u/Adventurous_Two_6857

I recently attended a miqaat, and afterwards, I was sitting with a few of my friends in the masjid compound just having a good time.... Out of nowhere, this Aamil saheb came over and told us to come inside... My friends, being pretty religious, basically dragged me along to sit and listen to the sabak... the session was focused almost entirely on sex education, specifically targeting masturbation to start off... It began with the topic of janabat and ehtelam, where the janab went into full detail listing out various horrific "azaabs" for masturbation, which apparently depended on the different locations where the act was committed...But then he shifted the discussion to zina (adultery/fornication), and that's where things took a totally bizarre turn...He told the room that for a woman, simply looking at a man and imagining things is counted as zina, along with making some absurd claims about physical intimacy during periods... But when it came to men? He claimed that for a man, it only actually counts as zina if full penetration takes place...

I was sitting there completely dumbfounded, just thinking, "What the actual hell am I listening to?" The double standard was so outrageously misogynistic that I was ready to call him out and confront him right then and there... My friend caught on to my reaction and quickly stopped me before I could say anything. Honestly, I couldn't bear to sit through another second of that brainwashing and hypocrisy... So, the moment he paused his speech to answer an incoming phone call, I stood straight up and walked right out in front of his face. The whole experience left such a bad taste in my mouth, and it's crazy to me that people are sitting in these spaces listening to this kind of logic without batting an eye.

Recently, my GF took me to a house party at her friend's place, and I bumped into an old college batchmate there.

While catching up, I found out that she also happened to be my girlfriend's classmate during 11th and 12th standard.

Since we were meeting after ages, we exchanged numbers, but when I introduced her to my GF, my GF looked surprised, almost shocked... They had this awkward handshake, and my batchmate left the party shortly after.

This happened last Saturday. Today, I met her again after office hours because, she works in the same building as me. We decided to grab some snacks and have a quick catch-up session.

Naturally, I couldn't resist asking her why things were so weird and awkward between her and my GF at the party.

She tried avoiding the question at first, but after a bit of prodding, she finally opened up and told me not to tell my gf that she told me this.

She told me that back in school, my girlfriend and three of her friends had brutally bullied a fellow classmate... it all started because that girl made some comment about my GF during a game.

In retaliation, they made that poor girl's life a living hell...locking her in the washroom, filing fake complaints against her to the teachers, and completely excluding her from group projects.

It got so bad that days before the final exams, my GF tore the girl's clothes and touched her inappropriately, on top of spreading disgusting rumors about her.

The girl they targeted was the only child of a single mother, and she was too terrified to complain to anyone. After a full year of this non-stop torture, she just left the school entirely, and my GF never faced a single consequence for what she did.

I was honestly speechless... I had originally planned on inviting her over to our place for dinner, but after hearing that, the words just swallowed in my throat..

We somehow ended the conversation on a lighter note and said goodbye, but this has been on my mind the whole day .. I don't even know how to process this or what to do with this kind of information..

Pata hai aaj kya hua ....Following the day my friends confronted me about my GF's behaviour and demanded she apologise... Yesterday, while I was at work, my GF called and asked me to come over afterward so we could go for a long drive since the weather in the city was amazing...

I agreed, and once we got back to the flat, I asked her if she had spoken to any of our friends recently. She said, "No, why would I?" before walking into the kitchen... I followed her inside, playfully picked her up, and carried her to the couch.

She was laughing and in a really great mood, so I thought this was the safest time to gently bring it up. After some light talking I asked her, "Do you actually have Miss A's nudes on your phone, and are you really threatening her?" Her face went cold.

I immediately tried to soften the situation, telling her I wasn't judging her for what she said in the heat of the moment, but that threatening to leak photos was way too extreme.

I told her that Miss A was crying her eyes out and even threatening suicide, and that since I had already cleared the misunderstanding from my end, they should talk it out and at least be mutual friends. That’s when my GF snapped and said, "You don't know anything about her...I have endured so much, and only after that did I lash out."

She then said some things i had absolutely no clue about. She told me that 8 months ago, back in her hometown girl group, Miss A was openly spreading rumors that she and I were sleeping together.

Apparently, Miss A was saying duriing a game that I would leave my girlfriend for her shortly, and she was even comparing photos of me with my GF versus photos of me with her, making fun of my girlfriend.

When my GF found out back then, they had an ugly back-and-forth, but Miss A eventually apologised and brushed it off as a joke....and since Miss A has a reputation for pulling extreme pranks and being loudspoken, they eventually patched up.

I never knew any of this because I was travelling for work at the time... But it didn't stop there. My GF told me that two months ago, when our group went to a farmhouse, I had passed out drunk, and Miss A literally came and slept on my lap. When my GF saw it in the morning, she pulled her away.....

And my GF says that Miss A actually has nude pics of me that she took while I was passed out drunk. She said Miss A constantly invades my personal space and makes her feel like a total loser and left out when the three of us are together. On top of that, her own friends have been making smirking comments to her, teasing her about how close Miss A and I look.

My GF started sobbing pretty badly, so I just held her close and comforted her. She said that ever since their massive fight last week, she has finally felt relaxed and at ease for the first time in months, and she suggested we spend more quality time together.

After things got romantic between us and she calmed down, I quietly asked her again if she actually had Miss A’s nudes. She said yes, she does, and she keeps them like an insurance because of the kind of person Miss A is.

She then spent some time bitching about her, making digs at Miss A's figure, femininity, and hair, while I just sat there and listened until she got tired and went to sleep...

Once she was out, I checked my phone and saw messages from our group asking how we were, if I had spoken to her, and if we could all plan an outing for today. I just left them on read. Today, my GF and I went out for a day trip just the two of us, and, we had an amazing time.

She has been so lively and happy today, and I genuinely love seeing her like this. I haven't blocked Miss A yet because I feel it would be rude, so I'm just ignoring her for now, even though she’s still sending me Reels on Insta. I have no idea what to do in the future... But as of now I can see my gf is happy.

This is what happened before - https://www.reddit.com/r/PataHaiAajKyaHua/s/OOrl3Vcino

Pata hai aaj kya hua ... So a few days back my girlfriend saw me with her best friend (Miss A) in an awkward position in the middle of the night. ( can read what happened in my previous post ). Following that, my GF and I had a patch-up, and things were good between us, but her relationship with Miss A completely fell apart.

My GF strictly told me not to call, text, or pick up Miss A's calls, even though I wanted them to patch up and clear the misunderstanding.... today, around 5:30 PM, I suddenly get a call from Miss A... I ignored it and kept my phone on silent, but after a few minutes, I saw there were 8 missed calls from her.

Thinking it must be a major emergency, I couldn't resist and picked up. She told me she was at the dentist, her UPI wasn't working, and she urgently needed some cash. I told her to send the QR code and I paid.

She called me again after some time to say she’d pay me back as soon as her UPI started working, and then asked how my GF was doing.

I said she’s fine, and just in the flow of the conversation, I asked her, ... "What exactly happened between you two?" She went completely silent for like 10 seconds, then just said that it’s nothing much, my GF just has a misunderstanding, and asked me not to tell my GF that she had called.

I agreed and told her it’s better for the mental peace of all three of us...A little later, I got a call from a male friend in our group to hang out at our usual shawarma spot. I agreed, but when I arrived, three of our friends were already there...only my girlfriend was missing.

I sat down and asked what the scene was and why we were all gathered. That’s when they dropped a bomb on me. They told me my GF has serious anger issues, and apparently, during that last phone fight, she said some really nasty, disgusting stuff to Miss A...things even men don’t say to each other.

Miss A had recorded the entire 1.5-hour conversation. We are a group of 5 friends...two couples and Miss A (3F, 2M)...and on the day of the fight, Miss A had actually called the other female friend in our group and saying that she'll commit s*icide.

That friend rushed over, calmed her down, and ended up staying the night so Miss A wouldn't self-harm. Miss A showed her the whole recording, and they brought her bf into the loop too. Our friends told me that - we know she's your girlfriend, but you need to see her flaws and correct her...

and insisted that my GF needs to apologize to Miss A. Initially, I refused and defended her, saying my GF had also cried a lot and it wouldn't look right for me to demand an apology. But then, they made me listen to the entire recording and showed me the texts.

And i didn't believe it, but at one point, my GF literally claimed she has Miss A's nudes and threatened to leak them online if Miss A ever contacted me again. I was shocked to the core. I have never, ever seen this side of my girlfriend... I’m back home now, completely numb, and I don’t even know how to process this or if I should confront her..

This is what happened originally - https://www.reddit.com/r/PataHaiAajKyaHua/s/Ugf1q9ZaH6

And this the day after - https://www.reddit.com/r/PataHaiAajKyaHua/s/5sVKbjSEqD

Pata hai aaj kya hua..So yesterday night my girlfriend saw me and her best friend in an awkward position when I was just helping her friend cook a midnight snack in the kitchen. Her friend was a little drunk and leaned in on me, and my girlfriend had been completely ignoring me ever since.

On top of that, her best friend wasn't picking up my calls either. Today, my GF came back to my place and straight up asked me what exactly happened last night between me and her best friend.

I told her clearly that it was absolutely nothing, her friend was just too drunk and came really close, and the whole thing was just a huge misunderstanding.

But then She said this wasn't the first time she’s seen me and her friend in an awkward position, and she even brought up a photo she has of me carrying her friend back when she had broken her leg. She told me she had a long talk with her best friend today and they’ve had a major fallout.

She was crying the whole morning and was saying some really bad words about her friend..honestly, I was shocked to hear that kind of language from her.

Then she asked if I had anything going on with her friend, or if I liked her. I swore to her that I only ever saw her as a friend and nothing more. She was crying so much, and after I finally managed to calm her down, we ended up making love.

While we were talking, she made me take 5-6 "kasams" about everything. I tried telling her to patch up and talk to her best friend, but she outright refused, saying they had a really nasty back-and-forth on the phone.

She said if her friend comes to her with an apology, she might accept it, but she will absolutely not initiate the conversation. They have even blocked each other now.

To make things worse, she strictly told me also not to call or text her friend anymore. We are a tight group of 5 friends, and now the entire group is going to suffer the consequences of their fallout. I’m just glad my GF is ok but there are tentions in the friend group and i don't know how can I handle it..?

Pata hai aaj kya hua ...We had some friends over at our place last night for dinner to finalise a three-day hiking trip we’d planned for this Friday, Saturday, and Sunday...After having dinner, we played board games, dumb charades, and never have I ever, and everyone was in full mood.

My girlfriend’s best friend (let’s call her Miss A) was also there. She has this habit of trying to play pranks on me and can get a little too touchy sometimes..but I usually just ignore it. By around 12:00 AM, three of our friends were fully tight, including Miss A.

Two of them managed to leave, but Miss A insisted on crashing at our place for the night. My GF agreed, so I took a sheet and went to sleep in the hall.

Around 3:00 AM, Miss A came outside and asked if there was anything to eat. I told her we have pasta packets and she could cook them if she wanted. She asked me to help her out a bit so she could just eat and go back to sleep. I said okay and went into the kitchen to give her the pan and utensils.

Suddenly, she came from behind, put her hand firmly on my shoulder, and leaned right into me. I could totally smell her breath. I was completely taken aback, and the exact second I caught her and made her stand properly on her feet, I looked up and my GF was standing right there in the hall, just staring at us...

I immediately looked at my GF and said, "teri dost ne zyada peeli hai." She didn't say a single word; she just walked over, caught Miss A by the arm, and took her inside the bedroom. I felt so weird and guilty for no reason, so I ended up making the pasta anyway and tried to open the bedroom door to give it to them, but it was locked from inside.

I told my GF through the door that the pasta is ready, and she just coldly said "khud khaa lo." After waiting around for a bit with a heavy stomach, I just ate the pasta alone and went to sleep. I woke up today late around 11:30 AM and asked my GF about her friend, and she flatly told me she left early in the morning.

When I asked her to pack for the trip, she said she’s not in the mood to go, and told me, "If you want to go, then go." Because of this, the whole plan fell apart. We had already pre-paid for the travel, and now all our friends are blaming me for the financial loss incurred.

Miss A is not picking up my calls, and my GF has been completely ignoring me and giving me the silent treatment the whole day. I am feeling helpless because I literally don't know what happened and I honestly don't know what I should do now.

Pata hai aaj kya hua ...We had some friends over at our place last night for dinner to finalise a three-day hiking trip we’d planned for this Friday, Saturday, and Sunday...After having dinner, we played board games, dumb charades, and never have I ever, and everyone was in full mood.

My girlfriend’s best friend (let’s call her Miss A) was also there. She has this habit of trying to play pranks on me and can get a little too touchy sometimes..but I usually just ignore it. By around 12:00 AM, three of our friends were fully tight, including Miss A. Two of them managed to leave, but Miss A insisted on crashing at our place for the night.

My GF agreed, so I took a sheet and went to sleep in the hall. Around 3:00 AM, Miss A came outside and asked if there was anything to eat. I told her we have pasta packets and she could cook them if she wanted. She asked me to help her out a bit so she could just eat and go back to sleep.

I said okay and went into the kitchen to give her the pan and utensils. Suddenly, she came from behind, put her hand firmly on my shoulder, and leaned right into me. I could totally smell her breath. I was completely taken aback, and the exact second I caught her and made her stand properly on her feet, I looked up and my GF was standing right there in the hall, just staring at us.

I immediately looked at my GF and said, "teri dost ne zyada peeli hai." She didn't say a single word.. she just walked over, caught Miss A by the arm, and took her inside the bedroom. I felt so weird and guilty for no reason, so I ended up making the pasta anyway and tried to open the bedroom door to give it to them, but it was locked from inside. I told my GF through the door that the pasta is ready, and she just coldly said "khud khaa lo." After waiting around for a bit with a heavy stomach, I just ate the pasta alone and went to sleep.

I woke up today late around 11:30 AM and asked my GF about her friend, and she flatly told me she left early in the morning. When I asked her to pack for the trip, she said she’s not in the mood to go, and told me, "If you want to go, then go." Because of this, the whole plan fell apart. We had already pre-paid for the travel, and now all our friends are blaming me for the financial loss incurred...

Miss A is not picking up my calls, and my GF has been completely ignoring me and giving me the silent treatment the whole day. I am feeling helpless because I literally don't know what happened and I honestly don't know what I should do now.

I’m still trying to process what happened last week, and I just need to get this off my chest because I haven't stopped overthinking it. I’m a 26M, and I matched with this woman on Hinge this weekend who was in her early thirties. Her bio literally said "single... looking for a long-term relationship.".. She looked younger than her age, so I swiped, we matched, and we ended up going on a horror movie date. The chemistry was good...throughout the movie, we had our hands all over each other and spent the entire second half making out in the theater. After it ended, we went to a cafe for dinner, and the vibe was still there. She straight-up asked me if I had plans for the rest of the night. I told her I had a friend staying over at my place so we couldn't go there, but asked if we could head back to her place instead. What she said next completely paralyzed me. She just casually smiled and said, "My mother-in-law wouldn't allow it."

I literally froze and made her repeat herself, thinking it was some kind of joke...it wasn't. She calmly explained that she’s been married for just eight months...Her husband is in the merchant navy, he’s gone for months at a time, and she just gets bored alone. Apparently, going on dating apps and meeting new people is one of her favorite hobbies. I asked her how she could do that to her husband, and she just brushed it off like it was normal. She told me all her friends do this even after getting married..claiming one of her friends hooks up with randoms every week and stays in touch with all her exes while her husband works in the Middle East. I asked if she felt any guilt about this... and she just said that whenever her husband is back home, she ignores everyone else and is only with him. Sitting across from her, I was genuinely taken aback and disturbed by the whole mindset... My parents have been pressuring me to get married lately, but this whole incident has made me genuinely terrified of the entire concept of marriage. I'm completely over trying to find a partner in a metro city. I honestly feel like if I ever want a genuine marriage, I’m going to have to find someone from a small town where the concept of commitment actually still exists...at least that's what I believe.

Hello.. I’m just a 26-year-old guy sharing a piece of my life that I’m not exactly proud of, in the hopes that it helps someone else struggling in the dark. Ten years ago, I was just an ordinary kid who loved sports and hitting the gym, but that was also the exact year I discovered porn. On the surface, everything seemed fine...I started dating at 19 and had my first real relationship. But when we broke up a year later, the floor fell out from under me. I spiraled hard into a heavy, compulsive addiction to porn and masturbation. It got to a point where I was jerking off three times a day, chasing increasingly disturbing categories just to feel something. A year into that fog, a buddy of mine threw me a lifeline, asking me to move to a new city for a solid job he found for both of us. I thought a fresh start would fix me, but the addiction just mutated. Saturdays became a blur of hitting clubs and hooking up with strangers...mostly older, married women in their thirties. It was empty. We’d have sex, they’d leave in the morning, and even though they were beautiful, the vibe always felt heavy, almost sinister ( for the lack of a better word )... I was so trapped in my own head that I’d even find myself masturbating to their pictures the very next night.

That exhausting, toxic cycle ran my life for two straight years, until a 14-day vacation with my family forced a hard reset. I was miles away from my usual triggers, I didn't fap or look at porn once....Honestly? It was one of the best, most clear-headed trips of my life. I’d heard of the NoFap before, but experiencing that mental clarity made it click. I decided to stick with the streak, turning to intense gym sessions and long runs whenever the urges started crawling back. By day 56, everything shifted. I met a girl at work who completely threw me off. She carried this grounded, strong, yet deeply feminine energy that I couldn't explain. When she asked me to grab lunch, we ended up talking for hours. For the first time in as long as I could remember, I wasn't looking at a woman through a lens of lust. She was gorgeous, but I was just captivated by her personality and who she was as a person.

A month ago, I finally gathered the nerve to ask her to be my girlfriend, and she said yes. We went to a bar to celebrate, and making love at home afterward... man, it was one of the absolute highlights of my life. It was so raw, passionate, and genuinely good that it hit me how much I had been numbing myself for years...I honestly didn’t think I was capable of feeling that kind of pure happiness anymore. I’m so incredibly grateful for where I am right now, and I truly believe in my gut that she’s the one I’m going to marry. I’m not saying any of this to brag. I’m saying it because if you’re currently trapped in that cycle, feeling hollow, and looking for real depth in your life, you owe it to yourself to try this path... Just give it one real shot. It completely rewired how I see the world, and I’m a totally different man because of it.

I'm a 26M corporate guy working at an MNC in Mumbai, pulling in 1.8L a month in hand, hitting the gym and boxing ring 5 days a week, and I'm in pretty good shape. On paper, this is everything I wanted.. the job, the money, the physique. But something feels deeply off and I genuinely don't know what to do about it.

My weekends basically run on autopilot... I get on Bumble/Hinge, set up dates for Saturday and Sunday, go out for half the day, come home, have sex, and then just... feel completely hollow. What used to feel like my dream life now just feels like a loop I can't break out of. I have zero motivation to chase a promotion. My parents are financially self-sufficient so I don't even have that pressure pushing me forward. I mostly spend on expensive perfumes, watches, supplements, and the occasional date. I've even had girls over for a full week thinking a relationship might fix this.. tried having a girlfriend too.. but that didn't move the needle either. Mondays feel like a curse and I spend the entire week just surviving until the next weekend.

I know I can't live like this forever and that thought scares me more than anything. I'm not depressed in the clinical sense (at least I don't think so?), but the emptiness after every "good" weekend is getting harder to ignore. Has anyone been through something like this? Is this just a phase, or is there something fundamentally missing that I need to figure out? Genuinely looking for advice, not just the usual "find a hobby" type advice..