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FTM, feeling like a failure as a FTM, because I can’t figure out why my baby is fussing 80% of the time. He’s 5 months old now, but he’s been a fussier since day 1. He doesn’t like most things (stroller, car seat, bouncer, swing, and definitely NOT bassinet) and is quite vocal about it. He’ll calm down when held but now he even seems to fuss then. I always go through a checklist in my mind: hungry? soiled? tired (my default?) — and when all those needs are met, I’m just left baffled. I feel horrible about it because all the books I read and internet guidelines say not to let your baby fussy/cry for too long, and instead address their needs, but WHAT IF YOU JUST HAVE NO CLUE WHAT THOSE ARE? Anyone else feel this way?

I have some questions for those of you who’ve had success with CIO! Tonight we’ll be on night 5 of CIO/SLIP. It’s going ok but we’re struggling with false starts and several random (seemingly non-food related) wakings.. Our LO is 20 weeks old. He naps 3 times a day with wake windows 2/2/2/2.5. We cap nap time at 3-3.5 hours max for the whole day usually. Wake up and bedtime honestly can vary quite a bit based on how sleep went during the night but it’s around 730/8am wake and 730/8pm bedtime. We’ve done shorter nights too (11 hours) but he seems pretty tired the next day if we do this and he doesn’t naturally seem ready to get up after 11 hours in bed.

1. False starts & Bedtime? — he always wakes up 35-45 minutes after falling sleep, no matter what (for both naps and after bedtime). He cries even longer here than at bedtime. Is this an issue with his sleep schedule? (schedule details above) He seems quite fussy during the day if I try to stretch wake windows longer so I’ve been hesitant to change it too much.

2. Crying on and off throughout the night — is this typical? PLS made it sound like crying happens in intervals (eg, cry to sleep, sleep for x amount time, wake up & repeat). Our LO will wake up and cry sometimes every couple minutes or so, lapsing into sleep in between, for a 1-2 hour stretch. Is this typical?

3. Should we be nap training simultaneously? I see sooo many differing opinions on this. Just curious what has worked for others when using this sleep training method.

Thank you all in advance!

Jeg er vild med dansk tv. Jeg bor i USA, men jeg ser en episode af noget hver dag for at vedligeholde mine sproglige færdigheder, men også fordi jeg er helt besat af dansk tv. Jeg har lige set Bag Enhver Mand, Tak for Ingenting og Nordland ‘99, og jeg er i gang med Uniformen, som er virkelig fantastisk. Andre anbefalinger??

Tusind tak for anbefalingerne ❤️❤️

Den her kommer fra forfatteren Sara Blædels Kald Mig Prinssese. Jeg er lidt nysgerrig om oversættelsen er korrekt mht den fede tekst. Hvorfor oversætte “tætsiddende” som “attentive” i stedet for “close set”? Er det idiomatisk ikke bogstaveligt?

Oprindelig:
Louise skrev Susannes kommentar ned på blokken.
– Hans øjne er smukkere!
– Hvordan?
– Mere ærlige.
– Hvordan?
– De er mere nærværende.
– Uddyb.
– De sidder ikke så tæt som hans.
Susanne pegede på skærmen.
Ikke tætsiddende øjne, skrev Louise på blokken.

Oversættelse:
Louise took down Susanne’s comments on her pad of paper. “His eyes are prettier!” Susanne exclaimed. “How so?” “More honest.” “How so?” Louise repeated. “They’re more attentive.” “Explain.” “They aren’t set as close as his.” Susanne pointed at the screen. Eyes not close-set, Louise wrote on her pad.

I’m so discouraged. My baby boy is 4.5 months old and breastfeeding has never been easy with him, but now during the day he doesn’t seem to want to nurse at all, even though he seems hungry. Every time I try and latch him, he’ll arch away from the nipple and fuss/cry, so I’ll think he’s not hungry—and yet he’ll get increasingly fussy until he’s scream crying out of hunger from not being fed for a few hours. I have no clue what the problem is. Is he in pain? Bored? (He’s easily distractable; sometimes he’ll look around instead of staying latched.) Does he not want to eat? Is he too hungry? Is it reflux? Gas? He won’t take a bottle either and just spits it out. Interestingly, he eats at night (a LOT, like every 1.5-2.5 hours, tiny bits from one boob but no fuss). I’m in despair with frustration.

Anybody else’s baby cough a lot? My baby coughs quite frequently, like throughout the day and wakes up at night and coughs. We thought it was reflux (and sort of still do?) but we took him to ENT and they did a scope and thought everything looked fine/very mild reflux (which all babies have). We also were briefly giving famotidine which I actually thought helped a little but the doc said he didn’t need if he was gaining weight appropriately. He also does not seem upset about his coughing.

Just curious if anybody else’s babies are coughing all the time like this? What did your docs think?

Are they things still stuck in customs? Seems like this has been an issue for over 9 months now from reading the thread. I ordered two packages from Najell (a Swedish company) and the first came through immediately, yet the second (a much bigger package) has been stuck in Louisville since May 1 with no updates. I already paid import fees. What’s the normal wait time nowadays? At what point do I reach out to UPS customer service?

Same issue with a stroller I purchased that is coming from Canada. (Thanks UPSers for all you do!)

How can I build some positive sleep associations with the crib? My LO is 14 weeks old. At night, he co-sleeps, and during the day, I babywear him and he naps in my carrier. I did this out of necessity as my husband was deployed and my baby refused to sleep independently. I know he is too young to formally sleep train, but due to a severe upper back sprain (from babywearing him for hours everyday for weeks, actually), I have to abruptly stop babywearing him (and can’t hold or rock him for more than 5 minutes really). I don’t know how to get him to nap in his crib as he has absolutely no sleep associations with it. When I put him in it, he seems like he has no idea why he’s there and just fusses until I pick him up and won’t go to sleep until he’s in his carrier.
To note, he has never successfully slept in his bassinet for more than 30 minutes, he doesn’t take a swaddle, and I use Huckleberry premium for wake windows but he is still almost always fussy when he goes down.

P.s. I know this sub is very strict on safe sleep. I want to sleep safely—help me get there.

Strategic usage of reward certificates? Any tips and tricks? Can I combine them? Use them at the restaurant or on their “groceries”? Work ‘em with gift cards, etc? Thanks in advance.

Anybody have this card that can give tips on how to strategize redemption of the reward dollars -> reward certificates? I know they give $15 certificates. Can you also use them on their food (both dining in at the restaurant and/or buying their “groceries”)? Any tips on how to maximize benefits? Thanks.

The AAP says babies must sleep on their own, on their backs, on a flat, firm surface. But it also says not to let them “cry it out” before 4 months old. So what do you do when these things conflict? Our LO is 3 months old and we are waiting to sleep train, per the AAP’s guidelines (plus I can’t stand to hear him cry), so instead he’s cosleeping (pls, no judgement). Since birth, any attempt to put him down on his own in a bassinet is met with escalating crying and progressive overtiredness with each additional attempt to rock him back to sleep and set him down until we give up (the longest I’ve made it was until 6am the next morning, which was brutal). I’m so incredibly exhausted from babywearing him for every nap and getting kicked all night long that I feel like I’m going to keel over and die. What do we do at this point? Just try and survive until 4 months?

Edit:
I exclusively breastfeed.
Nighttime— I am not against cosleeping (but I do not enjoy it). Our baby doesn’t seem to want to do it safely; he wants to be ON me, instead of next to me. Trying to put him down next to me is like trying to put him down in the bassinet.
Daytime— My biggest issue is babywearing him everyday several times a day for naps. It is really physically demanding, as he wakes up everytime I try to sit down.

My LO is 3 m/o. He cosleeps at night and naps in my carrier or on me for EVERY nap during the day. We just moved so I need a little freedom to unpack, etc during the day, but he consumes 100% of my day since he sleeps on me (and when he’s awake, I nurse/diaper change/play with him).

We’ve tried transitioning him to a swing (supervised) or bassinet for some naps. He won’t fall asleep without rocking, and even when I rock to sleep then transfer, he either wakes up during the transfer or startles himself awake repeatedly. He’s too old for the swaddle so I have no clue how to get over this road bump. Any advice would be amazing 🙏🙏🙏