u/BulkySquirrel305

’m trying to understand my upbringing better, not blame anyone. Did anyone else end up learning very basic things much later than others (for example simple daily basic life skills like tying shoelaces,washing clothes,shoes,ironing clothes,wearing tie etc independence, handling tasks alone, social confidence, etc.) and feel underprepared for adulthood?

I sometimes wonder whether this comes more from overprotective parenting (parents doing too much for you), lack of explicit guidance/teaching, or just normal family differences.

For example, I learned some things much later than people around me, which sometimes makes me feel embarrassed or ‘behind.’ I’m curious if others relate and how you make sense of it

’m trying to understand my upbringing better, not blame anyone. Did anyone else end up learning very basic things much later than others (for example simple daily basic life skills like tying shoelaces,washing clothes,shoes,ironing clothes,wearing tie etc independence, handling tasks alone, social confidence, etc.) and feel underprepared for adulthood?

I sometimes wonder whether this comes more from overprotective parenting (parents doing too much for you), lack of explicit guidance/teaching, or just normal family differences.

For example, I learned some things much later than people around me, which sometimes makes me feel embarrassed or ‘behind.’ I’m curious if others relate and how you make sense of it

’m trying to understand my upbringing better, not blame anyone. Did anyone else end up learning very basic things much later than others (for example simple daily basic life skills like tying shoelaces,washing clothes,shoes , wearing tie and ironing clothes etc independence, handling tasks alone, social confidence, etc.) and feel underprepared for adulthood?

I sometimes wonder whether this comes more from overprotective parenting (parents doing too much for you), lack of explicit guidance/teaching, or just normal family differences.

For example, I learned some things much later than people around me, which sometimes makes me feel embarrassed or ‘behind.’ I’m curious if others relate and how you make sense of it

’m trying to understand my upbringing better, not blame anyone. Did anyone else end up learning very basic things much later than others (for example simple daily basic life skills like tying shoelaces,washing clothes,shoes etc independence, handling tasks alone, social confidence, etc.) and feel underprepared for adulthood?

I sometimes wonder whether this comes more from overprotective parenting (parents doing too much for you), lack of explicit guidance/teaching, or just normal family differences.

For example, I learned some things much later than people around me, which sometimes makes me feel embarrassed or ‘behind.’ I’m curious if others relate and how you make sense of it

I’m trying to understand my upbringing better, not blame anyone. Did anyone else end up learning very basic things much later than others (for example simple daily life skills, independence, handling tasks alone, social confidence, etc.) and feel underprepared for adulthood?

I sometimes wonder whether this comes more from overprotective parenting (parents doing too much for you), lack of explicit guidance/teaching, or just normal family differences.

For example, I learned some things much later than people around me, which sometimes makes me feel embarrassed or ‘behind.’ I’m curious if others relate and how you make sense of it.”

I’m trying to understand my upbringing better, not blame anyone. Did anyone else end up learning very basic things much later than others (for example simple daily life skills, independence, handling tasks alone, social confidence, etc.) and feel underprepared for adulthood?

I sometimes wonder whether this comes more from overprotective parenting (parents doing too much for you), lack of explicit guidance/teaching, or just normal family differences.

For example, I learned some things much later than people around me, which sometimes makes me feel embarrassed or ‘behind.’ I’m curious if others relate and how you make sense of it.”

I’m trying to understand my upbringing better, not blame anyone. Did anyone else end up learning very basic things much later than others (for example simple daily life skills, independence, handling tasks alone, social confidence, etc.) and feel underprepared for adulthood?

I sometimes wonder whether this comes more from overprotective parenting (parents doing too much for you), lack of explicit guidance/teaching, or just normal family differences.

For example, I learned some things much later than people around me, which sometimes makes me feel embarrassed or ‘behind.’ I’m curious if others relate and how you make sense of it.”

Hi everyone,

​I’m 22 (M) and I feel like I’m stuck in a mental loop.

​Here is how it affected me:

​I got bullied a lot in school or family side relations because I couldn't do basic things.

At 16: I suddenly started washing my hands constantly and re-checking everything because of ocd

​At 17: I started blaming my parents because of frustation. I was angry that they didn't teach me how to survive or defend me from bullies.

​At 19: I finally learned how to tie my own shoelaces. It felt so late and shameful.

​Now at 22, I’ve finally learned these skills (laundry, hygiene, laces), but my brain won't stop. I have these obsessive thoughts every day: "Was it really my parents' fault , or am I just overthinking? Am I just fundamentally defective?"

​I can't stop replaying my past failures in my head.

​Has anyone else experienced this? Is my OCD just making me crazy? I feel so alone in this. How do I stop blaming the past and move on?​"

One thing I’m really struggling with is the Doubt. My mind keeps obsessing over this: Did the parenting gap and the bullying actually cause my OCD? Sometimes I feel it’s 100% the reason why I became so anxious and developed hand-washing and re-checking habits. Again and again thinking what was the actual point and in real what was my mistake this happened nothing was in my control not even 1 % ?

Hi everyone,

​I’m 22 (M) and I feel like I’m stuck in a mental loop.

​Here is how it affected me:

​I got bullied a lot in school or family side relations because I couldn't do basic things.

At 16: I suddenly started washing my hands constantly and re-checking everything because of ocd

​At 17: I started blaming my parents because of frustation. I was angry that they didn't teach me how to survive or defend me from bullies.

​At 19: I finally learned how to tie my own shoelaces. It felt so late and shameful.

​Now at 22, I’ve finally learned these skills (laundry, hygiene, laces), but my brain won't stop. I have these obsessive thoughts every day: "Was it really my parents' fault , or am I just overthinking? Am I just fundamentally defective?"

​I can't stop replaying my past failures in my head.

​Has anyone else experienced this? Is my OCD just making me crazy? I feel so alone in this. How do I stop blaming the past and move on?​"

One thing I’m really struggling with is the Doubt. My mind keeps obsessing over this: Did the parenting gap and the bullying actually cause my OCD? Sometimes I feel it’s 100% the reason why I became so anxious and developed hand-washing and re-checking habits. Again and again thinking what was the actual point and in real what was my mistake this happened nothing was in my control not even 1 % ?

Hi everyone,

​I’m 22 (M) and I feel like I’m stuck in a mental loop.

​Here is how it affected me:

​I got bullied a lot in school or family side relations because I couldn't do basic things.

At 16: I suddenly started washing my hands constantly and re-checking everything because of ocd

​At 17: I started blaming my parents because of frustation. I was angry that they didn't teach me how to survive or defend me from bullies.

​At 19: I finally learned how to tie my own shoelaces. It felt so late and shameful.

​Now at 22, I’ve finally learned these skills (laundry, hygiene, laces), but my brain won't stop. I have these obsessive thoughts every day: "Was it really my parents' fault , or am I just overthinking? Am I just fundamentally defective?"

​I can't stop replaying my past failures in my head.

​Has anyone else experienced this? Is my OCD just making me crazy? I feel so alone in this. How do I stop blaming the past and move on?​"

One thing I’m really struggling with is the Doubt. My mind keeps obsessing over this: Did the parenting gap and the bullying actually cause my OCD? Sometimes I feel it’s 100% the reason why I became so anxious and developed hand-washing and re-checking habits. Again and again thinking what was the actual point and in real what was my mistake ?

Hi everyone,

​I’m 22 (M) and I feel like I’m stuck in a mental loop.

​Here is how it affected me:

​I got bullied a lot in school or family side relations because I couldn't do basic things.

At 16: I started washing my hands constantly and re-checking everything

​At 17: I started blaming my parents because of frustation. I was angry that they didn't teach me how to survive or defend me from bullies.

​At 19: I finally learned how to tie my own shoelaces. It felt so late and shameful.

​Now at 22, I’ve finally learned these skills (laundry, hygiene, laces), but my brain won't stop. I have these obsessive thoughts every day: "Was it really my parents' fault , or am I just overthinking? Am I just fundamentally defective?"

​I can't stop replaying my past failures in my head.

​Has anyone else experienced this? Is my OCD just making me crazy? I feel so alone in this. How do I stop blaming the past and move on?​"

One thing I’m really struggling with is the Doubt. My mind keeps obsessing over this: Did the parenting gap and the bullying actually cause my OCD? Sometimes I feel it’s 100% the reason why I became so anxious and developed hand-washing and re-checking habits. Again and again thinking what was the actual point and in real what was my mistake this happened with me?

Hi everyone,

​I’m 22 (M) and I feel like I’m stuck in a mental loop.

​Here is how it affected me:

​I got bullied a lot in school or family side relations because I couldn't do basic things.

At 16: I started washing my hands constantly and re-checking everything

​At 17: I started blaming my parents because of frustation. I was angry that they didn't teach me how to survive or defend me from bullies.

​At 19: I finally learned how to tie my own shoelaces. It felt so late and shameful.

​Now at 22, I’ve finally learned these skills (laundry, hygiene, laces), but my brain won't stop. I have these obsessive thoughts every day: "Was it really my parents' fault , or am I just overthinking? Am I just fundamentally defective?"

​I can't stop replaying my past failures in my head.

​Has anyone else experienced this? Is my OCD just making me crazy? I feel so alone in this. How do I stop blaming the past and move on?​"

One thing I’m really struggling with is the Doubt. My mind keeps obsessing over this: Did the parenting gap and the bullying actually cause my OCD? Sometimes I feel it’s 100% the reason why I became so anxious and developed hand-washing and re-checking habits. Again and again thinking what was the actual point and in real what was my mistake this happened with me?

Hi everyone,

​I’m 22 (M) and I feel like I’m stuck in a mental loop.

​Here is how it affected me:

​I got bullied a lot in school or family side relations because I couldn't do basic things.

At 16: I suddenly started washing my hands constantly and re-checking everything because of ocd

​At 17: I started blaming my parents because of frustation. I was angry that they didn't teach me how to survive or defend me from bullies.

​At 19: I finally learned how to tie my own shoelaces. It felt so late and shameful.

​Now at 22, I’ve finally learned these skills (laundry, hygiene, laces), but my brain won't stop. I have these obsessive thoughts every day: "Was it really my parents' fault , or am I just overthinking? Am I just fundamentally defective?"

​I can't stop replaying my past failures in my head.

​Has anyone else experienced this? Is my OCD just making me crazy? I feel so alone in this. How do I stop blaming the past and move on?​"

One thing I’m really struggling with is the Doubt. My mind keeps obsessing over this: Did the parenting gap and the bullying actually cause my OCD? Sometimes I feel it’s 100% the reason why I became so anxious and developed hand-washing and re-checking habits. Again and again thinking what was the actual point and in real what was my mistake ?

Hi everyone,

​I’m 22 (M) and I feel like I’m stuck in a mental loop.

​Here is how it affected me:

​I got bullied a lot in school or family side relations because I couldn't do basic things.

At 16: I started washing my hands constantly and re-checking everything

​At 17: I started blaming my parents because of frustation. I was angry that they didn't teach me how to survive or defend me from bullies.

​At 19: I finally learned how to tie my own shoelaces. It felt so late and shameful.

​Now at 22, I’ve finally learned these skills (laundry, hygiene, laces), but my brain won't stop. I have these obsessive thoughts every day: "Was it really my parents' fault , or am I just overthinking? Am I just fundamentally defective?"

​I can't stop replaying my past failures in my head.

​Has anyone else experienced this? Is my OCD just making me crazy? I feel so alone in this. How do I stop blaming the past and move on?​"

One thing I’m really struggling with is the Doubt. My mind keeps obsessing over this: Did the parenting gap and the bullying actually cause my OCD? Sometimes I feel it’s 100% the reason why I became so anxious and developed hand-washing and re-checking habits. Again and again thinking what was the actual point and in real what was my mistake this happened with me?