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Oh my gosh. I’m 39 weeks pregnant today and will be honest I haven’t paid much attention to what I look like ~down there~ simply because I don’t want to know.

Well, today I looked and WTF? My whole butt crack/ hole, EVERYTHING is poop brown. Is this what my poor husband has been seeing when we have sex?????? Plz tell me this will go away lmaoooo

I am going to crawl in a hole now. I knew I shouldn’t have looked 🤣😩😩😩

As the title says I am 38 weeks and still don’t have a solid name for our baby lol. Middle name will be Marie after my grandmother.

I need all the help I can get. Here are some names we like but don’t love. Any suggestions are welcome!* *

Mya or Maya (my-uh)
Juliette
Sloane
Naomi - husband doesn’t really like
Charlotte - feel like it’s kind of overplayed but I still like it
Margot - husband isn’t sold

Help 😩

38 weeks today and I was asked at my OB appointment today if I had a birth plan.

I really don’t… the only “plan” I have is to go in there, get an epidural and hopefully have a smooth delivery. And I do want to delay cord clamp, but that’s all I got. It has me thinking though, am I being naive? Should I have more of a plan?

Kind of feel like I’m on baby’s time and whatever’s gonna happen is gonna happen so not sure what all I can even plan for lol. What’s on your birth plans??

This is a very niche question but would love some insight from pet owners who have gone through the spaying process.

So, my dog a 1.5 year old American Bully is due to get spayed on 8/7, and I am due to have my first baby on 8/21.

We rescued her about 4 months ago and I am getting worried she’ll be going into heat soon. We have a male dog at the house who is not fixed, so really trying to avoid that mess of keeping them separated and dealing with a dog period freshly postpartum if possible.

The timing is not ideal but due to a couple of setbacks, her surgery date was pushed out further than what was originally planned. We were really hoping to go ahead and get it done before baby comes so it’s one less thing to worry about.

Is this cutting it way too close? My worry is I’ll go into labor early and will have to rely on family to watch her. Which makes me feel bad because
A. I don’t want to put that on someone else and
B. Potentially stressing out my already stressed/ recovering dog

What kind of care will she require 1-2 weeks post op? Will she be mostly back to normal by then or am I cutting it way too close and just need to scratch the whole thing and wait?

Advice appreciated!

Hi friends,

I am 36 weeks this week and thinking about making some postpartum meal prep meals to make life a little easier on us. I don’t freeze anything l, like ever, so I really don’t know where to start.

What are some good, easy, won’t break the bank options? Is this something I really even need to do? I have never heard of this until like a month ago lol

Currently 35+3, and the past couple of days I have noticed my baby’s movement have changed. I don’t think I would call it a decrease in movement necessarily, but the movements have changed and feel lighter/ less strong than they usually do. She has never really had a “pattern” in terms of her movement, some days are slow, some days she’s wiggling all day long. So it’s hard to know what’s normal and what’s not at this point.

My last appointment was Monday 7/13 and everything looked good, HR was 150 and measuring on track according to my doctor.

Is it possible she has just changed positions or something? I feel anxious

FTM due in about a month. I’m very excited but also starting to get really nervous about all the unknowns and changes about to happen. I’m nervous about the baby obviously but also nervous on how it is going to affect my relationship. I see horror stories all the time about people hating their spouses after having a child.

With that said, what is the best piece of advice that you as a new parent would offer another new parent?

I am 32 weeks pregnant with my first. Going to the beach in 2 weeks (yay 🙄 regretting agreeing to that right about now) On top of the fact that it’s going to be miserably hot and how extremely pregnant I’m going to be- I Just tried on some bathing suit’s I bought online and they’re soooooo bad.

I’ve gained about 31 pounds so far and lemme tell ya, you can definitely tell when I put these swimsuits on!

Boobs? Huge. Stretch marks that I didn’t have before? Oh yeahhhhhhh all over my thighs and butt. Everything about all of it is so unflattering. I thought I might be one of those girls who look cute in a bathing suit pregnant… absolutely not, I think that stage ended about 8 weeks ago

Anyways just needed to get that off my chest. Pregnancy is not for the weak!! Haha

FTM due August 23rd!

How often are you having people over to see your baby and how soon after birth did you let people visit?

I want to set boundaries with visitors but also want to be realistic as I know we have a lot of family and friends that are excited and will want to come over. What are some rules and boundaries you have in place that allows for a good balance?

I could go weeks without seeing people outside of my household and be totally okay with it but I don’t want to feel like I’m being unreasonable, especially with family. I have an overbearing MIL who I am worried about the most- if she had it her way she would be over every single day to see the baby and that is NOTTTTTT HAPPENING lol. I would love some insight into what this looks like for you guys?

I am due mid August and unfortunately will most likely have to put the baby in daycare once my maternity leave is up.

I hate it, I genuinely can’t imagine putting a little 3 month old in the hands of someone else but I don’t think there’s another option.

My husband and I both work, and don’t have anyone that would be able to watch her 5 days a week. We could ~maybe~ find someone for 1 day.

Give me some positive daycare experiences you guys have to hopefully ease my mind 😩

Just a rant to say I find it so annoying when people constantly tell me how big my belly has gotten.

Currently 29 weeks and I feel like my belly is huge, especially because I was a fairly slender person pre pregnancy. I 100% don’t need anyone to tell me “wow you’ve really popped” or “omg I think you’re having twins!!” Or “wow you’ve really gotten big” like, I KNOW!

I’m sure everyone means well but surely we can think of something else to say 😅

Just here to say that these stretch marks are not for the weak.

Somehow have the MOST stretch marks on my inner thigh/ butt area while simultaneously my ass is somehow getting flatter and smaller. Make it make sense! 🙃

And I’m only 28 weeks

My poor dog suffers from allergies year round but it really ramps up in the summertime. It bugs mostly his ears but when it gets really bad it affects his paws and he’ll get little rashes on his skin.

We give him Apoquel 1X a day but I think it loses its potency after a while, it’s also expensive to have to buy every month. Sometimes it doesn’t even work it seems like.

He’s having a really bad flair up right now and I feel so bad for him. It’s to the point where his ears are bloody from messing with them so much.

Along with the Apoquel we have a spray that we got from the vet that we use about once a week (it’s a pain to do because he absolutely hates it) as well as medicated wipes and an antiseptic spray when it gets really yucky.

We’ve switched his food multiple times so I don’t think it’s the food that messes with him. I really don’t know what else to do. Any time we take him to the vet they just clean his ears out really good, there’s not much else they can do for him. Does anyone have suggestions? We’re both losing our minds over here

I am going on a beach vacation coming up in July. I will be about 33 weeks pregnant by then.

We are driving, it will be about 9 hours- probably longer with all the frequent stops we’ll be making.

I have a small list of things to bring with me for the car ride such as: compression socks, non salty snacks, plenty of water. Is there anything else that you guys would recommend? Or anything that you would recommend to bring on the vacation in general?

Hi! FTM here due in August.

I know the “gist” of being in labor- contractions, epidural, pushing, all that good stuff. But would love to hear your experiences of things that are maybe not talked about as much? Or things that happened to you that were unexpected.

Of course everyone is different but I want be prepared as possible for what I might expect!

I do plan on delivering vaginally with an epidural if possible

My baby shower is coming up in June and I need a little guidance as to what to actually do at the shower…

It’s going to be a very casual, backyard party style shower. Men, women, children invited. Hamburgers/ hotdogs, beer, corn hole, stuff like that.

My mom is planning most of the party but the two of us are split in terms of what sort of “entertainment” there should be.

I think since it’s a very nontraditional shower anyways, we don’t really need to include things like games or even gift opening. But she has a good point in saying that those things take up time and is worried about “dead space” aka people just standing around, especially since a lot of these people won’t know each other.

I’ll be honest I really don’t want to play any cheesy games or have to sit in front of 30 people and open presents for an hour (are people going to be upset if I don’t open their gift???)

Idk, I’m conflicted. I do think there needs to be some structure I guess, but I mean normal summer parties don’t usually have activities and go on just fine. I think since it’s technically a baby shower is where we’re getting thrown off.

Any advice would be helpful!

Hi all,

I have to admit I am pretty ignorant when it comes to a lot of things finance but I am trying to be better. With that being said - I am wanting to put some money into an account to have it grow over time. Would a HYSA be the best option for this? I am expecting my first child in August so hoping to start saving up for any large expenses that will come our way down the road.

It wont be a lot of money, probably 1k is all I would be able to put in there right now. I hope to be able to add some money each month but it would likely only be 100-200 dollars. I currently am just using a Chase checking/ savings account.

Any advice or information would be great! Than