AITA for wanting to hang out with my friend in my flat?
My flatmate/friend doesn't want my friend in the flat when she's there. But she's always there. We both struggle to leave the house because of disability. I want to be able to hang out with him here now and again, but we've lived together for 9 months and I've not been able to have him over since I moved in. I know I'm NTA for wanting this, but I just brought it up again and it caused a big argument.
At what point is a veto valid? Where is the line there? That's my main question. I'd understand if a person was very toxic, but I've been friends with this guy for decades, and whilst he has his flaws like everyone does, I think the main clashes between them are in how loud he is, his laugh, the fact he made some light hearted comments about taking his shoes off, not being the most attentive listener or not giving other people space in conversations at times, etc. He's very extroverted. She feels disrespected and I understand that. She feels that it's not just his extrovertion that she takes issue with. But I think she's putting her foot down too hard and it sucks because I have no one else to hang out with where I live and I struggle to go out or go to his. She feels it's really unhealthy for her to be around him.
We share a bedroom but it doesn't work for her to go there for the day. Doesn't work for me either for us to go there, as I want to use the TV in the living room.
She's agreed to go to her friend's house so he can come over. But that won't be happening for two weeks, and I'm not sure his schedule is gonna sync up with that anyway. Am I asking too much to have my friend over once every several weeks if she really click with him? She finds him toxic, but when looking at the conflict that's arisen between them it's all quite minor, to me anyway. She sees it differently.
I'm fine with her friends coming over. But then, I don't find them unpleasant to be around.
I could just invite him over. I don't like that because it feels like I'm being a knob. Or I could just not see him as much as I want to. That sucks too.
And yes I'm moving out ASAP. Started looking recently. It's taking a while though.