u/Brilliant-Love-9978

Why does the subcontinent force itself to live with colonial borders that cause their people to clash? Its not racist or against Islam to be able to see these British borders that divide our ethnic groups aren't good for us. I can see why it would be hard to implement new borders now but we can atleast admit these borders don't work for us. Some punjabis in india and some in pakistan, some pashtuns in Afghanistan and some in pakistan, some Kashmiris in india and some in pakistan. Historically we kept within our ethnic groups so it's not surprising why theres a power imbalance when punjabis are 50% of this new country.

Europe fought wars for decades to come to their current borders, it's not as simple as dividing based on religion. In France, Italy, Portugal, Germany, Poland over 90% of people speak their national language and belong to the same ethnic group. The 19th century 'nation-state concept' carved out these countries and was the idea that every distinct ethnic group deserved its own self governing political territory (state). Now they have the EU which is basically an alliance between these self governing ethnic nations. I believe this movement is exactly what made Europe successful and put an end to their wars among themselves. Pashtuns/Durrani Empire and Punjabis/Sikh empire fought many wars with each other less than 200 years ago. Afghanistan has the same problem of most of the country being one group (Pashtun) and I believe ethnic borders would solve most of their issues too. Divide and rule is to divide ethnic groups and force them to live with different ones they clash with, and anyone defending the concept of Pakistans borders is literally supporting the British's tactic to keep the subcontinent in constant hell.

I think theres a direct correlation between ethnic groups in a country not getting along and the development of a country. Highly homogenous countries can still be welcoming to foreigners btw, but one ethnic group dominating the percentage helps in making sure every area of the country is equally represented and developed unlike in countries like Pakistan.

Does anyone amongst y'all know what "da akbar bacha lataan" means, i've heard ppl say it alot but i've no idea what it means. Akbar bacha is probably that mughal dude but the lataan idk

13 year olds have more eggs than 18 year olds, so why does it matter if an 18 yr old has more eggs than a 28 year old? Should we give birth at 13 because we should just do it as soon as possible as if anyone wants 20 kids in their lifespan, probably even these misogynistic tradwives don't, hence no need to start producing kids that early. This idea that women are 'wasting their fertile years in college from 18-22' is honestly rooted in pedophillia.

Women can give birth just fine in their late 20s which is still plenty of time if u want 5+ kids, but most don't even want that many or any at all. Shouldn't we give birth when we're mentally and physically ready? An 18 year old is just not gonna be as mature as a woman past her mid 20's and having kids takes a lot of maturity. Fertility decreasing by age doesn't matter as much as people make it because most women in their 30's are still able to conceive with a few tries. Btw the woman in the video has been married for some time and doesn't have kids yet, so is clearly trying to be misogynistic by pretending women can only have kids 18-22, when she's in that age range and doesn't have any either. I see tradwives trying to push their lifestyle on others all the time yet they act like feminists do it.

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She's brought up this topic multiple times and it makes me a bit uncomfortable, but recently her doing it when another friend was present pushed me over the edge. She says things like 'see most women don't even get periods' and 'so much women cant have kids' as a way to validate her trans struggles, but her saying this in response to me talking about my issues multiple times makes me feel invalidated. Im not a statistic to be used and I CAN have kids I just have issues with it, it's not the same as being sterile. I think it's also the enthusiasm I feel from it like are u benefitting from my issue? When she brought it up again this time I said 'I dont see how its that similar if many girls with PCOS are able to give birth eventually while trans women arent' but it was out of frustration and I hope she recognizes she's brought this up many times and it's invalidating.

I think its mainly when she shifts the topic from me talking about my issues (I've been very open with my struggles to her) to the transgender issue and I just feel like there shouldn't be as much correlation as some people make it out to be. I'm a cis woman with a uterus and although I have infertility issues I'm not completely sterile, so it's confusing when the topics continuously get linked by my friend and other communities online. I recently saw 'some cis women aren't even born with a vagina' and thats vaginal agenesis which affects like 0.02% of women I believe. Another misconception is although many women like me struggle with infertility, thats usually defined by the inability to conceive after 1 year of trying, doesnt mean theyre completely unable to. Absolute sterility affects like 1%.

I believe trans women have very different experiences to women with infertility and although we both struggle, we struggle in very different ways. She is pretty soft hearted and although I don't think my tone was too harsh I'm worried if the addressing the topic makes me in the wrong, she hasn't been talking to me. Im looking for all of your opinions.

Im based in Islamabad but am able to do remote work too, flexible on hours and am open to anything in sales too as I believe I have good communication skills speaking English, Urdu and Pashto. I'm open to any role as I am able to adapt.

I feel a lot of jealously for any girl getting a nikkah 18-22. Nice modern enough family, they're still studying and get to visit the guy a lot or still live with the parents it's usually their choice. The ones living in a western country getting nikkah at this age usually have it very good and no hardships like having a child straight away if they dont want to. I feel like their life is perfect and my parents want me married around 26 and I doubt theyll look for me before that. It's very upsetting and I dont know how to get over my jealousy. I see these girls discussing their wedding dress and theyre usually very happy and shove it in other peoples face and they get to live their youth actually being free to talk to a guy and be with his family, we dont discuss how hard it is for a lot of people to live through young adulthood without that halal connection.

any predictions on type of slide or any info on question 2