u/Agent-Fast

Hi all! Maybe I am grossly overthinking this but please clarify!

Should I attach and merge translations with the original document?

For example, when uploading my National Identity Card under "National Identity Card" of "Additional Supporting Documents", do i upload the original National Identity Card (in my mother tongue) merged with its translation into one continuous document?

OR

Should I only upload my original National Identity Card (in my mother tongue) and attach its Translation under the "Translations and Affidavit" of "Additional Supporting Documents"?

Until immigration pulls through, my husband and I are long distance on a 12 hour time difference. He works on a 15 day on/off shift (=15 days at work, then 15 days free at home).

The past two weeks have been hard for me since he was busy with his shift and after his shift, he visited his friend to work on a side business (he has been wanting to do that for a while).

We text back and forth consistently which is great. However, I prefer calls (he knows this) since i feel more connected. Although, we had calls every other day, i didnt feel emotionally satisfied because his attention was diverted. I was feeling lonely (i expressed it).

When he finally came back home, he was busy with family (his sister/nephews live with him plus his dad just landed to stay with him too). It is also the month of his mothers first death anniversary, mothers day. And he also has to respond to a major change in his work contract this month.

I felt starved of his connection. I texted him angrily about how he doesn't remember to call me. He said "What do i want", I said "A f***ing call". I reacted angrily (first time i swore) but not the first time I reacted this way. I have said mean things before. He is kind-hearted, it's not in his nature to speak unkindly, even when we argue.

After I said those things, I texted him "Dont message me".

day 1: We didn't message each other

day2 morning: I call him a couple of times, he didnt pick up. The he picked up and said "Lets talk later". I asked "Why". He said "Because I dont want to right now". My heart sunk.

day2night: I call couple of times again. No answer. I text him if hoping he's okay and has a lovely day. No answer.

day3 morning: I call him again. No answer. I text him "I am confused, why are you stonewalling me, please explain so i can understand". He replies "I am not game to be spoken with rudely. Period. It's been happening for a while. I am not willing to participate"

day3 night: I finally say "i hear you. i realize my words were hurtful and i am going to give you the space you asked for. i love you, and i am here when you feel ready" No reply.

day4: Radio silence

day5 morning: I send another text apologising for not being there for him during such stressful times + how i have been an added burden + how i want to do better + tell him im here when he wants to reach out. No reply.

day5 night: My anxiety hits the roof. I can not contain the silence anymore and i break. I send 4 texts of asking him to please talk to me. and also delete them when there is no response. he finally responds "Thank you" to my previous text. I ask him when can we talk. And he responds with date/time.

I spend the rest of the night in heartache. I dont know what to do or what to say on this call. I said something rude but he disappeared on my for the next five days of not knowing when he was coming back, if ever. Please help me ladies and brothers

My husband and I are long distance (12 hour time diff). He works on a 15 day on/off shift (=15 days at work, then 15 days free at home).

The past two weeks have been hard for me since he was busy with his shift and after his shift, he visited his friend to work on a side business (he has been wanting to do that for a while).

We text back and forth consistently which is great. However, I prefer calls (he knows this) since i feel more connected. We were not able to have calls during that time (probably 3-4 calls for 10 mins). I was feeling lonely (i expressed it).

When he finally came back home, he was busy with family (his sister/nephews live with him plus his dad just landed to stay with him too). It is also the month of his mothers first death anniversary. And he also has to respond to a major change in his work contract this month.

I felt starved of his connection. I texted him angrily about how he doesn't remember to call me. He said "What do i want", I said "A fucking call". This is the first time I have sworn in an argument. But it is not the first time I have reacted angrily when I am pissed. I have said mean things before. He is kind-hearted, it's not in his nature to speak unkindly, even when we argue.

After I said those things, I texted him "Dont message me". We didnt message each other for one day.

The next day, I called him a couple of times, he didnt pick up. The he picked up and said "Lets talk later". I asked "Why". He said "Because I dont want to right now". My heart sunk.

Next morning, I call couple of times again. No answer. I text him if hoping he's okay and has a lovely day. No answer.

Next day, I call him again. No answer. I text him "I am confused, why are you stonewalling me, please explain so i can understand". He replies "I am not game to be spoken with rudely. Period. It's been happening for a while. I am not willing to participate"

Then I finally say "i hear you. i realize my words were hurtful and i am going to give you the space you asked for. i love you, and i am here when you feel ready" No reply.

Now it has been the most dreadful 48 hours of my life. Radio silence. What do i do? Is my marriage over?

FYI: The information I am writing above (about all the things he is going through has only occurred to me in hindsight during this 48 hour radio silence, he only expressed the bit about being spoken to rudely).

My husband and I are long distance (12 hour time diff). He works on a 15 day on/off shift (=15 days at work, then 15 days free at home).

The past two weeks have been hard for me since he was busy with his shift and after his shift, he visited his friend to work on a side business (he has been wanting to do that for a while).

We text back and forth consistently which is great. However, I prefer calls (he knows this) since i feel more connected. We were not able to have calls during that time (probably 3-4 calls for 10 mins). I was feeling lonely (i expressed it).

When he finally came back home, he was busy with family (his sister/nephews live with him plus his dad just landed to stay with him too). It is also the month of his mothers first death anniversary. And he also has to respond to a major change in his work contract this month.

I felt starved of his connection. I texted him angrily about how he doesn't remember to call me. He said "What do i want", I said "A fucking call". This is the first time I have sworn in an argument. But it is not the first time I have reacted angrily when I am pissed. I have said mean things before. He is kind-hearted, it's not in his nature to speak unkindly, even when we argue.

After I said those things, I texted him "Dont message me". We didnt message each other for one day.

The next day, I called him a couple of times, he didnt pick up. The he picked up and said "Lets talk later". I asked "Why". He said "Because I dont want to right now". My heart sunk.

Next morning, I call couple of times again. No answer. I text him if hoping he's okay and has a lovely day. No answer.

Next day, I call him again. No answer. I text him "I am confused, why are you stonewalling me, please explain so i can understand". He replies "I am not game to be spoken with rudely. Period. It's been happening for a while. I am not willing to participate"

Then I finally say "i hear you. i realize my words were hurtful and i am going to give you the space you asked for. i love you, and i am here when you feel ready" No reply.

Now it has been the most dreadful 48 hours of my life. Radio silence. What do i do? Is my marriage over?

FYI: The information I am writing above (about all the things he is going through has only occurred to me in hindsight during this 48 hour radio silence, he only expressed the bit about being spoken to rudely).

 tl;dr long distance husband hasnt talked to me in 48 hours after i spoke rudely with him