Science and medicine seem to suggest that it's a good precautionary step, but the common consensus are highly against this added layer of protection.
I'm really sorry, I know this is a bit embarrassing and might throw you off.
So i'm 21F, i masturbate using cucumber (m sorry)(also no condom) so usually i wash it and use then re wash and use it until it shrinks like you know rots(not whilst rotting) and i wash it off right away IF my family is not present else i keep it wrapped up until next use where i wash it off before using it. So recently i was on my periods and i felt like doing it(1st day) (m sorry again) so i washed it(new one) and did it anyway, i could not wash it immediately since my family was there(i did in secret T.T) so then again on my 3rd day i wasn't bleeding much , so again i felt, so i washed the SAME cucmber which had blood, i tried my best to remove off any blood and bloody smell with soap , then after i was done using it, i realized how bad it could be, like infection stuff, m kinda scared and now i regret it , so i need help
Big size decent test and all but can't make more than two drops at a time . Genuinely terrified and it's never mixed well . White thic patches swimming in transparent liquid and becomes like jello after being left out for three seconds. Please help
im a female, i gave a guy a blowjob without a condom for a few minutes. very stupid mistake. he did not ejaculate though , so no semen at all except for his precum. but im so afraid of getting an std. what should i do? and are the chances low? im scared for my life please help me you guys
Just curious about everyone's perspectives! I feel like there are so many things we only learn through experience that should be talked about more openly. What’s your take?
If my bf touched him self for 2 minutes and it was like kinda wet and dripping then he touched me with the same hand is it possible for me to get pregnant? It's been stressing me and i have nobody to talk to about this
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19M. I noticed during ejaculation that my semen sometimes has thicker jelly-like/stringy clumps in it (photo attached). There’s no blood or strong smell, but I do notice slight discomfort/burning right as I finish, especially when the thicker clumps come out. No major pain otherwise. Is this considered a normal variation, dehydration, or something that should be checked out? It doesn’t happen every single time, but enough that I noticed it.
i 16F have a chronic masturbation problem. i am hypersexual. ive masturbated everyday for 10 years, with some inconsistencies. however, ive started to notice that i havent been as aroused as i usually am lately. now, i masturbate around every 2-3 days. to me, thats a long time, especially with how frequently ive masturbated. should this be a cause for concern? any explanations?
Young male (20s), I can’t cum during sex and it’s annoying as shit.
Was that way:
On meds/ no meds
my first time/ my most recent/ a lot in between, when I was watching porn/ when I wasn’t
when I was jerking it/ when I wasn’t
when being creative in bed/ doing same old
Condom/no condom
Relationship/casual/friend
Only consistent anticum factor for me has been condoms which I feel like makes sense as they really do restrict a lot- I’ve never cum with one on.
I’ve been meeting some seriously attractive women who are all very fun and cool and I kinda just wish I could enjoy sex more. I’m pretty chill so it’s rarely awkward thank god even regarding this stuff which has become a regular conversation during sex. I guess my 2 questions are:
\- how to make sex better as a dude wearing condoms
\- any ideas about my non-cumming and could I be asexual ir something? I sometimes am like wishing I was getting a better nights rest or doing something else in the middle of sex which sucks. Have I built an expectation that it’s lame or something? I feel like I’m hype at the start every time and just gradually get bummed out by the not cumming thing even if it is still fun during it
Hey ladies!!
Around 7 days ago I had my Jaydess (smaller and lower hormone dosage IUD) inserted for the first time. I was on day 3 of my period when I had it inserted and I’m keen to get back to having sex.
I’ve never not used a condom before so I’m really anxious about doing it.
Is it safe to have sex with no condom 7 days after insertion? Or should I be using a condom?
Getting erect and rubbing the shaft until climax has never done anything for me; I have tried several times and it just feels weird. Instead, my main method involves lying face down on my stomach on my bed, placing my hands between my crotch and the mattress, bending my half chub so it is pointing towards my feet, and kind of writhing and humping back and forth on my hands and the mattress. It definitely feels really good, and something I have been doing for ages, so I am wondering if I am alone in this regard.
For 2 months now i have been experiencing constant vaginal itching. I went to the gyno and was swabbed and tested negative for everything in the beginning of April and my symptoms began to get worse. The itching eventually spread into my anus and i have been experiencing constant itching in both areas. I tried Fluconazole thinking it was a stubborn yeast infection but the medication didnt help. My symptoms just got worse and now im having itching, burning in the vagina, and dryness. If i have sex with my boyfriend its painful during and after(which has never happend before) for hours even into the next day with swelling, redness, burning and being super dry to the point where it hurts. i went back to the gyno and requested a PCR test since she refused to the first tine. This time it came back with Enterococcus faecalis and Group B Streptococcus(GBS) and i was told to take amoxicillin for a week. My question is how would i get something like this? Are these all common symptoms and has anyone else experienced anything similar? I’m worried the medication isn’t going to clear it. Im 26 and have been with the same partner for two years. I’ve never experienced anything like this. I have been miserable for 2 months.
Edit: i just went back and compared my test results to last time i was having itching and similar symptoms which was in 2024 when i first starting dating my current boyfriend and i tested positive back then for the same two things plus Ureplasma and was only treated for the Ureplasma. Could he be carrying these and spreading them back to me or could i have been carrying it this whole time?
I had sex with a girl when she was on her period.
I didn’t shave and my pubes were rubbing against my groin when we were having sex so I thought maybe it’s a reaction from that at first, or does that sound silly?😅
Hi all.
Recently married.
Just want to ask.
Whenever we are having an intercourse after finishing .. whenever she cleans herself with tissue there is a mild blood in the tissue we are not sure whats happening.
Initially there was a friction that day we thought it might be due to that... Then we used lube and then there was not friction still same thing was happening... Does anyone knows what's happening... Its not the flowing blood but yeah blood is there a little.
Do you ever get concerned about getting an STD from a handjob? Has anyone ever gotten one from this?
what should i do how can increase it iam 22 yr i feel tht it should have been bigger
Friday night, I was working the late shift by myself when a woman in her early 40s came into the shop, bought a bunch of things, and out of nowhere told me I was cute — and gave me some more compliments about my teeth ,hair. She was drunk obviously and she was incredibly sexy too, though I didn't say that part out loud. she had this confident, warm energy that just hit different, and as she was walking out the door she turned back and casually said "love you, bye" like it was nothing, and while she's leaving i noticed she had a perfect structure and that specifically triggered something in me so hard that I got an instant boner right there behind the counter and actually wet my trousers just a little bit from the sheer rush of it, no touching involved at all. Now I'm sitting here wondering if I'm okay mentally, i'm that down bad that a random customer's throwaway comment can make me lose control like that. I'm confused.
I need an advice please.
Me and my girlfriend were dry humping she had a thong on with padding where her vagina is and i had cotton underwear on. She finished ontop me and I didn’t finish/ejaculate. We are worried about pregnancy because of pre cum. Is there any chance? This was April 19th, she had light brown/red spotting Apr 29-mar2. And clear discharge Mar 5. What does this mean since it’s May 9? Her period is risually heavy and consistant. Her period is risually consistant heavy flow from the starting days of the month 1-4. I understand partly sperm can’t travel through clothes but the overthinking is getting to me. Should she test just to be safe? Any advice?
(17F) Me and my boyfriend were making out about 1.5 weeks ago, and around 3 days ago I started experiencing pain in my throat, especially around the soft palate area. At first I ignored it, but I became worried it could possibly be an STI/STD-related issue. We made out again yesterday, and since then the pain has increased to around 7/10. There was no oral sex or any oral contact other than mouth-to-mouth kissing. Should I be concerned about this, and could kissing alone cause something like this? WHAT OTHER SUBREDDIT'S CAN HELP ME GET AN APPROPRIATE ANSWER? TIA