r/pregnantover35

Hi, all, turning 37 this fall and (surprised but very happily!) 8 weeks pregnant. My first pregnancy was when I was 22, and a few in between, so obviously quite a wide range there. I have had very strong nausea (refuse to call it "morning" sickness because it's 24/7) with all of my babies, so that part is not surprising. It's all of the other things that are kind of shocking me with how intense they are, to the point that I wondered if I was having twins (ultrasound says no, lol). My breasts are sooo incredibly sensitive and heavy all the time, I have to pee absolutely constantly, I can barely keep my eyes open all day long and get worn out on short walks, etc. This week, expected symptoms include "light period-type cramps as your uterus expands" -- meanwhile, I've been bedridden all day with the cramps.

Is this normal?! I know my hormones were all over the place before getting pregnant, but I'm really just floored by all that I've apparently forgotten. Anyone here relate? Does it get easier? Happy to hear advice or just commiseration! 😉

I’m 38 next month. I have two amazing kids who are 7 & 9. My husband and I are finally in a stage of life where we can travel as a family and our kids are more independent. Now I find myself pregnant bc of birth control failure and I’m honestly devastated. Ending the pregnancy is not on the table for us so please don’t bring that into the conversation.

Looking for encouragement from others who have gone through this. I’m only 4 weeks and already feel like garbage (reflux, nausea, headaches, fatigue and waking up 3:30 every night). I had two difficult pregnancies & I work. I just don’t know how I’ll get through it and I don’t want to miss this time with my kids. Ugh why 😭😭😭

So I went for an transvaginal ultrasound everything was great. As I was about to leave the nurse says “Oh hey I saw a subchorionic hematoma on your uterus. No need to worry it may cause you to bleed , don’t freak out. For your own reassurance you can visit the ER if need be.” I’m like okay thank you have a nice day but I was secretly like what the hell.

I kept pushing to work just a short time later. I was working for about an hr when I felt this little gush and it definitely threw me off. I’m trying to scurry to see what’s goin on and boom another gush. The blood is like an orangish reddish color. Some I’m like mmmmm. The day progressed and I was totally in my head like this lady told me to freak out and I see blood are you serious.

Mind you, I’ve never heard of such hematoma. I managed to make it through the day watching my panty liner. Blood did actually get a little darker and yes I was worried but all I could do is pray. Long story short, blood did taper away but I’m nervous because every time I get a transvaginal ultrasound going to be on high alert for blood. I did not go to the ER but I’m still considering it.

Anybody else experience this?

Moms who started having babies at 35+ and have had 2–3 pregnancies pretty close together/back-to-back, I’d love to hear your experiences!

How old were you with each pregnancy, and how close together were your babies?

How did each pregnancy compare? Did you find pregnancy got harder with each one, or was it pretty similar?

I’m especially curious about recovery and healing after each birth.

I’m 35+ and will have my first baby at age 36.

Thank you!

38F with a 16-month old son who is perfect and loved in every way. Married, together for 15 years, own our condo, financially stable, lots of family support nearby.

Just confirmed I’m 7 weeks pregnant, due April 2027 when son will be just 2. Theoretically I should be overjoyed but the panic and dread haven’t stopped since testing positive two weeks ago.

I keep thinking how much better situated we would be in 6 months to a year. I am up for partnership at my firm at the end of the year; we will likely have bought a proper (bigger) house by then; husband is currently watching toddler while living off severance from last gig but would need a new job in the next six weeks to qualify for paternity leave next time around. Plus I feel like I am just starting to feel like myself post-partum.

Then again, I am not young and neither is partner and there is no guarantee I will get pregnant again or when so it feels crazy to consider terminating over a year at most. But still can’t shake how I feel.

Is this a no brainer? Do I need to get over myself? Any similar experiences? How did it turn out?

My SO and I have been dating for a year and a half now, marriage plans on the horizon, but decided to 'wing it' and try for a baby before time got the best of us. We started trying a couple of months ago, and on my 39th birthday last week, I got a positive test and a stronger line a couple of days later! I feel lucky in a lot of ways. Most people at my age have so many troubles and it seems too good to be true.

I would be 4wks+1 today, and there are plenty of signs. Nipple soreness, a appetite that rivals an army (I am obsessed with shelled peanuts), fatigue, and my mothers dog who normally wants nothing to do with me, hovering over me and planting himself by the door wherever I'm sitting. I have no nausea, no spotting, everything seems to be on the right track, if I'm listening to my body correctly.

We're both scrambling to get things together as we were not expecting things to happen so quickly. I bartend for a living and have no insurance, so I need to work on getting Medicaid asap and get myself into a clinic or OB to get testing done. But right now, I'm looking on any advice on where to go from here or what I should be doing. I've cut out all my bad habits, no caffeine, no alcohol, and Im trying my best to wean myself off nicotine within the next couple of days. No over the counter medication, no raw fish, no cold cuts. Sticking to seltzer water and limiting sugar. Healthier diet, proteins and vegetables. I've went and grabbed prenatal supplements and have been taking them for two days now. I'm trying to take it easy at work, avoiding stress and the hardest parts of physical labor my job requires.

Any advice and encouragement would be welcome here.

Will be 39 soon and I’ve been given the serious talk by my obgyn that if I want another child I have to decide asap and try before forty.. 😒 besides all my confusion on how scared I am to try for another I’m so curious as to how everyone’s energy levels are at this age and above? Would also love to hear from those who have PMDD. ❤️

I forgot how much I hate being pregnant. I have been pregnant now four times (currently 10 weeks) and have one living child who turned out to be my world even though I also wanted to terminate because pregnancy hormones suck. I’ve had two miscarriages and find myself praying for another sometimes cause I’m too frightened by the future.

In weekly therapy and was on meds for seven years. Worked with a team of psychiatrists to taper off over a year.

Just me and hormones do not mix. Looking for solidarity.

I know the group says over 35, but is it okay I’m 34? I don’t fit in to a lot of the groups as they’re younger than me. I haven’t even started TTC. I’ve had a lot of trauma happen that prevented me from it. Well, I’m tapering off 2mg of klonopin (I’m almost down to .5mg) so I can begin TTC. I feel really hopeless and scared. Hopeless that I’m “too old” or that my doctors will say I can’t TTC yet because I’m on pristiq, trazodone, and klonopin. I have always felt a strong desire to be a mom. I have a degree in teaching and have always worked with kids. My husband is turning 32 next month (lucky him lol). I guess…I just want some hope or perspective? Also how hard is it to get pregnant once you’re 34+? I’ve never tried-ever. But now that I’ve dealt with my trauma I feel healed enough and mature enough to be a mom. I’ve also been nonstop seeing things about the Clancy case and PPD/psychosis which scares me too. Sorry I’m rambling here, and I hope it’s alright I posted even though I’m 34. Wishing all the future and current mommas health and happiness ❤️

Edit: also can anyone recommend what things you did before TTC? Fertility strips, prenatal vitamins, etc ?

Hi all,

Feeling a bit dejected today. Just started my period and we're on cycle 11 of actively trying - supplements/going through some preliminary tests (AMH/ovarian reserve test/bloods all OK, sperm analysis ok and HyCosy booked for next month)/eating well blah blah blah.

Everyone around me has conceived their second within 6 months of trying and so definitely feeling like an outlier.

Is it likely to happen now that we're reaching the year mark? I can't fathom why suddenly anything would change from now onwards? Is it literally just a numbers game?

Would IVF help at all increase our chances? I was thinking of getting an appt booked to discuss this once the HyCosy has been done but I have no real clue about it. We conceived our first without assistance and it took about 6 months. Acutely aware that I'm so much older now.

I don't know what I even want from this post - anyone out there in the same boat? Any resources/podcasts/tips on how to navigate my emotions through this?

Thanks xxx

Hi! I’m 36 and we’ve been ttc #2 for almost 2 years. I’m so nervous my age is going to prevent us from having more kids. We got pregnant so quickly with number 1. We’ve had fertility consults and have a slight male factor motility issue. We’re considering IVF but what if my eggs suck? This is so exhausting.

Idk if it’s bothering me more about my age this time around or the two losses I have suffered in the past. So far really no symptoms except cramping and fatigue. Some days like today I don’t even feel pregnant. No sore boobs like what most other women are experiencing. I did see my primary care 08/06 in which that’s when I found out around 5 wks 5 days. My hcg levels were in a comfortable place aligned with the LMP.
I actually went to the ER the next day because I was literally about to pull my hair out thinking about if baby was in uterus. They did do a transvaginal ultrasound if I’m saying that correctly. There is a yolk sac but not able to see fetal pole yet. Hcg levels did rise accordingly. I go back in for scan 08/24. I’ll be 8 wks by then I’m nervous. Don’t know what I will see. Praying for the best outcome I would love to have another healthy baby.
I know this is a lot but I need to vent to someone in my position or has been. The waiting has me on edge. I hope I’m not alone and I’m actually emotional typing this😔

My husband and I are pregnant with our first, I’m currently 39 years old and baby due in a couple of months. We have talked about having 2 but I don’t know how soon to plan or try. How has this worked with planning for people here?

I am a complete newbie at this, I've never been pregnant and I never had a child, nor have I ever cared much about babies, but I'm almost 38 now going on IVF, preparing for my first FET (frozen embryo transfer). Yes, because society expects me to have a family, i know i know.. To be fair, I do want a little child, I just don't like the baby phase.

For context, I'm a chronically tired person, and I'm scared that I won't have the energy to take care of the baby, and I want to prepare my home for whatever I can do to make my job easier. Whether its like a rocking chair, special pregnancy pillow, car seats, etc. I'd appreciate any help.

It'll be a shame that I'll be so old when my child becomes an adult, but my hubby was hiding for so long!! I found him when I was 34 :( Life be like that sometimes.

Thank you for reading and I wish you all successful pregnancies and healthy babies <3

Hi everyone,

My husband (m41) and myself (f36) decided to start trying for a baby end of last year - unsuccessfully so far!

We’re both healthy, blood, semen and scans have come back as good so far.

Is there anything that really worked for you? I’ve just started tracking BBT more accurately (LH strips seem to be a bit off some months), so hoping that helps! I’ve noticed my luteal phase can be a little on the short side some months.

Any supplements or other tips that might help?! Thanks 😊

I’m 40 years old and currently 4wk2d pregnant with my second child. I had a positive urine test on Monday (test on Saturday was negative) and then had my blood taken yesterday.

I got my tests back today and I have an HCG of 191 and my Dr has asked me to redo them in 48 hours to make they’re doubling. I’m feeling nervous that this pregnancy won’t stick as I had a chemical a few months ago. Can anyone share their positive stories with me?

Hello everyone! I’m 38, turning 39 this month, and I’m 6 weeks pregnant after a traumatic MMC last year. I just wanted to say that I’m really happy about finding this community! I’m a doctor, so of course I’ve heard everything about the risks of an advanced maternal age after 35 (which is so young!) and it’s kind of stressing me out. However, finding this corner of the internet where I have been reading all of your experiences and your joy has been such a balm for my troubled mind!

You rock! Mothers are so strong!

Did anyone notice their eye floaters become more noticeable during pregnancy? Around 2nd trimester, I noticed my existing floaters became more noticeable and I got a few more new ones in my third trimester. Did it become less noticeable for anyone after they gave birth? I don’t have pre eclampsia. Pre E floaters are scotoma and spots, which I don’t have. I have vitreous floaters.

I got a positive pregnancy test 2 days ago. I’m taking prenatal vitamins. What other vitamins/supplements are you taking? Thanks!

I got a positive pregnancy test 2 days ago. I’m taking prenatal vitamins. What other vitamins/supplements are you taking? Thanks!