u/BluesCamper

I think I have a situation for a status Inversion at my job. There is a clique of bullies at my job that think they run the place. Most of them are childish and just cause problems for everyone.

So I was the victim of a smear campaign and workplace mobbing. A narcissist didn't like me and started a smear campaign against me. She started saying little lies about me which turned into bigger lies. Everyone started to low key treat me bad. Then the lies escalated into a sexually degrading rumor.

So I filed sexual harassment charges. Now they can't say that lies about me again. Or any lie at all because it'll be retaliation. As a sexual harassment victim I have a lot of legal protections.

I noticed that this is affecting the political environment. The bullies are all quiet and afraid to talk now. Also a lot of people are starting to distance themselves from them. For obvious reasons. The mob has effectively been dismantled.

the bullies are more vulnerable now. even if they don't get terminated for sexual harassment and the charges are dismissed, they are vulnerable now. because it's still in the HR file that they were accused of sexual harassment. so if they got accused again they now have a history. if they get accused of anything at all now they have a history of being troublemakers. which will could force them to permanently control their behavior.

Since I now have a protected status as a sexual harassment victim the company legally has to provide a safe work environment for me. I have a simple plan to break up the mob by preventing them from consolidating. I'm going to ask that they rearrange who sits where so that everyone has at least one neutral party near them at all times. that way if any harassment starts they'll hopefully have at least one witness. it's a simple request but it could create a deterrent to prevent anyone from being mobbed in the future.

I'm thinking that I can use this situation to create a status Inversion. Where the people that used to be popular are now toxic and if you associate with them too much you just might get fired with them. Not to mention that many people are looking at me like a hero for standing up to them.

We even have a few new hires and they also seem to be avoiding the bullies. The new hires seem to be trying to build relationships with me instead of them. Now that the bullies are being silenced and at risk of termination all the quiet people are starting to warm up. I'm thinking that this is an opportunity to change the power dynamics.

I think I have a situation for a status Inversion at my job. There is a clique at my job that think they run the place. Most of them are childish and just cause problems for everyone.

So I was the victim of a smear campaign and workplace mobbing. A narcissist didn't like me and started a smear campaign against me. She started saying little lies about me which turned into bigger lies. Everyone started to low key treat me bad. Then the lies escalated into a sexually degrading rumor.

So I filed sexual harassment charges. Now they can't say that lies about me again. Or any lie at all because it'll be retaliation. As a sexual harassment victim I have a lot of legal protections.

I noticed that this is affecting the political environment. The bullies are all quiet and afraid to talk now. Also a lot of people are starting to distance themselves from them. For obvious reasons.

the bullies are more vulnerable now. even if they don't get terminated for sexual harassment and the charges are dismissed, they are more vulnerable now. because it's still in the HR file that they were accused of sexual harassment. so if they got accused again they now have a history. if they get accused of anything at all now they have a history of being troublemakers. which will could force them to permanently control their behavior.

Since I now have a protected status as a sexual harassment victim the company legally has to provide a safe work environment for me. I have a simple plan to break up the mob by preventing them from consolidating. I'm going to ask that they rearrange who sits where so that everyone has at least one neutral party near them at all times. that way if any harassment starts they'll hopefully have at least one witness. it's a simple request but it could create a deterrent to prevent anyone from being mobbed in the future.

I'm thinking that I can use this situation to create a status Inversion. Where the people that used to be popular are now toxic and if you associate with them too much you just might get fired with them. Not to mention that many people are looking at me like a hero for standing up to them.

We even have a few new hires and they also seem to be avoiding the bullies. The new hires seem to be trying to build relationships with me instead of them. Now that the bullies are being silenced and at risk of termination all the quiet people are starting to warm up. I'm thinking that this is an opportunity to change the power dynamics.

I can't go into too many details. For context I was the victim of workplace mobbing. The usual stuff with small lies and bullying and then escalating into bigger lies and sexual harassment. I since went to HR.

Things are looking good for me now. Besides the embarrassment of the nature of their sexual harassment I have the upper hand. The mob has mostly been destroyed. I look like the perfect victim and have the protection of being a sexual harassment victim.

I gave Most people involved in the mobbing a chance to walk away. Which they are. They don't want to risk getting fired now that HR is on top of it. I did it that way so I can make it actionable for HR.

However the narcissist that started the smear campaign in the first place hasn't been named. Now I seen the narcissist has recruited a new flying monkey. It's someone that has been friendly with me this whole time. Someone that didn't participate in the mobbing when everyone else was.

I think it's just because I told another woman that I loved her and thanked her for being supportive. She then got up and I think she was expecting praise too. I was just too hesitant to do it because I didn't want to risk her mistaking it for something sexual. I really feel bad about it too because I wanted to. I was just worried about making a mistake.

Now she's joined a dying campaign just for that. She even made the same indirect sexual comments which is about to get people fired. All because I was afraid of giving her the same kind of praise out of fear that she might consider it sexual. I just on shaky ground and had to be careful.

Not too mention that they sounded really creepy because I see they are just completely obsessed with me. They really had an entire pre-planned conversation in front of me. Where they indirectly brought up a bunch of things I told them throughout the years that I've worked there. It was like watching a play. It really would have been some real psychological shit. Except that it was completely obvious.

I was mobbed at work which escalated into vicious demeaning sexual lies about me. I since reported it to HR and it looks pretty bad for them. I mean the bullying got so intense and they said some very derogatory things. So at the very least I think the bullying is over.

The question is how to proceeding to heal after this? Because I'm sure many people believe the lies that they spread about me. How can I continue working there with these people?

The best I've been able to think about is that it's now been reframed after going to HR. It's been reframed from gossip against me to they were bullying and committed sexual harassment. Even though I look bad because of the demeaning sexual lies about me, they look crazy and deranged. Now it's less about whether the gossip was true or not and more focused on why were they engaged in this behavior that is so inappropriate.

From those that managed to stop workplace bullying and continue on, how did you do it?

I was mobbed at work which escalated into vicious demeaning sexual lies about me. I since reported it to HR and it looks pretty bad for them. I mean the bullying got so intense and they said some very derogatory things. So at the very least I think the bullying is over.

The question is how to proceeding to heal after this? Because I'm sure many people believe the lies that they spread about me. How can I continue working there with these people?

The best I've been able to think about is that it's now been reframed after going to HR. It's been reframed from gossip against me to they were bullying and committed sexual harassment. Even though I look bad because of the demeaning sexual lies about me, they look crazy and deranged. Now it's less about whether the gossip was true or not and more focused on why were they engaged in this behavior that is so inappropriate.

From those that managed to stop workplace bullying and continue on, how did you do it?

I was mobbed which escalated into vicious demeaning sexual lies about me. I since reported it to HR and it looks pretty bad for them. I mean the bullying got so intense and they said some very derogatory things. So at the very least I think the bullying is over.

The question is how to proceeding to heal after this? Because I'm sure many people believe the lies that they spread about me. How can I continue working there with these people?

The best I've been able to think about is that it's now been reframed after going to HR. It's been reframed from gossip against me to they were bullying and committed sexual harassment. Even though I look bad because of the demeaning sexual lies about me, they look crazy and deranged. Now it's less about whether the gossip was true or not and more focused on why were they engaged in this behavior that is so inappropriate.

From those that managed to stop workplace bullying and continue on, how did you do it?

I was mobbed which escalated into vicious demeaning sexual lies about me. I since reported it to HR and it looks pretty bad for them. I mean the bullying got so intense and they said some very derogatory things. So at the very least I think the bullying is over.

The question is how to proceeding to heal after this? Because I'm sure many people believe the lies that they spread about me. How can I continue working there with these people?

The best I've been able to think about is that it's now been reframed after going to HR. It's been reframed from gossip against me to they were bullying and committed sexual harassment. Even though I look bad because of the demeaning sexual lies about me, they look crazy and deranged. Now it's less about whether the gossip was true or not and more focused on why were they engaged in this behavior that is so inappropriate.

From those that managed to stop workplace bullying and continue on, how did you do it?

Like I said before I was mobbed which escalated into vicious demeaning sexual lies about me. I since reported it to HR and I'm sure it looks pretty bad for them. I mean the bullying got so intense and they said some very derogatory things. So at the very least I think the bullying is over.

The question is how to proceeding to heal after this? Because I'm sure many people believe the lies that they spread about me. How can I continue working there with these people?

The best I've been able to think about is that it's now been reframed from bullying and gossip against me to they committed sexual harassment (a crime). Even though I look bad from the demeaning sexual lies about me, they look crazy and deranged. Now it's less about whether the gossip was true or not and more focused on why were they engaged in this behavior that is so inappropriate.

From those that managed to stop the bullying and continue on, how did you do it?

Like I said before I was mobbed which escalated into vicious demeaning sexual lies about me. I since reported it to HR and I'm sure it looks pretty bad for them. I mean the bullying got so intense and they said some very derogatory things. So at the very least I think the bullying is over. They said so many hateful things that there really is no way they can explain it away.

The question is how to proceeding to heal after this? Because I'm sure many people believe the lies that they spread about me. How can I continue working there with these people?

The best I've been able to think about is that it's now been reframed from bullying and gossip against me to they committed sexual harassment (a crime). Even though I look bad from the demeaning sexual lies about me, they look crazy and deranged which is much worse. Now it's less about whether the gossip was true or not and more focused on why were they engaged in this behavior that is so inappropriate.

From those that managed to stop workplace bullying and continue on, how did you do it?

I just had a terrible situation with workplace mobbing. It started with one person that spread little lies and turned some people against.me. The lies then became bigger and more malicious to the point of sexual harassment which got reported to HR. Now someone will probably be fired.

There was also a separate situation where HR was called on some people. I'm thinking that even if some of the bullies didn't get fired, it's now in their HR file that they were accused. So they have to be careful going forward. Because if they get accused of the same thing again, now they have a history of it. Or if they get accused of something else by someone else, they have a history of being trouble makers. Even the ones that aren't accused are now suspected of engaging/participating in inappropriate behavior.

The atmosphere is slowly returning to normal. Except now the bullies are on notice and look worse than the person they spread the rumor about. Now they are worried to talk and joke like they usually do. I also noticed how now the quiet people are talking more and becoming closer.

I thinking now that HR is being called they look like the bad guys. So I'm wondering if this can be used to isolate the bullies instead of their targets? If the quieter people can continue becoming closer they can one day come together to testify against the bullies. Kinda like workplace mobbing but in a positive defensive way.

I just had a terrible situation with workplace mobbing. It started with one person that spread little lies and turned some people against.me. The lies then became bigger and more malicious to the point of sexual harassment which got reported to HR. Now someone will probably be fired.

There was also a separate situation where HR was called on some people. I'm thinking that even if some of the bullies didn't get fired, it's now in their HR file that they were accused. So they have to be careful going forward. Because if they get accused of the same thing again, now they have a history of it. Or if they get accused of something else by someone else, they have a history of being trouble makers. Even the ones that aren't accused are now suspected of engaging/participating in inappropriate behavior.

The atmosphere is slowly returning to normal. Except now the bullies are on notice and look worse than the person they spread the rumor about. Now they are worried to talk and joke like they usually do. I also noticed how now the quiet people are talking more and becoming closer.

I thinking now that HR is being called they look like the bad guys. So I'm wondering if this can be used to isolate the bullies instead of their targets? If the quieter people can continue becoming closer they can one day come together to testify against the bullies. Kinda like workplace mobbing but in a positive defensive way.

I just had a terrible situation with workplace mobbing. It started with one person that spread little lies and turned some people against.me. The lies then became bigger and more malicious to the point of sexual harassment which got reported to HR. Now someone will probably be fired.

There was also a separate situation where HR was called on some people. I'm thinking that even if some of the bullies didn't get fired, it's now in their HR file that they were accused. So they have to be careful going forward. Because if they get accused of the same thing again, now they have a history of it. Or if they get accused of something else by someone else, they have a history of being trouble makers. Even the ones that aren't accused are now suspected of engaging/participating in inappropriate behavior.

The atmosphere is slowly returning to normal. Except now the bullies are on notice and look worse than the person they spread the rumor about. Now they are worried to talk and joke like they usually do. I also noticed how now the quiet people are talking more and becoming closer.

I thinking now that HR is being called they look like the bad guys. So I'm wondering if this can be used to isolate the bullies instead of their targets? If the quieter people can continue becoming closer they can one day come together to testify against the bullies. Kinda like workplace mobbing but in a positive defensive way.

To make a long story short, I was the victim of workplace mobbing. It started with one narcissist saying little lies about me and recruiting others against me. It then turned into some nasty sexual harassment. Which made me have to go to HR.

One of the issues I faced was trying to find witnesses that I can trust will tell the truth. I reached out to one of my friends that also had issues with people saying bad things about him as well. I also noticed that now that I distanced myself from the bullies a lot of the quiet people are much more friendly with me.

I'm wondering if we can make a pact that we'll each make notes of what is being said so if the time comes we can count on each other to be each other's witnesses. Because the bullies already have a clique that will defend them or at least not testify against them. So why not just make a deal with some people that you know beforehand will speak in your defense?

I asked the AI and says it's a bad idea because HR investigators are trained to look for collusion. It says they look for biases and similar key phrases. But I think we can easily avoid that by not being too buddy buddy in front of everyone and not saying the exact same thing.

Anyway just curious what you all think of this because it is a dog eat dog world outhere and we need to be prepared.

To make a long story short, I was the victim of workplace mobbing. It started with one narcissist saying little lies about me and recruiting others against me. It then turned into some nasty sexual harassment. Which made me have to go to HR.

One of the issues I faced was trying to find witnesses that I can trust will tell the truth. I reached out to one of my friends that also had issues with people saying bad things about him as well. I also noticed that now that I distanced myself from the bullies a lot of the quiet people are much more friendly with me.

I'm wondering if we can make a pact that we'll each make notes of what is being said so if the time comes we can count on each other to be each other's witnesses. Because the bullies already have a clique that will defend them or at least not testify against them. So why not just make a deal with some people that you know beforehand will speak in your defense?

I asked the AI and says it's a bad idea because HR investigators are trained to look for collusion. It says they look for biases and similar key phrases. But I think we can easily avoid that by not being too buddy buddy in front of everyone and not saying the exact same thing.

Anyway just curious what you all think of this because it is a dog eat dog world outhere and we need to be prepared.

To make a long story short, I was the victim of workplace mobbing. It started with one narcissist saying little lies about me and recruiting others against me. It then turned into some nasty sexual harassment. Which made me have to go to HR.

One of the issues I faced was trying to find witnesses that I can trust will tell the truth. I reached out to one of my friends that also had issues with people saying bad things about him as well. I also noticed that now that I distanced myself from the bullies a lot of the quiet people are much more friendly with me.

I'm wondering if we can make a pact that we'll each make notes of what is being said so if the time comes we can count on each other to be each other's witnesses. Because the bullies already have a clique that will defend them or at least not testify against them. So why not just make a deal with some people that you know beforehand will speak in your defense?

I asked the AI and says it's a bad idea because HR investigators are trained to look for collusion. It says they look for biases and similar key phrases. But I think we can easily avoid that by not being too buddy buddy in front of everyone and not saying the exact same thing.

Anyway just curious what you all think of this because it is a dog eat dog world outhere and we need to be prepared.

I was the victim of some very horrible workplace bullying, mobbing and humiliating sexual harassment. I since reported it to HR. It started because of a narcissist started a smear campaign against me that got pretty bad. Another issue is that the original narcissist bully isn't named in the HR case.

I have since decided to just go grey rock, do my job and go home. This is basically what all the anti work bullying subs recommend I do. It's really just to avoid giving people anything they can use against me and also to make myself too boring for the narcissist to mess with me.

I'm just wondering if you know what new political problems this could create. As I already started the situation is already really bad. What new problems can going grey rock create for me?