u/Apprehensive-Till-85

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Strange woman has been leeching off my sister for more than a decade. We are convinced she is using some kind of witchcraft. How do we banish her from my sister’s life

Strange woman has been leeching off my sister for more than a decade. We are convinced she is using some kind of witchcraft. How do we banish her from my sister’s life

Ever since I introduced my brother to the gym (he made new friends around his age) I (M22) have noticed a significant change in my brother’s (M18) attitude towards women. I’ve heard his new friend group say one insane things but I can’t tell him to stop talking to them and he won’t listen because they are now his only close friends. He’s started speaking condescendingly about our mum for being a single mother despite knowing what ensued in her tumultuous relationship with our father and just overall being a misogynist.

He also watches a ton of misogynistic podcasts and reposts blatantly dehumanizing things about women on TikTok. I’ve tried to have this talk with him multiple times but he just ignores everything I tell him. I thought it was just a phase but this has been going on for 2 years now. He simply won’t open up to me about it and shrugs me off when I try to talk about it.

Ever since I introduced my brother to the gym (he made new friends around his age) I (M22) have noticed a significant change in my brother’s (M18) attitude towards women. I’ve heard his new friend group say one insane things but I can’t tell him to stop talking to them and he won’t listen because they are now his only close friends. He’s started speaking condescendingly about our mum for being a single mother despite knowing what ensued in her tumultuous relationship with our father and just overall being a misogynist.

He also watches a ton of misogynistic podcasts and reposts blatantly dehumanizing things about women on TikTok. I’ve tried to have this talk with him multiple times but he just ignores everything I tell him. I thought it was just a phase but this has been going on for 2 years now. He simply won’t open up to me about it and shrugs me off when I try to talk about it.

Ever since I introduced my brother to the gym (he made new friends around his age) I (M22) have noticed a significant change in my brother’s (M18) attitude towards women. I’ve heard his new friend group say one insane things but I can’t tell him to stop talking to them and he won’t listen because they are now his only close friends. He’s started speaking condescendingly about our mum for being a single mother despite knowing what ensued in her tumultuous relationship with our father and just overall being a misogynist.

He also watches a ton of misogynistic podcasts and reposts blatantly dehumanizing things about women on TikTok. I’ve tried to have this talk with him multiple times but he just ignores everything I tell him. I thought it was just a phase but this has been going on for 2 years now. He simply won’t open up to me about it and shrugs me off when I try to talk about it.

Am I?

I (23F) am thinking of cutting off my older sister (45F) because of her and best friend’s strange behavior towards me. For context, my sister and I have a really wide age gap so she already had an apartment when I was 7 and I would always stay at her’s for Christmas because she hasn’t been on good terms with my mum for as long as I can remember (my mother is a narcissistic bully but is nicer to me because I’m the younger child).

The Christmas after I turned 9, I went to visit her and a random lady was living with her rent free without contributing anything financially. This lady has been her best friend (30F) till today and she is still living with her and not contributing anything financially. My sister is married with 2 children and owns multiple supermarkets, one of which is in this lady’s name and she receives all the proceeds from it without making any contribution at all. My sister has even paid all her university fees & expenses including postgraduate education.

Since then, every time I have seen my sister in person, this lady has insisted on being there. She knows every member of our family (even dead ones) and has insisted on being around us. She calls my aunts her aunts, my cousins her cousins, calls my sister and I her sisters and my mother her mother. She even tried regularly calling us for a period of time and I ended up going on vacation with her for 3 days (just two of us) because my sister lied about wanting to travel with me and when I got to the airport it was this lady waiting for me. NONE OF US LIKE HER OR WANT TO BE AROUND HER.

She’s become like a pest and she’s very rude to our less privileged relatives. She has convinced my sister to cut everyone in our family off and right now I’m the only family member my sister talks to. None of us can talk to my sister without taking permission from this woman. It’s almost like a conservatorship and since this started, she has gradually grown distant from every one of us including me. I don’t even know her husband’s name despite asking multiple times. Never met him in person either & wasn’t invited t her wedding.

For a long time I was always the referee whenever my sister and my mother fought but recently my sister has been so mean to me as well. I was on back vacation with her her for 3 weeks and every single interaction we had was to belittle me and compare herself to me saying I’m less than her, she has a better body than me, her hair is better than mine & Im broke etc.

I was going to ignore the snarky remarks because I still want to be in my sister’s life and my nephews’ lives but today I hit breaking point because I found out from a voice recording that this woman has been having conversations with my sister egging the comparisons on. In the voice notes she said

“What does she even have that you don’t have besides privilege? She’s just like your mother and I’ve noticed it. I’m just waiting for her to show her true colours. She thinks she’s better than you. If I were you I’d put her in her place.“

This is alarming because I have never had any conversation with her about my sister at ALL!! Not even on the 3 day vacation. I only talk to her about pop culture to keep the distance. I know she is obviously trying to pit my sister against me but I’m so disappointed at my sister for taking bait. I’m thinking of cutting her off. It hurts but I can’t manage this negativity in my life.

Bc why am I as president getting bullied by the janitor???? Makes no sense