u/Baring-My-Heart

Hi everyone,

Hope y’all are doing well!

My LDR bf and I are going to rome in December, and I wanted to get some nice pictures of us done. Looking for a photographer that makes us look like we came out of a magazine spread or a romantasy novel. Ideally indoors, ideally ones that speak english and/or German. Open to any dates between dec 26-30th!

Long story short, my LDR BF from Germany is working in America right now (diff state). He flies in tomorrow morning, so in preparation for it, I got my house cleaned. It was…rough. I had been depressed for over a month, and I’d done my best to tidy it before I came, but it ended up taking the cleaners longer + costing more than expected. I felt like such a failure - like if I couldn’t even keep a clean house, what was I doing?

My boyfriend kept reassuring me that it was okay, that he’d help me before my 4th of july party I’m throwing tomorrow, etc. Even though I tell him it’s not his job or responsibility, he insists on helping. And honestly? It makes me feel SO much better. I legit teared up during all of this.

Along with that, I was telling him about how there was this sweatpants and sweatshirt I really wanted, but that it was expensive. Tell me why this sweet man bought it for me with no hesitation or questions?

In turn, I found this ring that he would love that compliments the couples ring we have. I got him to admit he wanted it, but then acted like i wasn’t sure if we could find a ring that fit him. It’s expensive (rip my wallet) but I think the smile on his face will be so worth it.

Hey y’all,

Just want to say that this subreddit has truly helped me a lot. I have a double whammy of EDs (ARFID and Anorexia) that no one in my life, not even my family or my bf, can fully understand. A lot of the times, I use this subreddit as my outlet because I’m a Corporate Girlie™️ that is supposed to have her shit together. But I don’t, and this subreddit is immensely helpful in letting me know it’s okay to not be okay. Even when I’m spiraling and/or back on a bad path (like I am rn), I know I can post here to get support, validation that I’m not crazy, and encouragement.

Along with that, I just want to say - you’re not alone. Anorexia is truly such an isolating ED that makes everything a competition, but being able to find my “community” here truly does mean a lot to me. Thank you for everyone that participates in uplifting/correcting behavior - and I say correcting because we all know the ED voice is SO real. And thanks to the mods for all the work y’all do - I couldn’t do it.

Have a great day/night everyone!

The price. It’s SO expensive but by God I’m so intrigued. I love solid perfumes and she has samples of those PLUS her oils. But the priceeeeeeee…..

Someone help me decide?

Vent vent vent PLEASE do not engage if you’re triggered by these. I know I can’t help everyone but if you’re sensitive to this, PLEASE SKIP.

TLDR; I’ve gained x weight since being off the shot and I am spiraling.

I’ve allowed myself to eat too much, and I am so triggered by myself - I thought i bloated but then I weighed. What makes it worse is no one says it looks like I gained x pounds. But I feel like I see it in my face. I feel like my clothes are too tight now. I’ve been off the shot for a few months and I’m so so so upset. I didn’t even WANT to lose more weight. I had reached a weight i felt comfortable with for the most part. So I’m??????

What the fuck hahahaha. My urge to think about food, calorie count, starve, binge, etc is SO high. So what do I do? I cave and I’m back on the GLP-1. I cannot wait for my shot to come in because I NEED to be thin. I need to be pretty. I need to be skinny. I need to tear my flesh from my bones and smile for the camera because it’s what gives me validation.

And I KNOW it’s because I’m seeing my bitch of an ex roommate from a decade ago tomorrow. And I wanted to feel superior to her in weight, if not also looks (I never claimed to be a good person). And my boyfriend comes in next week. And I wanted to wear my cute bathing suit and go to the lake with him. And my sister is pregnant and terrified of gaining weight + my mom is back on the shot and I just????? Am LOSING it.

I just. Can y’all keep me in your prayers/thoughts? I want to cry haha.

Hey y’all,

Hope everyone is okay!!

Just need to see if I’m going insane. I read A Fate Inked in Blood and honestly pretty strongly disliked it? To keep it spoiler free (also because idk how do spoiler on reddit), the main thing I disliked is how the FMC didn’t make any meaningful friendships and only seemed to have the MMC to rely on. Which, knowing the theme of the book, I can understand, but I kept going, “What connections to anything are we making here???”

Also, I strongly disliked how the world building felt so flat? I expected to dig into the Norse mythology and world building especially (my cup of tea) but it just… didn’t exist? Like one of my favorite series growing up was Song of the Lioness by Tamora Pierce, and she nailed everything - world building, romance, action, friendships, etc. Honestly, I almost DNF’d A Fate Inked in Blood because the pacing also felt super….well, almost nonexistent in parts?

Anyway, with that said, I’m trying to find a romantasy with good world-building and friendships (familial welcomed as well!) that are set in a Norse/Viking inspired world. Can y’all please help a girl out?

Hey y’all,

Hope all is good! I’ve got a few scents by For Strange Women that I’m curious about, but I can’t justify the price point. Does anyone know of any perfumes similar to the below?

Persephone - pomegranate, tuberose, orris, mimosa, black currant Siren - saltwater, jasmine, driftwood, seaweed, sand Fireside Story - sandalwood, vanilla, bonfire, dry branches, wood smoke

We’re LDR (USA to Germany) and he always calls me when I’m on my way home from work in the late afternoon. I had a concert I attended last night, so I didn’t get home until very late and I didn’t get to sleep long. Knowing all this, I got in bed to talk to my boyfriend for a bit before he would go to sleep.

However, he’s SO sweet. He saw how tired I was and offered to read to me. I requested something in German, and he grabbed a philosophy book and began reading to me. I apparently fell asleep listening to him talk.

When I woke up for my night calls with work, I called him to say nini (i saw he’d been active about 20 min before I called). When I thanked him for doing that, he replied, “I’m your boyfriend. It’s the least I can do.”

Gosh, I love this man.

I gotta be so real with y’all, I work a very stressful and demanding job. As a result, I have mental brain drain more than not. I LOVE reading books that spoon-feed me the answers to riddles of puzzles. I love maps being shown and the pieces of a puzzle being explained to me as I read. At the end of a long, long day (since I do night calls more often than not) I’m just happy to be reading period. So shoutout to the authors that give me fun, easy to digest reads while still being immersed. I see you and know this tired Corporate Girlie™️ appreciates you!

The TLDR; rough month getting out of a depression slump, period came early, stressed, anorexia urges are strong, etc. my boyfriend and I have a 7 hr time difference and he was back in his home country. Despite it being like 11pm when I get off, he calls me every ride home without fail. I get home, we talk a bit more, i complain about how I’m struggling, he listens, etc. My doorbell rings. Confused, I lower the volume and answer the door as I think it’s a salesperson or something.

Y’all. This sweet, thoughtful, loving man ordered me roses and chocolate from my local grocery store. When I thanked the woman and took my flowers + chocolate inside, I asked him what made him wanna do it. He simply said, “Well, I know you miss getting flowers from me. And you’ve had a rough time and I know you like chocolate.”

I cannot wait to see him soon. Love love love him.

Hey y’all,

Hope all is well! My LDR BF and I will be visiting Rome from Dec 25-30 and I’d like to buy some nice jewelry for myself to remember the trip. What shops would you recommend??

My only caveat is that I don’t want a big “chain” store like Kays or something. I would like to shop local if possible.

(And bonus points if it’s antique jewelry!)

Hi all,

Hope you’re well! My LDR boyfriend and I decided to go to Rome from Dec 25 - Dec 30! I wanted to buy some gold or silver jewelry while I’m there in order to remember the trip. However, I’m just not sure where to start. Does anyone have any recommendations? Ideally, I would want a local place, not a chain place, but I’ll take whatever y’all would think is best!

Hi everyone,

Hope y’all are doing well and I’m seeking some advice, please! My LDR bf and I are going planning to be in Ireland from Dec 25-Dec 30. Originally, we landed on a few cities to visit: Dublin, Galway, and Kinsale/Cork. Problem is, I’m struggling to find if places will be open for tours/shopping/workshops, etc.

I like workshops, museums, photography sessions, shopping local, and experiences like being on a boat or making pottery.

My bf likes food, beer, museums, experiences like making pottery, walking tours, and folklore.

If y’all think it’s a nay, where would y’all recommend we go to? I’m just unsure what places will be open in that timeframe, but I’m open to other cities in Ireland or even a different country if y’all think it’d be a better fit.

Hey y’all,

Hope everyone is doing well! I’ve been using a hair oil from skinfood named argan oil. However, it’s been discontinued and I am only mildly devastated lol. It was good for keeping my hair silky and smooth, and a bonus was that it also helped with any heat damage from when I rarely curled my hair. Do y’all have any recs for what I can use to replace it with?

Along with that, I LOVE linen sprays, but the ones I have don’t really last that long. Do y’all have any recs for brands with long-lasting sprays?

Hey y’all,

Hope everyone is doing well! I’m asexual and LOVE romantasy (or romance in general lol) but decided I’d love to read an asexual romantasy. If y’all have any recommendations, I’d love to know them!