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I’m glad Paraguay beat Germany. Some say ugly football but this is what the beautiful game is about. David slays Goliath once in a while.

Paraguay played to their strengths on defense. Can you blame them? Good win from Paraguay sorry Germany this is what happens when you don’t win games you’re supposed to inside 90. They only have themselves to blame!

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u/CarrotWestern1387 — 6 days ago
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Met up with my HS crush 10 years later and she was a bit of a mess

A couple weeks ago I went on a date (I’m not sure if you could call it that) with a girl I had a thing with during high school. We never dated officially but we’ve always had something fierce between us since day one. Things just kind of clicked. We hadn’t seen each other in person in a while because well you know, life. But we did talk a bit here and there. Honestly, I was really excited to finally see her again after all those years. Not necessarily because I wanted to pursue something with her (although if those cards were dealt I would have probably swung if it felt right but it wasn’t my intention exactly) but I was just excited to see an old dear friend again.

We went to a baseball game and man it was great at the beginning. Like no time passed really picked up right where we left off. But then, she started drinking. Now me I been sober for almost 3 years now so I didn’t partake nor had a problem with her drinking because I can control that whole thing now. But she kept drinking and she got really touchy feely with me and it was nice but.. just seemed a bit messy and maybe a little reckless on her part. Not that I didn’t like the advances but it just seemed like bad decision making on her part. I’m a great dude I think but it hardly seems appropriate first time seeing her in years. I really think it was the alcohol. I know it was. That was fine and I just kind of managed it but then she kept drinking IPA after IPA. I could see where this was going so after the game we went to get some food and I was hoping that was the end of that and she would sober up but no. She started drinking beers now. But our conversations were still nice so it was worth the little hassle at that point. After, we went to a concert that I really wanted to go to and again she just kept drinking. This time shots. And this is where things really went bad. I could tell she was really drunk now. Slurred speech, couldn’t walk straight and just that blank drunk stare. I got worried that she would pass out or something during the concert in the crowd so we kind of went to the side. She kept getting drinks and I told her she should maybe stop drinking for the day and she got really offended. She said “don’t tell me what to do” but then she kind of snapped out of her drunken haze for a minute or two and she said okay. Think she realized I was only trying to look out for her. Anyway, she kept drinking though. At this point I’m not even enjoying the concert no more I’m taking care of her now full time. It kind of all hits her at once and I just kinda gotta lead her to the car balancing her body on my shoulder, you know typical walk you do with the buddies. We get in her car and drive home and she wants to drink more. I tell her it’s late now. She gets mad and passes out. I try to wake her up and take her to her house but she just doesn’t tell me where she lives. And i didn’t know cuz i just kind of got back in her life. She finally wakes up and I ask her again and she says well tbh I thought I would just crash at your place that was my plan from the start. I tell her it’s probably best for her to go home and sleep it off. But she says no that she’ll just stay in her car and sleep it off somewhere like she literally doesn’t wanna go home and kind of forces me to just give in so like at this point I’m thinking… 1. This turned out to be not so fun after all. 2. Why am I not taking care of this grown ass woman when I haven’t seen her in years and why does she think it’s okay to put me in this position if we’re friends all these things seemed deliberately planned to go how she planned with me not having any say (I tried driving my car originally but she insisted on taking hers and wouldn’t let me but at the time I didn’t think much of it)… and 3… well obviously I can’t let her drive off or sleep in her car somewhere. So now I’m kind of annoyed a tad bit mad tbh. But then…

It hits me. This was me. She is me. But 4-5 years ago. Making bad decisions. Putting people in uncomfortable situations. Being a danger to myself. Just being an alcoholic. So, I just took her to my place. And ofc we get there now she wants to sleep with me cuz she misses me or whatever I forgot what she said. But no sir. I’m sure she likes me without the alcohol but doing that to me was like taking advantage of her. And on a more sinister note, what if she accuses me of rape or something down the line. So no absolutely not I tell her she can sleep in the guest room or whatever and at this point she’s so out of it she finally just goes to bed. Thank god. I put her on her side and she falls asleep. Night over. God have mercy.

The next morning I wake her up because I had to pick up my mom at the airport and you can tell she’s embarrassed. Asks me if we did anything and I say no. She seems disappointed? Idek. It was weird. And she leaves. Kind of like embarrassed I’m assuming. She texts me after and says she’s sorry and she hopes her drinking didn’t scare me away and I say no I had a great time. I did not.. well not at the end. She says she wants to hang out again. But in my head I’m like yeah no. And now I been analyzing the whole situation and it was nice before she got drunk but the alcohol ruined what would have been a great night. But yeah I was kind of short answered with her. And she kept sending me little pictures the next few days of random stuff and I would just not reply. But I didn’t wanna make her feel bad or nothing. So I sent her a little message saying it was so nice to see her and yeah we should hang out. But it was more like to let her down easy. The last few nights I been thinking about her and I love her as friend and it sucks seeing her like that I could tell she has a problem like I know all the signs and everything so well. So I kind of wanna help her. But idek if she would even accept the help without feeling defensive or whatever and I’m sure I could just kind of passively super lowkey just plant moderation and sober seeds in her mind but I’m afraid it will back fire and it will ruin our good friendship. Anyway, yeah that’s my dilemma idk if I should help out my good friend. Idek if she wants help. But she clearly needs it and she doesn’t seem to have any like.. good support. But I know I can’t save her nor is it my responsibility nor is it guaranteed I could even if I tried. But yeah. Just see my past self so much in her and it’s sad. Idk if it’s appropriate to even type this much here or if it’s the right place. But yeah alcohol sucks. Seeing it from the outside in now.. that’s how I looked all those years ago. Just wanted to vent a bit cuz I can’t talk to anyone about this cuz I have like no sober friends it’s just me.

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u/CarrotWestern1387 — 8 days ago

Is FANGS Loathe’s lightest song ever?

I can’t remember hearing a lighter song by them tbh. I think it’s even more light than Is It Really You which is already super light by their standards. Surely this has to be their chillest song? I don’t think The Things They Believe counts or transition songs like Gaheena or the like. What do you think? And how do you feel about the song? Do you like this new direction they went with on this song?

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u/CarrotWestern1387 — 12 days ago

Is Arda Guler just Marco Asencio in 2022? Here today gone tomorrow?

Watched both of the Turkey games and he was awful. Held the ball too long, lost possession in questionable decisions. Just didn’t play well at all. I really think he’s another Marco Asencio or perhaps a worse version of Isco. He’s good. He has his moments. But I don’t see him staying in Madrid in the long run at all. He’s pretty small not physical at all, he’s a bit slow, and he doesn’t have a killer instinct like Bellingham or even Brahim Diaz on goal. Yeah he’s good at set pieces free kicks and corners, has a couple assists here and there but with new signings coming in I really think he’ll slowly fall out of the starting line up. Sorry turkey Madrid fans be mad but I’ve seen it happen to numerous players here at Madrid and I’m almost certain it will be the case with Guler. Bring on Nico Paz for competition and let’s see if he can prove me wrong. Highly doubt it.

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u/CarrotWestern1387 — 16 days ago

200 Million for Olise. 1 Billion clause for Yamal. Insane prices nowadays. How much would CR7 or Messi in their early prime years be worth today?

Surely they’d be worth a couple billion then at least. No chance Real Madrid could buy CR7 from Man U in today’s player market right? And why are prices so ridiculously high now? Will this ever be fixed or will prices continue to rise? This is crazy.

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u/CarrotWestern1387 — 26 days ago

The reality of caring for disabled child for a lifetime can’t be understood until you go through it. Don’t judge people who abort.

Recently saw a viral post about a famous YouTube creator who terminated the pregnancy because the fetus had down syndrome. The responses have been mixed but there is a good portion of them who are condemning these people and calling them all kinds of names. I couldn’t help but think of my own mother, sadly. She decided to keep her baby with down syndrome and I see in her face regret. Or at the very least her desperation now. The truth of the matter is these children should absolutely get to live. But the reality is more complicated than that and I don’t think people will ever understand until they go through it. So I will share my story so I can shed some light on the reality of this decision

My mother kept her DS pregnancy when I was 10. At the time I didn’t really understand it. But as I grew up I realized the grave consequences of her decision. What she condemned herself to and not just her.. but all of us as a family too. Something we didn’t ask for but go thrown in too because of her. I love my sister but her life is very sad. She is completely non verbal. Can’t use the bathroom on her own. Can’t do anything on her own really. And as if that wasn’t enough she self harms and destroys anything near her vicinity when she gets moody, which is often. She takes I don’t know how many medications. My mother really has no time or energy to do anything but care for her. 24/7. 365 days. For 15 years now. These babies don’t say babies for ever. They don’t stay “cute” forever. They become teenagers and adults. The first few years were okay. My mother seemed determined and strong but boy did that fade by like year 5. She’s constantly tired. Constantly on edge. A nervous wreck. I can’t even have a conversation with her really. Not a real one anyway. Her life revolves completely around my sister and her needs. I have another younger sibling and she’s super smart. But we didn’t really get to enjoy my mom. I’m fine cuz I’m a dude so like whatever had to be strong but I felt bad for my other sister growing up. Since going to public spaces with a special needs child is tough any event that was either mine or hers growing up was an absolute headache. Concerts, events, sports… all so hard. Yelling and screaming. Hitting things in public breaking things you name it… so my mom just kinda stopped going all together. I don’t know how many graduations and achievements she’s missed now. She kinda stopped paying attention to us. Not cuz she wanted to I’m sure it’s just she just didn’t have the time or energy for anything but caring my disabled sister 24/7. And this is how it was growing up. Pretty sure it strained my parents marriage too cuz my dad became so isolated. And they would always argue and still do to this day. They don’t have time for dates, vacations, anything. So yeah. That’s how our life was and how my parents life has been for 15 years now.

I left as soon as I was 18 because the house was just sad. And stressful. But I still see my parents as much as I can. Now my mother is getting older. Both of my parents. And she’s aged so much these past years. She’s developed health complications of her own as well. And I don’t have proof but I swear it’s because of all the stress. And there have been talks about what’s going to happen if and when they pass with my disabled sister. And man it’s devastating because there is no answer. She tried saying I would have to care for her and I told her no. That was such a heart breaking and tough conversation. But I just said no I can’t and I won’t. Won’t put my life on hold to carry this burden like she did. And she was so sad but I honestly think she reflected on these last 15 years and she understands where I come from. And why my answer is what it is. And she asked my sister too. And ofc my sister still lives at home she said yes. But she’s 18. I had a separate conversation with her and told her she really needs to think about what she’s saying. Does that make me a horrible person? I don’t know. But I want my sister to live a normal life. Without having to spend all her time, energy and money on caring for someone else. It makes me feel bad that I feel this way. But I don’t want that for my sister. Anyway yeah that’s where we are 15 years from that decision she made of keeping her Down syndrome pregnancy. The reality of it all is sad, heart breaking and more stressful and complicated than people realize I think. I haven’t even gone in too much detail because there is so much more but I would have to write a book here.

But yeah. Don’t judge people who terminate pregnancies. Especially medical reason pregnancies. Just wanted to vent a bit. And shed a little bit of light on what life is like living and caring for someone who will be disabled for life. I hope I don’t offend anyone. Just never really said this out loud much to anyone but my mother and now 18 year old sister who is coming at cross roads to taking my mothers responsibility. Have a good night everyone

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u/CarrotWestern1387 — 1 month ago
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Why I like the robins hasn’t been played live since 2000.

I’m going to their concert on Friday so I was looking at the setlist to see what to expect. Why I like the robins is my favorite song by them and I was a tad bit sad they haven’t played it live so far. In fact, I went through their setlist history on setlist fm and it looks like they haven’t played it live since December 29, 2000! Which is pretty crazy because it’s their 3rd most streamed song on Spotify. I wonder why they don’t play it live anymore? 🤔

BUT maybe they’ll surprise their native Illinois fans and play it for us . Even if they don’t, I’m still very grateful they are even playing at all. Just wanted to shed some light on how rare that song is now from them.

Edit: actually they played it in 2015. But still, it seems like such a rare occurrence. A few times in between decades is crazy.

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u/CarrotWestern1387 — 2 months ago
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PSG rescheduling their Ligue 1 games to get full rest for the Champions league is not talked about enough and is an unfair advantage

Why was it allowed to happen? And why are more people not talking about it? I have no preference between PSG and Arsenal but PSG being allowed to move games around to focus on the champions league games is unfair and shouldn’t have been allowed to happen. They get to be fully rested while Arsenal is fighting every game for the EPL with no rest in between. I hope Arsenal beats them to be honest. Chelsea already did with a worse squad so maybe EPL teams just have their number. Football gods please do us justice

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u/CarrotWestern1387 — 2 months ago

Carvajal a legend but he is washed and done. Fede is a work horse but he can’t make a long pass to save his life and he’s been involved in questionable leaks and scandals. Vini has attitude problems and is still too young. The only player who has been a constant force in our team with a level head is Courtois. A true veteran. Make him captain today. Everyone else needs to earn it again from the ground up.

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u/CarrotWestern1387 — 2 months ago