u/2fucked2know

Aries: a leap of leopards or a risk of lobsters

Taurus: a snuggle of sloths or a bloom of jellyfish

Gemini: a cackle of hyenas or a chatter of budgies

Cancer: a family of beavers or a crash of rhinos

Leo: a charm of hummingbirds or a pride of lions

Virgo: a shrewdness of apes or a bloat of hippos

Libra: a parliament of owls or a flamboyance of flamingos

Scorpio: a sneak of weasels or a murder of crows

Sagittarius: a mischief of magpies or a journey of giraffes

Capricorn: a watch of nightingales or a business of ferrets

Aquarius: a conspiracy of lemurs or a movement of moles

Pisces: a confusion of wildebeest or a wisdom of wombats

Anyone else had this issue? How do I fix it?

An observation from an autistic who's high masking these days, but used to struggle a LOT with social skills and social anxiety. It's worth noting that this probably only works if you have somewhat decent social skills in general though.

I naturally see the best in everyone, and only dislike those that are being assholes on purpose... and I let this show. I make sure to compliment people on things every chance I get, whether it's their outfit, their achievements, the way they laugh, their ideas, their energy, their makeup etc. If I'm in a room full of strangers and make eye contact with someone, I give them a sincere smile. I am curious about people's thoughts and interests, and what they have to say. I speak kindly about people behind their backs. And so on. It's not a people pleasing thing, but just my mindset and way of functioning. People want to be liked, valued and accepted, and when you clearly show that you like, value and accept them, the majority of them will feel the same way about you.

There are obviously people this doesn't work on, specifically bigots, or people who don't like themselves and cope with it by being hateful, judgemental and negative about other people. But in most cases, it does. I've had multiple friends say that they don't know anyone who gets as much praise and love behind their backs as I do, and I 100% attribute that to this.

Now, this isn't strategic from my part but something I've learned by "accident", but it IS something people can learn to do. The same way we can wire our brains to be hateful, negative and judgemental of others, we can also wire our brains to be loving, positive and accepting of others. My advice would be to start to consciously find things you like about every person you meet, as it will eventually teach your brain to do it automatically.

I wanna note that this should not make you ignore and enable problematic behaviors though, but my "as long as they're not being assholes on purpose"-principle is great. If they've made a mistake or are unconsciously problematic, you should point it out in a clear but respectful way. A pro tip is to call yourself out while doing it if possible, like "I have thought/done/said [something similar/equivalent] too, so I just thought I should let you know". If they, despite having been made aware of it, refuse accountability or change, that means they've now chosen to be assholes on purpose.

Literally just started to cry cause one of my besties (Aquarius sun/Venus and Capricorn moon woman) reached out after having self isolated for quite some time lmao. We both need our space occasionally, so it's no biggie, and I haven't suffered from it... but hearing her voice made me realize how much I've actually missed her, and I got overwhelmed by how much love I have for that beautiful lunatic of a woman. And when I started sobbing, she did too. I cried. She cried. We both crewd. Lol

I've noticed that Sag and Aqua heavy people value friendship veeery highly and are crazy attached to those in our inner circles, but I know some people are kinda "casual" about friendship (not being too attached or overly sentimental about their friends), or become more distant once they've found a partner... so I'm curious to see if there are any patterns!