r/40and45PlusSkinCare

Really wanted to pull the trigger on the Omni lux mask but I’m reading that it can make freckles darker. Does anyone have experience with this? Thanks!!

This year I have learned a lot about self-perception, how the idea we have of ourselves in our minds often has no bearing on reality.

1. A year ago a F21 told me my skin looks great because I have no pores. The second part threw me off, no pores? What on earth is she talking about? It stuck with me, so I started paying attention. And I've realised looking at the mirror that while my skin has pores, they are actually fairly non visible to the naked eye, small I suppose. This is a good thing, but I would not have realised this by myself. It wasn's a misconception, as I never thought I had large pores, but I was totally unaware of it.
2. I always thought that I had broad shoulders, my whole life, until I went to a seamstress to have a blouse made and she took my measurements. She measured my shoulders twice because she couldn’t believe the measurement, she said my shoulders measure 11 cm while the average is 14-15. This blew my mind, my shoulders are narrower than average, so far from broad.
3. Not to mention all the 20 something’s I see on Reddit saying they have nasolabial folds, and then you see a pic of a perfectly fatty and plump cheek.

The one about my shoulders formed in adolescence and I only learned I have narrower than average shoulders at around 50. My mom could have help me correct that one! The sad part is that I still look at them and think they are wrong, but instead of saying they are broad, I tell myself they are too narrow (and bulky).

Wrong beliefs can stuck for decades. I would urge others to help correct young people’s misconceptions about their bodies whenever they can, kindly of course, and direct them to see their positives. And generally speaking, I think we should all be complimenting each other more. We have a tendency to focus too much on what's wrong, and not on what's right (like my pores).

Have you got similar examples?

Hi all!

My mom, 52, is feeling really down about her skin. I think that she is absolutely gorgeous, and many people think that she is younger than she really is.. but she has some of the typical signs of aging, i.e fine lines, looser skin, spots and some dullness. Her skin is also on the dryer side, and she isn’t too sensitive to most ingredients.

She is going to start using tretinoin, but otherwise her routine is pretty well non-existent.

So, if you could create a routine for her, what products would you recommend? I’m thinking cleanser, serum, moisturizer, and spf.. but anything you can think of will be appreciated!

We’re also aware that, truthfully, the only thing to REALLY make a difference would be the more invasive treatments.. but I know that skincare would be a start!

Any and all help and advice is appreciated. What are your HGs for aging skin? Thank you so much!