r/tinderstories

I matched with a guy who seemed really funny over text, so after a few days we decided to grab coffee.

He got there before me and texted, “I’m the guy in the black hoodie.”

I walked into the café and immediately saw him.

We made eye contact. He smiled. I smiled.

Then he stood up and said, “Oh… you’re not who I thought you were.”

I laughed because I assumed he was joking.

He wasn't.

Apparently, he had been talking to another girl on Tinder with almost the exact same name as me, and he had accidentally made plans with both of us for the same afternoon.

The other girl was actually sitting two tables away.

We both realized what happened at the same time.

I looked at her, she looked at me, and we just started laughing.

He apologized about ten times and left.

I stayed for the coffee because, honestly, at that point I had already gotten dressed for the date and I wasn't wasting the outfit.

Just wanted to get a story off my chest where I dodged a bullet it seems. And it makes me feel a bit better about my situation where I’m single and going through a career transition and have no idea where I’m going next, so maybe it’ll make random other people feel better about theirs as well.

I hooked up with a guy almost a year ago. It was a pretty hot hookup, the sex was pretty damn good. I don’t really remember doing this but I guess I grabbed and pulled on his comforter so hard that I ripped a hole in it. I do remember he was the first person I’ve encountered that asked explicitly over message if he could “hit it raw” before meeting up- it just seemed to be a preference he made clear pretty early. Anyway, we only hooked up once. We tried getting together again over the next few months but it never happened, plans just kept falling through. At one point he wanted to meet up at a road pull off so I could give him a bj. Let’s just say I wasn’t that desperate.

Well we’re friends on socials and a few months ago I saw that he was dating someone. No big deal. The woman had two older kids from a previous relationship it looked like. Well after not seeing him pop up on my social media for a while, I admit, that I stalked him. And I saw that they’re pregnant. I think they’ve been dating for like 6 months or something. So this former tinder hookup who was single and unattached and had a successful career going a year ago, now has a baby on the way and two kids from their partner’s previous relationship with a woman he’s known for a few months. I have no idea what I would do or be feeling in his situation.

I guess I just haven’t seen something like this hit so close to me, so if you’re in a bad place relationship or career or life-wise, this is just a reminder that it could be worse. Or what I would consider worse personally. Anywho, yeah.

A while back I posted how I managed to come the closest you can to "completing Tinder" as in I ran out of people to swipe on even with the distance radius set to maximum and with a 9-year age range, and after not getting even a single like after being on the app for over 6 months.

Recently I ended up moving countries. Here I went through everyone I could swipe on with the max distance set after around a week. Again, still no likes. I managed to make my way through everyone in two countries with nothing to show for it.

Eventually I decided to see what my competition was doing to see what was so offensive about my profile that almost 7 months and two countries later I still couldn't get one like. So I switched my filter briefly to also show men, so I could see what they were doing. And in just the two minutes or so of swiping no on every profile, I got a whopping 10 likes...

I deleted Tinder right after that.