u/AmericanSweetTea

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I was at my workplace for 6 years, and I loved it. Until the recent year, when a new administrator came in. She seemed to be picking on everything I did. I read The Outsiders with my class, and apparently told the students on a day I was absent that she was banning it next year. I was denied personal days because they had no substitutes.

I was called into the lead administrator’s office in regards to a contest that our students joined but did not win. I was questioned as to why they didn’t win. I admit I was upset and did cry in this.

I got the blame for how my homeroom students behaved in another teacher’s classroom with the principal present because they were my homeroom. (Which I don’t agree with this — if it didn’t happen in my classroom, it’s not my fault.)

With more little added things, I did decide to keep my options open and send my resumes out. I let the principal know that I was signing my contract but keeping my options open.

The principal then texted me on the weekend “can you imagine ____ is staying at ____ for now unless another opportunity comes by 😂😂”.

It was clearly a text about me, but not meant for me. She then resent a text saying she was using voice to text and meant to say she doesn’t understand what I mean and to meet Monday.

I took it to the head administration, who then proceeded to tell me that the text was not the principal mocking me, but only asking for clarity on my decision.

The principal in the end only apologized for texting me on my personal time.

I was then told, by the head administration, that I should be grateful because it was her who found money in the budget to make me full time (I was strung along for 5 years being part time).

She also told me, that me teaching history was a funny thing because my degree was in journalism and should strictly be English focused. However, journalism - any one with a degree in it would know it does have some similar aspects as a historian. I am also passionate about history.

It felt like she tried to break down my character, and mock my decision and who I was. My mental health had reached an all low because of this. I felt like I was being chained, that because she “found money for me to be full time” I owed her and should be kissing her feet.

In the end, I decided to leave and I am happy with my decision. Much happier. The saying, “the grass is greener on the other side.” The truth is, sometimes it is and it’s all on who’s watering it.

Visiting ponta Delgada in 2 weeks.. looking to visit all the homes my ancestors lived and the churches as well as the cemetery… any tips?

I dated my ex boyfriend for a year and a half. The reason for us breaking up was because his mom thought I was “disrespectful” while at his cousin’s Trunk or Treat event few days prior. At the Trunk or Treat, it was a public place in a completely different town (1.5 hours away from us) and I am a shy, introvert person. So, yes I was quiet. I asked my ex if we can take a walk around to see the trunks decorated, and we went. His mom also acted a bit strange towards me. The week prior, she got upset that I helped decorate with them outside and didn’t ask. But I even asked him, and he said no everything was fine. Well, two days later he told me that his mom said that I was disrespectful and then he even added on that he doesn’t understand how I could be shy around his aunt and cousins when I’ve been in their presence previously. He then proceeded to add on that my mom was also disrespectful weeks prior to his mom, when — we went to a concert with his mom, him, my mom and I, and on the way to the car my mom asked his mom what side she sits on (meaning the back). His mom didn’t respond, and my mom thought it was because she didn’t hear her after the concert so she asked again. Well, he said it was disrespectful because we should know this his mother always sits in the passenger front seat all the time. When I told him it was my mom just being respectful and asking so she didn’t sit on the side and he can’t assume we all know their family unwritten rules he told me it’s not a rule it’s just a sign of respect. Upon asking him if we are breaking up because of what his mom said he told me that his mom didn’t want me over the house anymore. I tried being the bigger person even though I know I had nothing to apologize for, by sending an apology text to her. She ignored it. He knew I sent it, but she never told him I reached out. He told me in order to talk to her about me and the situation, he had to “read the room.”
Back story on him: he is an only child (30 years old) and was raised by his Italian mother. Apparently he didn’t have a good relationship with his father; I never even met his father in that 1.5 year of dating. His mom couldn’t even go to the doctors on her own; he had to take her. If he worked overtime or did a double, she would cancel her doctor’s or hair appointment. It also got to the point that she was going out with us a lot more than the two of us were going out. And due to his work schedule, we only got one day a week together.

We broke up last October, and I am in a good place. I just came on here to see if it’s me. Any one I tell the story to tells me exactly what I believe too. But I’m not sure if it’s because they tell me because I want to hear it. I want people of Reddit to tell me their honest truth on this.