u/BehindTheS3ea

I’m having my hysterectomy in a month and my consult with the surgeon didn’t include any examining down there and not even an ultrasound. The examining will all be done while I’m under. However, my surgeon did make it clear she’s going to have to do an internal exam a few weeks post op to make sure everything is okay. I’ve been really stressed about this specifically because having an internal exam done while awake sounds really scary to me. I think I could do it with some sedation though. Even just oral sedation would probably be enough. Has anyone ever asked their surgeon for something like this before and was it an issue? I don’t want them to think I’m drug seeking or anything, I just think I’m gonna be so stressed during the post op exam without it.

I have a friend that I met through college and it has come to my attention from other people telling me that she has feelings for me. I’m pretty oblivious in general so I didn’t realize she was flirting with me until other people told me.

In social settings she’s always laughing at my jokes and primarily interacts with me. She’s very sweet and shows her love for her friends but it seems like she gives me special treatment. Like she would show up to class randomly with gifts for me and playfully makes fun of me which I know people tend to do when they’re flirting. She also fishes to get compliments from me a lot.

I am in a committed relationship with my boyfriend though and I do not feel the same way about her. She knows I have a boyfriend so I figured she was just being nice but other people really seem to think she’s flirting. Side note, I am bisexual and she knows this because she knows I have dated women before.

She asks me to hang out a lot and I’m not really sure how to respond because I’m not really comfortable with that. I don’t want her to think I’m leading her on. I usually just try to turn it into a group event with our other friends. I do enjoy our friendship but it has just made me a little uncomfortable to be flirted with. I just don’t want her to waste her time chasing someone who is unavailable because she is very nice and there are other available people out there that I’m sure would like to meet her!

I graduated from my veterinary nursing program today with my associates! I got summa cum laude and valedictorian too! Now it’s time to lock in on studying for the VTNE and then I’m an LVT!

If I had known I would not have bought tickets :/

Over the past couple years my weight has been slowly creeping up. I’m a 21 year old 5’5” male and I’ve usually been around 140lbs but a busy school schedule, bad diet, and health issues have caused my weight to get up to 165lbs. That is the heaviest I have ever been and seeing that number a month ago made me realize I have to change something.

I have gone to the gym since I was 17, but I’ve never been consistent about it until now. But I have always really loved going to the gym and found that it helps me a lot. So a month ago I decided I was going to make the necessary lifestyle changes to lose weight and build more muscle. Diabetes runs in my family like crazy and while I get my levels checked regularly and have never been even pre diabetic, the idea of developing the disease scares the shit out of me. On top of that, I want to spend my 20’s feeling confident and good about myself. I want to build healthy habits now so I can maintain them throughout my life.

So I started by reducing my calories to about 1500-1700 per day. I did have some “cheat” days where I ate at maintenance instead but I never went over. I also started going to the gym consistently at least 3 times a week. I did have some hormonal issues that were a factor in the weight gain so I got those corrected with the help of my doctor, but it was ultimately my own habits that led to the weight gain. I’ve started choosing healthier foods such as fish, chicken, quinoa, Greek yogurt, fruits, and veggies. These are all foods that I absolutely love so this wasn’t really a difficult change for me. I’ve always been really picky about drinks and have pretty much only drank water my entire life and I don’t drink coffee so I think that also helped. I had to learn to tell myself “no” when I wanted to keep eating but knew that I had already met my calorie goal for the day. This was a hard thing for me but it’s getting easier.

I have lost 5lbs in the first month by making these changes! I am feeling so much better everyday too! My energy level is much higher and my stomach issues are almost completely gone. I used to get stomach aches almost daily and I’ve found I am not dealing with that anymore. I am so pleased by my progress so far! My next goal is to do more strength training and start working on building muscle.