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My employer declined EEOC mediation yesterday, so my charge is officially moving into the formal investigation stage.
Honestly, I was surprised they turned it down because my motive has never been about a cash payout it’s about accountability, addressing systemic racism/differential treatment against Black employees, and calling out toxic leadership.
I haven’t been asked to submit my evidence to the EEOC yet, but I have a substantial amount of proof saved, including text messages from current coworkers validating the pattern of treatment and the environment behind closed doors.
For those who have navigated the EEOC investigation phase:
1. Next Steps & Timeline: Since they just declined yesterday, what is the immediate next step? How long does the EEOC typically give an employer to submit their official Position Statement?
2. Submitting Evidence: When do I actually submit my proof? Is it better to hold my coworker text messages and documentation until I get their Position Statement so I can submit it as a targeted Rebuttal, or send it to the investigator now?
3. Motive & Leverage: Since money isn't my primary goal, does having strong third-party coworker evidence usually force employers back to the negotiating table once the investigation gets moving and they see what proof actually exists?
Appreciate any advice or experiences with this phase!

I recently flew into YYZ from the U.S. to visit my fiancé for an extended stay, and I wanted to share my experience because I spent weeks over preparing after reading so much negativity online.

For context, I was incredibly nervous. I prepared a 'binder' of everything: a letter of invitation from my partner, an employment letter, school letters, and bank statements. I was planning to stay for 174 days, and having already visited for four days last month, I was cutting it very close to my 180-day limit for the year. I also had two duffle bags and a checked bag

The result? They didn't ask for a single document.

The border officer asked how long I was staying, I told them, they let me through without any issues, and they didn't even ask about ties back home. I was fully prepared to be pulled into secondary screening, but it was a completely smooth process. I also told them I had a prescribed controlled substance in my bag he said go through it doesn't matter.

My takeaway:
1. Be prepared: Yes, have your documents ready it’s always better to be safe than sorry but don't assume the worst.
2. Don't panic: So many people told me I’d be flagged or interrogated for the long stay, but that simply wasn't the case for me.
3. The 'Reddit effect': People are much more likely to post about a negative, stressful experience than a boring, successful one.
If you're stressed, just keep your answers simple and honest. You’ve got this

I am planning a trip to Canada to visit my partner, with the goal of staying for up to six months. I am from a country that allows me to enter Canada as a visitor for up to six months without a visa, at the discretion of the border officer. I am flying into YYZ.I am a full-time student and have a clear, documented timeline for my return home to resume my studies.
I am looking for practical, logistical advice from those who have successfully navigated this process. I am fully aware that entry is entirely at the discretion of the Canada Border Services Agency (CBSA) and that I could be granted less than six months or be denied entry altogether. To be as prepared and transparent as possible, I have gathered the following:
Ties to home: I have official documentation confirming my student status and my current enrollment. My next semesters school enrollment starts a few days after my scheduled flight home and has to be done in person. I printed that schedule.
Return travel: I have already booked my return ticket to show my concrete plan for departing Canada.
Financial support: My partner and I have a clear plan for my stay. I have my own personal savings, and my partner is also providing financial support to ensure all living expenses are covered. We have prepared detailed documentation showing this shared funding, including a letter of support from my partner and verification of their employment.
Accommodation: My partner has provided a letter confirming that I will be staying at their address.
Preparation: I have organized all my documentation to prove my intent to return.
For those who have done this:
1. How did you present your shared financial documents and letters of support at the border?
2. Did you have any issues explaining your intent to return given the long duration of the visit?

3. Were you sent through primary or did you have to go to secondary?

Any constructive, logistical advice or personal experiences regarding the entry process would be greatly appreciated. Please, no speculation on my relationship I’m looking strictly for border-crossing and logistical insight.I understand no one can tell
Me the exact outcome as everyone's experiences are different however I am open to hearing all experience! TYIA!

I am a U.S. citizen flying into Canada for a 6-month visit to stay with my partner. I am a full-time student and have my return flight booked for the end of the 6-month period.
I want to ensure my entry is as smooth as possible. I’ve read that air arrivals planning a maximum-length stay are subject to more scrutiny. I’m prepared to demonstrate my ties to the U.S. (school enrollment) and have a letter from my partner confirming they are covering my lodging, food, and living expenses for the duration of the visit, along with their proof of status and financial stability. I also have my own personal savings for day-to-day spending.
I have a few questions for those who have experienced this:
How common is a referral to secondary inspection for a planned 6-month stay, and what is the typical experience like in that situation?
Beyond my return ticket, enrollment letter, and the support letter from my partner, is there anything else that helped you demonstrate you are a genuine visitor who isn't planning to stay permanently?
What is the best way to explain my situation concisely if asked by an officer?
I’m looking for practical advice on how to approach the interview and prepare documentation so I can answer questions honestly and accurately. Thanks for any insight.

I’m posting this to warn others about a major glitch in Ubers ’s "Prepaid Pass" system.
The system automatically applied a $145 pass to the wrong address on my account. Because the service is for the wrong location, it is completely unusable for me. I’ve reached out to support multiple times to resolve this an issue that has been fixed for me in the past but this time, I’m getting nothing but the runaround.
I’ve had agents tell me they could help, only for the next one to claim they can’t do anything. It’s incredibly frustrating to be told my money is just "down the drain" for a service error on their end.
I’ve had to escalate this to a bank dispute because they’ve made it impossible to get a simple billing error corrected. Has anyone else dealt with this specific "Prepaid Pass" location glitch, or are they just making it this hard to get a refund on purpose?

After years of trying to manage my feed, I finally pulled the plug on Facebook. Between the inescapable racism, the endless bots, and the constant push of divisive agendas, it was destroying my mental health. No matter how much I tried to fix it, the platform insisted on showing me content that made my skin crawl. Don't let these apps ruin your peace sometimes the best thing you can do is just delete the account.

No matter how many times I marked posts as 'not interested,' the algorithm would aggressively double down on serving me racist content and non-stop, polarizing political agendas. It’s clear that the platform prioritizes rage-bait and division to keep people clicking. Living in an echo chamber of hate and forced bias was genuinely impacting my mental health. If you’re tired of the platform deciding your reality for you and profiting off the toxicity it pushes, it’s time to pull the plug.

I feel like no perfume every sticks on me. I can use a $400 perfume that projects on others and it will not stick on me I'm so tired of spending so much money only to have to layer them with other purfumes or over spray to get a smell only for it to disappear. Any tips on applying, are some people just prone to not projecting scents.

The reason why I know it's not nose blindness is I ask people if they can smell it and they say no.

Hi everyone, I’m based in Toronto and am planning to pursue at-home insemination using frozen donor sperm from a bank (like Canada Cryobank).
I have run into a major hurdle: the bank requires a 'Physician Authorization' form signed by a medical professional to ship the sperm to a private residence. When I reached out to clinics and some distributors, I was told this was a requirement, but I’m struggling to find a provider who will sign this without pushing me into a full-service, monitored IUI/IVF program that I don’t want or need. 
1. Has anyone in Canada/Ontario successfully found a provider (GP, Nurse Practitioner, or Midwife) who was willing to sign this authorization for home use? How did you approach the conversation?
2. Are there any clinics in Toronto that are 'at-home friendly'? I’m looking for a provider who understands my goal (ICI/at-home insemination) and is willing to provide that clinical 'clearance' without charging for full fertility monitoring.
3. Midwives: I’ve heard mention of midwives assisting with at-home IUI or fertility support. Does anyone have experience with this in the GTA? Is this a viable, cheaper alternative to a standard clinic IUI cycle?
I’m really set on doing this at home and want to keep it as non-medical as possible, but this paperwork is blocking me. Any advice or leads on supportive providers in Toronto would be incredibly appreciated!

Hi everyone, I’m based in Toronto and am planning to pursue at-home insemination using frozen donor sperm from a bank (like Canada Cryobank).
I have run into a major hurdle: the bank requires a 'Physician Authorization' form signed by a medical professional to ship the sperm to a private residence. When I reached out to clinics and some distributors, I was told this was a requirement, but I’m struggling to find a provider who will sign this without pushing me into a full-service, monitored IUI/IVF program that I don’t want or need. 
1. Has anyone in Canada/Ontario successfully found a provider (GP, Nurse Practitioner, or Midwife) who was willing to sign this authorization for home use? How did you approach the conversation?
2. Are there any clinics in Toronto that are 'at-home friendly'? I’m looking for a provider who understands my goal (ICI/at-home insemination) and is willing to provide that clinical 'clearance' without charging for full fertility monitoring.
3. Midwives: I’ve heard mention of midwives assisting with at-home IUI or fertility support. Does anyone have experience with this in the GTA? Is this a viable, cheaper alternative to a standard clinic IUI cycle?
I’m really set on doing this at home and want to keep it as non-medical as possible, but this paperwork is blocking me. Any advice or leads on supportive providers in Toronto would be incredibly appreciated!

Hi everyone, I’m based in Toronto and am planning to pursue at-home insemination using frozen donor sperm from a bank (like Canada Cryobank).
I have run into a major hurdle: the bank requires a 'Physician Authorization' form signed by a medical professional to ship the sperm to a private residence. When I reached out to clinics and some distributors, I was told this was a requirement, but I’m struggling to find a provider who will sign this without pushing me into a full-service, monitored IUI/IVF program that I don’t want or need. 
1. Has anyone in Canada/Ontario successfully found a provider (GP, Nurse Practitioner, or Midwife) who was willing to sign this authorization for home use? How did you approach the conversation?
2. Are there any clinics in Toronto that are 'at-home friendly'? I’m looking for a provider who understands my goal (ICI/at-home insemination) and is willing to provide that clinical 'clearance' without charging for full fertility monitoring.
3. Midwives: I’ve heard mention of midwives assisting with at-home IUI or fertility support. Does anyone have experience with this in the GTA? Is this a viable, cheaper alternative to a standard clinic IUI cycle?
I’m really set on doing this at home and want to keep it as non-medical as possible, but this paperwork is blocking me. Any advice or leads on supportive providers in Toronto would be incredibly appreciated!

Hi everyone, I’m looking for an empty Parfums de Marly Valaya body cream jar (the 200ml size). I accidentally broke my original glass jar and I’m in urgent need of a replacement to safely store my product for an upcoming move.

If you have an empty one lying around that you were planning to toss, I’d be happy to take it off your hands! I can pay for the item and shipping via PayPal, or if you prefer, you can list it on Mercari or Depop for me to purchase securely.

Please shoot me a DM if you have one available. Thanks so much!

Hey everyone, looking for some insight from clerks, carriers, or anyone who has had this happen.

I shipped a package out of Omaha, NE on May 11th. For the first few days, everything looked completely normal it was updated, showing "Moving through network," and making progress.

Then today, the entire tracking history completely vanished. The "Latest Update" summary and the expanded line-by-line "Tracking History" box dropdown have both wiped out entirely. The page has rolled all the way back to the very first physical scan from May 11th: "Accepted - USPS picked up item in OMAHA, NE

It does not say "Return to Sender" or "Insufficient Address," so it doesn't look like an active return. It literally just ate a week's worth of tracking data and acted like it never left the origin city.

Has anyone seen the system completely purge transit history mid-journey like this? Is it a backend database sync glitch, a reused tracking number issue, or did my package somehow get physically sent backward without a scan?