Stadt unterwegs bin, spreche ich auch nicht einfach Frauen in einem Buchladen an (bei denen ich vielleicht denke sie könnte interessant sein) weil ich auch nicht in ihrem Alltag stören will. Ich installiere keine Dating Apps und vermeide Soziale Medien wie Instagram da ich diese eher kritisiere und hoffen würde meine potentielle Partnerin würde diese Dinge ähnlich sehen. Veranstaltungen wie Dorffeste bei denen Leute mit einander interagieren sind auch das Gegenteil meiner Interessen, daher vermute ich dort keine Passende Person kenne zu lernen.

Ich denke durch meine Vorlieben und wahrscheinlich zu großen Ansprüchen oder wünschen jemanden passenden zu finden, reduziere ich die Zahl der potentiellen Partnerinnen auf Null. Auf Veranstaltungen die mir aber gefallen im Gegenteil wie das Schützenfest, sowas wie die Oper oder Mittelalterfeste sind die meisten Leute mit Partnern unterwegs, kaum eine Frau in meinem Alter würde alleine die Oper oder so ein Fest besuchen.

Um ehrlich zu sein sehe ich nur zwei Möglichkeiten für mich. Entweder ich lege weniger Wert auf ähnliche Interessen und Weltansichten und versuche jemanden in einem mir fremden Umfeld zu finden. Oder ich ziehe in eine größere Stadt (was nicht mal ebenso gemacht werden kann) bei denen mehr Veranstaltungen stattfinden die meinen Interessen entsprechen und dort würde ich viel öfter Frauen ansprechen mit der Hoffnung eine zu finden die nicht nur Single ist sondern auch gefallen an mir hat, was natürlich auch nicht selbstverständlich ist.

Diese Aussichten sehen sehr verzweifelnd aus und ich sorge mich um meine Zukunft. Ich weiß um ehrlich zu sein nicht wie ich vorgehen könnte um jemanden zu finden mit dem ich wirklich Glücklich werden könnte.

Hello Mappainters, i hope you dont mind me putting some attention to my own mod. It is a mod that adds mission trees to a bunch of different nations, with the goal to have historical and also a historical goals and things to do.

Currently the following nations are already supported:

• Netherlands
• Poland
• Byzantium
• England/GBR
• Sweden
• Portugal
• Wales
• Castile
• Brandenburg
• France
• Venice
• Irish
• Ottoman Empire
• Georgia
• Duchy of Achaea & Duchy of Athens
• Latin Empire

Currently I am also working on the Persian Empire, you can start as different nations and have a tree that helps you unite the persian region and then forming Persia. Once you archived this goal the tree expands with even more tasks, different subtrees for different goals like trade, religion or military.

Most mission trees also feature a lot of hidden events that trigger on task completion, like the option to change the Netherlands into a republic. Or form Rome as Byzantium, you dont have to but it is an optional choice from the events.

The mod also got contributors now and currently we are working on following nations:

• Persia
• Denmark
• Muscovy

I hope some of you guys could check out the mod and give us feedback. The trees are too big to start a campaign for each one of them so I need feedback to balance tasks correctly. I am sure some tasks rewards are to "op" sometimes I choose the way of cool over the way of balance so give me feedback as well. I also have a Discord where you can vote for next nations and well give feedback or report bugs.

I hope this mods grows large enough with that we will be able to cover most major nations with mission trees and that people also contribute their ideas or even create their own tree that could be incorporated so we have a mod with a bunch of passionate ideas and trees.

Also to all other modders out there that feel inspirited. My mod is free to copy, extract or learn from. You can freely duplicate it and add your own ideas to it, the more mods, the better.

I feel like I am not able to make my city look good or realistic. I start the game and do curved roads to avoid squares, I try to plant trees between houses but there are always these but gabs between streets and houses and it looks weird, like I am missing something. I watch videos and people create insane cities and so fast, they build and modify roads and I don't even see what tools they use.

My question is, is there maybe a good starting video I can watch that maybe even uses mod tools and shows typical beautification process. Like filling gabs between houses or a thing I am unable to do is pedestrian roads and bushes and so on.

I kinda need some direction where to start what I should learn and which tools to use. Right now I always end up with a weird looking city especially when I try to full the constant low density housing demand

Hello, i am having a hard time right now. My girlfriend is asperger autistic. She has a strong focus on school performance but right now she got a lot of exams at once and is very overwhelmed. Her family is not really understand for her and do not support her in moments like withdrawal. For example after she returns home, from these exhausting days she wants to withdrawal in her room, silence and darkness. But often her family expects her to help with dinner or her siblings, or even greet and talk with guests (that are quite often there).

So it seems like, that she is overstimulated in a phase where she is already over her limit. We live around 3 hours away from each other and in these times sometimes she starts to not write to me anymore. We already talked about this, at first i had to get used to this isolation but now i am knowing of it and understanding. I always tell her to take her time and try to relax, she can message me when she feels like it. I also dont write to her then, so she doesnt feel pressure.

We planned to meet next month for a week and also this weekend she wanted to feel my closeness in personal and deep talks with intimacy, we have often on the weekends, she says it helps her relax.

But yesterday she wrote me something devastating. She said she feels tired and not capable to write anymore replies. She doesnt feel capable to be in a relationship anymore and then asked if i still wish to be in a relationship with her.

I said of course i want to keep her as my partner. She is an absolute amazing person and makes me happy. I told her that but she feels some sort of guilt towards me and i am not sure how to tell her that it is okay that she needs these isolated times, even if they go for more the a week.

I made an comparison, i have an eating disorder "ARFID" which makes me often thing that i am a burden for others. For example if i go into a restaurant with friends i sometimes dont order or eat the same thing. Or i ask my relatives on gatherings if i could make my own food or eat something else, it is embarrassing for me. But she was always fully understanding she asked me what i like, what i could eat and always offered that we could find a place for my liking. I told her that her withdrawals are similar in my eyes, it doesnt make her personality any different and these difficult times are also a part of us. I want to support her.

I asked her if it is her wish to end our relationship, if she wishes to not write with me anymore. I cant force her to stay with me, so i have to respect her wishes. But the way she communicates it, i dont think it is right.
She said something in this direction:
I don’t want to text with you anymore because I don’t feel confident enough to do so and it doesn’t seem appropriate for me to be in a relationship.

I dont like this reasoning. It sounds like, she wants to end the relationship for my sake. But i am not asking for it, it is the opposite of what i want and wish. (i told her that.)
She also said she makes to many mistakes and that her withdrawals and isolation when she doesnt write to me are selfish. One thing that also stick with me is when she said that it torments her that she constantly confronts me with her difficult times and that i suffer through her withdrawals.

The end sentence was, she doesnt wish that i have a partner like that. That is something she also used to say before. That i deserve somebody better or should get a different girlfriend. I always assure her, she is the one i want and that i feel happiness with her. But these difficult times amplify her doubt in self-esteem.

I am sorry for this long and confusing text. I had trouble describing the situation sufficient without including exact quotes from her (I want to respect her privacy).

My question for you guys is what should I do? I am trying to give her personal space right now, only writing if she messages me. I am trying to communicate that i am happy with her, even in difficult times. That i am there for her and understanding. But it seems like she is at a down where my words are not reaching her. I dont want to lose her and i want her to be happy. I also worry that i seem like I am not accepting her decision. But I dont want her to make an decision at a low point that she does in the false sense that would benefit me.

Any advice what i should do?

I just found out that people farm abyss in a specific way and that some items only drop if you do it that way. Normally i am not watching videos of how to farm things because i am not trying to be extremly efficent and i dont mind to make slow progress. But now i found out that some abyss items for example only drop if you kill monsters in a specific way.

The amunamu void monsters drop items depending on how to kill them as far as i understood. For players like me that dont watch guide videos or optimize farming videos this is kinda shit. The game never says "oh try to kite them" or hits me that killing enemies in a specific way also changes their loot. I always prefered and loved to stand on the abyss whole and spam my spells there and see how they die before they crawl out.

Now i am thinking i played abyss wrong the whole time and that i am missing out on items i could have gotten. It kinda makes abyss no fun for me anymore.

I know the people here on reddit are more hardcore players, up to news, more in the scene and generally more invested. But think about all the players that dont read every patch note and dont watch every video about the game. This is not a good design. Sure maybe they dont need omen of light and who cares if they drop it. But i dont think this is a good approach.

I now wonder how many more endgame "strats" i am not knowing and doing wrong by just simply clearing mobs as fast as i can.

Edit: some extra thoughts. This is a difficult topic for me, in general I think secrets and things to discover are a very cool thing. Maybe this felt so bad for me, because it made me feel like I am clearing wrong and never even thought about a specific way to do it. I think secrets in general are cool, like the annoints in the passive tree that are hidden, or the armor you can craft out of rings (idk if this is a secret). Maybe currency items just feel a bit out of place. I am not exactly sure how to feel about this whole thing.

I am playing a djinn build right now and i have two issues with it. First is the cooldown between my kelaris decption, i know i should allocate dominion in the future to fix this but Holy shit that is expensive, i am not so hardcore to have such a high amount of currency that i can also spend on one thing even more.
So how do i play this build without the clunkyness, it feels weird sometimes. I speced into even more djinn spells to circle them between each other and that helped but i am not sure how smart that is.

The other issue i have is my tankyness. I already purchased some energy shield gear and improved my resistances but i get 2 shoted by white mobs on tier8-10 maps which feels a bit to extreme. How do i go from here, i feel like that my next improvements are only small steps and would not really help much, i am not good with late game builds.

I will include a snapshot of my build on maxroll, maybe my passive tree is bad? I would actually also like to move away from minions, because i simply dont like them, but i think i am not able to give them up because of the muster buff. Any advice?

https://maxroll.gg/poe2/planner/y6frs006