u/Altruistic-Ocelot847

I’m 28 years old female , and this is the first time I’ve ever talked about this openly.
honestly I don’t know what to call these experiences or how I’m supposed to understand them, so I wanted I’d share my story here.
This has been happening to me for as long as I can remember. I experienced a lot of trauma and abandonment as a child, so I spent most of my childhood dissociating and detaching .
And growing up, I noticed that I am extremely good at reading rooms people and situations. I can sense what is going to happen or what someone is going to say even before they say it, this is not only for people I know very well, but also with random people who I’m having my first small chat with .
I am the friend that always finishes other people’s sentences when they are struggling to do so.
Most of the time, I’ve always assumed this was just intuition, observation, or pattern recognition. People tend to repeat the same behaviors and go through similar situations, so I understand that there can be a perfectly logical explanation for a lot of it.
But There are certain experiences that I genuinely cannot explain as easily.
A lot of the time, with certain people especially, it feels like I can somehow clearly hear what they are thinking, what they want or don’t want. I can actually hear their voice saying it, rather than simply having a feeling or intuition about it. And this has happened with the same people more than once, which is one of the reasons I started questioning whether there might be something more to it.
I have experienced this with only three people my whole life, but every time I am around them or near them, I can always hear their thoughts in my head clearly, and that doesn’t happen with anyone else.
So I wonder are they also empaths are we the same? Is that why I can hear them and does that mean that they can hear my thoughts as well? Why do I have this kind of connection with certain people only?
Another thing about me is that all the dreams I see since childhood has come true so I have this ability as well. ( i’m not sure if it’s relevant or not )
But I mostly see other people in my dreams not me and whenever I see someone, that dream suddenly comes true . some dreams take months some take years, but they all happen the end. It doesn’t even matter if I told the person or not that I saw them in my dreams.
For most of my life, I dismissed all of this as intuition, coincidence, or simply being good at reading people. But now, at 28, after having so many experiences like this throughout my life, I’m finding it harder to believe that all of them were just coincidences. I feel like I may have been dismissing something about myself for years.
So if this really is some kind of ability, I want to understand it rather than ignore it. What and who am I ? How does something like this work? Is there a way to develop or strengthen it? How can I learn to distinguish it from my own thoughts? And most importantly, how can I use it to improve my life and make better life choices with it?
I’ve spent so many years denying this part of myself, and I honestly don’t want to waste any more time if there is something real here. I want to understand what it is, learn how to work with it, and make the best of it rather than being afraid of it or pretending it doesn’t exist.
Thank you for reading this far and I’m looking forward to any response or advice, all will be greatly appreciated.

I’m 28 years old female , and this is the first time I’ve ever talked about this openly.
honestly I don’t know what to call these experiences or how I’m supposed to understand them, so I wanted I’d share my story here.
This has been happening to me for as long as I can remember. I experienced a lot of trauma and abandonment as a child, so I spent most of my childhood dissociating and detaching .
And growing up, I noticed that I am extremely good at reading rooms people and situations. I can sense what is going to happen or what someone is going to say even before they say it, this is not only for people I know very well, but also with random people who I’m having my first small chat with .
I am the friend that always finishes other people’s sentences when they are struggling to do so.
Most of the time, I’ve always assumed this was just intuition, observation, or pattern recognition. People tend to repeat the same behaviors and go through similar situations, so I understand that there can be a perfectly logical explanation for a lot of it.
But There are certain experiences that I genuinely cannot explain as easily.
A lot of the time, with certain people especially, it feels like I can somehow clearly hear what they are thinking, what they want or don’t want. I can actually hear their voice saying it, rather than simply having a feeling or intuition about it. And this has happened with the same people more than once, which is one of the reasons I started questioning whether there might be something more to it.
I have experienced this with only three people my whole life, but every time I am around them or near them, I can always hear their thoughts in my head clearly, and that doesn’t happen with anyone else.
So I wonder are they also empaths are we the same? Is that why I can hear them and does that mean that they can hear my thoughts as well? Why do I have this kind of connection with certain people only?
Another thing about me is that all the dreams I see since childhood has come true so I have this ability as well. ( i’m not sure if it’s relevant or not )
But I mostly see other people in my dreams not me and whenever I see someone, that dream suddenly comes true . some dreams take months some take years, but they all happen the end. It doesn’t even matter if I told the person or not that I saw them in my dreams.
For most of my life, I dismissed all of this as intuition, coincidence, or simply being good at reading people. But now, at 28, after having so many experiences like this throughout my life, I’m finding it harder to believe that all of them were just coincidences. I feel like I may have been dismissing something about myself for years.
So if this really is some kind of ability, I want to understand it rather than ignore it. What and who am I ? How does something like this work? Is there a way to develop or strengthen it? How can I learn to distinguish it from my own thoughts? And most importantly, how can I use it to improve my life and make better life choices with it?
I’ve spent so many years denying this part of myself, and I honestly don’t want to waste any more time if there is something real here. I want to understand what it is, learn how to work with it, and make the best of it rather than being afraid of it or pretending it doesn’t exist.
Thank you for reading this far and I’m looking forward to any response or advice, all will be greatly appreciated.

I’m 28 years old female , and this is the first time I’ve ever talked about this openly.
honestly I don’t know what to call these experiences or how I’m supposed to understand them, so I wanted I’d share my story here.
This has been happening to me for as long as I can remember. I experienced a lot of trauma and abandonment as a child, so I spent most of my childhood dissociating and detaching .
And growing up, I noticed that I am extremely good at reading rooms people and situations. I can sense what is going to happen or what someone is going to say even before they say it, this is not only for people I know very well, but also with random people who I’m having my first small chat with .
I am the friend that always finishes other people’s sentences when they are struggling to do so.
Most of the time, I’ve always assumed this was just intuition, observation, or pattern recognition. People tend to repeat the same behaviors and go through similar situations, so I understand that there can be a perfectly logical explanation for a lot of it.
But There are certain experiences that I genuinely cannot explain as easily.
A lot of the time, with certain people especially, it feels like I can somehow clearly hear what they are thinking, what they want or don’t want. I can actually hear their voice saying it, rather than simply having a feeling or intuition about it. And this has happened with the same people more than once, which is one of the reasons I started questioning whether there might be something more to it.
I have experienced this with only three people my whole life, but every time I am around them or near them, I can always hear their thoughts in my head clearly, and that doesn’t happen with anyone else.
So I wonder are they also empaths are we the same? Is that why I can hear them and does that mean that they can hear my thoughts as well? Why do I have this kind of connection with certain people only?
Another thing about me is that all the dreams I see since childhood has come true so I have this ability as well. ( i’m not sure if it’s relevant or not )
But I mostly see other people in my dreams not me and whenever I see someone, that dream suddenly comes true . some dreams take months some take years, but they all happen the end. It doesn’t even matter if I told the person or not that I saw them in my dreams.
For most of my life, I dismissed all of this as intuition, coincidence, or simply being good at reading people. But now, at 28, after having so many experiences like this throughout my life, I’m finding it harder to believe that all of them were just coincidences. I feel like I may have been dismissing something about myself for years.
So if this really is some kind of ability, I want to understand it rather than ignore it. What and who am I ? How does something like this work? Is there a way to develop or strengthen it? How can I learn to distinguish it from my own thoughts? And most importantly, how can I use it to improve my life and make better life choices with it?
I’ve spent so many years denying this part of myself, and I honestly don’t want to waste any more time if there is something real here. I want to understand what it is, learn how to work with it, and make the best of it rather than being afraid of it or pretending it doesn’t exist.
Thank you for reading this far and I’m looking forward to any response or advice, all will be greatly appreciated.

Hello everyone

Guys I really need a solid advice here about my Erasmus situation and the visa/residence rules.
I’m an international student in Turkey. I applied for Erasmus mobility to Romania for this spring semester , but everything was delayed so my visa got issued too late, so I couldn’t go this semester.
However I have applied again to the same university and even tho things seem like they’re going fine, the situation is a bit complicated:

- I now have a Romanian long-stay visa D type (valid until August 31).

- The Erasmus semester in Romania will start on October 1.

- but (which is my major concern) My Turkish residence permit expires on November 1, and I can only renew it on September 1 the earliest. and the new permit may take time to be issued. Which would lead again to apply for the visa too late (maybe mid or end of September)

As I know when applying for a visa, usually , the embassy requires a valid permit residency in the country that we are applying from and since my residency does not cover the whole full semester mobility duration I’m so worried about losing the opportunity again.

My question is:
Is it possible to travel to Romania in mid-August using my current visa, before it expires to handle Romanian residence permit procedures there?
(If this option is possible then I can do that in Romania mid august and come back to turkey to handle my permit residency there in September win-win situation)
I mean really how early can we go to the host university for Erasmus? ( other than the fact that the grant doesn’t start unless the academical year starts, which is fine by me.)

Or is there any other way that I can find to fix this situation?
I thought about maybe doing a 2 month internship ( self funded without erasmus) in Romania this summer starting august till end of September (hoping that with internship i can get a two months permit residency in there and from there when it’s time for Erasmus I just switch to that) but I’m not sure about the regulations in Romania regarding that and switching from education to internship… will it still require apply for visa again?

Even if I chose to go to another country for Erasmus I would still face the same problem because of the permit residency timeframe.

Any advice would help, maybe someone has been in my situation and figured it out . Maybe you can refer me to someone who knows what I should do 🥹

Thank you in advance
Wish you all the best

Hello to my favorite country 🤗

Guys I really need a solid advice here about my Erasmus situation and the visa/residence rules.
I’m an international student in Turkey. I applied for Erasmus mobility to Romania for this spring semester , but everything was delayed so my visa got issued too late, so I couldn’t go this semester.
However I have applied again to the same university and even tho things seem like they’re going fine, the situation is a bit complicated:

- I now have a Romanian long-stay visa D type (valid until August 31).

- The Erasmus semester in Romania will start on October 1.

- but (which is my major concern) My Turkish residence permit expires on November 1, and I can only renew it on September 1 the earliest. and the new permit may take time to be issued. Which would lead again to apply for the visa too late (maybe mid or end of September)

As I know when applying for a visa, usually , the embassy requires a valid permit residency in the country that we are applying from and since my residency does not cover the whole full semester mobility duration I’m so worried about losing the opportunity again.

My question is:
Is it possible to travel to Romania in mid-August using my current visa, before it expires to handle Romanian residence permit procedures there?
(If this option is possible then I can do that in Romania mid august and come back to turkey to handle my permit residency there in September win-win situation)
I mean really how early can we go to the host university for Erasmus? ( other than the fact that the grant doesn’t start unless the academical year starts, which is fine by me.)

Or is there any other way that I can find to fix this situation?
I thought about maybe doing a 2 month internship ( self funded without erasmus) in Romania this summer starting august till end of September (hoping that with internship i can get a two months permit residency in there and from there when it’s time for Erasmus I just switch to that) but I’m not sure about the regulations in Romania regarding that and switching from education to internship… will it still require apply for visa again?

Even if I chose to go to another country for Erasmus I would still face the same problem because of the permit residency timeframe.

Any advice would help, maybe someone has been in my situation and figured it out . Maybe you can refer me to someone who knows what I should do 🥹

Thank you in advance
Wish you all the best

Hi everyone,

I really need a solid advice here about my Erasmus situation and the visa/residence rules.
I’m an international student in Turkey. I applied for Erasmus mobility to Romania for this spring semester , but everything was delayed so my visa got issued too late, so I couldn’t go this semester.
However I have applied again to the same university and even tho things seem like they’re going fine, the situation is a bit complicated:

- I now have a Romanian long-stay visa D type (valid until August 31).

- The Erasmus semester in Romania will start on October 1.

- but (which is my major concern) My Turkish residence permit expires on November 1, and I can only renew it on September 1 the earliest. and the new permit may take time to be issued. Which would lead again to apply for the visa too late (maybe mid or end of September)

As I know when applying for a visa, usually , the embassy requires a valid permit residency in the country that we are applying from and since my residency does not cover the whole full semester mobility duration I’m so worried about losing the opportunity again.

My question is:
Is it possible to travel to Romania in mid-August using my current visa, before it expires to handle Romanian residence permit procedures there?
(If this option is possible then I can do that in Romania mid august and come back to turkey to handle my permit residency there in September win-win situation)
I mean really how early can we go to the host university for Erasmus? ( other than the fact that the grant doesn’t start unless the academical year starts, which is fine by me.)

Or is there any other way that I can find to fix this situation?
I thought about maybe doing a 2 month internship ( self funded without erasmus) in Romania this summer starting august till end of September (hoping that with internship i can get a two months permit residency in there and from there when it’s time for Erasmus I just switch to that) but I’m not sure about the regulations in Romania regarding that and switching from education to internship… will it still require apply for visa again?

Even if I chose to go to another country for Erasmus I would still face the same problem because of the permit residency timeframe.

Any advice would help, maybe someone has been in my situation and figured it out . Maybe you can refer me to someone who knows what I should do 🥹

Thank you in advance
Wish you all the best

I am 27 years old and this is my whole story. And I apologies from now on if it’s a little too long to read.

Exactly 4 years ago, a divorced older man became obsessed with me and promised to give me the world. The only thing I actually wanted was help finding a job. He presented himself as someone powerful with connections, and I was struggling financially and hoped he could introduce me to someone who connections to give me a job .

I was also looking for jobs by myself the entire time. Since I’m a foreigner living in a foreign country, it wasn’t easy despite my qualifications because of the work regulations for foreigners here.

Anyways, he never actually helped me find work.

Every time he called me, I thought maybe he had good news or some opportunity for me, but instead he just wanted sexual conversations. I made it clear that I wasn’t comfortable with that kind of situation. Then he offered what he called a way for us to “help each other.” He would send me money for rent, and in return he wanted a physical relationship.

I told him I appreciated the offer, but I could never do anything physical with him. He said that was fine and that phone calls would be enough for him. So I agreed to that. At the same time, I kept reminding him every now and then about helping me find a real job, and meanwhile I continued searching for work on my own. I don’t want people to think I was sitting around waiting for him. I genuinely struggled for years trying to find employment.

For a while, the arrangement was exactly that. He called almost every night for sexual conversations. I called him once a month when rent was due. If I didn’t ask for rent money, he never sent it. I never asked him for gifts, shopping money, luxury items, or anything beyond rent.

Eventually he started pushing for us to meet in person.

It became clear that if I didn’t meet him, there might not be any more money. I tried one time. Thankfully he lives in another city. I went there intending to try, but when the moment came, I just started crying. He didn’t force me, but he sent me back home. He still paid the rent that month.

After that, though, he became even more persistent. During the calls he would constantly ask me to come see him. I always reminded him what happened last time and told him I couldn’t do it. I was honest with him. I never promised a real physical relationship. The closest I came was saying things during the phone calls to keep the fantasy going, but I always made it clear that it was part of the conversation and not a real promise.

Later he started accusing me of leading him on. He would say, “You promised.”

I would remind him that he knew exactly why I said those things. They were part of the fantasy he wanted. He had agreed to that arrangement himself.

This went on for about two years.

I hated those conversations. Eventually I started drinking before talking to him because it was the only way I could tolerate it. That’s how I became an alcoholic. My neighbor would often give me alcohol for free, so that’s where it came from.
And honestly, it felt so unfair that I only call him once a month for rent and he calls me every night for sex so I just decided that I won’t answer his call every day. I can just ignore him so maybe I will answer his call maybe three nights a week and this is something I decided by myself and I didn’t tell him and that used to make him angry and and blames me for not responding. He said he started saying that you only respond when you need money, but you don’t answer my calls. This is not fair. He started to say that and I just used to come up with some excuses like I fell asleep and and stuff like that, but he doesn’t really know that that I drank myself to sleep every night.

And one time he really pushed me hard and he accuse me that I have a relationship. I have a boyfriend that I’m hiding from him. That’s why I am not doing it with him. I’m just using him for his money and I told him no and I opened up that night and I told him I had a horrible experience in the past someone harassed me so I hate this whole sex stuff. He acted like he understood for sometime, but then again nothing really changed. He still pushed for us to do it physically.

Then in January 2025 he suddenly disappeared completely.

For an entire year.

I couldn’t pay rent for around 5 months. that situation forced me to to do the hardest jobs ever like going into fields collecting apples, and you know these kind of daily payment jobs that exhausts the body. I worked all kinds of jobs until I finally found a good one in September 2025. I was able to pay back the rent I owed and finally started becoming financially independent. There was still some debt left, but things were improving.

Unfortunately, after only three months, I lost that job. The reasons behind that are a completely different story.

Suddenly I was facing financial uncertainty again.

That was exactly when he reappeared.

I didn’t immediately accept him back into my life. I told him he had disappeared for a whole year. He ignored my calls and messages. I genuinely thought he might have died.

His only explanation was that he had been depressed.

Honestly, I suspect he simply found someone else and came back when that ended, but that’s only my suspicion.

I didn’t want to restart the same cycle. By then I was still struggling with alcoholism and trying to survive financially. Eventually, when I ran out of money in February , and when he started calling again. I told him that if we were going to do this again, I needed help with rent.

He agreed and helped for about three months.

Then in April he told me he would send money, but asked whether I would come see him in May.

I told him I could try, but I couldn’t promise anything because he already knew my history and my feelings about these things.

He told me not to worry and said he wouldn’t pressure me.

But the pattern completely changed.

He still called for sexual conversations. But now He asks for photos and videos. He made me feel humiliated. Sometimes he even shames my body for gaining weight (he doesn’t know that I gained all that weight because of the alcohol that I had to drink just to tolerate him lol ) Other times he would get angry and hang up when I reminded him I couldn’t have a physical relationship with him.

The difference this time was that I felt even more desperate and degraded because I had to beg him.

And I was still drinking every night.

Last week he called to remind me that it’s May and we still didn’t meet , and it was again for another sexual conversation. I said I will try to meet you and then before he hang up, I asked whether he could send money. I told him I needed to see a doctor because I wasn’t doing well mentally.

I didn’t tell him that I will go to a psychiatrist for my drinking problem, I just said for my depression.

But He sent me enough money to cover rent and nothing more.

I decided I still have to get that help with alcoholism, so I used part of that money to see a doctor and get medication.

Later in the same week, I asked whether he could send a little extra because I went to the doctor and because of those medical expenses. I also told him to buy me the ticket to come to him this weekend.

That’s when he became furious.

He said he wouldn’t send me money and accused me of only contacting him when I needed money. And that was it. He didn’t text anything else. He just shamed me for asking for more money.

What makes this harder is that only a week earlier he had been talking about another woman he met in real life and he asked me if I’m interested in having threesome with her .

So honestly, I think his anger isn’t really about the money. I don’t know if I mentioned this or not but he’s a millionaire. He has a lot of houses in different cities. He has a lot of cars and he always flies first class. So this little money means nothing to him.

I think he’s looking for a reason to end things because he has found someone else.

When he accused me of only contacting him for money, I told him that he only contacted me for sexual reasons too , and that he never actually helped me find a job despite years of promises.

I sent several messages afterwards. I told him you are trying to make me feel look bad like I’m trying to use you when in fact, you were the one who started this whole thing. I only just wanted you to find me a job.

I asked whether I had ever played with his money or lied to him about my intentions.

I asked whether I had ever used his money for shopping or luxury items.

I even told him I haven’t bought new clothes in years.
I told him all I was trying to do for all these years was just have a stable life.
And I told him I think you are just having fun with that new girl that’s why you are talking to me like this.

It’s now been four days and he hasn’t responded at all.

I am sorry if my story is so long, but I feel so unfair and so angry and maybe I did some mistakes. Maybe I lost sight of what’s right and wrong. I’m not sure anymore. Please tell me what you think about this. I need advice Should I try to call him again or should I just block him?
By the way, since I started, the medication’s, my mental health is really good. I never need to drink again. I will continue with the medication for maybe two months according to my withdrawal symptoms, but yeah, I don’t know what to do. Of course I still try to find jobs. I know that’s what I have to do but was I even wrong in this situation? Was there anything I could’ve done better? I really just want to block him now that’s how I angry. I am I want to send the final message saying that have fun with your little whore and then I want to block him.

I am not ungrateful. I always thanked him and showed the appreciation when he sent the money so it’s it’s really I don’t know how to describe how I feel guys.

Hi guys ,
I’m 26 and I finally decided to get help for alcohol. I’ve been binge drinking beers every night for around 3 years. And that was the darkest time of my life.

This morning I saw my psychiatrist who knows me from the chronic depression I had for years and he used to prescribe me antidepressants for it, but in 2023 I hit rock bottom and I give up on everything and just started drinking .

I told him about the alcohol problem and how hard I tried to quit it by myself and I couldn’t and I think based on my past meetings as well. He prescribed me:

Naltrexone (Nokrev 50 mg) — for alcohol cravings
Xanax (alprazolam)
Olanzapine (Ozaprin 5 mg)
Quetiapine (Gyrex 50 mg)

From what I understand, only naltrexone is specifically for alcohol, and the others are for my depression/anxiety/sleep. But I’m confused why he chose olanzapine and quetiapine because from what I read online they seem to be antipsychotic medications, and I don’t have psychosis.

Is this normal prescription? Can it really help?

Also I’m honestly worried mostly about the rapid weight gain that antipsychotic medications cause, I mean I already gained around 15 kg from all the beer and I was planning to actually lose gain now not gain extra?!
I mean, I searched the antipsychotic medication side effects and everyone is talking about how terribly fast they gain weight in short notice and I really don’t want to have that.

Did anyone else have a doctor prescribe something similar for alcohol recovery + depression/anxiety? Especially if you didn’t have psychosis? How did it go for you?

And I actually don’t want to take the other medication so will naltrexone alone help me quit alcohol for good?

Hello everyone,

I work for a company manufacturing a nitrogen gas generator solution for laser welding, and we are currently looking for distributors/sellers globally

If you know companies active in welding equipment, industrial gases, or laser welding solutions that may be interested in cooperation, I would really appreciate your recommendations or suggestions.

Thank you!

Hello everyone,

I work for a company manufacturing a nitrogen gas generator solution for laser welding, and we are currently looking for distributors/sellers in Poland and Europe.

If you know companies active in welding equipment, industrial gases, or laser welding solutions that may be interested in cooperation, I would really appreciate your recommendations or suggestions.

Thank you!