r/tinderstories

I (27F) had just gotten out of a long term relationship. I’ve always been an absolute menace to men. A dick; if you will. I know from experience most men enjoy some shit talking (my specialty). Needless to say I had a blast with these unsuspecting dweebs. Some were cool and gave it back without issue, and frankly wanted more. Others? Apparently couldn’t handle my ruthless nature. One report too many and I was banned. Not even a time out?? My number, email, device, and IP were banned. I think I know exactly who reported me. Therefore he received a text (they’re always so quick to give you their number) “I told you that you’re a bitch.” Then has the audacity to call and ask me out on a date. Excuse me sir? He just took my entertainment away. Anyways, long story short the one that got me banned from Tinder was engaged and getting married a few months later.

I saw this girl for about a month and a half ..

We were just having fun having sex ..

Going on like little dates nothing truly serious

Things did start to get feelings caught by both of us

We were just FWB

I started to catch feelings and I told her about it A week later we hooked up n she started crying during sex saying she loved me

This made me kinda think like woah I've never experienced this before ..

Kinda freaky.... I asked her if she was ok to continue so we proceeded and she eventually calmed down

She was seeing a couple of other guys she told me about including a sugar daddy ....

One day I asked to get together and she told me that the guy she slept with the night before was really rough with her and it kinda made me feel a certain way

I simply told her not to tell me stuff like previously and to me she crossed a boundary .... it made me imagine her having sex with someone else and as any man would I kinda got jealous and upset over it because I wasn't seeing anybody else ...

So eventually I started going to therapy and trying to work things out with my own head and I realized that she may be sleeping with more than just the guys she told me about

The last night we hooked up It was the first time I was ever running late on picking her up and my therapy session went late she called me near the end of the session and I didn't answer she texted me asking if we were still on I said yeah therapy is just running later than expected because I was really hung up on her and just going through it with the therapist

After the session ended I called her a bunch of times on the way over to her house and she kept on sending my calls to voicemail I texted her saying hey why won't you pick up not getting a single response...

I had the fear she was having sex with someone else

She eventually picked up and said she wasn't paying attention to her phone cuz she was watching her show but I confronted her about her sending me to voicemail a bunch... She ended up denying it.... I didn't think much about it....just glad that she picked up and we were still on

When I got to her house n she got into my car she smelled like sex.....

I was like ah am I really gonna go through with this... So I did anyway thinking ive been lied to I was flustered and she could tell that I was acting weird and upset

We ended up having sex anyway

The next morning she said she wanted to keep seeing the sugar daddy and when I told her I didn't like that she mentioned being in an open relationship when I told her I'd never do that she said well looks like we won't work out and she said "bye" which was kinda rude .

Soooo i decided to block her in that moment and said ok no more feeling like I'm falling for someone who doesn't work with me well .. this'll be good... The problem I then faced was getting that sexual high I used to get with having as much sex as we did

Also within the same day she messaged me through a different number saying she wanted to be exclusive with me after some time but I didnt really believe her

I decided to block that number as well and tried to find someone else to meet with that was interested in me

So I ended up talking to some other girls and had one of them over the house

The following day I had a girl over the house:

Something happened I wouldn't have expected I was only home for about 45 minutes after working all day.... when I got into my car to go to the store I sat on something on my seat I was surprised... It was a note saying that the girl I had blocked ...loved me ... I was like that's a sweet gesture but she's not gonna get unblocked...

So then another week goes by and I end up hanging with another girl I used to see from 3 to 4 years ago surprisingly she responded to my messages and agreed to see me at a nearby park

I ended up parting ways with her around 11pm and went home After getting turned down which I was respectful about

Then at about 1:14 am

I heard something outside my window that kinda sounded like a coyote then it got louder and louder and then sounded like manaicle crys then I felt loud bangs coming from my bedroom floor and outside my bedroom wall and window which was terrifying I had no idea what was going on it felt like a true paranormal experience ... Then almost simultaneously the crying and banging from both the floor and outside my bedroom wall and window got louder and louder It felt like I was being attacked and whatever was outside and underneath me was going to get through into my bedroom with me

It shook the whole bedroom it made me completely paralyzed in fear nothing like anything I've ever experience in my life the noises of evil right outside and underneath my bedroom booming loud bangs and these loud inhuman like crys coming from right outside my bedroom and coming in from the floor boards

I prayed to Jesus in my bed absolutely paralyzed and covered in sweat I said to myself Jesus please let this demon be gone repeatedly

I finally peered out my window from my bed and saw nothing but imprints in the tall grass ... Then I laid back down in my bed for two seconds and heard a car speed off fast ....

Immediately I called my roommate who lives on the other side of the house where I asked if he had heard anything and he had not

Immediately we went outside to see who or what had caused this damage

I sleep on top of a garage so him and I opened it expecting someone or something to run out ... And nothing... We looked around frantically trying to find signs of damage and non the less the sidewall of the house was cracked where the banging was coming from....

We were just standing in my driveway when I went to my car for a cigarette trying to figure out what was happening and I found a note on a gift card

In the from section it read the girl I blocked name In the to section it read my name And in the open lines it read

I'm pregnant and it's yours I'm getting it aborted on Friday

It made chills run up and down my spine

I couldn't believe the girl that I was seeing could go through such an act probably thinking it was a fun prank to pull on me who was very unsuspecting of anything like this happening with someone who I used to say I love you to....

... I went to the police station the next morning and took time off work to deal with the situation right away after an uneasy night of sleep... then they told me the local superior Court of my town is where I should go to file a restraining order ..

A week later from that! My roommate calls me saying he's missing his garage door clicker from his jeep

I then put the pieces together in my head that she wasn't going to stop trying to get my attention ... And that she had someone with her helping her scare me from getting into the garage with the garage door clicker...

All from a girl I've only known for a month and a half ... I couldn't have guessed she would do these awful things to try and ruin my peace of mind as a person who thought we had a good mutual ending of a romantic friends with benefits relationship all because I no longer wanted to see her ... Because she was seeing multiple guys and crossed the boundary of telling me her experiences with them.... I asked her kindly not to

Even during dates we shared shed txt other guys in front of me while cuddling having sexual conversations that were just disgusting

Guys keep your eyes out there ... There's real crazy

And to finish the story ...... the court day came and past ....

..... I ended up losing the restraining order because of the way she framed me by making me upset sharing txt messages I wrote in response to her getting hurt during sex with someone else making me feel really uncomfortable the message I knew that made the judge feel like a restraining order wasn't necessary was

"sometimes I come of up with the craziest shit in my head"

When the message was taken out of context to the reason why I wanted a restraining order from her in the first place which was her attacking me in my sleep with someone else

The conversation we were having in the txt messages were making me imagine her having sex with someone else which is why I asked her previously not to share those experiences she was having with me crossing a boundary she didn't care about in our relationship

It made me realize how easy I am to manipulate...

Never ever let anyone manipulate you in these ways

No person should ever have to go through something like this

And not only that no person should get away with this type of behavior it's unfair to people who have hard times defending themselves in the moment especially if they're not someone who's experienced people like this ... When in doubt don't be afraid to get a lawyer to help if things get to court the women always seem to have an upper hand

Guys keep your wits about you no girl really just wants to have sex . And some women want to turn you into their cucks when your not wired that way....

Everyone should be careful in this world where there truly are evil people I was lucky to get away when I did who knows how much more damage this person could've put on my psyche

I (F) went on a date with a guy from Tinder who was in my city only for a day. It was nothing crazy but we got on well enough that the conversation was flowing and I ended up in his apartment for a bit and we kissed and nothing more. When I got home I texted him that I made it back safely as he requested and politely said thanks for a fun night and wished him good luck for his travels.

The next day he replied, and I could only read the very last message of him saying thanks for a fun night too because Tinder hit me with a big verification screen because he’s photo-verified and mustve changed it to the settings that only accepts messages from other verified users (also weird timing). I don't know if he thought I was a catfish and changed his settings but he gave me a lot of physical compliments so didn't seem like it? Also I have no clue if there were more messages.

Two days later the entire match is gone. Either he unmatched me or maybe Tinder removed the match since I wasnt verified?!

Is this just standard post-date unmatching behavior? Or a tinder glitch? I personally dont unmatch people unless theyve crossed the line behaviour wise for me, but he sent me a positive reply after so I just feel like unmatching is a bit hurtful, even if there's no use for the match anymore but I'm taking it somewhat personally.

Anyone else experienced this with the verification wall and an unmatch?

I’ve been using Tinder and Bumble for about a year now looking for a genuine tong term relationship honestly the experience has been incredibly confusing and exhausting on tinder i barely get a few matches when i do they sit in my match history and never respond to a single text alot of girls put their instagram handles in their bios but if i each out there they either ghost immediately or act like they don’t even know what tinder is bumble hasn't been any better recently i actually hit it off with a match we talked made plans to meet up, and then out of nowhere she blocked me on whatsApp instagram and unmatched me on the app no explanation at all i genuinely don't understand what is wrong with dating culture today on one side these profiles claim they want a serious long term relationship but on the other side, they completely ignore people or pull 180 degree turns why is ghosting and hot and cold behavior so normalized now? Is anyone else dealing with this absolute weirdness?