u/Bec_

So we are considering moving to Gainesville for family but I need advice on the restaurant/bartending scene. My husband is a full time bartender at one of the few high end restaurants where we live now (another SEC college town with similar culture, but lower cost of living).

If you are a bartender in the Gainesville area at a higher end restaurant or know someone who is, can you let me know how it is and approx how much you make? Are the restaurants super busy consistently?

He has been looking around at restaurants in Gainesville and says he thinks Prime and Pearl or Spark at Embers would be good fits for his experience. He has been bartending for 10 years and is very talented at it. he makes the weekly rotating craft cocktail menu and makes completely new specials weekly. Makes homemade bitters and syrups, etc. Basically he would want a place where he has similar creative freedom.

Of course we know how it works at restaurants and as a new hire you don't always get the best shifts and some places even have you serve for a while before you can bartend. And there may not even be openings at the places he likes.

Basically we don't want to make the move and find out he wouldn't make good money. Before tips he makes $8 an hour bartending, $16 when doing inventory, cleaning, etc but all of that goes to taxes. He makes approx $65k a year. He would need to make more to counter the higher cost of living. So trying to gauge if that's even possible.

Thanks so much for your help!!

Legitimately I hate my brain sometimes. I try the whole be kind to yourself thing but I get pissed at myself sometimes because WHY can I not be normal. Severe PTSD isn't making any of this easier.

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Happiness, let alone contentment, feels like an unreachable goal. Or if I had a period where I felt happiness, no it wasn't it was hypomania and I did so much stupid crap that I now deal with the shame of it all. Depression hits me like a truck some days and it's just awful.

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I'm on lamotrigine and it has helped a LOT. But my brain is so fucked there only so much it can do.

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I look back on my life and am so angry because I spent all of it dealing with horrible shitty traumatic situations. And now my life is a lot better, but my brain isn't and I have all this PTSD to deal with so it doesn't even matter. And of course there's still so much stress involved with living.

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Sorry for my rant, but I'm sure some of y'all will understand.

Hi!

I am looking for customizable sample packs alcohol spray perfumes. I would love to be able to pick my own scents! Does anyone have any recommendations of brands? Affordable samples if possible!

I'm pretty new to indie perfume and trying to discover all the different brands out there. I found solstice scents, but each individual sample is $8 which is a bit high because I like to have a sample pack of around 5 to test.

I have tried Alkemia perfumes, I like some of the scents I have, but they are oil-based and don't last a very long time/aren't strong enough. I think I'm more of a traditional alcohol spray perfume kind of gal.

Thanks everyone!!

EDIT: I meant to add that I really do not like sweet dessert scents. So any recommendations for brands that lean away from that scent category would be great!

This has been happening to me for months in a public group I admin that has 23k members. And I mean literally zero views and zero interactions until an hour has passed. It even looks like members who have group notifications on don't even get notified until an hour has passed sometimes. And no I am not scheduling the posts.

This is so annoying and weird. Anyone else dealt with this or have any solutions?

When I was young I always wanted to have big boobs. I felt like they looked nice, having them would make me feel more feminine and shapely. I was jealous of all the girls with big boobs as a teen when mine were small. Now at 29 mine are a 30DD and not huge, but they're just big enough to be obnoxious.

I HATE bras but if I don't wear them I can't so much as walk fast without them hurting. I still refuse to wear them unless I'm going hiking or exercising. And don't get me started on the 2.5 weeks of my luteal phase where they hurt SO bad.

Boobs are overrated. I sometimes daydream of being an a cup so I can run around without having to hold my boobs in place because a sports bra won't even do its job properly.

End rant.