u/Asleep_Inspector5989

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I asked "if I am back with [her name], will she cheat again?"

Context: I was in a relationship with her for 7 months, but last month I realized that she was cheating on me the whole time, she was with another guy for the past 3 years, she was on and off with him. Now she is begging me to come back, and promising that she'll change. I am not responding to any of her emails, as she spams, because I have blocked her from everywhere.

My possible interpretation:
There is still a spark between us, but the pain and unresolved issues are not fully gone, so returning would require healing the old wounds rather than pretending they never happened.

Context: she was with another guy for 3 whole years, and I was with her for 7 months. I didn't know shit.

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She said when she was with me she did break up with him but she couldn't move on from him. Agh tf.

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But the thing is I have severe anxiety now, I'm shivering, I do read her emails, all filled with love. I did earlier ask her to not reach out to me via email or any other means. But she still does.

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It's getting very difficult for me to move, when I read those emails. But ik for the fact that what she did, doesn't deserve a second chance.

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Help me out.

20 M

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Taking it slow

Someone from Bangalore

Let's get to know first

Really chill, do not dm with a fake persona, js relax

We can talkkkkk, also be friends

You can yap

She said, she found it difficult to let go of her ex because

Her response:

"I did love you a lot but I found it difficult to let him go because I loved him too, I had good moments with him too it wasn't because u weren't enough or anything but because he also meant smth. It felt wrong abandoning him. Ik there were better ways to go on about this but I chose the worst one"

And now she is asking for a second chance.

We were in a relationship for 7 months, and the entire time i didn't know she was in a whole different relationship with some other guy for 3 years. They broke up in between and that's when she came in a relationship with me and then they again patched up after one month of relationship with me.

I found out all this through the other guy, he finally approached me because he felt she was going to leave him and never come back. She said me she was going to leave him, because she wanted to change herself and with completely with me, with purity. She also she, she was going to tell all this by herself after get exams (i.e after a month)

We were in a LDR, even that guy was in a LDR with her. She also sexted us both.

She is now saying she'll change and work on herself. And only be with me. All that she did with the other guy didn't mean anything.

I'm so heartbroken, it hurts very bad, I'm not even able to cry and let go of the heaviness. I find it so difficult to let go of her. Please help me hate her and let go of her completely.

She said, she found it difficult to let go of her ex because

Her response:

"I did love you a lot but I found it difficult to let him go because I loved him too, I had good moments with him too it wasn't because u weren't enough or anything but because he also meant smth. It felt wrong abandoning him. Ik there were better ways to go on about this but I chose the worst one"

And now she is asking for a second chance.

We were in a relationship for 7 months, and the entire time i didn't know she was in a whole different relationship with some other guy for 3 years. They broke up in between and that's when she came in a relationship with me and then they again patched up after one month of relationship with me.

I found out all this through the other guy, he finally approached me because he felt she was going to leave him and never come back. She said me she was going to leave him, because she wanted to change herself and with completely with me, with purity. She also she, she was going to tell all this by herself after get exams (i.e after a month)

We were in a LDR, even that guy was in a LDR with her. She also sexted us both.

She is now saying she'll change and work on herself. And only be with me. All that she did with the other guy didn't mean anything.

I'm so heartbroken, it hurts very bad, I'm not even able to cry and let go of the heaviness. I find it so difficult to let go of her. Please help me hate her and let go of her completely.

I (20M) was in an LDR with my girlfriend. In the beginning, things felt really genuine and emotionally deep. We used to talk daily, share everything, motivate each other, stay up during exams together, and honestly she became my best friend too.

Over time though, I started developing a lot of anxiety in the relationship. Small things like delayed replies, inconsistency, lack of updates, or feeling emotionally unheard would trigger me badly. I kept thinking maybe I was just overthinking or being too emotionally dependent. We even broke up once and got back together after reflecting on our issues. Things genuinely improved after that — she started putting in more effort, initiating texts, saying good morning first, etc. I thought maybe we were finally fixing things.

Then I found out she had been involved with her ex the ENTIRE relationship. Apparently she was in contact with him for around 6 months while dating me, and according to her, she was “slowly trying to let him go” and planned to tell me eventually after exams.

I feel destroyed because during all these months I kept blaming myself for being anxious, insecure, too sensitive, etc., while there was actually a huge secret being hidden from me the whole time.

Now she’s extremely apologetic. She wrote me a huge email taking accountability, crying, saying she’ll change, saying she regrets everything and wants one more chance to rebuild trust slowly. Part of me still loves her deeply and sees remorse in her. Another part of me feels like my nervous system will never feel safe with her again.

Has anyone here genuinely rebuilt a relationship after betrayal like this? Or am I holding onto potential because I’m emotionally attached and scared to let go?

I (20M) was in an LDR with my girlfriend. In the beginning, things felt really genuine and emotionally deep. We used to talk daily, share everything, motivate each other, stay up during exams together, and honestly she became my best friend too.

Over time though, I started developing a lot of anxiety in the relationship. Small things like delayed replies, inconsistency, lack of updates, or feeling emotionally unheard would trigger me badly. I kept thinking maybe I was just overthinking or being too emotionally dependent. We even broke up once and got back together after reflecting on our issues. Things genuinely improved after that — she started putting in more effort, initiating texts, saying good morning first, etc. I thought maybe we were finally fixing things.

Then I found out she had been involved with her ex the ENTIRE relationship. Apparently she was in contact with him for around 6 months while dating me, and according to her, she was “slowly trying to let him go” and planned to tell me eventually after exams.

I feel destroyed because during all these months I kept blaming myself for being anxious, insecure, too sensitive, etc., while there was actually a huge secret being hidden from me the whole time.

Now she’s extremely apologetic. She wrote me a huge email taking accountability, crying, saying she’ll change, saying she regrets everything and wants one more chance to rebuild trust slowly. Part of me still loves her deeply and sees remorse in her. Another part of me feels like my nervous system will never feel safe with her again.

Has anyone here genuinely rebuilt a relationship after betrayal like this? Or am I holding onto potential because I’m emotionally attached and scared to let go?

I (20M) was in an LDR with my girlfriend (18F), we meet online, she is from a different country and religion. In the beginning, things felt really genuine and emotionally deep. We used to talk daily, share everything, motivate each other, stay up during exams together, and honestly she became my best friend too.

Over time though, I started developing a lot of anxiety in the relationship. Small things like delayed replies, inconsistency, lack of updates, or feeling emotionally unheard would trigger me badly. I kept thinking maybe I was just overthinking or being too emotionally dependent. We even broke up once and got back together after reflecting on our issues. Things genuinely improved after that — she started putting in more effort, initiating texts, saying good morning first, etc. I thought maybe we were finally fixing things.

Then I found out she had been involved with her ex the ENTIRE relationship. Apparently she was in contact with him for around 6 months while dating me, and according to her, she was “slowly trying to let him go” and planned to tell me eventually after exams.

I feel destroyed because during all these months I kept blaming myself for being anxious, insecure, too sensitive, etc., while there was actually a huge secret being hidden from me the whole time.

Now she’s extremely apologetic. She wrote me a huge email taking accountability, crying, saying she’ll change, saying she regrets everything and wants one more chance to rebuild trust slowly. Part of me still loves her deeply and sees remorse in her. Another part of me feels like my nervous system will never feel safe with her again.

Has anyone here genuinely rebuilt a relationship after betrayal like this? Or am I holding onto potential because I’m emotionally attached and scared to let go?