u/Calm_Bag_847

I’m at the Matilda Rose fight and every time I try to fight her my game crashes. What do I do?

Since starting university in September I’ve been degrading mentally to the point now where I’m too depressed to get out of bed and too anxious to even go in the kitchen to cook. I struggle to leave my room and go outside.

I feel so ashamed that I don’t have any friends and relationships to the point where when I go outside it just makes me feel bad seeing other people.

This feedback loop of loneliness, anxiety, and depression lead to me missing so many lectures that I failing 5/8 of my modules and need to now study to retake the exams in August.

The mental health support in my area is so bad as well I’ve been passed around three therapist this year alone It’s useless.

What steps do I need to take to actually overcome this myself?

Whenever I see my flatmates conversation is always so brief. I just do it to be polite, stuff like “how are you doing?” “How’ve you been?” And ask about plans and stuff.

I must also add they never initiate with me. Like why is this?

I also have a similar situation whenever I go out and try to meet new people. I try to ask them questions about themselves and try to get to know them just to get brief answers and barely any back and forth.

Do I just keep having bad luck with the people I’ve interacted with?

Or am I doing something wrong?

I (M22) at the start of first year I met a girl (F21). We spent about two months hanging out, watching movies, cuddling, holding hands. It felt really intimate and intense. Early on she told me she wanted to take things slow, so I respected that and didn’t push anything.

Towards the end of those two months she started pulling away. Getting colder, less intimate. I convinced myself she was just waiting for me to make things official, that she wanted me to commit before she’d open up again.

After what I thought was a date at a Christmas market, I brought it up. Asked her directly if she was waiting for me to commit. She told me she’s physically attracted to me but not emotionally, and that she wasn’t over her ex. Her ex also goes to our university.

That was it. I promptly told her I didn’t want us just to be friends because of my feelings for her.

I saw her briefly in January, it was nice. She invited me to come sit in on one of her lectures with her but I turned it down because I had my own coming up soon. That was the last time we spoke. She hasn’t reached out since, and neither have I.

It’s been close to six months and I still think about her constantly. I genuinely expected this feeling to fade by now and it hasn’t. I keep going back and forth on whether to reach out. Part of me wonders if the January invite meant something. The other part knows she hasn’t texted once since then.

I miss her all the time but I’m afraid to reach out in case she doesn’t feel the same.

How do I get past this? Because time passing isn’t really enough.

I’m thinking about reaching out to her before the last term ends.

I find the edit missions so boring and annoying to interact with. I’d rather just have a cut scene instead of scanning through a clip multiple times.

What are your favourite vehicles in the game?

I’m in first year at 21 and I became close with my flatmate since freshers who’s 20, they’re the only flatmate I get along with, the other seven are incredibly antisocial. I made a group of friends around that time from people in my cohort but then I also got introduced to my flatmates friends and became quite close with them over first term and we’d hang out regularly.

I came back in term two and we went out and handful of times and then they just stopped inviting me out. They still talk to me in the flat and they still do things with me outside sometimes but It feels like It’s literally only when their friends are busy or unavailable. I even explicitly told them casually to invite me out the next they go out, they said they would, and even when catching up with someone from the friend group I even mentioned it to them as well that I never get invited anymore. They still never invited me.

The result of this was I felt so lonely and depressed and abandoned, especially since the only other friend group I had has my ex girlfriend in it and we broke up in December, so I’m not close with any of them since. My grades tanked and I deferred several exams.

Today they literally had a barbecue since most of us are done with exams now and I never got invited. How I know is I messaged them to do something now that we’re done and they said they’re busy going to a barbecue, without inviting me to come along as well. Like how am I trying to hang out with you and you still don’t invite me?

It just makes me feel like the biggest loser alone all the time and cooling off exams by myself only, and not by choice either.

What advice do you guys have for making new friends at this stage in uni?

How do I even approach making new friends when groups are already established?

How am I supposed to act with this flatmate and this friend group when it literally feels like I’ve been snaked by them?

I’m in first year and I became close with my flatmate since freshers, they’re the only flatmate I get along with, the other seven are incredibly antisocial. I made a group of friends around that time from people in my cohort but then I also got introduced to my flatmates friends and became quite close with them over first term and we’d hang out regularly.

I came back in term two and we went out and handful of times and then they just stopped inviting me out. They still talk to me in the flat and they still do things with me outside sometimes but It feels like It’s literally only when their friends are busy or unavailable. I even explicitly told them casually to invite me out the next they go out, they said they would, and even when catching up with someone from the friend group I even mentioned it to them as well that I never get invited anymore. They still never invited me.

The result of this was I felt so lonely and depressed and abandoned, especially since the only other friend group I had has my ex girlfriend in it and we broke up in December, so I’m not close with any of them since. My grades tanked and I deferred several exams.

Today they literally had a barbecue since most of us are done with exams now and I never got invited. How I know is I messaged them to do something now that we’re done and they said they’re busy going to a barbecue, without inviting me to come along as well. Like how am I trying to hang out with you and you still don’t invite me?

It just makes me feel like the biggest loser alone all the time and cooling off exams by myself only, and not by choice either.

What advice do you guys have for making new friends at this stage in uni?

How do I even approach making new friends when groups are already established?

How am I supposed to act with this flatmate and this friend group when it literally feels like I’ve been snaked by them?

I see I can get a Fujifilm X-T30 III from a retailer for £999 and it comes with a lens. From the combination I can make on MPB a lot of them come out to £500-£650 for cameras like X-T1’s, and X-T20’s.

Is it worth just saving up more money and getting a new Fujifilm from a retailer?

And what am I really paying for as in specs and features when it comes to getting a new camera as opposed to an older one?

Budget: £500 max for all in the full setup including lenses and accessories.

Country: UK

Condition: Used preferred

Type of Camera: Mirrorless

Intended use: Photography

End use: Personal use / just for fun

Photography style: People/portraits, landscapes, street photography, and cars

What features do I absolutely need: Not sure, what should I be looking for? open to guidance from the community.

What features would be nice to have: Open to suggestions

Portability: Needs to fit in a backpack

Cameras I’m considering: Fujifilm X-T1 and Sony a6000, I like the look of both, especially the Fujifilm I love how analogue the settings are, but I’m still early in my research and very open to other suggestions

Cameras I already have: None, this will be my first camera

Notes: I’m a complete beginner so simplicity and value for money are important. Happy to buy used, new cameras are so expensive 😅. Main subjects will be people, landscapes, street, and cars, all for personal enjoyment rather than any professional purpose.

I’m a guy at university and I don't really know when It’s appropriate to express interest in women I see daily.

Should I be expressing interest in someone when I’m out on a walk for instance?

Or if I’m in the library?

Or in class?

Is it inappropriate to express interest in someone in my friend group?

How do you do something like that without making it awkward afterwards?

What am I supposed to say during these interactions?

I know this must all sound naive but I've had an awkward childhood so I never really developed strong socialising skills, so I’m quite inexperienced and now I’m trying to catch up at university.

M22, I’ve never had women show interest in me, and it’s starting to overshadow everything good in my life.

In primary school I used to get bullied for being ugly, I still remember explicit memories of kids teasing me and rating me a 4/10 on the playground, how generous of them. Somehow I managed to shake it off in secondary school. I think my good grades gave me confidence, I had a wide social circle, I began flirting a lot, and for a while things felt normal.

I got into my first relationship at 15. But even then, looking back, it felt like I had to convince her to be with me and a year in, I found out she’d been cheating almost the entire time with an 18 year old guy. I gained a lot of weight after that, and I haven’t had a real relationship since.

There have been flings from dating apps, but they felt so hollow. As in it’s clear that we’re both just horny and lonely and honestly most of the time I was just chasing attention out of boredom. I tried again with someone I met at university, but that didn’t go anywhere either.

What gets to me most is watching it happen around me. I go out with my friends and see my guy friends getting approached, and see my female friends openly swoon over someone across the room. I’ve never been on the receiving end of that. It makes me feel inadequate and inferior in a way that’s hard to explain.

It’s now bleeding into everything. I used to get over 80% on every exam. That version of me feels far away now. My grades have tanked because I just can’t get out of my own head.

I have been trying to fix what I can. I’ve gone from over 100kg back down to 77kg. I train, I watch what I eat. But I still look in the mirror and see someone without abs, with glasses, with a face that just doesn’t work and I just feel ugly.

Last week I even found out I landed a summer internship for my dream job in finance. I should be on top of the world right now but instead all I could think about is what does any of it matter if I can never find someone who actually wants me?

I don’t want to work this hard to just end up in a cold apartment all alone. I don’t work this hard to end up with someone who isn’t attracted to me. There’s also a part of me that would be incredibly disappointed if I finished university without finding at least one relationship.