u/Bos187

Sounds dumb but hear me out.

For years I avoided the dentist because nothing hurt. No pain = no problem right? I was doing "self care" by sleeping in and buying candles and taking mental health days. All good stuff don't get me wrong.

But I was also ignoring basic adult maintenance. Teeth. Doctor. Eye exam. The boring stuff.

Went to the dentist last month for the first time in three years. No pain. Just went because my partner nagged me. Turns out I had two small cavities starting. Fixed them in twenty minutes. Would've been root canals in another year probably.

That's when it clicked. Real self care isn't just the fun relaxing stuff. It's doing the boring thing now so you don't have a crisis later. It's preventing the problem not just surviving it.

I found a decent place that didn't charge a fortune. But honestly the hardest part wasn't money. It was admitting I'm an adult who has to do boring maintenance stuff.

Anyone else realize self care is actually just... responsibilities?

Lately I feel like I’m just logging in, doing dailies, and logging out. Big celebrations are still fun, but outside of that it feels a bit repetitive. Not saying the game is bad, just feels like I’m on autopilot sometimes. Do you still actively enjoy it, or is it more of a routine at this point?

Oily skin my whole life. Shiny by 11am, foundation slides, the whole thing. Done everything "right", gel moisturizers, mattifying products, lightweight everything. Skin is still oily AND has texture now and looks kind of dull.

Was reading tips on improving skin texture and the bit about dehydration causing texture even in oily skin genuinely surprised me, apparently oily doesn't mean hydrated and the two are totally different things.

Has anyone with genuinely oily skin tried a face oil and had it help rather than make everything worse? Did it do anything for texture specifically?

i am looking to place a new order for some modafinil but I am seeing a lot of mixed reviews on the usual sites lately. some people are saying shipping is taking forever or that the quality is hitting different than it used to.

who are you guys using lately that is actually reliable and has decent shipping times to the US? i just want to find a consistent source that won't leave me waiting for a month.

thank you

I keep hearing conflicting things about Imperator. Some people say it's basically EU4 but with pops and deeper economy. Others say it's dead and I shouldn't bother. I have a few hundred hours in EU4 and I'm comfortable with most of its systems. CK3 felt a bit too character focused for me so I bounced off that. I like map painting and managing resources but I also don't want to fight a broken AI or learn a game that's going to feel abandoned. I know there's the Invictus mod but I'm more curious about the base experience first. How does warfare compare to EU4? Is the tall vs wide balance any different? Also how steep is the learning curve coming from EU4 specifically? I don't mind complexity as long as the game respects my time. Would love to hear from people who made the switch recently.

I see a lot of talk about just dusting off the old resume when an internal opening pops up in your agency. I used to think the same, that because they already know me, the resume was just a formality for HR. I was wrong.

Applying for a promotion is fundamentally different from applying for a new job. When you're going for that next GS level, HR and the manager aren't looking for a history of your daily duties; they are looking for proof that you’ve already outgrown your current grade.

I recently saw a really solid promotion resume guide that breaks down exactly why this document needs to be built differently. It uses a What/How/Outcome framework that helps you stop listing tasks and start showing impact using institutional knowledge that outsiders don’t have. The biggest takeaway for me was using specific internal language and agency-specific outcomes. If you’re struggling to figure out how to frame your internal achievements, check out this resume for promotion guide. It’s an updated 2026 guide and it’s honestly one of the better resources I’ve seen for handling the internal hurdle. It helped me realize that a resume for promotion is its own beast.

Has anyone else here successfully navigated an internal jump?

Did you find you had to completely rewrite your resume, or did you just add a few lines to your old one?

I’ve been trying to get better at singing, but it’s hard to know what actually makes a real difference.

There’s technique, practice, breathing, confidence… a lot to figure out.

I'm heading to Australia soon for a weekend trip with my family, and I need to figure out the best ride for the five of us and all our luggage. I want to steer clear of those cramped mid-size SUVs they usually offer at the airport because we need plenty of legroom for the kids and a good-sized trunk for our bags. I found a Kia Carnival on Turo for about $110 a day, which seems way better than those typical large SUVs from the big rental companies where you never really know what you'll get. Has anyone used Turo recently for a family rental in Australia? Any tips on the most comfy ride for a long weekend drive would be awesome!

I don’t have a corkscrew right now, what’s the easiest way to open a wine bottle without one?