We will never go to any psychiatry facility or provider in Virginia ever again.
On Sunday we took my partner to the emergency room at Inova Fairfax because she was up all night with manic symptoms. Nobody could accompany her beyond the check-in station. At some point on Sunday night she was admitted to the inpatient facility at the same hospital. Unbeknownst to us, she was also set up for a "TDO" (Temporary Detention Order?), basicallly a hearing to be involuntarily committed.
The hospital has since refused to give us any information on her condition or allow any visitors, because she is too "disorganized" to sign any of the information release or visitor forms. At the TDO hearing she was committed for 30 days, and we are now completely in the dark with zero information and no way to visit or transfer her - not even her own mother. Absolute nightmare.
This is the exact opposite of our experience when this exact same thing happened before, only in Maryland. There the facility gave us updates, allowed visitors and phone calls, and there was never a legal hearing or involuntary detention. We just dropped off our person and her and us were treated like human beings every step of the way.
We have a stack of legal documents ready for her to sign when she gets out, and IDGAF where we are if this happens again we will drive straight to Maryland and never set foot inside a psych facility or see a psych provider in Virginia ever again.
EDIT: Some of you are helpful and compassionate and that is much appreciated. Some of you really suck at the whole being a human thing and perhaps should be in the tank yourselves.