u/AnyCricket9068

My ex parked his car right outside my work building. He sat there for about 20 minutes, looking like he was on a phone call. At one point he turned his head and looked in my direction. He never got out of the car, then eventually pulled out and drove off.

My job is on the opposite side of the city - a pretty long drive from where he lives and works. He knows I work there, and there’s nothing nearby that would explain why he was in the area.

Our relationship ended on very bad terms. He cheated and after the breakup started acting erratic and made up a lot of lies about me. We both blocked each other, and he refused to communicate when I tried to arrange collecting my stuff. He’s ignored all my emails, and I’ve just cut my losses to avoid seeing him again.

I really don't trust him and I am honestly scared for my safety. Am I overreacting?

My ex parked his car right outside my work building. He sat there for about 20 minutes, looking like he was on a phone call. At one point he turned his head and looked in my direction. He never got out of the car, then eventually pulled out and drove off.

My job is on the opposite side of the city - a pretty long drive from where he lives and works. He knows I work there, and there’s nothing nearby that would explain why he was in the area.

Our relationship ended on bad terms. We both blocked each other, and he refused to communicate when I tried to arrange collecting my stuff. He’s ignored all my emails, and I’ve just cut my losses to avoid seeing him again.

Has this happened to anyone else? I’m really confused and unsettled.

In my situation my ex cheated on me. We broke up and I moved out.. But since the breakup he has been trying to hurt me and is so dismissive, complete personality flip. Why?

In my situation my ex cheated on me. We broke up and I moved out.. But since the breakup he has been trying to hurt me and is so dismissive, complete personality flip. Why?

My ex honestly disgusts me.

He has been trying to make my life hell after the breakup.

He was so loving (🤢) to me at the start. I'm just shocked at how someone can go from the person you trust the most to someone who actively tries to torture you.

He cheated on me for months, and eventually I found out. We were still going to work on things, but only after we took a break. And he told me to let him know if I start seeing someone else. Lol.

So I leave, and he breaks no contact by starting a fight and belittling me. So I decided not to continue with the relationship.

After that he has been nothing but controlling, cruel and FULL of ego and self-entitlement. I left my stuff at his place. Getting it back was a nightmare, everything was on his terms, and he eventually dropped my stuff off at my friends house on my birthday.

5 months later, I have totally moved on emotionally, he made that very easy for me. I can't believe I didn't leave him sooner. We are currently going to court over MY car. He wants it. He even got his mother to threaten me to hand it over to them.

So please. Let this be a warning. If you leave, TAKE EVERYTHING IMMEDIATELY. Even if you think it's just a "break" or you think your partner would never stoop that low.

I never expected you to become so cruel. Nine years together, we knew eachother better than anyone.

You were so good to me in the start. I admired your kindness. Loved you unconditionally. Trusted you with my life. And you betrayed me.

My life was ripped out from under my feet. Everything changed that night. I lost my home. Had to mourn my old life. While you were out there telling a different story to everyone we know. Making me seem like the unstable one. Probably just trying to ease the guilt that you felt... or to protect your image.

I managed to pick myself back up- not very easily, but everyday I made some progress. Never spoke poorly of you to anyone. Although I've heard what you've said about me.

There was no need to defend myself. The truth always finds its way out in the end.

Eventually people stopped believing your stories. Not because of anything I said. But because of your own erratic behaviour. You treated the people around you the same way you used to treat me. I wasn't there to be your punching bag anymore.

I've realized that leaving was the best thing I could have done for myself. I wish I left sooner. My spark is back. I'm creative again. Music sounds better. Life feels lighter.

Even after everything that happened, I truly hope you find happiness in yourself. I'm really sorry to hear that you are spiralling because of your own ego.

"Best regards" - N

I never expected you to become so cruel. Nine years together, we knew eachother better than anyone.

You were so good to me in the start. I admired your kindness. Loved you unconditionally. Trusted you with my life. And you betrayed me.

My life was ripped out from under my feet. Everything changed that night. I lost my home. Had to mourn my old life. While you were out there telling a different story to everyone we know. Making me seem like the unstable one. Probably just trying to ease the guilt that you felt... or to protect your image.

I managed to pick myself back up- not very easily, but everyday I made some progress. Never spoke poorly of you to anyone. Although I've heard what you've said about me.

There was no need to defend myself. The truth always finds its way out in the end.

Eventually people stopped believing your stories. Not because of anything I said. But because of your own erratic behaviour. You treated the people around you the same way you used to treat me. I wasn't there to be your punching bag anymore.

I've realized that leaving was the best thing I could have done for myself. I wish I left sooner. My spark is back. I'm creative again. Music sounds better. Life feels lighter.

Even after everything that happened, I truly hope you find happiness in yourself. I'm really sorry to hear that you are spiralling because of your own ego.

"Best regards" - N