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Hi!! This August will be my first time seeing Noah performing and I am so excited, are there any groups or threads (here or anywhere else) for the SF show? I’d love to connect in advance with other people who are going. I’m planning on making a bunch of bracelets ahead of time to hand out and just would love to make some friends too! 🫶

I am ALMOST done with the CC series and I have already finished TOG and ACOTAR. I didn’t even realize any of these books overlapped in any way until reading CC! I am so excited to read all of the theories and little tidbits that I may have overlooked or things I might’ve forgotten from other series and just seeing how everything connects.

Please feel free to drop anything interesting about how the series’ connect or individual series theories so I can look through all the comments when I’m done! 🫶

One of my favorite songs on TGD is 23 and until I read the lyrics the other day, I didn’t realize it’s "it can all be the way that it was, if you stay gone"

I thought it was "it can not be the way that it was, stay gone" and I’ve just kept singing it that way because it hits more personally for me like that 🥲

I’m struggling to try to move forward with cutting off my dad. I need support and feel like nobody truly understands what I’ve been through, what I’m going through. I have an amazing aunt who I don’t know how to connect with. She tries so hard and I know she would offer me so much support and love.

She is kind, stable, and tries to give me the right amount of space and support. Throughout years of isolation and abuse from my dad I was not allowed to see her. When I was 18 and moved out of my dad’s house she reached out to try and explain why she couldn’t be there for me and how much she tried. Everything made sense. I need someone but I don’t know how to maintain relationships. I don’t know how to connect with people or begin to get close to her in the way I want to be close with a parent, and I know she wants to be like that for me. She has healthy, good relationships with her 2 kids and I want what they have. I just don’t know how to trust someone like that, how to begin just reaching out all the time like her own kids do. How to get to that comfort level? I feel like it would be so easy if I let it. It just feels so unnatural to me. I’ve never been close like that to anyone before except my partner and our baby daughter. I just wish it were easy. It feels like I don’t deserve it.

Someone reaches out when you are 18 and says that they cared for you like you were their own for 2 years as a baby. You were picked up by your dad and not allowed to see them anymore, and they thought of you every day and love you like their own child. They want to be there for you, and you have always wished you had caring parents who love you and support you. Why can’t I do it?

Hi! New to Ticketmaster here. I have an extra ticket that I want to sell for face value in my towns local fb group, before I make a post I’m just curious if it’s possible to sell directly to someone and have them pay through Ticketmaster? Or do I not have a choice who it goes to? Would I have to post there and say I’m listing it on Ticketmaster at a certain time and hopefully they can snag it? Thanks in advance :)

Hey guys, so my (recovering?) narcissistic dad is starting over his family with a woman in her 30s, pregnant and getting married. They’re also moving back to our hometown that I live in. We moved away when I was a teen and then I moved back here alone when I graduated high school… I’m considering leaving again

Anyways, song recs for my situation please?

lol thanks ❤️

My father is mid 40s and we have had a distanced relationship since I (mid 20s) moved out of his house when I was 18. Prior to that we were very close, AKA he convinced me that he was the only person who would ever love me. He was also terrifying. Any talk of the abuse I endured growing up resulted in "I don’t ever remember that happening", "what are you talking about?" Or "I did the best I could, sorry that wasn’t enough for you".

Over the past few years, he does seem like he’s been getting better. I don’t see or talk to him often, maybe 2x a year with the occasional text. When I moved, he never called, and didn’t text often. I heard a few years back him telling people that I don’t love him and don’t want to talk to him. Besides that, he is in a long term relationship, long term steady job, continuing his sobriety, and seems much more clear headed when we talk. I have to admit it can be hard for me to see him doing better and knowing we could be close if I wanted, but I just can’t let go of my nightmare of a childhood.

I don’t know if he’s truly growing, at least more than what meets the eye. But then he tells me that he is marrying his girlfriend and she is pregnant. I have a toddler of my own. I told him congratulations, but I need space to process. He told me he didn’t understand why I can’t be happy for him and he feels resentment from me, he hopes I can move on. I am tired of ignoring the elephant in the room. I tell him that I know we will never see my upbringing from the same POV, and I try to be empathetic to what he was going through during that time, but I am scarred and it makes it difficult to be happy for him and around him, watching him create the family I wanted. (I didn’t mention that it’s either that or this child will grow up abused, which is worse.) He then tells me that ah, now he understands and it makes sense. Thanks me for telling him, and he now realizes how many apologies he owes me. He wants to be close to me.

I don’t know what I was expecting, but not that. If he knows how horrible it all was, why not apologize sooner, before I bring it up? Why act like you don’t know why I need space? Or is he just agreeing to avoid a fight? I guess it just feels worse when I can’t paint him as a villain and there’s nobody to really blame.

I’m doing a reread right now and just finished QOS. Being re introduced to Elide and knowing how everything ends it is still frustrating to me that we don’t learn more about her magic situation! I would love to hear everyone’s theories that are related to her

This is just another version of "why do you want to work here" (...to make money?) but frustrating nonetheless. For the past 2 years I've been working on cars. Ive been building experience on cars since helping out on jobs as a kid. Its a useful skill, but not a passion, just something to pay the bills. My resume is filled with a variety of manual labor jobs but most recently, working on cars.

My department at the company I work for is closing and my hours have been cut. I made a bunch of phone calls to any labor-like company in my area asking if they're hiring and left a good amount of voicemails. Got a text from a number that i had NOT called, thanking me for the voicemail and asking for an email of my resume. I sent it over and received a response from the email asking why I'm looking to move out of the automotive industry. That would be because I need a job and I need to pay my rent, and most of the auto shops in the area aren't hiring. I don't even know which business this is but its definitely trades related because I only apply to jobs that I'm qualified for.

Anyway I feel like that question is so ridiculous but what is a way to answer it? I am not attached to working on cars, I just happen to have more experience in that industry.

I have a 4 hour (paid) working interview tomorrow morning. I’ll be shadowing the patient care coordinator at the dental office I’m applying for. I have no experience with this position which is fine because they aren’t requiring it, but I’ve never done a working interview before or anything like it! Any suggestions or tips? I am super nervous lol

I had my 3rd and final interview as a care coordinator for a local dental office on Monday, today is Sunday so it’s been 6 days. They’re open Monday-Thursday. I know that I’m one of 3 final candidates, they told me they would get back to me after the final interview but didn’t give a time frame. I thought it had gone well because one of the interviewers was talking to me like I had already gotten the job but now that it’s been almost a week I kind of just figured they probably picked one of the other candidates so BUMMER, but that’s that. My boyfriend is telling me that I should be following up though like you do after submitting an application or doing the first interview. That doesn’t really make sense to me because what are they supposed to say? They need to fill the position so they’re definitely picking someone. Then again, the position requires a lot of follow up so maybe it would look good to check in? I’m not sure.

TLDR: my 21 month old is fine with sitting on the potty but freaks out when I want to have her try to use it. She holds it until I let her up. What do I do???

I started casually introducing the potty to my 21 month old around 18 months. She caught on super quick and went almost 2 days with no accidents. Out of nowhere she became terrified of the potty and didn’t want to be anywhere near it. We took a break and now she’s okay with sitting on it but will NOT use it.

I just saw her in the corner and when I asked her what she’s doing she says "poop" so I go "great! Let’s poop in the potty!" I swiftly put her on it but didn’t try to look panicked or anything that would cause her pressure. She sat on it for a minute and then "all done!". I said no, I know that you need to poop, can you try? Show me how we go poop." She starts trying and I hear that she’s starting to go, and then stopped. She goes "yay!! All done!" I said "great job trying! Let’s keep going, you were doing it!" Cut to immediate tantrum. Screaming, red faced, sobbing "no all done". I get her to calm down and try again, and it’s the exact same thing over again. She’s not constipated, had had plenty of water and fiber-y food today. I don’t know what to do. We’ve had similar situations where I thought maybe she didn’t really need to go and then she jumps up and poops in a corner. I guess I’m just having a hard time understanding because I know she has the ability to understand how to use the potty and I know she can do well, but she is dead set on only using her diapers right now. I know she is young too and I could wait, but it’s hard being approached by my toddler saying "diaper change? Poop?" and still making the decision not to start potty training.

Which song(s) make this true for you?? "Dashboard" was like a gut punch for me lol 🥲 Help me out I’m sure there’s many more of us here with fatherly related issues 🤣