r/PLHIVPH

So my partner tested positive for HIV.

Lowkey, I was the one to blame kasi ako nag suggest na mag open relationship kami since LDR kami.

I have been trying to support him from far away. Nagkita lang kami last month sa Thailand.

Now, my partner is avoidant. He has been pushing me now and then kapag he’s having a bad time. The worst thing is he will do it and make me overthink na may ginawa akong mali, then he will now communicate with me. Bigla nalang syang di sasagot, ako naman mangungulit kasi nag aalala ako sa kanya.

Okay naman ako to support eh. Di na nabibigyan pansin yung problems ko kasi nakafocus ako sa kanya so pag may concern ako, solo nalang.

Of course concern ako sa kanya. Pero I can see myself resenting him everytime na may nangyayari sa kanya making him sad tapos bigla nya ako ighoghost. Instead of him allowing me to stay or informing me that he is not in the shape, he will just keep me at bay.

I dont wanna leave him kasi i know difficult part to ng buhay nya and we have plans. But man, naiiyak nalang ako minsan. Di ko alam gagawin ko.

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Hi need lang po ng honest opinion ninyo? Tnx

My bf ako na nakilala ko sa isang App and almost 2yrs na kami. Ngyun niya lang sinabi na HIV since nung 19yrs old siya. Ask lang anu dapat kong gawin ??

Nagkaroon ako ng idea na POS nung nag ka shingles siya and I naging proactive ako mag pa test kami sabay. (Note for 2yrs namin 2 beses lang may ngyari and Oral yun and siya yung doer)

Now lalong tumaas kutob ko nung di na nawala ubo niya since ber something months nang 2025 up to know and recently na diagnosed siya nang Pneumonia -

Naging hesistant siya sabhin dati di ki na ask bakit pero kaya siya umamin kasi gusto niya samahan ko siya sa mga test and anu anu pa..

tinigil niya yung medz kasi sa province sila tumira for how many months and ngyu lumabas ulit mga systhomps niya (shigles, fatigue and recurring cough niya)

natatakot ako pra sa sarili ko at i dont know anu gagawin ko considering na iisa work place namin

Hello,

Gusto ko lang eshare at makapag Inquire na rin kung may same situation sa akin dito. I've been undetectable na for 8 yrs. Hindi siya madali para sa akin dahil mag isa ko lang hinarap ang situation ko. Wala ni isa sa pamilya ko ang may alam. Isa lang ang nakakaalam sa sitawasyon ko yung BF ko pero nasa US na siya now. Isa akong ex OFW sa mahabang panahon tapos nangyari ang di inaasahan. Nagpositive ako sa HIV. Umuwi at nagpagamot. Buti na lang early detection ako kaya di gaano kahirap maging UD, w/in 3 months naging UD na ako until now. Working here now in BPO industry, nakakasurvive nman kahit papano. Pero hinahanap hanap ko pa rin talaga ang pagwork abroad. Then naisipan kong mag apply para sa abroad, aware ako sa mga bansang bawal ang sitwasyon natin. So pinili ko yung mga lugar na kung saan hindi hadlang ang pagiging HIV. Pero sa kasamaang palad sa agency pa lang binabagsak na ako sa Medical. Marami ako nababasa online about sa mga kapatid natin na nakapag work pa din abroad especially mga seafarers at mga Nurses. Though di ako pede sa Seafarers at Nurses. Any thoughts saan kayo nag apply or any idea how to start. I've tried sending emails na rin directly to the websites of the company, unfortunately walang swerte.

Magfifile po ako ng SSS Disability,

Ang aking VL po ay 66.9 at CD4 ay 525

May chance po ba ako na maapprove for partial disability? Lump Sum ba makukuha or monthly pensions?

May 2 sickness benefits po ako yun isa approved na yung isa pending pa, kelan ko po dapat ifile ang SSS Disability?

Salamat po sa sasagot.

ano pong ginagawa nyo if ever nalalate kayo mga 30+ minutes? ang ginagawa ko po kasi if kunware 9:30am ko nainom kinabukasan ganon na, naaadjust nang naaadjust pag inom ko (TB meds), but when it comes to my anti viral, sakto lang naman. sa TB meds lang ako nakakalimutan haha. okay lang ba yun na nalelate ka?

17y pa lang ako and nag gagamot na ako, 1 week na rin. okay na ako, tanggap ko na yung sitwasyon. ang inaalala ko lang is how i faked my entire identity to my hub, because i know if it’s positive they will ask for parent’s permission for the ARV. ilang days na lang din mag-refill na ako, malalaman kaya nila? do they check the identity of their patients? yung parang titignan kung sino k talaga? natatakot kasi ako baka malaman nila na minor pa ako at kailanganin kausapin parents ko about my disease. natatakot kasi ako malaman nila. any information will mean a lot, thanks!

Hello yall. I hope you are doing okay and life is treating you well lately.

Let me share a bit lang muna before the actual purpose of this message. Sharing is caring parin naman.

So, I had this 3 yrs relationship na kakabreak up lang namin last January. And umamin lang ako nung nagkahiwalay na kami. But I made sure na hindi sya nahawaan and hindi naman talaga (sya din naman ang nagsabi non) So thank God.

I know it's a red flag of me na hindi nagsabi because I was really afraid of the outcome and alam ko na kaagad ang mangyayari. So I kept it a secret until the right timing. So now, when I tried na makipagbalikan. He said that he wanted to have sex with me again nalang kase I am so good daw in bed pero no attachment involved na. Did this happen to yall too? Or do you think because of my status kaya nagkaroon na ng lamat na ayaw na bumalik sakin? I feel like kung di ko sinabi magkakabalikan kami eh. But of course I don't want us to live in lies since I have loved him so much tho hanggang ngayon naman kaya this is for the best. And dont get me wrong. I have never slept with anyone else within that 3 yrs relationship. Sya lang talaga. I don't have anybody right now too.

Nakuha ko to from being a callboy pre and post pandemic era. Not because I was playing too much. I promise you. Hindi po ako ganong klaseng tao. This was my carelessness being a callboy pre and post pandemic era since I was young that time (25 yrs old) and I dont know what prep is but I am aware what HIV is and how do you get it. This happened just to support my family and siblings kase nag aaral sila and nagkaroon ng online class then walang wala talaga kami non ultimo internet and phones so I did what I did. Kulang na kukang ang sahod ko as a data analyst, ilan kami sa bahay. Wala din namang naitulong yung asawa ng nanay ko na gunggong kase bukod sa batugan. Adik pa tapos lulong sa sugal. Tapos nag wawala kapag nakainom. Pero wala na sya dito ngayon sa lugar namin, hindi ko na sya pina babalik. Hindi na pwede.

And luckily the outcome naman kahit papano ay maayos. Nakapagtapos na yung dalawang lalake ng college and they are now applying for a job. May dalawa pa pero kaya na yon. So that's how I got it.

Going back. After the break up. I am still isolating myself. Healing alone. Then may realization talaga na, damn, I am 30 na pala. I look very healthy tho. I look young also. Not to drag but that's what I always got whenever they looked at me kesyo sa tindahan man yan or sa pag momove it or joyride or katrabaho tinatanong ako ng age ko then when I tell them I just turned 30 then nasa shocked sila kase I look so young and healthy, which is very pleasing to ears. Pero sa kabila non. Even you take care of yourself too much. Maiisip mo rin talaga na sana hindi ka dapuan ng ibang sakit no? Aside from being POS.

Genuine question lang. how is life lately? Can you share your takeaways being PLHIV for let say almost 10 yrs 5 or Yrs ganyan or for example 30 yrs 12-15 yrs na kayong PLHIV ganyan. Like ano ng nangyayari sa inyo? Ano ano mga nangyari sa inyo? May mga ibang sakit na ba kayo? Like aside from being plhiv nadapuan ba kayo ibang sakit? TB pneumonia. Cancer ganyan. Which is I hope not.

Or let say. For being a traveller. Nakakalabas ba kayo bansa ng wala kayong problema even dalhin nyo yung bote hindi ba kayo hinaharang? May ipinapakita ba kayong notes from your doctors. Hindi ba kayo kiniquestion.

Or let say, about sa work. For example. 30 na kayo or older or younger. (Ako kase 30 na e) tinatanggap pa ba kayo sa work. Or halimbawa nakapag start na kayo magwork lets say sa accounting field or BPO field, maayos naman ba kayong nakakapag work? Wala bang effect yung pag inom nyo ng gamot like nagiging groggy kayo after a while, mga ganyang bagay.. And then, wala naman bang discrimination sa hiring process.

Kase I had to resigned from my recent job because I wanna explore other job opportunity outside. Syempre 30 na ako. And I feel like baka magkaroon ako ng problem sa paghahanap ng work because of my age and my status. So kinda scary. But I am on it. I am ready for everything and anything. Give it to me Haha😄.

Or let say, ayun nga. Aside from being PLHIV. Nagkaroon or dinapuan na ba kayo other diseases? Like Colon Cancer. IBS/IBD. Kinconstipate ba kayo madalas? Lumalaki ba tyan nyo. Bloated ba kayo lagi. Nagkaroon ba kayo ng problema sa balat mga ganyan. Nangitim ba kayo. Mukha ba kayong stress. Mga ganyang bagay.

And for those na nag gigym. Lumalaki ba katawan nyo like a normal person na working out, with or without taking any supplements?

Or for example. Gusto nyo magpaputi. Nag gugluta ba kayo without compromising your health? Nagpapa IV gluta drip ba kayo. Yung mga ganitong bagay. Like adaptable naman ba and advisable ba to?

I am doing fine actually, pero part ba na mahirap magpaliit na ng tyan or na ko-constipate ka if you are PLHIV because of medication? Kase for example from 83kg I am now 76kg and my target actually is 70kg talaga. Even I know its impossible kase the drug(medication) is also the cause of gaining weight tinatry ko parin. Which is everyday nag ka cardio ako and ab work out which is effective naman I guess. Kase syempre, I really wanna look good too. I wanna see it in my skin and body. Then halimbawa nagtry ako mag gym for almost a month. Then napapansin ko. After magbuhat magiging visible naman yung muscles but after a while mawawala na. So parang useless kaya I just stick with cardio but still planning to go back in weight lifting.

Eh lactose intolerant din ako kaya hindi ako nag wiwhey protein eh. Tbh as a PLHIV, I dont have any viruses in my body kase whenever I do refill, nag aabiso sila na, "kukuhaan ka namin dugo ha for your Viral load and some other Std's" and good thing kase I am negative talaga from STI's and STD's. Only positive lang sa HIV which is I am really proud of. Honestly sobrang proud ako dito. Wala akong herpes too.

I am PLHIV for almost 5yrs now, lets say. Mag 5yrs na sa Oct 21,2026.

So yun lang ang question ko. How's life lately? Anong napapansin ninyong pagbabago sa katawan ninyo from being PLHIV? 😄😄. May nagbago ba or are you living normally lang talaga. Like normal naman talaga tayong lahat but since we have this shi* then of course may drastic change sa health and sa buhay so naapektuhan ba kayo everyday? Yun lang. aside from out mental state.

it s a genuine question.

But at the end of the day. I wish every PLHIV to live longer at lahat pumaldo sa buhay.

Paano magprocess po ng philhealth as a college student? 21 naman na ako so in the legal age na din talaga but wala pakong sariling income. Sabi kasi ng hub ko need ko magpamember para mas maaccess ko yung mga services nila. May need bakong kunin from my university? Anong mga documents need kong mapasa and pwede ba ionline registration nalang mga yun?

Kakakuha ko lang ng diagnosis ko and sadly nag positive for HIV. I guess yun yung naging results ng mga maling desisyon ko sa buhay. Anyways, pinapagtake nako ng ARV. May mga dapat ba baguhin sa lifestyle like avoiding certain foods or bawal na sa alak ganun? TLD yung tinitake ko if importante malaman. Yung naiisip ko lang kasi sa alak baka mamiss yung daily dose so social drinking nalang talaga dapat. Thanks po!

Hi. 1 month of taking TLD na. May forgiving time ba ang pagtake ng gamot or dapat same exact time talaga? Huhu kinda scared.

just a typical random day to me. no surprises, walang handa, no greetings. nadedepress ako, haha regalo nga siguro sa akin to ni god, i still can’t process the situation that i have an hiv now. growing up, i was so aware of this disease, but now i have it. and i am such a disappointment in the family. to my ates, i’m sorry ate i tried to be responsible and avoid the situation, but i was betrayed. i trusted them too much🥹 nawala po kulay ng mundo ko. grabe sobra inapekto ng resulta sa akin, now i can’t help myself, but to compare myself to others who don’t have hiv. nalala po insecurities ko

di ko talaga matanggap at maprocess yung situation, i started taking it earlier. sobrang sakit isipin na nakadepende na yung buhay ko sa gamot, natutulala na alng ako. habang buhay na akong ganto dahil sa kagagahan ko, tama ba na tinetake ko na agad?

I just got a phone call from the local agency last Tuesday informing me that my employer in the UK does not accept my condition as an electrician.

After that, they asked me via email to send receipts for my TB test, medical examination, and IELTS for reimbursement. However, they did not send any written notice stating that I was rejected because of my medical condition, which is HIV.

To summarize, I was accepted by the employer last March 13 through an email sent by the agency in Ireland. They informed me that a local agency would contact me to assist with my requirements, mainly the TB test, medical examination, and IELTS.

At first, I was shocked that the medical test required by the local agency included an HIV test. I just told myself that it was mandatory here under DOH regulations (please correct me if I’m wrong).

On the day I went to the DOH-accredited clinic on Dian Street in Makati, I openly disclosed my HIV status because they would find out anyway since it was part of the test. What seemed sketchy to me was that one of the doctors handling my case asked for an acceptance letter from the employer, which forced me to disclose my medical condition to them. Because of this, I informed the local agency as well.

A few days later, the local agency called me and asked me to request my initial test results from the clinic so they could review them, which honestly felt sketchy and stigmatizing to me.

I then went back to the clinic and submitted the required documents, such as my confirmatory test, CD4 count, and viral load results. I explained to the clinic that I needed the initial medical results in order to obtain the acceptance letter from the employer, but they could not release them due to the missing requirement, which was the acceptance letter itself.

I informed the agency about this and also provided them with my medical abstract to show that I am undetectable.

During Holy Week, the agency from Ireland contacted me and asked whether I already had my medical results. Through WhatsApp, I explained the situation and directly told them that I needed an acceptance letter from the employer because it was required by the clinic.

After several calls and messages with the doctor handling my case, the clinic management finally issued a letter to the local agency on April 15 stating that I am medically stable with a good prognosis, and that:

“Periodic medical surveillance with regular monitoring of his viral load and CD4 count is recommended for continuity of care.”

The letter also stated:
“For the information and guidance of his employer.”

I felt relieved after receiving this and patiently waited for the employer’s final decision.

Then, on Tuesday, May 5, the local agency called me in the morning and informed me that the employer did not accept me because of my HIV status. According to them, they previously had an employee of a different race with the same condition, and although they accepted him, he allegedly abused the benefits available to PLHIV in the UK and did not perform well at work.

Is this a valid reason? Why was this communicated only through a phone call and not through email? I am now requesting a formal rejection letter stating the valid reason for my peace of mind.

My diagnosis was a bit dramatic (feeling ko lang). Long before ako ma diagnose sobrang dami ko nang sakit at nararamdaman sa katawan. May diabetes din ako and at the same time may mental issues pa. Pero sumagi na rin sa isip ko na it could be HIV. In March 2026 na confine ako and doon ko din nalaman na reactive nga.

Pina sundo ako sa ward and pinasakay sa wheelchair. Akala ko sa office ako dadalhin, instead lumabas kami ng bldg at pumunta sa lilim ng malaking puno. Sa isip ko "shet para akong nasa ending part ng teleserye" hahaPag dating doon bigla akong iniwan ni kuya hahaha. Few seconds eh dumating din agad yung kakausap. Catch: medyo naaubatan akong tumatawa mag isa. Nakakahiya.

After nag auto pilot ata yung utak ko na lumaban kahit 14 lang cd4 count ko. 2 months in ART. Sakitin parin pero iinom ng gamot hanggang kaya.

Question lang po, kasi nakaka anxious na. Last May 2 nagpa HIV 1&2 test ako sa HI-precision. Then next day, they called me na results will be released in 1-2 weeks pa for confirmatory (which in most cases, reactive daw yung result sa HIV pag ganun). Dahil sa takot at sobra kaba, nagpatest din ako sa social hygiene clinic namin this Wednesday May 6, using RHIVDA na may sameday result. But this time, non-reactive.

Hindi ko na alam kung ano ba talaga? Any insights po please? 😢