r/tipping

Should I tip? I’m tending toward no as I’ve paid for delivery and I’ve paid for haul-away. Looking for reassurance that I can merely say thank you. Will it be okay not to tip? Want your candid advice. Ty!!!

They should be paying 20-30/hour so you don’t need tips to survive. Bosses are RICH where customers are not. Take from the rich, not the poor or middle class.

Question: What entitles the BOSS to underpaid labor? Nothing. He’s greedy. They should be paying 20-30/hour for staff, so customers don’t need to tip. The bosses are RICH while the customers are not.

On Topic : Studies have shown tipping has zero correlation to server performance. Instead, tipping is strongly correlated to race, gender, and age:

* Young women get more than middle-aged or older women.

* Women get more than men

* Whites get more than blacks

Tipping is a very biased & prejudiced way to pay people. It’s fundamentally flawed. U.S society would be better to eliminate it & pay high wages (like $20-30/hour regardless of race, gender, age)

Hi all, I'm traveling to seattle and am going to be trying a lot of coffees while im visiting. However, after looking at the prices, especially in downtown seattle being close to 10$ a cup (I get my coffee with oat milk), is it okay if I dont leave a tip? there are places charging 1.5$ for oat milk in a 12 oz hot coffee.

Additionally, I am not gonna sit at any of these cafes, I will order my coffee for takeout and have it elsewhere. ive been to a couple of cafes elsewhere where if I dont tip, it reflects on the coffee they make (too much foam even tho I asked for less, overly strong coffee when I ask for medium etc). In my mind, I am already paying for the coffee to be made in the way I want, and I am also expected to tip before I even get to try out the beverage I ordered.

Looking for different thoughts and perspectives on this!

Edit: Follow up question: do people usually leave a tip if they plan to sit at the establishment?

I was just ordering instant ramen at a food cart. She got mad when I left 0 and said "hey at least leave a dollar". She is incredibly slow. I would have been happier if she just gave me the cup noodles and let me poor the hot water in myself. I can walk up to the second floor and pour my own hot water out of the coffee machine faster than she can poor the hot water in the coffee machine right next to her.

Tipping is ridiculous. absolutely screw this level of entitlement.

I've been on a road trip across the US for 2 weeks now and I'm still confused about tipping culture.

At restaurants, I always leave 20-25%, no question. But what about a valet (is around 40-50$ a day, and I give 5$ when I request my car), a national park guide, or an Uber Eats delivery?

The wildest thing happened at a fast-casual pizza place. I walked in, grabbed a water bottle from the fridge myself, walked to the counter, and the terminal asked me if I wanted to tip. The employee just said hi and told me the price. That's it.

Is this normal? Where do you actually draw the line?

Before I start, I just want to say we are not tackling whether you should, who you should, or why you should tip. That is off the table. Let's assume for the sake of argument that we do have to tip some professions and we all magically agreed upon the percentage that makes everyone happy.

Can we debate and discuss the "when" instead? This I've seen a lot of sophomoric comments in other threads like "b***h, cheap a**, a**h**e, etc... Those are not constructive, nor productive. Let's discuss as adults please.

My thoughts: Tipping was originally created as an incentive for great work. The price was the price, and if the person did well or above and beyond, the customer would recognize that effort and reward it with an appropriate tip. It was originally meant for that incentive -but it unfortunately became a way for restaurants to subsidize labor while maintaining artificially lower prices on their menu. Again, we're not arguing the why, this was just for context!

Assuming we go to the original intent -that would mean you add the tip AFTER the service and that way you can recognize good work with a good tip, or even exceptional tip for above and beyond work. Currently the culture has moved into BEFORE the service. When this happened the person doing the service basically stopped caring because they knew they would get a tip. Or in food delivery, the tipping customers are basically buying a priority in line. It's not really a "tip" anymore is it?

Question for debate: would customers be ok with tip being mandatory (percent is your choice) after you got the service? Conversely, would the employees doing the service be ok with the tip being given after your work was completed? You know you will get tipped, but you can earn the extra if you give the extra vs colleagues who get the minimum tip for minimum effort?

Love to hear your thoughts and if there are things I didn't think about love to hear that too. I am cognizant that I have blind spots in this argument.

“Servers make too much.”

“I never tip anyone, anywhere.”

“Serving is a low skill job.”

“I can carry plates.”

“Wages are not my problem, they’re the owners problem, don’t involve me.”

“America is the only country that has a tipping system. No other country in the world accepts tips.”

“Servers are entitled.”

“How should I tip when…”

“I used to be a server and it felt like stealing.”

“What do I do when…”

“The tip model is a grift.”

“My server typed in .64 cents when I left .54 cents. Should I try to get them fired?”

Is it super annoying for serves to be tipped the remainder of the balance on a gift card? How does it work? Do y’all run it like any other card tip and yall get the money or are yall stuck with a gift card. I always make sure it’s a decent amount left on the gift card otherwise I’ll drop a little cash to make it up to a decent tip. So I guess just let me know if I’m being a massive ah by tipping on the gift card balance 😅

I was on a tour in Portugal and the tour guide explained that Portuguese don’t normally tip, but that American tourists are expected to tip 10%.

I prefer to act like a local when I’m on vacation. I don’t want to be called an ugly American

If a restaurant is starting suggested tip percentages higher than what you deem to be normal aka “Tip Creep or tipflation” then remove 5% if you feel it’s “excessive”.

If you are pro tipping and disagree with the premise then tip an extra 5% to offset the people who are now tipping less.

If you already tip zero then make sure the pro tippers know so they can leave a double tip for you.

Im curious how many anti-tip supporters would prefer never having a server and needing to go grab their own food.

I was at a fast food restaurant yesterday and they didn't have any kind of cashier that would take your order. Everything was done through a self checkout. When I went to pay, it asked me for a tip. I'm doing the checkout and collecting payment from myself and being asked for a tip?

This is the thick of who the anti-tipping crowd is gunning after.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Waiters/comments/1thue9z/follow_up_data_on_how_much_i_make_at_texas/

What they're actually after are the exceptional stories. What 90% of the industry is actually like is much more like what this employee in the link is reporting... the dude is making slightly more than 4 dollars per guest in a med-tier steakhouse.

50 dollars an hour for a whole shift is the top 5% of the industry in places like Vegas, Chicago, NYC, etc. There are entire small towns and cities where nobody makes 50 dollars an hour regularly, barring certain holidays.

terrible service and didn’t leave a tip, she calls me back and circles the tip amount. i told her all she did was hand me a burger and made me wait so long. then when leaving she yells never come back

EDIT ok here the whole fucking story since some of yall are doubting that it happened. Crowded bar, waited patiently, finally get an order for a burger from the blonde lady. waited again standing up since there was no seats, got the burger, was going to get drinks but the line was too long, my girl says she needs water, waited long again to ask for water, waited for it to come, never came, went back to the bar, waited again to ask for a to go box and check, I rounded up to the nearest dollar, bartender calls me back and circles the tip amount, she asks are you serious, i look her dead in the eye and I say yes, you provided no service, you weren’t even the person who cooked or handed me the burger and I wasn’t able to get a water, I tipped according to the service received and how much we enjoyed the experience. this time it was less. She yells at me and my girl in front of the bar telling us that this is a restaurant and not fast food and that we should’ve went to mcdonald’s. She tells me to calm down so it looks like I’m the one aggrevating the situation. my girl says if this is a restaurant then give us a togo box so we can leave. as we leave she screams to never come back. keep in mind the suggest tip was only 5 bucks from the 30 dollar burger. tell me I’m in the wrong and I’ll go apologize to the owner

Tipping should be a choice but in America you’re treated like a terrorist if you don’t tip. Esp the servers and the nail artists. They expect such high tips cause they work hard but they forget that their customers work hard too. Appreciation can also be showed with a simple “thank you” and if a person wants to / can afford to show gratitude with money, they should be free to do so. But people work way too hard to constantly be bullied into tipping so high.

I am born and brought up in Europe but moved to America a month ago. After setting up my place and working hard for a whole month, i decided to treat myself to a nice dinner. The restaurant was fancy and the check was about $400, and i left a $10 tip (mind you we aren’t obligated to tip in Europe), and the waiter gave me a nasty look. Now the thing is, i didn’t order a lot of things, a basic (tasty) meal that are priced higher than usual restaurants. The server didn’t have to run around much for me. Now just cause the food is more expensive than usual, doesn’t mean the plates are heavier. I don’t mind tipping as a way of showing gratitude but tipping so high for the money i work hard for, i don’t think it’s fair. If the servers don’t make enough money, isn’t it the Government’s issue to solve?

Also, last week my friend took me to her nail appointment. The artist has set up shop at her home. A small working station.. Pinteresty but minimal. Now, my friend gets really elaborate designs and long extensions and the artist does her job very well. I mean, she sure is talented but, isn’t the price she set for the nails is already compensation and appreciation for her time and talent and products?? She charged $250 and ADDED AN $80 TIP HERSELF. I was appalled, to say the least. Apparently, it’s “a way to appreciate ger for her work”. What was the $250 for then?? My flabbers were GASTED😭😭

I’ll be done with my work here in 11 more months and this is one of the reasons I can’t wait to go back to Europe. The preposterous tipping culture and how entitled and rude the servers and the nail artists are, has really put me off.

A friend of mine visited Japan last year and was surprised to learn that tipping restaurant staff is generally discouraged there. He even heard stories of customers' tips being refused when trying to leave a tip, and in some cases, being viewed negatively for insisting on it.

Why is tipping seen so differently in Japan compared to America? Is it mainly because restaurant workers in Japan are paid better wages?

And if better wages are part of the reason, why hasn’t America moved toward a similar system? America is one of the richest countries in the world, yet many restaurant workers still rely heavily on tips to make a living.