r/tryingforanother

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Hello! I’m after some success stories.
We decided earlier this year we want to try for our third baby and much to our shock it’s not happening
I’m tracking everything and confirm ovulation with temp tracking. I am 33 but my first two were easy to conceive so this is new territory.
Currently 10DPO and negative test.
Will it ever happen?? 🥲
I feel like I’m doing it all. I sleep well, track ovulation, take my prenatals, I’ve modified my diet, I manage stress.
What else can I do!!

Hey y’all, do any of you have any advice about TTC post partum? I am currently breastfeeding my 9.5 month old, and she eats solids twice a day, morning and night, and breastfeeding in between. I am in completely unknown territory with this. I saw online my chances of getting pregnant are only about 6% right now, and I am absolutely devastated. Does anyone have insight for me? Currently trying not to cry. Someone pls tell me I’m wrong about my chances somehow

I am ready to try for a second baby. My husband wants another but is not quite on the same page yet.

This past cycle, we accidentally got two well timed tries in before my (unexpectedly early) ovulation. I got pretty excited and eagerly followed my chart and signs.

On 8 DPO, I started getting AF like cramping. My heart sunk- I had a feeling I was out, but I know you’re not out until AF arrives. Next day, I start spotting in the evening. My heart sinks again. By bedtime, I’m full on bleeding.

I would have been upset either way, but I’m mostly devastated because this means my LP was 8, almost 9 days last cycle.

I got my period back about a year ago now, at 9 months pp. since then, I’ve been trying to keep my charts accurate. Initially my LP was short, at 8ish days. After my son weaned, it extended to 10 days. For a few months, it was closer to 10.5 days. Then two cycles ago I got an 11 day LP and this was pretty exciting because that’s how long they were pre-pregnancy.

Then this. There’s nothing major going on in my life that could cause this. I’m just in shock and confused. I’m going to mention to my doctor on Thursday but wondering if anyone else has experienced this? Is this just normal variation? I never got LP’s shorter than 10 days pre-pregnancy.

And as a side note, has anyone else struggled with shorter LP’s postpartum and did you do anything to lengthen them?

Note: Discussion of BFPs / ongoing pregnancies is allowed and encouraged in this thread!

A dedicated space for TFA grads to check in and keep their TFA friends updated on their journey to #2+!

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The day before and the day of ovulation this month, my son looked at me through his legs. The old wives tale says this means he's 'looking for his sibling'. Am I trying not to hold onto this as a sign? Absolutely 🤣. Am I winning? No 🫠

What old wives tales have had you convinced this month was ~the month~?

Tell us about everything! Only thing that isn't allowed is BFP and pregnancy talk - those have their own threads.

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Some possible topics could include: Age, # child you are trying for, what part of the world you're in, your partner, how you spend your time, how you are feeling about trying again!

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It was a regular ultrasound and a transvaginal one. Half way through the transvaginal one she asks me if I’m on birth control. Gave me no other context why. Is this just a standard question or am I over thinking? I won’t know results for over a week and just trying not to be in my head. I’m on my 11th cycle trying to get pregnant and since my first child I’ve had pelvic pain and extreme dryness. Not asking for medical advice, just never had an experience like this before and I’m not sure what’s standard.

Tell us about everything! Only thing that isn't allowed is BFP and pregnancy talk - those have their own threads.

A weekly dedicated space for members who have been trying for another for 12 or more months, experiencing infertility. Talk of treatment, testing/diagnosis, or tough feelings are welcome here. While this is a safe space to vent, please consider how other long haulers in different circumstances may feel about your words.

This thread is primarily for current long-haulers to connect with, vent to, and support each other. We ask that anyone else (including TFA grads and those whose current round of TTC has been less than 12 months) participate only to answer questions where your personal experience is relevant - for example, if someone asks about the side effects of a fertility treatment you have tried. For more general support, sympathy, and finger-crossing, in this thread, if you have not currently been trying for at least 12 months, please stick to a quiet upvote.

This thread is not meant to limit discussion only to this thread. Discussion of long haul issues is always welcome in the Daily Chat.

Tell us about everything! Only thing that isn't allowed is BFP and pregnancy talk - those have their own threads.

I have had 9 negative cycles this time around. I have an appt at the end of this cycle. What kinds of questions should I be asking or what kinds of testing do I ask for? I don’t think I’m ovulating at all. I’m spiraling watching the age gap get ever larger… Any suggestions?! Thanks!

Has anyone used an Apple Watch for bbt? Did you find it accurate?

I do plan on buying the watch regardless as I want to upgrade from the one I currently have, but I noticed they have this function and i just want to see if it has been accurate and helpful

I have a really bad case of baby fever and want to start prepping mentally and physically for baby #2. I’m currently only 7 month post C with my first so I’m in no rush, but it did take us quite a while to conceive with our first to the point where we almost gave up.

I know I need to work on diet and exercise as I have PCOS (PMOS) and Thyroid issues, but I’d love any advice from other PCOS mamas of what worked for you and how long did it take for you to grow your family❤️.

We’re beyond grateful to even have been able to have one child, but I’ve always wanted to have a big family.

I have been TTC my second for 15 months. I’ve done 5 rounds of 2.5 letrozole (ovulate every time) and am currently 7DPO on my first round of 5mg.

I’ve had 3 vvvvvv early losses since last November. We had an initial fertility specialist who said she felt confident the higher dose of letrozole would do the trick.

I met with my OB/GYN and- in a very rushed appt- she said she wanted to do a hysteroscopy, d&c, HSG and laparoscopy. I said yes, although there were no findings on the ultrasound and I have 0 endo symptoms. I’m 3 days out from the surgery and will be 10DPO the morning of the surgery and I’m really thinking about delaying/ canceling. Thoughts???

Tell us about everything! Only thing that isn't allowed is BFP and pregnancy talk - those have their own threads.

Tell us about everything! Only thing that isn't allowed is BFP and pregnancy talk - those have their own threads.

Husband (42) and I (34) have been trying for #2 for over a year. After the year mark we got fertility testing with a RE because we want 4 kids and aren’t in our 20s… results came back last week and husband’s sperm count, motility, and shape are all well below normal (like, he has the count of a 70+ yo man). The RE is suggesting he take some gummy vitamins from a company his office has a partnership with and re-test in 3 weeks. Does anyone have positive experience with vitamins drastically changing sperm count/motility/shape? Or is the RE trying to make extra because of the relationship with the vitamin company? Not a prescription and over $200 for a 3 month supply.

I noticed this month that my ewcm was completely gone on my estimated ovulation day. Looking back at my charts, this is normal for me! It seems counterintuitive though? What pattern do you normally see with your cycle?

I oscillated between watery and ewcm for over a week prior to ovulation, then the day of it seemed to be gone. I usually get fertile CM for 4-5 days prior. This month was particularly drawn out 😅