u/BackgroundMajor2054

Sorry it just blows my mind that women take a test, get a positive, and dont feel impending doom the entire pregnancy and just get to hold a baby at the end. I’ve never even heard a heartbeat before. I just lose them at 6 weeks and ask myself if they were even real at all

Husband and I have technically been trying since March. We got pregnant in May and lost that baby. We finally started trying again after months of a miscarriage that wouldn’t clear on its own.

I’m 10 dpo today and have begun testing, which I know is stupid because most women don’t even get a positive now, but 10 was my first faint positive with what would have been my first child. Now they are all blaring negative and it sucks. Like here I am again. I didn’t think trying to get pregnant would be so emotionally exhausting. I naively thought it would be easy. Everyone around seems to get pregnant just by looking at their partner. And everyone else gets to keep their baby.

Anyway. This blows !

We have a 13 and a half week shihtzu who sleeps through the night so I should say I am pretty lucky in that department. But I would like to sleep in past 7:15am at some point 🫩. It’s always 7:04 on the dot no matter what time we put her to sleep. On weekends husband and I like to stay up a little later and we think maybe keeping her up will help her sleep in? NOPE! 7:04 am no matter what.

Will she grow out of this or will I be a 7am riser for the next 15-18 years?

Just sharing the good news, we've had our adorable little shihtzu girl for 4 weeks and crate training is finally working. She now goes in there to nap all on her own and prefers it to the bed we put in her play pen where we leave her when we run out. I actually just put my shirt in there and I think that has been a huge help too. She sleeps through the night now as well. She did have a parasite the last few days which resulted in every 2 hours bringing her to puppy pad to poop, but she still would go back in her crate without any issue.

Also, keep the door open during the day. We never fed here in there because she honestly wouldn't eat in there. We did try. I think she thought we'd lock her in forever, we just left it open during day, made it comfy, and kept it quite casual. I think this worked or maybe we just got lucky.

If you're in the crate training trenches just know it gets better (and also put a shirt that smells like you in there).

Hi all. I had a miscarriage in May and ever since I have been feeling like I am in a grave I cannot get out of. I feel like I slowly pull myself out and then I am pushed back in again.

I grew up in a very Catholic household and my faith is/was a huge part of my life. Honestly, God was the only reason I even made it through half the stuff in my life. But ever since my miscarriage, God feels extremely distant and so does Mary who I used to have a huge devotion too. I don't know how to explain it but it's like a concrete wall went up and I am chiseling away at it but it won't break or fall.

I thought the first week or two after my miscarriage it made sense to be angry and frustrated with him, I was grieving a fresh miscarriage. I thought as time went on it would get better but it's getting worse no matter how much I pray and try to come to terms with it. I think my anger comes from seeing undeserving parents with children, families that continue to grow, while mine remains childless. I know, I know - I am not the storyteller here. God has the final say in everyone else's life and every baby deserves life but these are human emotions that I am just dealing with. Like why would God give a growing baby to someone in a terrible situation while my husband and I lose ours? Trust me, I feel guilty for feeling these things but I can't help it. Every baby deserves to be here despite the circumstances their parents are in. We have a family friend who is in a super toxic marriage, she throws things at her husband, puts her baby in very scary situations, the cops have shown up, and she is very mentally unstable and her and her husband just announced their second pregnancy. It is so hard to not be angry over that no matter how much I try.

Every week gets harder. I'd be showing by now, I'd be planning my baby shower, maybe I would have finally bought the first pair of clothing, or feel a sense of relief that I had finally made it this far.

I don't know how to not be angry at God. I don't know how to find my deep faith again that I once had. I feel scared to trust God and I feel even worse for not trusting him.

Overall, our 11 week old shihtzu is doing pretty great. She can entertain herself for a while, she eats really well (even had to get a slow feeder), potty training is going pretty well outside of the occasional accidents. She knows to go potty outside and if we miss her cue she goes on the puppy pad. My husband and I acknowledge we’re luckier than most.

My issue is the sleeping 😭 she wakes up 2x a night. Once at any point between 2-4am and then 5:30 and then 6:30. We recently started letting her cry a bit at 6:30 and push her to 7, she is doing pretty ok with that but 7 is the absolute max. I miss sleep so much. I miss sleeping through the night mostly. I can do the 7am wake up but I wish I could just sleep soundly all night.

Food is at 6:30 but maybe I should push it to 7? Our older boy eats at around 6:30 too so that’s why we have her on a similar schedule. She goes potty once during her 2-4 wake up. Otherwise, her 5:30 one she just sits on the grass ready to take on the day.

During day she gets a lot of interaction. Lots of playing, lots of potty breaks, lots of attention. She will crash during her naps and sleep for a good 2 hours every hour and a half or so.

She is in her crate and she loves it. She settles fine in there unless she wants to actually get up for the day. But yeah I miss sleep lol. I know this is part of it and eventually it’ll end but I just want to know when other puppies finally got it?

We are officially 1 week into having our 9 week old Shih Tzu. I had puppy blues the first day after a night of 0 sleep but since then she has honestly grown SO much. Shes sleeping longer stretches, independently playing, doing great on leash walks in the yard, and overall just making this way easier than I thought.

The only thing I am struggling with is nap times in the evening. My husband works from home so she stays in her play pen for about 3 hours until he’s able to get off meetings and play with her. She sleeps most of the time from 9-5. I’d say she sleeps probably 9-11, 1-3:30,4.

I get home at around 5 and we play until about 7:30 and she usually knocks out. We try to be in bed at 10-10:30. I have been waking her at around 8:30 to play with her because I do want her to go down easily. But im not sure I should even be waking her. I know puppies need a lot of rest but if she naps a lot towards the evening I’m worried she’ll be restless for an hour in her crate.

Anyway mostly wondering what other dog owners do?

I’ll try to keep this short.

I’ve been going through a miscarriage for the last month after losing our sweet baby at 5w1d. It’s been a rollercoaster of hCG trends. At the ER, my hCG was 48, so we assumed everything was resolving naturally. Then it went to 52, 68, 82, 142, and eventually dropped to 81. We thought we were finally in the clear, but what was supposed to be my “last” hCG draw came back at 89.

I know that isn’t a huge increase, but after weeks of bloodwork, ultrasounds, doctor visits, and uncertainty, it’s incredibly frustrating. I’ve also been bleeding on and off for weeks now and honestly just want my cycle back so I can start feeling normal again.

My doctor has recommended either continuing to monitor my hCG or taking misoprostol to help pass any remaining tissue. We’re not actively trying again right now and we’re open to life as always but taking a mental break from tracking ovulation and monitoring everything so closely.

My struggle is that misoprostol is also used in abortion care and as a Catholic that makes me nervous. I’m worried both about my own conscience and about the Church’s teaching.

I also have a small fear that somehow I could be ending a new pregnancy. I don’t believe I’ve ovulated yet, but my husband and I have been intimate since the miscarriage began. Since my hCG technically increased again, there’s a part of me that worries what if I’m pregnant again and don’t know it?

On top of that, I worry about long-term effects. We hope to have children, hopefully many of them, and I would never forgive myself if I did something that could make that more difficult in the future.

I’m not really sure what to do. We see my doctor next week to discuss options further. I guess I’m looking for guidance from fellow Catholics on how the Church views this situation, especially if anyone has faced something similar.

Hi all. I posted in here about a week ago announcing my pregnancy and asking for guidance on how to deal with the anxiety and fear I’d lose the baby.

Well. I lost the baby. And it was horrible and traumatic and still is. I was only 5 weeks and 2 days but it’s just so much blood and it won’t stop, every time I go to the bathroom it’s just a reminder I lost my child and the future I envisioned in my head.

Motherhood has been my dream since I was a very small girl. Babies, lots of them. This was my first pregnancy so of course my husband and I were just so beyond excited. We told our parents and siblings already and found an OB and were looking into a midwife. We prayed hard and went to adoration when I would get anxious.

I prayed a novena, I prayed to St Catherine of Siena every day to intercede for my baby, I asked Mary to intercede , and begged God to just please protect my baby.

I know that he knows better, I know that. I know that the world isn’t fair and God doesn’t promise no hurt. But I just feel so mad at him, I feel far from him. Instead of finding comfort I feel betrayed.

I’m afraid to get pregnant again and afraid I’ll never get pregnant again. And I feel sad that the excitement of a first pregnancy was robbed from my husband and I.

I am 4w4d today and obviously haven’t seen an OBGYN yet, so I’ve been doing some Googling and research on my own. From what I’ve read, caffeine free hydration packets are usually considered fine during pregnancy, but I wanted to hear from other moms too.

I’ve never really liked plain water, before pregnancy I probably drank at most half a glass a day. I know hydration is super important now though, so to help myself drink more water, I add Hydromate peach tea hydration packets to a full stanley cup. They’re low in sugar and caffeine free. Google says they should be fine, but I’m curious if other moms drank hydration packets during pregnancy as well and if you had any others that you got the ok for!

Hi all! Baby is very wanted and loved so much, husband and I are over the moon and so grateful God is entrusting us with this baby. I am 4 weeks today!

But oh wow am I just so very anxious. I know logically a majority of pregnancies end up being normal, babies are healthy, mom is fine. I know the internet is filled with scary stories and makes everything more extreme than it is but there are just so many of those stories. I am so nervous about miscarriage, about genetic issues, about still-birth. I started a novena for expectant mothers to help and I pray every day and I said a rosary. My husband also is nervous even though he tries not to make it obvious. He said an odd comment when I said we'd be parents like, "let's just slow down." We're both a little on edge and I wish we weren't.

We have no history of miscarriage, this is our first pregnancy. My mother had 5 healthy children, his mother had 2. We're both in good health as far as we know.

My first appointment isn't until June. I've tested twice a day since I found out and I really want to stop testing because it is giving me more anxiety "oh the line isn't as dark as this morning, is it chemical?"

Anyway, just curious how to let go and give it to God. I feel like I am failing him by being so nervous. I also know being anxious won't change anything.