r/tinderstories

im 19 and mostly just use tinder when im bored between classes or after work. his profile had like three pics and a bio that just said “looking for someone who doesn’t take themselves too seriously.” something about it made me swipe right.

we started talking and it got flirty pretty quick. he asked what i was into and i told him im pretty open as long as its consensual and fun. he said he was the same and the conversation stayed easy. after a few days he invited me over to his place instead of meeting somewhere public. normally i wouldve said no but the vibe felt okay so i went.

got there around 8. place was small but clean. we sat on the couch and talked for a bit about random stuff then he kissed me and it just kind of happened from there.

it was good. like really good. he was into the same kind of stuff i am and actually listened when i said what i liked. we tried a couple things ive only done once or twice and it didn’t feel weird or forced. just intense in a way that felt right. after we just laid there for a while talking about nothing important.

i left around midnight. we texted a little the next day and he said he had a good time and wanted to do it again. i said same. that was almost two weeks ago and the messages have gotten slower. not full ghost but just… less.

part of me is fine with it. it was a really solid night and i got what i wanted without any drama. another part of me still checks my phone like an idiot hoping he’ll suggest hanging out again.

most of my tinder stories end with someone being weird or disappearing after two messages. this one at least went somewhere even if it might not go further.

so im 19 and been on tinder for like 3 months now mostly just bored scrolling between classes. his profile was kinda basic but he had this one pic where he was looking straight at the camera with this little smirk and his bio just said “tell me your worst idea and ill probably say yes.” that made me laugh so i swiped.

we started talking and it got dirty pretty fast which is fine by me. i like when people dont pretend they’re only looking for coffee. he asked what im into and i told him im pretty open as long as it feels good and safe. he said same and we kept going back and forth for a couple days until he suggested we meet up at his place instead of some random bar. usually id say no but the way he talked about it felt chill so i went.

got there around 9. place was clean enough, he offered me a drink, we sat on the couch and talked for a bit about random shit. music, stupid jobs, how bad the dating apps are. then he leaned in and kissed me and it just kinda escalated from there.

we ended up in his bedroom and it was actually really good. like he paid attention and asked what felt good and wasn’t weird about any of the stuff i wanted to try. we did a few things ive only really done once or twice before and it didn’t feel awkward or rushed. just fun and kind of intense in a good way. after we just laid there for a while talking about nothing important.

i left around 1 or 2. we texted a little the next day and he said he had a good time and wanted to see me again. i said same. that was like 5 days ago and the messages have gotten slower. not full ghosting but just… less.

part of me is fine with it. it was a really good night and i got what i wanted without any drama. another part of me keeps checking my phone like an idiot hoping he’ll suggest something again.

anyway just felt like sharing because most of my tinder stories end with someone being weird or disappearing right after matching. this one at least went somewhere even if it might not go further.

Matched with a girl in law school in a big midwest city. Both understanding it to be casual and accelerated.

First date, after dinner she initiated and we had sex at her place. Noticed she was shifting around and fidgety. Performed oral on her for awhile, some gentle manual stim, tried several positions with penetration. But she seemed frustrated.

Then, “I have a toy I can use” she says with some hesitancy.

Pulls out a magic wand and buzzes one out in about 5 minutes flat. I hold her and watch. I’m instantly into it and she gets more relaxed and less awkward.

Next several hangs go about the same. I start to wonder what the hell this situationship is and where it’s going.

I raised the topic in text and she basically says “everyone just wants to cum, right? Unfortunately this is the only way I’ve ever been able to, and if you’re ok with it, I really adore having you there with me.”

Me: Mind blown. But, yes. Take me into the hitachi kingdom, queen.

She starts showing up for dates with a shoulder bag carrying her prized possession.

Around that same time we started skipping intercourse and just mutually masturbated as the main event.

We’d go to dinner, back to my place, she’d assume her position and take command of the wand like an Air Force pilot going into a dog fight. I’m her trusty co-pilot, calling out encouragement, retrieving refreshments.

She moved away several months later. But, if you’re out there, thank you!

The end.

This was my first and probably last time using Tinder because the whole experience was just so bizarre to me. I decided to finally try out Tinder for the first time a couple months after I turned 18. The app kinda sucked because it was almost impossible to get matches, but one night, which was only my second day ever having Tinder, I swiped right on someone and got a match.

Like 2 seconds later she was already texting me, which really surprised me, and we started talking. Not even a few messages later she asks me to hangout, which caught me off guard, but I decided to say fuck it and we did.

She was kinda far away, so she had someone drive her all the way to me, and while shes getting driven over shes telling me about how bad the area is and how shes locked out of the apartment she was supposed to be staying in. Me not really knowing what to do, I tell her if she comes here I'll hangout with her for a while until the guy she was supposed to be staying with comes back and lets her in.

She finally shows up and we get in my car, then go to a parking lot just to chill and talk to pass the time. While we're talking shes telling me how she went to a different state to explore the area since shes gonna go there for college, and she was supposed to stay with this guy. The guy ended up never coming back to the apartment and was barely responding to her.

This guy was someone she hooked up with back home, and thats how she knew him and why she thought she could stay at his place instead of having to get a hotel and everything. So basically this girl was in another state by herself with no money and no place to stay, and had somehow been surviving like that for the past 4 days.

We end up talking for like 2 hours in an empty parking lot about her experience and whatever else, and sooner or later the idea of hooking up came up. We both decided since we were already in an empty parking lot and in a car that we should just hook up.

Now I live in a big city, so the parking lot wasnt completely empty and there was still security driving around. They werent really doing anything though, just making sure nothing illegal or crazy was happening. I end up driving farther into the parking lot to somewhere darker and more private, and some time later we're in the back doing it. Wasnt my best experience, but it was still pretty good.

Right when we finish, this cop car that was circling the entire parking lot stops like 30 or 40 feet away from my car and just starts staring at us. Now at this point I am scared SHITLESS. I've never been pulled over or arrested before and I literally did all of this in a car.

I quickly get dressed and sit in the front seat, trying to pretend nothing happened. Yeah I was kinda dumb because the cops obviously knew exactly what was happening, but then like 2 minutes later they drive away and I think I'm in the clear.

She gets dressed but we're still in the same parking spot just talking. Like 20 minutes later the cops are still driving around the parking lot and then they pull up right next to my car. Now I'm scared EVEN MORE. My mind is going so fast thinking shit, I'm about to be arrested, its over for me and whatever else.

Both cops step out of their car and start walking towards mine. I roll down the window and they start asking questions like, “What are you guys doing?” and telling us, “The parking lot is closed.” Apparently its open 24/7, but only for people charging electric vehicles, which I had no idea about.

The cops were chill though, and we told them we were gonna leave in 5 minutes and we did. Thankfully they didnt ask anymore questions, but it was so obvious they knew exactly what we were doing.

Then we left the parking lot and parked somewhere else, talking for another hour or 2 trying to figure out what to do. I couldnt bring her home, but I also couldnt just throw her out on the street because she literally had NO place to sleep.

The same way she found me on Tinder just to find someone to hangout with or help her survive, she ended up doing the same thing again. She found another guy and got him to send her money so she could stay at a hotel for the night. The next day she went to the airport and flew back home early.

I havent talked to her since and dont plan on it because this whole experience gave me so much anxiety. I deleted tinder right after that and dont plan on ever again

We matched and like always (though not often), if the initial conversation has some spark, I propose a meet up at a cafe and she happily agreed. Luckily, the chemistry was real and we just picked up from where we left off online: joking, followed the flow of conversation, nothing was forced, no pressure to be and appear as anything other than who we are; and as an added bonus, the moments of silence weren’t uncomfortable and neither of us felt we needed to fill it just for the sake of it. The rest of the meet up wasn’t planned. Even though this wasn’t supposed to be a “date” date, we ended up taking a walk through a park. We exited at the far end of the park and stumbled onto a little festival happening, so we attended - carpe diem, right?

There was music, beer (neither of us drink), dancing and a few make shift carnivalesque games (neither of us won anything); we had fun, we felt a little closer. After that, we picked up some irresponsibly expensive tacos (7€ a piece!What?!) and then she had to go home to take her dog out. I didn’t want to say bye, so I had an idea “how about we take the dog to the beach?” She thought about it for a second and was on board. I accompanied her back to her place, but I didn’t go inside. She came out with the weirdest mix of a dog I had ever seen, I don’t even remember the breeds, but he was a sweetheart. We went to the beach, relaxed for a few hours, and once the day was over I accompanied her home, and again, I hesitated to say bye. The pull was magnetic, she lingered, I gave her a kiss and then asked to see her again. She smiled, said she had a great time and kissed me goodnight.

I haven’t heard from her since, it’s been about a month. Part of me feels like it’s better this way, our seemingly magical moment won’t be ruined by the politics of relationships. Another part of me wonders “what if?” Whatever the case, it was the best date I’ve ever had through an app, probably ever.

I (28F) made a Tinder account on a whim. Really I just wanted to smoke a joint with a cute someone, however I was so stoned all I did was complete my profile and fall asleep. I paid for a week to see who liked my profile. To my surprise, an old friend (27M) of mine, someone I haven't spoken to in 8 years, swiped right on me.

We actually matched on Tinder when we first met, so it was major deja Vu for me. We were inseparable then. We tried the dating thing, which unfortunately resulted in a devastating fallout. I won't get into it, but we went no contact for 8 years. We were young and stupid.

Anyways, I matched with him. Fast forward to today and we are dating. No labels, but just hanging out. We've changed so much, yet we don't feel like strangers. It's honestly been such a great time and it feels like a second chance to make things better.

I’ve been talking to this guy I met off of Tinder about 2 months ago. We stopped talking in the middle for a bit (it was my bad, I stopped responding) but he kept checking in every week or so.

3 days ago, I finally reverted and apologised profusely for my absence as it wasn’t personal. I also initiated dinner plans for last night.

Finally, last night, we met. Honestly, the banter on text just wasn’t there in person. Secondly, as he was from the F&B industry, all he did was talk about food and cocktails. Honestly, super interesting but dude, ask me a question too every now and then. I don’t want a list of all the vineyards you’ve been to. He held some intense eye contact, barely smiled, and tried to throw in a pick up line somewhere that didn’t really land.

I on the other hand, kept asking questions, kept the conversation flowing, laughed a bunch to take the pressure off. He did admit that this was his first date in about 2 years so I understand the apprehensive and I did give him grace for it too.

I offered to pay because he was between jobs, but he insisted to split so I agreed. Only mentioning this because he gave me a really weird look when I offered to me, that disappeared in a second.

Anyway, once done, he wanted to hit another bar but I said I have work the next day (which is true) and offered to meet again of the weekend to which he agreed. I asked him to text me once he reached home (as he lived further away from the place than I did). He didn’t text me. I had to check in about an hour later to which he said “hiii, sorry, yes, I reached 20 minutes ago.”

Since then, no text. For someone to really seek me out the last two months, to radio silence - feels weird. I feel like my ego is bruised a bit to be honest. Something I need to really work on, but on the other hand I am just really curious to know what’s up.