u/AFriendlyBurrito

Howdy, all! The jist of this post is I don't know how to build bonds or relationships. Below is an attempt to explain why.

I was unmedicated and undiagnosed for 27 years. In that time I never made a friend or connection that mattered. Either I was oblivious to everything going on around me, I was oblivious to what others did or said to me, or when I was aware enough to try and make a friend, I was too "different" for it to last. For the longest, I couldn't seek out or connect on my own.

I didn't actually have friends until near the end of High School, and that was only because some guy literally yoinked me into the library and introduced his friends to me. Even then, my brain was too wack to talk with others, hold conversations, or share interests, so I never truly got to know anyone in this friend group.

I got introduced to another friend group in college, but like before, couldn't get to know or wasn't aware enough to connect with any of the groups. The bees in my brain, coupled with paying attention being nearly impossible and a severe problem speaking made me quiet and timid, which in turn made it extremely difficult to form bonds.

Now I'm medicated, I know what's wrong with me, and I'm better for it. But I've also realized that all those past problems SCREWED me. I never formed a bond with anyone. I never had an emotional talk, shared special interests, or felt anything about anybody, even my own family. I just don't know how to build a connection with anyone.

Either, I've been forced into friend groups or its family so the hard part is already done for me. This effects both friendships and potential relationships. I've tried finding love but I always end up coming off as uninterssting and awkward (either that or I keep finding the wrong people).

I've gotten to a point where I'm desperate for a connection but just don't know how to form it. I'm tired of having things done for me, I want to make true friends on my own.

Welp, that's all I got. Thanks for reading this gobbity gook.

Howdy, new to this subreddit. I'm on mobile and am a horrible writter, sorry in advance.

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My little sister (15F) is my aunt's child. My aunt is self destructive, did a lot of drugs, an alcoholic, and always got with abusive boyfriends. She had three kids, her two boys were constantly exposed to their mother's bad habits and they've since grown up struggling with their own bad habbits (though they're getting better). Her third and youngest child was a girl. My mom, my aunt's sister, adopted her to spare her from her mom and save her from going down a similar path to her brothers. My aunt agreed. She's been my sister ever since and I love so much.

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As my sister grew up, she was optimistic and curious, but displayed some worrying traits. My parents and I have been trying to guide her down the right path but it hasn't gone the way we've hoped. She's been going down this road since she was around 6 and has held these same traits since then. My parents and I have tried to talk & demonstrate to her is either brushed off or ignored. Here's a list of a few things she does or has done

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1. She constantly lies about small things

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2. She never takes accountability for her actions

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3. She's mean to her younger cousins & friends and regularly manipulates others

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4. She's been stealing our mom's vape and claims to have been using it since she was 10 (she uses the excuses "it's my body, what's it matter")

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5. Last year, she was found sneaking out to drink, do drugs, and have sex with her friends and boyfriend. My mom called the cops when she discovered her missing from her room at midnight and didn't answer her phone

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6. She's been hiding a a secret second phone where she's bad mouthing our parents to her friends, saying they're abusing her and talking about call CPS on them (they are not)

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7. She once told me she would accuse this nerdy kid at school of a horrible crime and have him arrested if he ever tried talking to her

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She's been doing all of this throughout the years, but her worst traits seemed to have developed around 8 or 9, and despite us trying to guide her out of those habits, she eventually continues

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My parents are still trying things to help her, but my sister is closed off with them and her, and therapy doesn't seem to help her in any noticable way. She doesn't like doing things or going out unless it's with friends, and she's constantly pushing us away, including any family activities or outings. I'm reaching out here to see if anyone might have solutions or ideas to get her in the right direction. I've done what I can as a brother but she won't listen to me either. I also live about 45 minutes from the family.

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Tl;dr: My sister has grown up to be a liar, manipulator, and a mean girl, as well as smoking, drinking, and having sex secretly behind our backs, and has been going down a dangeous road like her alcoholic bio mother and all attempts to reason with her have mostly been ignored

Basically, those minor annoances that get on your nervers to the point of nearly or fully going feral on the source of irritation.

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One of mine is when someone doesn't do something they're fully capable of doing but ignore it or pass on to someone else (sounds hyperspecific but happens all the time)

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Another is calling my name but not elaborating. You got my attention, now what? It's even worse when you call me over from far away.

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What are your ticks?

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Howdy! I'm trying to make up for lost time. Go to current for the reason I wrote this abomination of a text. I'm on mobile so that makes it worse.

Some Background Stuff

For 28 years I went undiagnosed, unmedicated, and underdeveloped. Because of these factors that I wasn't aware of growing up, I never used tools for my conditions or did things that would strengthen my cognitive development as I reached adulthood (quite the opposite in some cases). The biggest reason for this was my lack of reading.

To preface, I know how to read, it just exhausts me and I dont get anything out of it since I don't remember what I just read. In fact, there are countless factors for me not reading (including mandatory reading in school), but the biggest culprit was my attention span. Anytime I tried reading, I'd burnout real fast and either fall asleep or become a potato the rest of the day. It's the same reason I never watched movies or serialized tv: I just couldn't remember what I just saw.

Ironically, my grammar and spelling was relatively good, which allowed me to write coherently and get through school. A massive struggle of mine, both reading and vocally is structure. I often trail off or can't concisively summarize stuff. If you told me to read a passage from a book then tell you what it said, I would have a hard time or I might over explain parts I remember and meander on the parts I forgot.

All this to say, my comprehension skills suck and my reading and speaking skills suffer because of it.

The Current

Now, I'm diagnosed, medicated, and developing myself. I found a career I want to pursue, however it requires me to be able to read well and quickly. Practicing for this I've run into a consistent hiccup: line-skipping/line-merging. Despite weeks of practice I haven't been able to curb this one obstacle even a little (I have to read fast, so taking my time with words doesn't help me).

I noticed many of my friends who are also on the Spectrum/ADHD don't suffer as much from this as I do, and they've said they had similar issues in school but just got better over the years. This has led me to one solution: READING.

I talked to my Psychiatrist about reading and they told me that reading is the best way to wake up parts of the brain that have basically weakened or shut off due to lack of use, and that it would very much strengthen my cognitive functions. In fact, they recommend it.

So now I've set aside a whole week dedicated to just reading and getting a good habit going to wake up my brain. I'm hoping this helps with my goober brain, as well as my writing skills (and maybe I could finally start that story I've been writing for decades). I only wanted to share this. I don't even know who's going to read this wall of text, but thanks for reading I suppose.

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Shoutout to my peeps who read on the daily, you're my inspiration! ✌️

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Howdy all!

Situation: My roommate apparently got deleted from the Kroger database. He got hired two weeks ago for an overnight position at a Kroger different from mine and all of a sudden today he wasn't scheduled this week. He called and they told him he's just not in the system and he might have been deleted. The night manager is looking into it, but in the meantime he can't get hours or be scheduled anywhere. There's not even a trace of him working there. He lives with a roommate and Kroger is his only source of income.

What can he do in this situation?

Where did you get your information about autism?

I spent years trying to figure out my problems, looking through countless articles and sources to learn what I do about ADHD as that'swhat I blamed a lot of my cognitive issues on. Then I was diagnosed with Autism with ADHD. After that, I realized some symptoms I thought were from ADHD were more from autism. I want to learn more about my disorder but I don't want to search dozens of sites for Autism info. I'm hope someone has a couple of sources or a book I can use to get general or in-depth knowledge on the disorder

Howdy! I'm trying to learn how to communicate with others in my late 20s, making up for the past few decades of near silence. This is one of many hurdles.

Ever since getting medicated I've been able to properly communicate with other human beings! But I've constantly had to hold back what I say because I start talking or making a conversation about myself. It often comes off as self-indulgent or rude, making me sound like a selfish jerk, especially when I'm talking about more serious topics with someone.

I try to limit how much I monologue, but when I run out of things to say, that's when the unsolicited speech rolls in. It even starts happening when I comment on posts here, which leads me to just not commenting or posting often.

Is this normal for AuDHD? Am I just inherently a jerk? Is it all in my head?

Anyone who's seen Dragonball Z and Dragonball Super might understand what I mean.

For all my life, I worked hard to train my brain to work at the same level as others. I went 150% in school in order to barely edge out a win against every test and obstacle in my way!

At one point, I was struggling really bad, my grades were at the lowest they'd ever been, I'd reach an enemy of phenomenal strength. My parents offered me a solution, medication to help with my mental weaknesses. Me, being a naive teen, instead chose to fight on with my own smarts! Through blood, sweat, and tears I studied against my deficiencies and turned things around to pass that course and all the others!

Fast-forward to now, I've been locked in battle with my greatest foe yet: life. This enemy has halted my progress entirely. No matter what advice and aid my allies and family gave me. Seeing no other option, I got a diagnosis and was prescribed medication to help me deal with these insurmountable odds.

With newfound power, I began chipping away at life, I've never felt this much confidence in my abilities, but there's this air of melancholy; I spent so much of my life doing this naturally but now I have to rely on artificial means to get by. It makss me feel like a little inadequate, like my best was never enough. But after a meeting with my therapist I realized that the medication isn't changing me, it's bring out my potential, unlocking my brain, unleashing what was already there. With that, I accept this new power and will continue to train with it, slowly pounding away at life.

This was a dumb analogy lol 🫠

"You will suffer as I, Ramattra, have suffered! Your torment will outlast the stars! When the universe dwindles into dust, there you will be, still suffering as I have...suffered." ~Chef Ram

I keep thinking back to the most recent Overwatch April Fool's patch and thinking of all of the memorable lines spoken in the game. What's your favorite so far?

Saying the right thing is important to me, which is why I have so much difficulty speaking to others. Sometimes, it feels like the words I want to say don't come to me when I need it, it leads to word vomit or walls of text I never intended, either irl or online.

An even worse problem is the length of time it takes to say what I want to say. Awkward pauses, uh's & umm's, nervous chuckles, time wasting phrases, anything to give my brain more time to think of the next thing to say.

Even when I write or text something, the words that I need often don't come to me naturally (even if I know or have used the word before) and it leaves my writings bloated with definitions of words rather than the actual word; it always leads to me taking ages to get everything right.

This has been an issue plaguing me all my life, making relationships, friendships, and "family"ships a living nightmare to navigate. Not sure if I need advice or if I just needed to vent, but thanks to all who read this

Howdy! To preface, I'm not the smartest or most savvy when it comes to hacking, it's how I got here in the first place. Tldr at the bottom.

4 years ago, my old switch got banned. I set up my switch to hide from from Nintendo servers, but because it was my secondary switch (I had an OLED as my primary cause I afraid of an account ban) that I didn't have access to any DLC without connecting to Nintendo (something I didn't know I could've fixed at the time). I foolishly reconnected and immediately got banned. After that, I couldn't play any downloaded games, so I just used my unmodded OLED for the time.

Come to now, I recently hacked my Wii U and wanted to see if I could revive my old switch, but so far, with little luck.

I started over from scratch, downloaded the latest version of Atmosphere, Hekate, updated the console, all the bells and whistles. However, when I tried to boot up a game, it always tried linking to Nintendo servers, then would basically tell me the console was banned. I can't play any downloaded material nor physical games with DLC (they'd start up but never load the game). All the games on the Switch, I own.

I've looked for workarounds but no luck so far.

- I launched the games in OFW with the same problems, not even physical games work, they just crash.

- I tried Airplane mode, but my console will tell me to turn off the mode to play anything.

- I tried looking downloading the DLC so my physical games would work, but the game crashes (this happens in OFW too)

- I tried using Tinfoil, but haven't been able to get it to work (apparently the latest Switch update broke it for a lot of people)

- I tried reformatting the SD and downgrading, but that didn't work.

If there was a way to bypass this check, I think I could use this switch again.

I miss playing modded versions of my games, but if I can't play them anymore, I could live with that.

Tldr: my old non-primary modded switch got banned and I can't play anything no matter how many methods I try. Is there a way for it not to check if I own my games/DLC and just let me play these games or if there was a way to make it the primary switch again?