u/Altruistic-Grave

My parents were always saying to me that I will be taking care of them when they are older (spoiler alert: I won’t).
My sister is severely disabled and they always said she’ll be the person I’ll have to mainly take care of.

So……? They basically expect me to take care of 3 people? They even said the reason they got me was that my sis was disabled and they wanted a healthy kid to take care of them.

Me being a nurse obviously came in handy for them. But I’m nc and I’ll move to the other side of the world in the future.

Did you have similar experiences?

TIA

I went NC 3 months ago. In the meantime there was my bday, Easter and now Mother’s Day today. Life is peaceful. My mental health is getting better, I found clarity. I only wished I would have done it earlier ♥️

Hey!

I’ve been no contact with my narcissistic ex for almost 2 years. I broke nc few days ago with strict boundaries because I found something valuable to his mother and want to send it back. I know I didn’t need to but his mama was the kindest woman on earth and I’d feel bad not to return it, it’s not up to debate rn

That’s the email conversation we had after I asked him if i shall send it back to his family

He: „Yes you can, thank you for that and I’ll provide you papers to sign them off for the legacy divorce and hope you are doing good [my name], happy to hear from you.
If you will like we can meet once like as a normal friend but only if you want“

Me: „Okay I’ll send it back to your mother.
Is that still the correct address?
[adress of his family that lives abroad]
If you feel like it you can inform her about it, so she won’t be surprised“

He ignored me for days after that and I wrote him one last mail where I informed that I’m sending it back and I’ll go nc again and
He kept on ignoring me until I blocked him today

I feel like he tried to bait me with legal stuff (he has denied divorce for over 4 years now and is not cooperating) and this „let’s meet as normal friends“ and I guess he was mad I didn’t mention it?

What are your insights?

TIA

How did they react?

I’m NC for 3 months now and they have been ignoring me too (thankfully) but I think it’s because I’m still living very close to them and they somewhat think to still have control over me.

Now what they don’t know: I’m planning to move literally across the globe once I finished my degree. >10.000km distance from them.

I fear they might go mad and controlling about it. I won’t be able to hide that I’m moving in the future due to my landlady being nmoms close friend.

Thankfully they don’t know that I have connections to this particular country.

How did your narc react when you moved across the country/continent/globe?

TIA