u/Calm_Perception7492

So me 20F (July Leo) this guy 22M (May Taurus) have been talking every single day for about 9 months. We matched on a dating app, and from the beginning he was very consistent. He even told me I was his dream girl. We haven't met in person yet because we both agreed to wait until I move closer to him, which will be in a few months.

Things were going really well for months. He'd text me constantly, call me "wife," show a lot of interest in me, and we flirted a lot. A few months into talking, he asked me to show more of my “spicy” side. I did, and in the beginning he seemed really excited and enthusiastic whenever I'd send him something. Lately, though, his reactions have changed. Now he'll just say something like, "thank u love it," and move on. It feels noticeably different than it used to.

The bigger issue is that he suddenly became inconsistent. This all started the day I left for a trip to Chicago with my sister for a Joji concert. The day before I left, everything was completely normal. He was sweet, consistent, and calling me "wife." Then while I was gone, he started leaving me on delivered for hours at a time (he never does that) The night of the concert he left me on delivered for 17 hours, even though his Snapchat score kept going up. Around that same time I also got bumped from #1 to #2 on his Best Friends list after being #1 for the entire 9 months we'd been talking. I was only in Chicago for 2 days and It’s been about 2 weeks since I got back and he still acting like this but the day I got back I finally asked him if something was wrong because I could tell something felt off. He replied:

“idk im just lowkey depressed and when im sad i just distance myself from people, its somethin i gotta work on i legit haven't even texted anyone not even my friends maybe like a couple blank snaps to them but that's it idk i'm just meh rn i hate it."

I want to be understanding because depression is real, but I'm also confused because his Snapchat activity seems to tell a different story. My friends think he's using depression as an excuse to slowly ghost me, but I don't know if that's actually what's happening or if I'm overthinking it.

Does this sound like someone who's genuinely struggling and withdrawing, or does it seem more like someone who's slowly losing interest?

So me 20 F (July Leo) this guy 22 M (May Taurus) have been talking every single day for about 9 months. We matched on a dating app, and from the beginning he was very consistent. He even told me I was his dream girl. We haven't met in person yet because we both agreed to wait until I move closer to him, which will be in a few months.

Things were going really well for months. He'd text me constantly, call me "wife," show a lot of interest in me, and we flirted a lot. A few months into talking, he asked me to show more of my “spicy” side. I did, and in the beginning he seemed really excited and enthusiastic whenever I'd send him something. Lately, though, his reactions have changed. Now he'll just say something like, "thank u love it," and move on. It feels noticeably different than it used to.

The bigger issue is that he suddenly became inconsistent. This all started the day I left for a trip to Chicago with my sister for a Joji concert. The day before I left, everything was completely normal. He was sweet, consistent, and calling me "wife." Then while I was gone, he started leaving me on delivered for hours at a time (he never does that) The night of the concert he left me on delivered for 17 hours, even though his Snapchat score kept going up. Around that same time I also got bumped from #1 to #2 on his Best Friends list after being #1 for the entire 9 months we'd been talking. I was only in Chicago for 2 days and It’s been about 2 weeks since I got back and he still acting like this but the day I got back I finally asked him if something was wrong because I could tell something felt off. He replied:

“idk im just lowkey depressed and when im sad i just distance myself from people, its somethin i gotta work on i legit haven't even texted anyone not even my friends maybe like a couple blank snaps to them but that's it idk i'm just meh rn i hate it."

I want to be understanding because depression is real, but I'm also confused because his Snapchat activity seems to tell a different story. My friends think he's using depression as an excuse to slowly ghost me, but I don't know if that's actually what's happening or if I'm overthinking it.

Does this sound like someone who's genuinely struggling and withdrawing, or does it seem more like someone who's slowly losing interest?

So me 20 F (July Leo) this guy 22 M (May Taurus) have been talking every single day for about 9 months. We matched on a dating app, and from the beginning he was very consistent. He even told me I was his dream girl. We haven't met in person yet because we both agreed to wait until I move closer to him, which will be in a few months.

Things were going really well for months. He'd text me constantly, call me "wife," show a lot of interest in me, and we flirted a lot. A few months into talking, he asked me to show more of my “spicy” side. I did, and in the beginning he seemed really excited and enthusiastic whenever I'd send him something. Lately, though, his reactions have changed. Now he'll just say something like, "thank u love it," and move on. It feels noticeably different than it used to.

The bigger issue is that he suddenly became inconsistent. This all started the day I left for a trip to Chicago with my sister for a Joji concert. The day before I left, everything was completely normal. He was sweet, consistent, and calling me "wife." Then while I was gone, he started leaving me on delivered for hours at a time (he never does that) The night of the concert he left me on delivered for 17 hours, even though his Snapchat score kept going up. Around that same time I also got bumped from #1 to #2 on his Best Friends list after being #1 for the entire 9 months we'd been talking. I was only in Chicago for 2 days and It’s been about 2 weeks since I got back and he still acting like this but the day I got back I finally asked him if something was wrong because I could tell something felt off. He replied:

“idk im just lowkey depressed and when im sad i just distance myself from people, its somethin i gotta work on i legit haven't even texted anyone not even my friends maybe like a couple blank snaps to them but that's it idk i'm just meh rn i hate it."

I want to be understanding because depression is real, but I'm also confused because his Snapchat activity seems to tell a different story. My friends think he's using depression as an excuse to slowly ghost me, but I don't know if that's actually what's happening or if I'm overthinking it.

Does this sound like someone who's genuinely struggling and withdrawing, or does it seem more like someone who's slowly losing interest?

I just made this account this is my first ever time on Reddit and I’m trying to get advice but every time I post in a subreddit it’s says that my post was removed because of Reddits filters how can I fix this?