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Thoughts on FFS Mock-ups?

I am a late-30s non-binary person who is pursuing facial feminization surgery. I've had three FFS consultations, and attached are the 3D pre- and post- mockups from the surgeon I liked best.

I know models aren't perfect, but his results are pretty close to, and usually better than, the model, and I'd love to know if anyone has any thoughts or comments on these mockups in particular. I'm open to anything people have to share, but I'm especially interested in:

* Does the nose work look too little or too much?

* All three surgeons have offered a lip lift, but I've turned them down. Does the "after" look odd or unbalanced without it?

* Same for fat grafting to the cheeks.

* Does the chin work look under-done?

* Do the eyebrows look too lifted?

I am planning to have my hairline lowered as well, but that wasn't included in the model.

Thank you for your thoughts!

u/AssignedSnail — 5 days ago

Thoughts on FFS Mock-ups?

I am a late-30s non-binary person who is pursuing facial feminization surgery. I've had three FFS consultations, and attached are the 3D pre- and post- mockups from the surgeon I liked best.

I know models aren't perfect, but his results are pretty close to, and usually better than, the model, and I'd love to know if anyone has any thoughts or comments on these mockups in particular. I'm open to anything people have to share, but I'm especially interested in:

* Does the nose work look too little or too much?

* All three surgeons have offered a lip lift, but I've turned them down. Does the "after" look odd or unbalanced without it?

* Same for fat grafting to the cheeks.

* Does the chin work look under-done?

* Do the eyebrows look too lifted?

I am planning to have my hairline lowered as well, but that wasn't included in the model.

Thank you for your thoughts!

u/AssignedSnail — 5 days ago

Thoughts on FFS Mock-ups?

I am a non-binary person who is pursuing facial feminization surgery. I've had three FFS consultations, and attached are the 3D pre- and post- mockups from the surgeon I liked best.

I know models aren't perfect, but his results are pretty close to, and usually better than, the model, and I'd love to know if anyone has any thoughts or comments on these mockups in particular. I'm open to anything people have to share, but I'm especially interested in:

* Does the nose work look too little or too much?

* All three surgeons have offered a lip lift, but I've turned them down. Does the "after" look odd or unbalanced without it?

* Same for fat grafting to the cheeks.

* Does the chin work look under-done?

* Do the eyebrows look too lifted?

I am planning to have my hairline lowered as well, but that wasn't included in the model.

Thank you for your thoughts!

u/AssignedSnail — 5 days ago
▲ 126 r/NonBinary

Former Coworker Didn't Recognize Me

I applied for a transfer at work about a year ago. It took six months to happen, but I finally moved back in January. I've been back to the old spot a couple times, but hadn't seen my old coworker "Kat" since.

I walked into the old location yesterday on my day off. Jeans, t-shirt, a bit scraggly cuz I hadn't bothered with shaving or makeup. But, I upped my HRT recently, and I've been on the higher dose about three months.

Anyhow, I see my Kat, and say hi, and we have one of those awkward moments where it's obvious someone can't figure out who you are. So, I'm like, "Hey, it's 'Snail'!"

And the light goes on

And she gets really quiet

And in almost a whisper, she says, "Snail, you're so... beautiful."

Kind queers, I thought I might tear up right there in the store. Changes happen so slowly, I can't see them in the mirror. I've never, or almost never, looked at myself and thought "beautiful". But here was my old coworker completely caught off guard and unable to think of any other word.

We caught up a bit then I got on with my day and she got on with hers. But that really made my day.

Even when we can't see the change, others do. 💛💜

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u/AssignedSnail — 1 month ago
▲ 19 r/prius

Toyota Dealer has "Never Heard of" Charging Dead Traction Battery

I have a friend with a 2nd Gen Prius, 2004, ~240,000 miles. The model for the VIN just says "Prius", and it appears this year was only offered with one trim level.

About a year ago, she had a "new" (reconditioned?) NiMH battery installed. However, about 6 months ago, the downstream O2 sensor started giving error codes, and she had other vehicles, so she just parked it to deal with later. It's now later, and being parked hasn't helped things.

Besides the normal issues for a car that sits too long, the traction battery appears to be completely discharged. We worked through all the OBD codes except P3000/P3030. I found on other forums that this can happen when a Prius sits too long and the traction battery is dead, but good news: the dealership can direct charge the battery!

It took three days to get an answer from our local Toyota dealer's service department. They've "never heard of" changing a dead traction battery. They can only replace it. If we can find an official Toyota Service Bulletin that describes the procedure for charging the HV battery and direct them to it, they'll look into it.

At this point, I'm torn between wanting to be pedantic and just wanting the issue fixed.

  1. Is the info I found online, that the P3000/P3030 can be caused by a fully discharged HV battery, correct?

  2. Is there a service bulletin like the one the dealer is asking for? Because honestly, I'd like to send it to them even if we don't go to them to get it charged

  3. Short of charging cell by cell, which seems way too dangerous for my taste, what are some good resources for finding out more about charging up the hybrid battery ourselves? I don't really want to, but the dealer does not seem inclined to take our money... except for a new car!

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u/AssignedSnail — 1 month ago
▲ 669 r/NonBinary

"On purpose?... Wild"

So, my car's been broken into three times in three weeks. They keep busting up the ignition trying to steal it, and doing a worse job every time. You'd think they'd eventually give up, but all the empty weed pens suggest they may not remember

Anyway, I'm out doing my weekly ritual car repair. Got a new ignition cylinder put in and am working on an aftermarket alarm system because clearly, I need it. And this random stoner wanders up, and is examining the crime scene:

"Hey man, what happened to your ride?"

We chat for a minute, but you can tell he's fighting to come to some sort of conclusion. Finally he stops and goes,

"Uh, sorry. Are you a guy or a girl?"

Now, I'm in work clothes, still a bit greasy from messing with the battery and fuses, halfway to upside down working under the dash. But with some subtle makeup and assorted stud earrings. I just imagine myself half submerged in car parts like a genderqueer chupacabra.

"Well, kind of in between I guess."

He thinks on that for a second, then asks the follow up question I will never forget:

"On purpose?"

Me: "Yeah."

Rando: "Wild..."

And he just walks away into the fog, like an NPC who ran out of dialogue (It was literally foggy. There's some amount of fog here like 200 days a year.)

Anyhow, my husband is now convinced I met the ghost of Mitch Hedberg. If I did, at least I got to introduce him to the idea of non-binary people. Hopefully he remembers

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u/AssignedSnail — 2 months ago
▲ 887 r/lgbt

Watch out for the Emory TWIST Survey!

Emory University cancelled it's DEI programs at the merest breath of pressure from the Trump Administration. They are now asking trans women to TURN OFF VPN and fill out a detailed survey on sexual history and STI risk

Why on earth would people do that? To put it in terms the researchers would understand, it's like someone with a positive STD test saying they don't want to use a condom

If you see a cute ad with gay frogs, asking transfeminine people to fill out a survey, that's who you're dealing with

Trust is earned

u/AssignedSnail — 3 months ago

Hello friends!

The Canadian Paediatric Society's Guidelines for vitamin K prophylaxis in newborns list PO vitamin K (2.0 mg at birth, repeated at 2-4 and 6-8 weeks) as an alternative for newborns whose parents decline IM vitamin K

But what the heck are people actually giving? The only currently-marketed product I can find in the Health Canada database is this injectable emulsion from Sandoz. Are we giving the IM emulsion via oral route or is it being custom compounded? I can't seem to find clinical resources on this anywhere

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u/AssignedSnail — 3 months ago
▲ 455 r/NonBinary

I've been pretty reliably gendered as female lately. Even though in theory it sounds like a good thing, it's triggering a lot of self-doubt.

I actually can't remember the last time a stranger gendered me as male. It's been at least a month? To be clear, I don't *want* to be gendered as male. If I have to choose a binary option, I'd reluctantly pick female. But other than getting called "guys" when I'm standing next to my very male husband, it's been reliably she/her/whatever lately. I don't understand why this is happening, and it's left me with a lot of anxiety and uncertainty.

On the phone, to people who haven't met me, I think I just pass as female, despite my voice being on the lower side (~157 Hz on average). That's nice, honestly, and it sets precedent for a lot else, as about half the people I meet at work I meet first on the phone before we meet in person.

But what's going on with the other half? Is everyone just trying to be polite towards who they think is a super clocky trans woman? I mean, I prefer that to super rude, obviously. But "super clocky trans woman with the public's pity" was not the goal.

I don't have a noticable chest, have only been on a low dose of HRT for a short time, and have what feel (to me, at least) prominent masculine facial features. Certainly, I was getting about 50/50 "ma'am" vs "sir" a year ago, and I don't know what's changed. And it makes me scared to pursue physical transition further, even though I'm really doing it for me and no one else, because I don't understand what is happening

Has anyone had a similar experience? I could really use your thoughts and support 💛💜

u/AssignedSnail — 3 months ago