u/Afraid-Awareness21

Hopefully an advertisement like this is allowed here, apologies if not!

We're focused on providing a space for disabled, neurodiverse, and LGBTQ+ mmorpg players which is both accommodating and affirming. We're focused around art and nature, and their mental and emotional healing properties.

My goal is to gather folks who struggles in the group aspects of MMORPGs, and give people like us a space to come together and do content both casual and hardcore with people who are just like us and who Get It. This can include feeling like an inconvenience or burden due to not being ab;e to play like an abled person, not wanting to face discrimination or slurs like the r-slur or transphobia, not being able to maintain a strict schedule due to medical or mental health stuff.

Discord is out main communication hub. This space is not just one FC/Guild sectioned off to one server. You are welcome into the space regardless which server you're on, and which FC or Guild you're in within any given MMORPG.

There's a couple accessibility bots already, such as Text-to-Speech, Speech-to-Text for voice chat, and PluralKit for Systems and people with Alters. I welcome any further suggestions to make it as accessible as I can to a variety of people.

Right now, our main game is FFxiv, on the Kraken server (Dynamis NA). We also have Brynhildr, and Balmung just opened up. Roleplay will be opening up this winter along with the final FC on Mateus.

We do have a Guild in WoW (America), but right now not many people are playing. We plan to eventually expand to Classic, Anniversary, and Forever. Black Desert PC is also an option but at the moment I'm the only one who plays, lol.

At the moment I'm reaching out to find more folks, we do casual stuff in XIV and my events leader has been running an EVA watch party leading up to Evercold. One of our members would like to put together a static of Disabled and ND players!

I will be hosting more low energy events like parallel play, watch parties, dance gatherings with music and giveaways, and party games over the cold months as those tend to be when the SAD kicks in and chronic pain flares up.

If there are any other Disabled communities in MMORPGs, you are also welcome to reach out about partnerships.

https://discord.gg/qWej6eXtvH

(hello to the spam bots that will inevitably join by posting here)

Lodestone pages for FFxiv
Kraken: https://na.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodestone/community_finder/78cb68b4cfded846725c3aab509d834be5335178/
Brynhildr: https://na.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodestone/community_finder/7406fb86dae87d7ad789141a76907f44c5a22ccb/
Balmung: https://na.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodestone/community_finder/92ff03c304ab61a8a150ffc62b0b79594c330832/

We're of course a progressive space. We forbid AI. Each month has a space to celebrate a different marginalized group, such as Pride month in June, Disability Pride Month in July, and Indigenous Heritage Month in November. I myself am a mixed-race FtM androgyne, with Autism and Stickler Syndrome.

I live in a manufactured home park in Northampton and have 0 income due to being disabled and fighting for SSI.

I was paying 25$ every 2 weeks for simple lawn mowing and trim from a high school grad in the park, then this year he got a new job so I had to find someone on Clist in a pinch, who did it for 30$.

Just got a text that he'll no longer be able to do it bi-weekly because it messes with his business schedule, and it would move to every week for 25$. This would end up bumping my lawn care cost by 40$/mo for a total of 100$/mo. Unfortunately I can't afford this at all. I have 200$ to my name to last the rest of the year and will already have to borrow from my partner to make it to January.

I know shit's only getting more expensive due to the dog vomit slime mold in the white house, but I'm hoping I can find someone who is able to do it for about the same amount- at least until lawn season this year is over.

If I can find a lawn person who is as excited about native and naturalized plants as I am and isn't just part of the system that reinforces monoculture lawns to mimic Bri'ish royalty, I will insist on both keeping their services and also giving them plants and seeds and garden veggies. I have a pink princess philo baby and a handful of other things which can be propped. This is not in lieu of proper payment this is a "thank you for not wanting to kill my Philadelphia Fleabane and Indian Tobacco. Here's my emotional support Virginia Creeper, we can boo and hiss at the Amur Honeysuckle in my neighbor's yard".

Ordinary Lawn People can still apply, of course.

We'd schedule a time for them to come see the yard before agreeing to anything.

Thanks in advance!

Recently 37, I have Stickler Syndrome which is a connective tissue birth defect where my body doesn't produce necessary collagens. I was told by the Marfan Foundation to get a DEXA scan.

My mother also had multiple fights with leukemia around my age, but I'm not sure if there's any possible risk factors there.

The results listed me as male, but I'm not sure if my scores are being compared to M or F since I'm transgender and often times labs go by my birth gender (F), nor how this potentially affects the metrics (like should it be measuring me against cis men, cis women, or a secret third thing). I will be talking to my endo about it too.

Lumbar spine (L1-4)
BMD 0.880 g/cm2
T-score -1.5
PR 84.0%

Hip (Femoral neck and total hip)
Neck BMD 0.606
T-score -2.2
PR 71.0%

Hip 0.801
T-score -1.2
PR 85.0%

Impression: Osteopenia of the lumbar spine and left femoral neck corresponding to increased fracture risk

I'm sure I'll get a call from my PCP about the results later today, and he may shoot me back to orthopedics or possibly to rheumatology. Either way, I want to make sure I'm armed with information because so many doctors are unfamiliar with Stickler and the special considerations we need.

Thanks in advance!

I've been looking to get FMS (Facial Masculinization Surgery) for a while, but I'm struggling to find surgeons who do it, AND are in my state, AND take Medicaid. The only one that shows up on trans surgeon directories is a certain infamous surgeon whose surname begins with an R and ends with a Medical Malpractice.

I have 0 income while fighting for SSI, so travel is not an option unless it were covered somehow which I don't think Medicaid is fancy enough to do. The most I could swing is staying with a friend in Phoenix AZ or Fullerton CA but I wouldn't have a mean to travel.

I also want jaw surgery for a recessed jaw and Obstructive Sleep Apnea. So my questions are:

1. Has anyone else been in this situation trying to get WPATH-based gender-affirming surgery on Medicaid, and how were you able to get your surgery covered when no surgeons in network (or state) provide that procedure?
2. Would it be viable to seek out orthognathic surgeons that don't specifically advertise FMS/FFS and see if they're able to do what I need, or is that too big of a risk if they're not versed in how to create a masculine look or WPATH?
3. Equally, what if I looked up surgeons that list FFS, is it possible they could still do FMS? Because there's 2 somewhat locally (Dr. Hamidian-Jahromi at Temple and Dr. Katherine Rose at Main Line Health).
4. If there's a better sub to ask this question, please point me there!

Thanks in advance.

I'm on my second round of trying to get SSI, looking for reliable and attentive disability lawyers. I used North Penn Legal Services in Bethlehem last time, but the paralegal I was assigned really dropped the ball and seemed to have some other shit going on.

I have a complex case due to a rare degenerative condition, as well as mental health stuff. I'm on yr2 of fighting.

I tried Lori Mancini but got declined (I might try again now that I'm further along in the re-application). I'm looking for local lawyers and organizations only from the ABE or surrounding counties. I'm in Northampton County.

Thanks in advance!

Not asking for a diagnosis. I'm waiting to see my psych again and my therapist is currently out recovering from a procedure.

I have never been much of a social butterfly and tend to keep a few close friends rather than a large group of acquaintances and casual friends.

More recently I've been noticing that I've become far more withdrawn than I ever have been. I've had a couple people offer to come visit me, and I just never acknowledge the statement or get back to them on that, even if I think about or daydream the visits. There's people I want to message, message back, or call and I just haven't, for months even if its something I need to do. There's someone in my local sub struggling with homelessness who I've thought about reaching out to and offering some help, but I just don't end up doing it and I get stressed out more and more when I see him posting about issues I feel like I could solve.

I have AuDHD, I have PTSD and GAD. I know AuDHD causes problems with executive dysfunction, as well as Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, which could be a factor. My avoidance of social relationships seems to have really worsened after significant social trauma in 2018 and 2024, and could be a result of the PTSD and GAD. I don't get anxiety symptoms about reaching out I just... don't do it. Almost like there's a pyshical block more than consciously mental. Whether or not it's brought on by something subconscious from the trauma or something else, I'm not sure.

I have plenty of friends online who I speak to, an LDR partner of several years, and in person I have my surrogate mom and her son who is another long-time friend, so it's not total self-isolation.

This will be brought up with my therapist and psychiatrist once I'm able. But for now, I'd ideally like to figure out some sort of coping mechanism so that I stop avoiding these social things.

Does anyone experience something similar, where you're not completely avoiding social situations to the point one having nobody in your life, but new or in-person socialization seems to bring on a passive, non-anxiety kind of avoidance?

I saw the thumbnail and thought of her. I apparently was 100% correct.

Some things to start:

1. I'm disabled and have very little income, so splurging on an iPhone even 12 and lower at refurb/used is something I'd like to avoid.

2. I wear glasses with a noticeable concave due to very high astigmatism. I've read that anything other than iphones can struggle with eye tracking through glasses, and not wearing them isn't an option. I'm extra concerned the shape of my lenses will worsen the issue.

With that said, I've searched in this sub and info on Android seems to largely say that you can use MeowFace and similar apps but they're all inferior to the iPhones. This doesn't really matter to me as I'm not looking for the highest tech for extreme expressiveness, like I don't care about cheek puffing or anything like that- just accurate eyeball and eyelid tracking, lip movement and positioning, face position, and eyebrow expression.

Howeverrrrr I don't want to screw myself over when it comes to the glasses issue. So I guess- does anyone who has glasses (especially folks with unusual prescriptions) have experience using things other than an iPhone for tracking, and what are your experiences?

Here's the other thing: I'm using a Lenovo Legion 7i gen9, which ofc has a built-in webcam. Ideally, since it's still a laptop, I'd like to offload some of the processing using a phone as my camera and tracking. I'm not sure if this will even matter considering it's fairly new and Vtubing isn't, so people have Vtubed perfectly fine on older hardware.
specs:
https://www.lenovo.com/us/en/p/laptops/legion-laptops/legion-7-series/legion-7i-gen-9-16-inch-intel/len101g0037#tech_specs

If my onboard camera will be better and my CPU and GPU can handle everything through the laptop itself, I don't want to spend more on a phone that will just be redundant or worse. So, am I able to use what I've got, and not bother factoring Vtubing into my phone choice?

And with those two questions, if I should go the route of factoring Vtubing in**, what Android phone models or what sort of specs should I look for in choosing an Android phone that can handle the load of being my camera and mocap device, without turning into a spicy poptart or crashing, etc?**

Sorry that's a lot lol, I just want to make an educated decision and properly allocate my finances. Thanks!

I was using the Lifeline program, with Safelink as my provider. My old phone wouldn't work with their SIM so I had them send me one of their free phones (a crappy MotoG Play) back in late 2023.

In July of last year, I had a legal name change. I changed my name on Lifeline when recertifying, but Safelink listed my service as Cancelled. When I contacted support, this told me I would need to re-apply. When I did so, and put in the MotoG Play's IMEI, it returned and error, which the Safelink customer service person told me was because the IMEI on that phone is registered to my old name.

I figured I'd ask here before spending money I can't afford on /another/ whole new phone, because while I know the IMEI data is an identifier of sorts, I would figure that a whole phone turning into a fancy brick over a legal name change is kind of absurd. Most places I reported the change to just wanted to see the stamped court order.

Should I try to get a different customer service person, or am I SoL?

Thanks!

My grandparents set up an irrevocable Trust in 1989 when I was born, with me as the sole beneficiary. The Trustee is in independent CFP.

In recent months, communicating with her about the Trust has been extremely difficult. I've had problems with political ideology, patronization, and downright illiteracy. I'm disabled fighting for SSI so while the Trust doesn't have a whole lot (my grandparents were frugal, not rich), my life expenses currently are either welfare, or Trust.

I have never received any of the legal documentation about the Trust to know what my rights are, if she's getting paid, if I can assign a new Trustee, etc. Most of the time if I ask any questions about the Trust I'm given very vague answers or complete non-answers.

While I appreciate what she's done to help me via the Trust so far, I'm getting tired of being treated like a child or having to tell her things multiple times because she seems to have 0 reading comprehension.

I would like to be able to find out my rights and if I can assign a new Trustee, but she's an independent practice so I don't know if there's a way to get that documentation aside from asking her directly.

Does anyone know if there's a way to get the legal paperwork from when the Trust was established and any other documentation without having to go to the Trustee?

Idk if it matters, but for a more specific location, Trust was established in Bucks County.