u/A-lil-bro

Apparently people think about sex regularly? I literally had no idea, I only think of sex like once a month when someone brings it up. This is confusing as fuck for me?? People actually want to have sex?

I secretly got a binder via a queer club I go to! The only thing is my parents dont know. How can I wash it and such without them seeing? Advice on how to hide/when to wash would be great!!!!

How do yall supress?? Like I can’t? At least not in the way most others do ig, the only way I can avoid certain tics is by holding something or sitting on my hands, its not something I understand. I’ve tried to supress in the past, nothing happened. Like I will think to myself, “dont do that!” but I still will do it uncontrollably. Nothing helps, I just aviod people on bad tics days because of how bad they can get.

I am sixteen, nonbinary (AFAB tho), and I recently came out as asexual.

So my mom has a history of being abusive, my dad knows about it but keeps quiet to save his (frankly dying) marige. I dont want to live with him because he is a super conformist man who will nit pick anything I do, but my mom is… interesting…

So in the past I was pretty commonly abused by my mom, theres always been a clear cycle. She gets mad/lashes out about a small event—> I go run away and cry —> She finds me in room and apologizes —> She love bombs me —> repeat. In the worst of this time she would start taking me on drives whilst muttering about how she wanted to die. I was genuinely terrified that she would drive off the side of the road or a cliff and kill us both.

We are in therapy now, and I have noticed a little improvment, but I have my concerns. My mom is a “boy mom”, she doesnt get mad at my little brother and genu thinks he can do no harm, but recently my brother has been cutting her out of his life. My sister also left around a year ago and aknouleges she was abused too. I am the only kid regularly around her, I am homeschooled because of health concerns.

Anyways, my mom has been super clingy to me, wanting to go places for hours and then just ranting about my little brother not loving her anymore. But I am concerned with the things my mom has been bringing up.

1. She told me about how she was getting her provate area shaved, I told her I do not want to hear about that, she proceeded to tell me I told her I was having stomach issues earlier (i told her so she would know I was going to be stuck in the bathroom as she have some incontantice issues). I said that they arent the same, that I do not want to hear about her getting waxed, she brought it up three more times before letting it go.

2. She touches me and my brother. It used to be things like touching our butts or squeezing our stomachs but I have been pretty openly telling her to stop. I dont like touch at all. She has stopped touching thsoe areas, but will still come up behind me and massage my shoulders or just generally touch me? I flinch and tell her to stop everytime, she apologize, but then goes back to doing it later.

3. She brings up sex in innocent conversation. She asked why I wouldnt hold her hand, i simply stated I do not really like physical touch, she proceeded to ask how I will ever have sex if I cannot hold hands with someone… She knows I am asexual, I told her only a few days prior. This is a consistent theme, she seems bewildered by me not having a interest in sex, makes sex jokes around me and seems to think that “the day will come”? It makes me feel scared of talking about innocent things because I worry she will bring up sex.

What do I do? There are also even more examples for these things but these are my main grievances with this rn.

I really feel uncomfortable with my mom recently, shes always been kind of a “boy mom” and I am AFAB so my little brother has always been her favorite. However, recently my brother has been distancing himself from her a lot, lashing out, ect. There have been a few things that are making me feel super uncomfortable with my mom.

(I am sex repulsed asexual and autistic btw)

First of all in the car she asked if she could hold my hand randomly, I said no (I dont like phycal touch) and she asked “how will you ever have sex if you cant hold someone’s hand??” I also recently came out as ASEXUAL before this so I assumed shes pushing back on that or trying to figure that out, but that is hella weird because she KNOWS I HAVE ZERO INTEREST IN SEX?!

Second, she has been taking me to the park (I go everyday as part of my homeschool routine) and then basically trapping me inti going other places with her. Shes been trying to get me to spend “alone time” with her on these and will spend the entire time ranting about how my brother doesnt love her anymore.

Third, I told my mom about stomach issues I was having to let her know I was practically glued to the toilet. I didnt think much of it because I just wanted to let her know the upstairs bathroom was out of commotion for a bit. Anyways today she came up to me and said she was planning on getting a waxing and telling me about how she is excited to get a “cooter wax”. I clearly reacted, saying “what the hell why are you telling me this?!” and she said that I told her about my stomach issues so she can tell me these gross details about her private areas? I said that I literally just mentioned it so dhe wouldnt get mad I was taking so long, she kept on bringing it up though, even saying that me and my older sister like being hairy… I am so uncomfortable with this shit?

Fourth, she will randomly come up behind me and my little brother and touch us, she has squeeze/slapped my ass (i was younger, ever since I got older and stood up for myself she stopped) but since I have been clearly not comfortable and have forced her to stop that it seems she has just started coming up behind me and randomly massaging my shoulders or grabbing my waist?? I flinch when she does this, I tell her not to and she’ll apoigize but still does it again.

It feels like she is love bombing me now that my brother is kind of standing up to her too, I cant help but feel like I am being abused or something because I am homeschool and she is pretty abusive. She’ll freak out at me for things that arent always my fault and then get me treats and stuff, she’ll freak out if I tell her to leave me alone or to stop doing something, she doesnt like that I can go places without her (via biking). What do I do to mend this relationship or how do I get this to be better?

Okay, so a charecter I have (Lets call them L) is basically immortal. Not in a stereotypical way (he can die) but in the way that most physical things that would kill you or me would not kill him due to a science experiment. Basically in this story the government has made a way to keep soldiers alive forever if a drug is given to young children/toddlers because it changes your psyiology to be able to withstand pretty much anything. There are different levels and methods of this for different results, however I want to focus on this charecter L for this.

L was not made to be a soldier and was not made to really be a person at all. Nope. L was made by the government to make money off of selling their blood and organs, they would sell it to hospitals in exchange for the money to continue making this drug and keeping this under wraps. So this character spent the first 11 years or so of their life tied to a bed being repeatedly cut open to have their organs removed, sold, ect. This is obviously horrific and terrible, but not part of the story as the story starts 8 ish years later. I am more wondering how you would expect this kind of person to act. Even years later this would still be incredibly traumatizing.

If this happened to you how would you cope? How would you act? Would you be able to trust people again? Would you be scared of pain or indifferent to it?

My current total is 12 days, most of my fronting periods stay in front for at least a week, sometimes we get short fronting periods but thats durings tress. I feel like this is how we tell how we are doing mentally because if we have frequent switches we are likely in stress. However this does mean some alters will have a week plus long animesa period which sucks…

“H-...”

“Help-...”

“Sasha god damn it-” My eyes snapped open, taking a long moment to focus on the voice. Kira. Bathed in soot and blood. Her arm is gone, just gone, she holds her barely conscious self up with her good one, begging me to help. *I need to help. She’s dying, she’s dying…* 

“KIRA!” I scream, pulling myself upward only to tilt over again. Pain flares in my side, and I realize that I’m hurt too. My eyes finally take in my surroundings, *the yelling, the stage that's blown apart, the bodies of soldiers dead or almost dead*, and I go cold. Dread. *Terror*. Try again! *I need to help her*. My knees finally hold my weight, and I stumble forward, “Kira…” 

“You’re a fucking *medic*,” She gasps, staring up at me with wide eyes, “Get your bag, *help me*.”

My bag. It sits on the floor a few feet away from where I stand, but that seems impossibly far now. *I must have hit my head, my entire body hurts, blood leaking from my side. The white coat I used to wear proudly is barely hanging on…* I stumble again, turning sharply, too sharply. 

**SLAM!** 

“*What the fuck did you do?!*” The question doesn’t make sense. Nothing makes sense. Nothing about how I got here, I just am. 

“I didn’t do shit! Get off of me!” I try to push back, but the woman easily overpowers me. She has black hair that hides most of her face, the bandana tied over her mouth and nose do the rest. I’ve never seen her in my whole life, but still she holds me down, screaming at me, not letting me help. *She must hate me. She must want Kira to die, she must want me to die with her.* 

She slams me again, the world goes fuzzy, bright white holes where vision should be, “Don’t act like you *weren’t involved.*”

“Please…I didn’t do this.”

*Slam.*

“I don’t know what you’re talking about.”

*Slam.*

“I *wouldn’t* do this!”

I expect pain again. I *expect* her to cave in my skull with the blows. She doesn’t, my vision clear and I wince as pain suddenly overcomes me. White, flashing against my vision, every time it does my entire body locks up, *I think I’m dying*. Another flash of white, and next thing I know I’m being held, I thrash, trying to resist, but my own injuries lull me closer to her. 

So i know simply plural is not getting developed anymore, but apparently it is getting discontinued?? To my knowledge that means I wont be able to use it at all? Am I confused? It was hard to even get simply plural (I had to lie to my parents) because they dont understand and are very very strict. Am I misunderstanding or do I need to find a back up plan. I am fine if the app is just no longer being developed/is glitchy/slowly stops but it being taken off the appstore is honestly scary for me because we rely on it!

Hello, as a system we have a little around ages 8-12 years old. We used to be aware of more of us but we went through a solid year of denial and some of the alters I knew have just disappeared. Its also importan to note we do not split often or easily.

Anyways the issue… We have been regressing incredibly young recently, I am unsure if my (8-12) little is regressing younger or if this is a new alter? Its concerning though, just suddenly we feel incredibly young and unable to do things I need to do. When this happens it often happens where talking is either impossible or we can only basically whisper. When this happens working agienst it just makes it so much worse, we have to stop what we are doing and go laydown and watch a show or color, because we will have a meltdown. I believe that the regression/mental age is around 3-6 years old which like I said is unusual. We also do not have much for littles, we have stuffed animals and a water bottle but thats all for our older little, getting baby/toddler things are basically out of the picture and honestly I dont know if condoning this is good. Its just so sudden, and it doesnt really feel like one of our system members but also doesnt make sense to be new since we dont tend to split easy.

Anyways advice from other systems would be great, and if anyone else experiences this kind of regression or something it would be nice to hear from you.

Hey yall! I have recently replayed Breath Of The Wild, and I have something to say!

Honestly when I played as a kid I always felt heard by gurudo town, I would ONLY wear the ”girly” outfit in the game. I liked the pronoun changes and I just felt seen? It sounds silly because I am transmasc but tbh that part of the game is incredibly euphoric for me.

And when I replay i still feel that euphoric, but I also think that the concept of this part of the game is actually fucked up.

Not only does it have the “man pretending to be a women” trope but ALSO Link is only dressing like that to SNEAK INTO A WOMENS SPACE! Like yall this is the worst tropes/sterotypes for trans people… Also as far as i can tell there are SOME exceptions to the rule (the one rock guy allowed in) but that doesnt really change that this is a harmful stereotype for trans women.

I am wondering hpw yall feel about this, it made me kind of sad to see this in one of my favorite games.

Okay so I want you all to think about how you would react if people were suddenly going crazy and attacking at random. The news is reporting that these random attacks have little to no corrilation in race, gender, religion or history. These attacks are to such an extreme that the US has entirely locked down (like covid) and there are suspected chemical component. It is all within a month or so and to such an extreme that the recent murders and violent attacks are 75% more common.

This book is going to be about zombies, but if the information above was all you know then what would you do?