r/teen_girlies

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Okay so I’m a 16 F and he’s also 16 so we both have the same AP class AP computer science and we only see each other in that class everyday and also in this video game club every Monday and ughhh I have this crush on him but idk if he’s single and we mess with each other yh teasing and stuff and ughhhhh idkkk should I ask for his number? I go on summer break in a month and idk please helppp

UPDATE: He’s SINGLE YALLLL our mutual friend told meee

i dont really know what to do anymore, ive been dealing with abuse and things that happened to me that i cant stop thinking about, and lately ive been seriously thinking about running away just to get out of this situation. i feel trapped and exhausted all the time and i dont feel safe. i havent told many people because im scared no one will believe me or that things will get worse. i guess im posting this because i need advice or support from people who understand, because i genuinely dont know what to do next. i'm only thirteen and ive been through a lot. could someone help me or could i stay somewhere?

I know what most people will say and they will say that later in life three years means virtually nothing in relationships.

However, I’m in a situation where now me(18), I’m catching myself catch feelings for my coworker. And he’s genuinely someone I could see myself building a very long stable and healthy relationship. I know him kind of well and I genuinely get like an amazing feeling from him and he’s a great guy, but I’ve been trying to keep my walls up because when I ask in my life says it won’t work.

Now I think he feels the same about me and honestly, I haven’t told him how I feel because well it would be awkward if I got rejected and we kept working together however I know it’s not good to look at outside validation but everyone around us seems to think there’s something going on when genuinely there’s not we don’t even communicate much outside of work.

honestly I’m in need of opinions and or advice. I know that we’re in completely different stages of life right now but we do have a lot of similarities for example him and I both coach a sport together and we have a lot of the same interests so yes while he is about to graduate college next year and I’m just starting I feel like it could maybe work but again I’m also 18 so I don’t really know if I can dress my own opinion yet. Is it worth it to even try and build something with him?

Back in 2023, I met a guy online and I fell in love for the first time let’s call him S. He was my first love in every emotional sense. (And I was his too) We were really close, understood each other deeply, and we broke up, it honestly happened over immature and petty reasons. Nothing huge. No betrayal, no cheating, no massive toxicity. We just let small things ruin something that actually meant a lot. And the worst part is… I never fully moved on from him.
Then in 2024, I met another guy P. Me and P got into a serious on-and-off relationship that lasted almost 2 years. It became emotionally intense very fast, and eventually physically intimate too. I kept convincing myself that this relationship was “real” because of how attached I became to him. He loved me in a strange way. I didn’t receive compliments from him, gifts, reassurance, dates, anything at all. I always felt like I was the man in our relationship.
And deep down, I always had this painful feeling that P loved my body more than he loved *me*. And I kept him close because he made me feel wanted at something right? (Even though it costed my own dignity)
Like yes, he cared in his own way, but emotionally I constantly felt unseen. I would crave reassurance, emotional safety, softness, understanding and instead I mostly felt wanted physically. Sometimes I’d leave conversations feeling emptier instead of loved.

And meanwhile, somewhere in the back of my heart, S still existed.

I started talking to S again naturally last month And talking to him again reminded me of how emotionally misunderstood I used to feel with P. It brought back memories of a version of love that felt emotionally warm instead of emotionally draining. I love how innocent of love S gives me but after all that happened between me and P. I feel so ashamed and talking to any other guy felt like an insult because I feel guilty and emotionally conflicted after everything that happened.
and I feel like I don’t deserve to be loved. Now, if I choose P I would be miserable and if I choose S he would never accept a girl who has been physically close with another guy. I don’t know what to do.

okay, so this is weird to say but i'll say it since it's anomynous. i'm 16, which one could say masturbation is shameful due to my age, but i'm at the stage where i'm just doing what i feel is best for me. basically, i was masturbating in the shower with the tap directly on my bean i think? i orgasmed a few, and then stepped out the shower, and felt something weird at first, not pain, just an uncomfortable feeling so i feel around to check. my finger touched something that felt like a cut and at this point it stung a bit so i take a peek. there's a cut but i had it before when i was masturbating a few weeks ago with a pad on that didn't fade away. the cut got worse. thankfully no blood, but it just hurts when i touch it not when i walk or do normal activies. I'm scared to masturbate now because i cant tell if the bean itself is ripped because i don't know if its swollen or just a bit bigger because i'm turned on? (sorry the writing is weird im typing as fast as i can as i need advice from the girlies)